FabSwingers.com forum: Single Men vs Single Women

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I did an experiment...

I found it hard to believe women were receiving hundreds of messages from men on here

So...

In my boredom I made a fake female profile - no pictures, and little text. Just a plain woman's profile

How many messages did I receive?

72 messages... in 10 minutes

For the clueless men reading, this is no exaggeration.

I know most women are probably rolling their eyes right about now - but for me, this was a shock

I deleted the profile, and found myself in a state of mild depression...

From experience, most men with good profiles and actual pictures would be lucky to receive a single reply back on this site

How did I not know about this? How did I not know things were this extreme? I can only imagine what it would have been like with actual pictures

Anyway...

I recovered from my mild depression, accepted reality, and took this is an experience to be learned from

I now understand why women say messages like "Hi. How are you?" won't get their attention. No fucking wonder - I would ignore them too if I had 100+ messages in my mailbox

I also have a greater amount of appreciation for attractive women that reply to every single message (in a kind manner). Hats off to you

Of course, the attention may well have died down after a while ( I can only assume )

Anyway...

I really need to get a life

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I did an experiment...

I found it hard to believe women were receiving hundreds of messages from men on here

So...

In my boredom I made a fake female profile - no pictures, and little text. Just a plain woman's profile

How many messages did I receive?

72 messages... in 10 minutes

For the clueless men reading, this is no exaggeration.

I know most women are probably rolling their eyes right about now - but for me, this was a shock

I deleted the profile, and found myself in a state of mild depression...

From experience, most men with good profiles and actual pictures would be lucky to receive a single reply back on this site

How did I not know about this? How did I not know things were this extreme? I can only imagine what it would have been like with actual pictures

Anyway...

I recovered from my mild depression, accepted reality, and took this is an experience to be learned from

I now understand why women say messages like "Hi. How are you?" won't get their attention. No fucking wonder - I would ignore them too if I had 100+ messages in my mailbox

I also have a greater amount of appreciation for attractive women that reply to every single message (in a kind manner). Hats off to you

Of course, the attention may well have died down after a while ( I can only assume )

Anyway...

I really need to get a life

"
You wasted 72 men's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you not believe women when they said they get a lot of messages?

Yes - you can get loads. But it helps (a lot!) when your filters are up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for trying, OP. And thank you for understanding us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did an experiment...

I found it hard to believe women were receiving hundreds of messages from men on here

So...

You wasted 72 men's time.

I know - feel terrible.

Can only imagine what they could have done in those 10 seconds wasted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you not believe women when they said they get a lot of messages?

Yes - you can get loads. But it helps (a lot!) when your filters are up. "

I believed them - but by a 'lot of messages' I was thinking like 20 a day or something - not 70+ in 10 minutes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I getting de ja vu or did someone already do something like this not long ago?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone else did this a while ago and he couldn't believe it either.

This account is new as a single. But I have a couple's account too. The difference in the way I'm spoken to between the 2 accounts is unreal!

With in 10 mins of me starting this account I had 189 messages. And there was dozens telling me how sexy I was. I had no text and no photos either!

It does get intense and I have seen the difference in the way women are spoken to with my own eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done for trying, OP. And thank you for understanding us

Thank you - although feel slightly disheartened by how much competition there is.

I'm all for a bit of competition - but this is insane

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I did an experiment...

I found it hard to believe women were receiving hundreds of messages from men on here

So...

You wasted 72 men's time.

I know - feel terrible.

Can only imagine what they could have done in those 10 seconds wasted

"
Messaged a genuine woman. I rarely message unverified anyway doubt you would of got me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When are you meeting them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done for trying, OP. And thank you for understanding us

Thank you - although feel slightly disheartened by how much competition there is.

I'm all for a bit of competition - but this is insane

How many of them did you fancy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you not believe women when they said they get a lot of messages?

Yes - you can get loads. But it helps (a lot!) when your filters are up.

I believed them - but by a 'lot of messages' I was thinking like 20 a day or something - not 70+ in 10 minutes!"

When a woman first joins you’ll get the usual desperate folk who will message any female profile in the hope of a reply....the amount of ‘your pictures are amazing’ ‘you’re the most beautiful woman on fab’ messages I got when I had no filters, no profile text and no photos was unreal.

Once you’ve added filters, updated your profile and added photos etc it can die down.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Well done for trying, OP. And thank you for understanding us

Thank you - although feel slightly disheartened by how much competition there is.

I'm all for a bit of competition - but this is insane

We are called the human race we seem to think there a prize somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did an experiment...

I found it hard to believe women were receiving hundreds of messages from men on here

So...

You wasted 72 men's time.

I know - feel terrible.

Can only imagine what they could have done in those 10 seconds wasted

Messaged a genuine woman. I rarely message unverified anyway doubt you would of got me."

I don’t think he was out to ‘get’ you or anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well done for trying, OP. And thank you for understanding us

Thank you - although feel slightly disheartened by how much competition there is.

I'm all for a bit of competition - but this is insane

It does die down a bit, once filters are applied. I find it ironic that you get some men desperate to get a veri and when a woman joins, the men are desperate to pop that fab cherry, thinking they can reach them, before they get site savvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empathising with the plight of women On here, is a sure way to be knee deep in vagina. Good work OP, classic tactics.

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By *eeroybrownMan
over a year ago

aldershot

"I dont get any

Really?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get any

Isn't that because you have blocked males?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Empathising with the plight of women On here, is a sure way to be knee deep in vagina. Good work OP, classic tactics."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you’re sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get any

Isn't that because you have blocked males?

Busted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering the ratio, that's hardly surprising is it really?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP you’re sexy "

Thank you.

Nice to get a compliment while I'm in my male persona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have learned....

- Don't start a message with "Hi. How's you?" or any variant

- Have a profile pic

- Have some form of verification (photo verified will do to start with)

- Have a bomb ass profile

- Don't start a message with "Can I piss on you?"

- Send a well shot face pic in all first messages

- Keep the messages short, to the point, and ideally personalise it toward the woman's profile

- Don't take it too personally if you don't get a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learned....

- Don't start a message with "Hi. How's you?" or any variant

- Have a profile pic

- Have some form of verification (photo verified will do to start with)

- Have a bomb ass profile

- Don't start a message with "Can I piss on you?"

- Send a well shot face pic in all first messages

- Keep the messages short, to the point, and ideally personalise it toward the woman's profile

- Don't take it too personally if you don't get a response"

Shit! I think all men should do the test. You're a quick learner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learned....

- Don't start a message with "Hi. How's you?" or any variant

- Have a profile pic

- Have some form of verification (photo verified will do to start with)

- Have a bomb ass profile

- Don't start a message with "Can I piss on you?"

- Send a well shot face pic in all first messages

- Keep the messages short, to the point, and ideally personalise it toward the woman's profile

- Don't take it too personally if you don't get a response"

This is spot on advice. This should be sent to all new people when they join.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learned....

- Don't start a message with "Hi. How's you?" or any variant

- Have a profile pic

- Have some form of verification (photo verified will do to start with)

- Have a bomb ass profile

- Don't start a message with "Can I piss on you?"

- Send a well shot face pic in all first messages

- Keep the messages short, to the point, and ideally personalise it toward the woman's profile

- Don't take it too personally if you don't get a response"

Also..

Don't send a message saying "Can you handle this, babe?" attaching your cock picture.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learned....

- Don't start a message with "Hi. How's you?" or any variant

- Have a profile pic

- Have some form of verification (photo verified will do to start with)

- Have a bomb ass profile

- Don't start a message with "Can I piss on you?"

- Send a well shot face pic in all first messages

- Keep the messages short, to the point, and ideally personalise it toward the woman's profile

- Don't take it too personally if you don't get a response

Also..

Don't send a message saying "Can you handle this, babe?" attaching your cock picture."

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Well done for trying, OP. And thank you for understanding us

Thank you - although feel slightly disheartened by how much competition there is.

I'm all for a bit of competition - but this is insane

The only "competition" there is is yourself - see yourself as competing against other guys for meets and you're setting yourself up for failure.

Do all the other things you suggested around message style, decent profile etc - add in the right attitude and expectations and it won't guarantee a thing, but you'll be on the right track

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Its against site rules to have more than one profile if one of the profiles is intended to mislead.

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