FabSwingers.com forum: It’s your loss

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

That sort of response is given by those who can't accept that they're not someone's type .. imo

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

Noooo I think they have had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often get the "that's a shame" reply when I say no thank you to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?

Noooo I think they have had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No

That sort of response is given by those who can't accept that they're not someone's type .. imo"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course, as I am amazing, the best they'd ever have!

lol. And I'm not arrogant at all, I promise

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

Absolutley.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

No I’m not that far up my own arse to think like that. There’s a few people on here who get very bitter when they are rejected though and blame the other person in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'd just love a response no or yes either I'm not for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a "won't meet me?"

I've had those I won't meet, but not ones that won't meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think they had a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ain't happened yet

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nah...it’s not their loss, nor mine either. It’s just how it goes. You win some, you lose some!

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where

I feel like

What this has happened again!!

Lol

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Of course . I'm God!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general or specifically on here?

Depends.

They can't really feel the loss of something if they didn't want it in the first place.

However, missing out on something good maybe more accurate.

Bare with me here.

Great sex and/or company is not limited to physical attractiveness alone (as important that it is). There is always a chance that you will have had a better time with B over A but turned B down because of slightly better looks for example. Not a loss but did miss out of something overall better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In general or specifically on here?

Depends.

They can't really feel the loss of something if they didn't want it in the first place.

However, missing out on something good maybe more accurate.

Bare with me here.

Just on here I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

No, I just wonder which bit put them off. The hot body, magnicent cock or my dazzling wit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In general or specifically on here?

Depends.

They can't really feel the loss of something if they didn't want it in the first place.

However, missing out on something good maybe more accurate.

Bare with me here.

Just on here I mean"

Could still apply on here but 99% of the time if somebody ends up saying either "your loss" or "missing out" then neither really applies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I would think it’s their choice the same as when we choose not to meet someone, all part of the Fab life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ain't happened yet

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grow up ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally im the best fuck they never had

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Occasionally. But I don't say it to them.

It's one of those lines that can be helpful for you to feel better, but there's little to be gained by sharing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Grow up ffs"

Reply and quote, then we know who you’re talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you know if it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll let you know if it happens

(I don't tend to do the asking

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Fuck I'll sound like a bit of a twat but it hasn't happened to me yet either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally im the best fuck they never had

Or the worst lol ....

But is it always just about the fucking bit ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure, I even mourn their loss a little. Nothing big, just a moment of silence, a few friends, nibbles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sure, I even mourn their loss a little. Nothing big, just a moment of silence, a few friends, nibbles."

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I accepted not being everyone’s cup of tea the day I joined. I thought that was normal?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Grow up ffs

Reply and quote, then we know who you’re talking to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t bother us, we’ve said many times before because we have a very small window of who we would like to meet and we are the bigger couple (plus we don’t have transport) we know it’s limited, but that’s cool!

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally im the best fuck they never had

Or the worst lol ....

But is it always just about the fucking bit ? "
they musy only fuck in dreams for that to be true

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

It's only a loss, if it's something you wanted, and couldn't have.

So if someone doesn't want to another person, they're not loosing out on anything.

I've had too many sarky "your loss" "you don't know what you're missing" replies to turning someone down.

Always makes me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?

It's only a loss, if it's something you wanted, and couldn't have.

So if someone doesn't want to another person, they're not loosing out on anything.

I've had too many sarky "your loss" "you don't know what you're missing" replies to turning someone down.

Always makes me chuckle "

The thing is too. If someone didn’t want me I wouldn’t them so it would be irrelevant to me. Unless you get that grrrrrrr I want you as much as you want me thing I’m not interested anyway. Hence I rarely meet coz I rarely get that!

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?

It's only a loss, if it's something you wanted, and couldn't have.

So if someone doesn't want to another person, they're not loosing out on anything.

I've had too many sarky "your loss" "you don't know what you're missing" replies to turning someone down.

Always makes me chuckle

Grrrrrrrr

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I mean, it could be that someone doesn't know what they're missing out on. I got turned down by someone last year on grounds that showed they'd totally misread me. That stung. I didn't go on about it, but it was sort of like, I am actually what you claim to be looking for. So maybe it is your loss.

But, things to say in my head, not to the person, because it solves nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?

It's only a loss, if it's something you wanted, and couldn't have.

So if someone doesn't want to another person, they're not loosing out on anything.

I've had too many sarky "your loss" "you don't know what you're missing" replies to turning someone down.

Always makes me chuckle

Grrrrrrrr

You know you make me grrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

How can you lose something you’ve never had in the first place

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Nope ..... lots more fish in the sea for them am not their type ... I’m not up my own arse to worry about it ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In general or specifically on here?

Depends.

They can't really feel the loss of something if they didn't want it in the first place.

However, missing out on something good maybe more accurate.

Bare with me here.

Fair point.

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By *e_jpMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No, not at all OP. I won’t be to everyone’s taste, just the same as everyone isn’t to my taste. I actually value people being honest, so someone telling me that they aren’t interested isn’t something I get offended about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I often get the "that's a shame" reply when I say no thank you to someone "

I get that. It’s not a shame for me

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It might be their loss or my loss. But personal choice trumps what might have been, no matter how astonishing. So it's neither here nor there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. It's no one's loss. It wouldn't have been a good meet if one of us isn't keen.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Nope not at all.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I often get the "that's a shame" reply when I say no thank you to someone

I get that. It’s not a shame for me

I've had that. I ask them why? X

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's a strange one depending how you look at it.

Potentially it is their loss, they/you may never know it, but it is not uncommon for great things to pass us by because we never took the chance to try it.

It ma very well be a life changing encounter (for the better or worse who knows).

With that said, sometimes you just instantly know the greatest thing about them will never be able to withstand the worst about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont even want to meet people but if they dont want to meet me it’s definitely theyre loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's their loss, they're missing out on the best shag of their life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's their loss, they're missing out on the best shag of their life

Couldn't agree more with him.

He is a real stallion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's their loss, they're missing out on the best shag of their life

Couldn't agree more with him.

He is a real stallion "

Good opinion eveyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's their loss, they're missing out on the best shag of their life

Couldn't agree more with him.

He is a real stallion

Good opinion eveyone

This

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

That's the great thing about getting older, you soon forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's their loss, they're missing out on the best shag of their life

F&B has cheesy knob.

Couldn't agree more with him.

He is a real stallion

Good opinion eveyone

This

Well spoken Senpai

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

No them have their choices I have mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all ,not that I've ever asked anyone to meet me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's their loss, they're missing out on the best shag of their life

F&B has cheesy knob.

Couldn't agree more with him.

He is a real stallion

Good opinion eveyone

This

Well spoken Senpai

Haha

saw what u did !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is but not a great one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

Not at all, that's a little churlish. I'd just thank them for their time and then move on.

Then I'd track them down and tie them up in the boot of my car.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

Yes!

I'm not "narcasistic"

...I just use logic to deduce that women hate my blunt honesty and they would rather choose a "beautifull liar" over me...

So yeh...

No time wasted.

And often I feel "I dodged a bullet"

If I show a friend/family membour a profile/woman who rejected me they say "you are better than that" (and they are right)

My parents liked one of my exes but shook their heads at others for good reasons (I was foolish)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because it my loss that what i think these days

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?

Yes!

I'm not "narcasistic"

...I just use logic to deduce that women hate my blunt honesty and they would rather choose a "beautifull liar" over me...

So yeh...

No time wasted.

And often I feel "I dodged a bullet"

If I show a friend/family membour a profile/woman who rejected me they say "you are better than that" (and they are right)

My parents liked one of my exes but shook their heads at others for good reasons (I was foolish)"

If you’re better than them why message them in the first place?

And that’s brilliant logic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. Spilled milk and all that...

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Its just life. I would not class it as a loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I chatted for a long time yes

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By *il FiskMan
over a year ago

sefton

Not really, if they dont like the looks of me, who am I to complain. when we all do the same ourselves when we dont respond to other fab'ers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re better than them why message them in the first place?

And that’s brilliant logic

It's like my friend who is about to marry the honey monster...

It's dillusion and low self esteem making you believe you can't do better...

Or you only find out later how shit she is.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ducks water back off.

And then a little bit of my soul evaporates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its everyones loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like me!!!

Uni educated good degree

Could run 8 mile per day (before sick)

Got a job and a car

So I don't want some usless person.

I'm ok with women who can't meet my social status. (Perfectly fine)

But I've got job/car/education/fitness/loving personality....

I could date a jobless lazy girl but not if she didn't appreciate what I can bring to the table....

Lazy girl can go date Ferrari men for all I care.

Lazy girls seem to want "ambitious men" when they just sit round doing jack shit claiming to be femenists.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Never had a loss of something never had.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like me!!!

Uni educated good degree

Could run 8 mile per day (before sick)

Got a job and a car

So I don't want some usless person.

I'm ok with women who can't meet my social status. (Perfectly fine)

But I've got job/car/education/fitness/loving personality....

I could date a jobless lazy girl but not if she didn't appreciate what I can bring to the table....

Lazy girl can go date Ferrari men for all I care.

Lazy girls seem to want "ambitious men" when they just sit round doing jack shit claiming to be femenists."

Okay

So who’s loss is it if they reject you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like me!!!

Uni educated good degree

Could run 8 mile per day (before sick)

Got a job and a car

So I don't want some usless person.

I'm ok with women who can't meet my social status. (Perfectly fine)

But I've got job/car/education/fitness/loving personality....

I could date a jobless lazy girl but not if she didn't appreciate what I can bring to the table....

Lazy girl can go date Ferrari men for all I care.

Lazy girls seem to want "ambitious men" when they just sit round doing jack shit claiming to be femenists.

Okay

So who’s loss is it if they reject you?"

Why does there have to be loss involved?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like me!!!

Uni educated good degree

Could run 8 mile per day (before sick)

Got a job and a car

So I don't want some usless person.

I'm ok with women who can't meet my social status. (Perfectly fine)

But I've got job/car/education/fitness/loving personality....

I could date a jobless lazy girl but not if she didn't appreciate what I can bring to the table....

Lazy girl can go date Ferrari men for all I care.

Lazy girls seem to want "ambitious men" when they just sit round doing jack shit claiming to be femenists.

Okay

So who’s loss is it if they reject you?

Why does there have to be loss involved?

Because that’s what my OP is about

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

It’s usually me who says no to be fair

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"If someone won't meet you, do you feel it’s ‘their loss’ ?"

It's no more then a choice. some people go lift, some go right, some say yes, some say no.

If some says no it a only a stepping stone to a path they don't wish to walk you can only invite them.

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