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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

so im at the local swimming pool with my grandson

splashing away enjoying the day when someone catches my eye.

its a fellow faber who ive been chatting to back and forwards for a few weeks, trying to get a meet.

shes there with 2 young kids and her husband.

now she told me she wasnt married.

so i just smiled, she smiled back but we didnt talk....

did i do the right thing?

she hasnt spoke on here again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Jim, I reckon the no speaky thing on here speaks volumes.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Absolutely .. one of the best traits anyone can have on here is discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for a snorkel and check the merchandise

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By *VxrMan
over a year ago

Newton le Willows

I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You did absolutely the right thing

As for the married thing - how do you know the man was her husband? Could it have been a brother, boyfriend or any number of other possibilities - either way not approaching her was the right thing to do.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Heh!!! Love your fab profile....chat later! Hahahahahaha....god I'm in a funny mood today....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the right thing for sure. No point in causing another person harm by spilling the beans in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What other options were there?

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband? "

They both had rings on

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on"

And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..

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By *hispers-40Woman
over a year ago

up the garden path


"Absolutely .. one of the best traits anyone can have on here is discretion"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on

And.... so they are both wearing a ring .."

It's more than likely he was her husband though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on"

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on

And.... so they are both wearing a ring .."
yes both wearing rings

I wasnt stalking them but just there manorisms together , they were a couple

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on

And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..yes both wearing rings

I wasnt stalking them but just there manorisms together , they were a couple"

Well now she knows you know if she reads this thread....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on

And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..

It's more than likely he was her husband though."

Yes ... but could be brother and sister who both happen to be married taking kids swimming ... although we could keep making up tenuous scenarios ...

Just all too easy to make assumptions that's all

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on

And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..

It's more than likely he was her husband though.

Yes ... but could be brother and sister who both happen to be married taking kids swimming ... although we could keep making up tenuous scenarios ...

Just all too easy to make assumptions that's all"

Ultimately though, if she was married though...people lie on Fab shocker

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.

If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting

But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.

So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.

If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting

But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.

So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen"

Chalk it up to experience ... move on

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.

If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting

But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.

So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen

Chalk it up to experience ... move on"

Yep .... moving on

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By *VxrMan
over a year ago

Newton le Willows


"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?

They both had rings on

And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..

It's more than likely he was her husband though.

Yes ... but could be brother and sister who both happen to be married taking kids swimming ... although we could keep making up tenuous scenarios ...

Just all too easy to make assumptions that's all"

Very true. I've had the same thing when seen out for lunch with my sister & her little one I was presumed married with a kid.

Saying that if she was wearing a wedding ring she's married regardless of him being her husband or someone else's.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"so im at the local swimming pool with my grandson

splashing away enjoying the day when someone catches my eye.

its a fellow faber who ive been chatting to back and forwards for a few weeks, trying to get a meet.

shes there with 2 young kids and her husband.

now she told me she wasnt married.

so i just smiled, she smiled back but we didnt talk....

did i do the right thing?

she hasnt spoke on here again

"

Why what else could you have done that wouldn't have been petty?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

She should have told you she was married (if she was). When a married man posts on here he's advised to at least be upfront with prospective meets giving them the opportunity to decide if they want to be involved.

Yes, you did the right thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What other options were there?"

breast stroke!!!

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.

If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting

But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.

So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen"

Relationship??

Well perhaps a rethink is needed she probably only wants some no strings fun , not a relationship.

But steering clear was 100% the right thing,we would be mortified if someone approached us in a vanilla setting with family.

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend. "

Well..... they were very close friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend.

Well..... they were very close friends"

I found out that someone was in a relationship by his face coming up on ‘ people I may know’ on Facebook, I would have been fuming if I had bumped into him out.

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By *rinthia OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee


"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend.

Well..... they were very close friends

I found out that someone was in a relationship by his face coming up on ‘ people I may know’ on Facebook, I would have been fuming if I had bumped into him out. "

Would you have confronted him while his partner was there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend.

Well..... they were very close friends

I found out that someone was in a relationship by his face coming up on ‘ people I may know’ on Facebook, I would have been fuming if I had bumped into him out.

Would you have confronted him while his partner was there?"

No. I just wouldn’t speak to him again. If it had been a long term thing and I didn’t know about his partner then I may have.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Absolutely .. one of the best traits anyone can have on here is discretion"

Exactly this.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP regardless of whether or not someone is in a relationship it's never a good idea to approach them in a public place when you spot them out and about.

We all have our reasons for wanting to keep this side of our lives private!

Wearing a ring doesn't always mean somebody is married although it usually does. I wear a wedding ring and I've never been married. My ring used to belong to my grandmother and I've worn it since the day she died over 20 years ago. I wear it for sentimental reasons and never take it off.

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