FabSwingers.com forum: My favourite way...

By *icked_tongue OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Now don't get too excited fellow fabsters... it's not what you think lol.

I'm talking about the way of finding out if someone is genuine about meeting or if they are fakes/timewasters.

Personally I give them my number and ask them to call me...they can withold their number if they don't want me to know theirs at this point.

If they can't or more often than not won't ( or say they will but don't) ...bye bye.

What's your favourite way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely agree to talk on the phone, until photos have been exchanged, and enough messaging has established some connection to a point where I am considering meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now don't get too excited fellow fabsters... it's not what you think lol.

I'm talking about the way of finding out if someone is genuine about meeting or if they are fakes/timewasters.

Personally I give them my number and ask them to call me...they can withold their number if they don't want me to know theirs at this point.

If they can't or more often than not won't ( or say they will but don't) ...bye bye.

What's your favourite way?"

I wouldn’t phone someone.

And I trust them. I’ve never had my time wasted on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now don't get too excited fellow fabsters... it's not what you think lol.

I'm talking about the way of finding out if someone is genuine about meeting or if they are fakes/timewasters.

Personally I give them my number and ask them to call me...they can withold their number if they don't want me to know theirs at this point.

If they can't or more often than not won't ( or say they will but don't) ...bye bye.

What's your favourite way?"

Your favourite way? How many methods have you got, and are they numbered in a system then Tom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk on here for ages ....works for me

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By *icked_tongue OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

I thought this would prove to be controversial...but after being messed around ( even after swapping pictures) I decided to be more proactive and as far as I'm concerned if someone doesn't want to/ isn't prepared to chat then no matter how we may have been getting on I don't want to take things further... each to their own I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like phone calls before we've met. Never had an issue proving anything via message. If I agree to meet I do, and if I feel there's something missing I'll say so and decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought this would prove to be controversial...but after being messed around ( even after swapping pictures) I decided to be more proactive and as far as I'm concerned if someone doesn't want to/ isn't prepared to chat then no matter how we may have been getting on I don't want to take things further... each to their own I suppose."

I don't see any controversial replies. We are just saying why we personally don't.

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By *icked_tongue OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

What's so wrong about it though.. it's not as though any meets would be totally mute is it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's so wrong about it though.. it's not as though any meets would be totally mute is it lol"

Nothing's wrong with it if that's your choice. Just may not be others preference. I won't meet without seeing clear face photos so haven't met someone I've talked to for a very long time. It is what it is.

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By *icked_tongue OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Each to their own Saffron... but someone I was chatting with yesterday that wanted to meet up said she would phone at a specific time and didn't ( yes I'm well aware that things happen to stop prior arrangements from happening, it's called Life), gave them another chance this morning and they have gone.... well who knows where lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own Saffron... but someone I was chatting with yesterday that wanted to meet up said she would phone at a specific time and didn't ( yes I'm well aware that things happen to stop prior arrangements from happening, it's called Life), gave them another chance this morning and they have gone.... well who knows where lol"

That's different if they agreed and vanished. I just wouldn't agree if it felt uncomfortable as hate phonecalls. Think some people say yes to things they don't want to say no to on here. You just have to screen however you think best.

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By *icked_tongue OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

I can understand people hating to chat on the phone, but it was out of desperation of being let down previously that I decided that's the way I was going to go ahead with any potential meets from now on.

I appreciate it's not everyone's cup of tea but what is in life? Wouldn't do if we were all the same would it x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If that's your method OP and it works for you then good luck to you - but as this thread has shown there are plenty of genuine people that wouldn't entertain a phone call before meeting either, for any number of reasons - so just because someone refuses doesn't automatically make them fake.

Using a little diligence, the tools the site provides, as well as things like reverse image searches, and spending some time chatting and getting to know people are my preferred methods of establishing a connection and chemistry with someone and they've not failed me yet, and I don't think I've chatted to any of my meets on the phone before meeting them.

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By *icked_tongue OP Man
over a year ago

Bolton

If that's what works for you then good luck.. just saying from my perspective that's all

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