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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I'm a bbw who isn't very confident of my body...

I have a partner and we r seeking a female to join us but I wanted to tips on how I can boost my confidence to reflect on them...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Think about all the best bits of you that you are proud of..I'm partial to dimples...and concentrate on the person you are meeting.. enjoy their body.. and they will enjoy yours

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

On a pragmatic level... Pick someone who you deem less good looking than you. Maybe tease em a bit. That's a good confidence booster usually. Booze can also have the same effect. Failing that, pick someone who you genuinely click with. If you do have that connection then you will naturally feel quite comfortable with them. If it helps maybe have a social first or chat on the phone. Hope that helps. I've no idea what I'm doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's idea was it to bring another female into the frame, you or your partner or a joint decision?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Meet as much as you want without sex, until you are ready and confident about your body and sex with others. Engage socially in public environments where less clothing is worn, including saunas, pools etc. Have it become more commonplace that you are around others and not thinking about it.

Visit clubs and allow yourself to absorb the interest from others in a positive way.

Stop yourself abruptly every time that you start to think something negative about your body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd think very carefully about bringing someone else into your sex life, while you're lacking confidence.. The fantasy might get you both going, but the reality could destroy your relationship.

Do you Cam? That might be a good start for building your confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who's idea was it to bring another female into the frame, you or your partner or a joint decision? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is fickle and something that builds over time

Just focus on trying to be happy and the confidence will look after its self folks can compliment you but thats more ego than confidence just focus on you and it will come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm a bbw who isn't very confident of my body...

I have a partner and we r seeking a female to join us but I wanted to tips on how I can boost my confidence to reflect on them..."
if you ever find out let me know. Mines taken a knock recently leaving me doubting myself . Op you look great hope you get you confidence boost asap x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who's idea was it to bring another female into the frame, you or your partner or a joint decision? "
this if you or joint great if mainly for him dont do it till you are ready x

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over a year ago

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"On a pragmatic level... Pick someone who you deem less good looking than you. Maybe tease em a bit. That's a good confidence booster usually. Booze can also have the same effect. Failing that, pick someone who you genuinely click with. If you do have that connection then you will naturally feel quite comfortable with them. If it helps maybe have a social first or chat on the phone. Hope that helps. I've no idea what I'm doing. "

You don't have any idea, do you?

Maybe try going to a couple of organised group socials, and you'll see that lots of people have wobbly bits, too.

Just take things at a pace you are confortable with.

Good luck xx

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Most of your pictures have got over 100 Fabs. The lack of confidence is in your head because plenty of others see your body as very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a very pretty face and you take in it up the ass Hun

You rock !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have confidence within your relationship before you bring anyone else into it xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone...

Firstly I am confident in my relationship... There is no issue there..

Secondly it was a joint decision to bring in a girl...it was actually me who mentioned about wanting to have fun with a female then we talked about a 3 some...

I am confident when I'm comfortable with someone, I just get shy of my belly as its not a nice site although it was my 3 baby making machine so guess I shud be proud really xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a very pretty face and you take in it up the ass Hun

You rock ! "

You’re quite a guy

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s what we are looking for to a f to come and join us. I think personally for me tho knowing others look at my pics and like to Look at them is a great ego/confidence booster

Mrscxxx

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are looking for what most couples are on here, the elusive unicorn.

As a fem on here we have so much choice so a profile and picture have to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like shown my boobs off there definitely the best thing about me, I must say you do have a lovely pair to. And yes it’s extremely hard to find a single bi female witch is why there sometimes referred to as unicorns but they hate being called tht lol

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That’s what we are looking for to a f to come and join us. I think personally for me tho knowing others look at my pics and like to Look at them is a great ego/confidence booster

Mrscxxx "

Good luck

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You look lovely OP, I hope you find what you are looking for. Perhaps try organised socials or a club as previously suggested to boost your confidence. Also very good ways to network and meet people. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are looking for what most couples are on here, the elusive unicorn.

As a fem on here we have so much choice so a profile and picture have to stand out. "

Thank u will have a revamp x

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Men and women alike all have their hang ups.

Nobody is perfect!

Sexy isn't about size it's an attitude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You look lovely OP, I hope you find what you are looking for. Perhaps try organised socials or a club as previously suggested to boost your confidence. Also very good ways to network and meet people. X"

Thank u. We have looked into clubs and r thinking of heading to one x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a very pretty face and you take in it up the ass Hun

You rock !

You’re quite a guy "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men and women alike all have their hang ups.

Nobody is perfect!

Sexy isn't about size it's an attitude.

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Thank u... That's so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You look lovely OP, I hope you find what you are looking for. Perhaps try organised socials or a club as previously suggested to boost your confidence. Also very good ways to network and meet people. X

Thank u. We have looked into clubs and r thinking of heading to one x"

Secrets is good in Totnes and try Swingers Quay in Torquay. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You look lovely OP, I hope you find what you are looking for. Perhaps try organised socials or a club as previously suggested to boost your confidence. Also very good ways to network and meet people. X

Thank u. We have looked into clubs and r thinking of heading to one x

Secrets is good in Totnes and try Swingers Quay in Torquay. X"

Those were the two we chose... Everyone raves about secrets to my partner but others rave about swingers to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secrets I love as it's mainly couples and you haven't got single guys harassing you. Only been to Swingers once on my own and I hated it but might be different if you go as a couple. We are at Secrets the end of March so if you do go please come and say hello xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Secrets I love as it's mainly couples and you haven't got single guys harassing you. Only been to Swingers once on my own and I hated it but might be different if you go as a couple. We are at Secrets the end of March so if you do go please come and say hello xx"

What did u hate about swingers?

Is swingers where they have the upstairs bit for couples to go to and single lady's only? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Secrets I love as it's mainly couples and you haven't got single guys harassing you. Only been to Swingers once on my own and I hated it but might be different if you go as a couple. We are at Secrets the end of March so if you do go please come and say hello xx

What did u hate about swingers?

Is swingers where they have the upstairs bit for couples to go to and single lady's only? X"

It is, Swingers was too busy for me and it was a night were single guys were let in and sadly they were not being very respectful. Not the clubs fault, I picked the wrong night but it I wouldn't go again on my own. X

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You look lovely OP, I hope you find what you are looking for. Perhaps try organised socials or a club as previously suggested to boost your confidence. Also very good ways to network and meet people. X

Thank u. We have looked into clubs and r thinking of heading to one x

Secrets is good in Totnes and try Swingers Quay in Torquay. X"

Lol, you beat me to it was just about to post those. Not been to secrets but can vouch for swingers quay on a Saturday night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You look lovely OP, I hope you find what you are looking for. Perhaps try organised socials or a club as previously suggested to boost your confidence. Also very good ways to network and meet people. X

Thank u. We have looked into clubs and r thinking of heading to one x

Secrets is good in Totnes and try Swingers Quay in Torquay. X

Lol, you beat me to it was just about to post those. Not been to secrets but can vouch for swingers quay on a Saturday night. "

thanks hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexy isn't about size it's an attitude.

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Exactly!

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