FabSwingers.com forum: This again I'm sorry

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know this topic comes up a lot and most of your are bored if it but is there something wrong with me got stood up for like the 10th time i dont know how things are over there and there seems to be nice people but I live in Ireland and the county that I'm in not a single person is interested in me I'm either not their type or I'm blocked just feeling down I suppose a listening ear is what I'm looking for on this thread would prefer the ladies view of things but the guys are welcome also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stood up 10 times suggests your selection process may be flawed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attend one of the group socials near you and meet people that way.

You’ll be surprised how friendly people are at socials.

Cheer up pal, there’s someone out there for you

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

At least it's not a thread about cyclists or squirting really being piss ... so don't apologise

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Don’t let your self esteem be affected by this. If Fab isn’t working the way you envisaged - try other avenues. Remember when we used to meet people in real life scenarios? Again, I must stress don’t let this get you down.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"Attend one of the group socials near you and meet people that way.

You’ll be surprised how friendly people are at socials.

Cheer up pal, there’s someone out there for you

Or try a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, I had no idea there was a Newcastle West in Ireland

Secondly, your "Mr Lonely" name could possibly come across as a bit desperate and maybe not much fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your chin up OP, there are always new people joining and hopefully one of them is right for you. If you don't already, maybe try posting to the Ireland forums and put your personality across and give people a chance to warm to you

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Sorry to say that your profile name, mr lonely, is not going to encourage me to meet you. I can envisage me either becoming an agony aunt/ therapist. Not sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly, I had no idea there was a Newcastle West in Ireland

Secondly, your "Mr Lonely" name could possibly come across as a bit desperate and maybe not much fun?"

Yep its in a county called Limerick yeah I can't change my user name I'm not a site supporter yh it does look a bit sad alright lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t let your self esteem be affected by this. If Fab isn’t working the way you envisaged - try other avenues. Remember when we used to meet people in real life scenarios? Again, I must stress don’t let this get you down. "

Did yoy do sex chat with them OP? They may be men pretending to be women.

As LaceyandSam said, have a look for socials. Usually in the Meets section.

Also some people never find anyone who they have a mutual attraction with.

This site is just one 'pond'. Maybe try other sites or real life events. Chin up. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to say that your profile name, mr lonely, is not going to encourage me to meet you. I can envisage me either becoming an agony aunt/ therapist. Not sexy"

You put that better than I did

Sadly, diplomacy is not one of my strong points.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

But seriously ...

You should not use this site as a judge of your worth .. as has been said ... there it's someone out there

Perhaps there's something about the people you're trying to meet ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly, I had no idea there was a Newcastle West in Ireland

Secondly, your "Mr Lonely" name could possibly come across as a bit desperate and maybe not much fun?

Yep its in a county called Limerick yeah I can't change my user name I'm not a site supporter yh it does look a bit sad alright lol"

You could do a whole new profile or pay the fiver?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to say that your profile name, mr lonely, is not going to encourage me to meet you. I can envisage me either becoming an agony aunt/ therapist. Not sexy"

Yh my thought process with that was a bit bizarre alright lol I'll change it once I become a supporter

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Maybe not the site for you...plenty of dating sites about...they full of swingers anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did yoy do sex chat with them OP? They may be men pretending to be women.

As LaceyandSam said, have a look for socials. Usually in the Meets section.

Also some people never find anyone who they have a mutual attraction with.

This site is just one 'pond'. Maybe try other sites or real life events. Chin up. X"

I've actually checked out a few but ah very strict ruled a lot of them here are verified meets only I have zero with 10 miss fires to date lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this topic comes up a lot and most of your are bored if it but is there something wrong with me got stood up for like the 10th time i dont know how things are over there and there seems to be nice people but I live in Ireland and the county that I'm in not a single person is interested in me I'm either not their type or I'm blocked just feeling down I suppose a listening ear is what I'm looking for on this thread would prefer the ladies view of things but the guys are welcome also"

You are clearly picking the wrong people. Do you move onto other Social Media to chat? Swap pics, voice clips? Video clips? Kik is anonymous-ish and an app most people have on Fab.

Talk to people longer, don't be so trusting, if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

I don't know what else to say really.

This isn't a profile critique, but your chosen username is more likely to attract a nasty kind of time waster. I feel lonely too Mr. Lonely, everyone does sometimes and we don't like reminding of it.

Hope some of that helps.

I still fall for silly games played by nasty tricksters now. It's the price you pay for having faith in new people though.

Box clever, look for the obvious and not-so-obvious signs that all is not as it seems. If there is a good answer to every riddle, you're probably on to a winner.

Good luck.

Ps. A wank on your own is better than giving some knobhead cheap thrills at your expense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thier is so many reason your getting no meets most probably but last time I expressed why someone wasn't getting meets I got reported for bullying and barred from forum for 3days for being honest it wasn't even nasty either so I'll let the others tell u instead

Look at other profiles and see how u could improve yours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no no i appreciate the help and advice yeah i know my username is a bit sad don't know what i was thinking there lol but i might just start over with a new profile or have a bit of faith lol in this site and become a site supporter then change it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thier is so many reason your getting no meets most probably but last time I expressed why someone wasn't getting meets I got reported for bullying and barred from forum for 3days for being honest it wasn't even nasty either so I'll let the others tell u instead

Look at other profiles and see how u could improve yours

well i won't report you im open to all advice

ive been in the bold corner twice i think its hilarious lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t mean to be crass but maybe take a look at your name and your profile pics, they kinda give off an impression that I don’t think you were going for x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear Mr Lonely.

You seem like a charming chap but you’ve only been here 6 weeks (unless you’ve been here before) and had ten meets arranged and been let down ten times, some men don’t even get one potential meet in 6 months, that is pretty good going but I do find myself asking these questions:

Was these meets set in stone?

Do you have trouble reading situations?

Do you need someone to help you read those situations and try and identify if these are indeed genuine meets?

I am by no means trying to be mean with these questions and I do hope no one feels the need to report this post as I am trying to be kind to you.

Do you think swinging is for you? Are you looking for more than just sex? I mean I found love here and that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t happen for you but it’s rare.

Like some of the posters have said changing your name would be useful as this might attracted the wrong kind of people perhaps, I know you state about paying but sometimes in order to be seen a bit more you need to spend a little, it depends how ‘serious’ you are taking this? From this post you seem very down and I am worried that this might now be the best place for you.

Like others have said socials might help but you might not feel ready to walk into a room full of strangers (its very daunting I know)

Also may I suggest your photos, you are a good looking guy but your photos don’t reflect that but then this also is probably you being, well just yourself.

If you want to talk at all, we are always here to listen and none of what I have said has been to upset you but to try and help you, I think you are a brilliant forumite and seem like a genuine nice chap.

Danish x

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Spend £5. Become a site supporter. Change your name to somerhing non sexual preferably humourous.

Your selection process is flawed but i appreciate that as a man you may have to travel 50+ miles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dear Mr Lonely.

Was these meets set in stone?

Do you have trouble reading situations?

Do you need someone to help you read those situations and try and identify if these are indeed genuine meets?

I am by no means trying to be mean with these questions and I do hope no one feels the need to report this post as I am trying to be kind to you.

Do you think swinging is for you? Are you looking for more than just sex? I mean I found love here and that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t happen for you but it’s rare.

Like others have said socials might help but you might not feel ready to walk into a room full of strangers (its very daunting I know)

Also may I suggest your photos, you are a good looking guy but your photos don’t reflect that but then this also is probably you being, well just yourself.

Danish x"

thank you no i do really appreciate any advice with all the nice comments its actually made me feel alot better and yes your right my username is like proper sad and i will fix it very soon and for your question no im not here to expect a relationship out of this i suppose im here to have fun and enjoy life along with all you lovely people

im really getting into these forums tho to date ive been timed out twice for accidently mentioning other sites lol ive actually just realised that there are irish forums so il probably jump into one of them lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Spend £5. Become a site supporter. Change your name to somerhing non sexual preferably humourous.

Your selection process is flawed but i appreciate that as a man you may have to travel 50+ miles. "

oh plan to i already have something in mind lol i actually dont mind the travelling it gets me out how does that song go

I would walk 500 miles

And I would walk 500 more

Just to be the man who walks a thousand miles

To fall down at your door

lol

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