FabSwingers.com forum: How can people get like that!?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In my day to day working life I come into contact with people from all different backgrounds, ages, ethnic origins and sex. Some times I'll come into contact with some one who has let their personal hygiene slip to the point you can't even be in the room with them but except for that they seem pritty normal.

How can people not notice the they smell that bad or that they are that unclean! It's sad really.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Depression

Lack of self esteem

Being allergic to soap and water...

and/or just being a fucking mink....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and it cost very little to keep clean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am a bit ocd about personal hygiene and smells

i shower at least twice a day and even more in summer and even more if meets are arranged

wear clothes once and then they're in the wash - change undies and socks twice a day

always use body sprays, mouthwashes, always have gum on me

am forever telling one mate in particular that he needs a shower

i'd be mortified if someone said that to me, but he just shrugs it off

no need for it - it's just pure laziness and a don't care attitude in his case

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depression

Lack of self esteem

Being allergic to soap and water...

and/or just being a fucking mink...."

I've had depression and very low self esteem (very long story and all better now

) I didn't stop washing........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer with hyperhydrosis and before I had my ops was paranoid about smelling and was always asking people I work with do I smell. Now I have had ops I dont sweat as much but have also found that it depends on what deodorant I use as to how fresh I feel. Going back to Dove as even I cant stand the smell of myself when I use Sure

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Depression

Lack of self esteem

Being allergic to soap and water...

and/or just being a fucking mink....

I've had depression and very low self esteem (very long story and all better now

) I didn't stop washing........"

good, everyone is different.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Depression

Lack of self esteem

Being allergic to soap and water...

and/or just being a fucking mink....

I've had depression and very low self esteem (very long story and all better now

) I didn't stop washing........"

well your very lucky then as a lot of people with severe depression cant even get out of bed let alone in the bath

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok let me make this clear, I am not having a go at people who have depression or saying how I was is how everyone is. I would say that I would have a better understanding of this than even other people who suffer with depression because of my carrear choice.

Secondly the people who I gave alluded to do not have depression, I would have know if they did.

So those of you getting your pants in s twist can calm down and take a deep breath, it's just a discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depression

Lack of self esteem

Being allergic to soap and water...

and/or just being a fucking mink....

I've had depression and very low self esteem (very long story and all better now

) I didn't stop washing........"
Its not the same for everyone depression some go the other way that clean and clean everything around them. .. And some who are dirty dont just care .. its there life thay feel.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Ok let me make this clear, I am not having a go at people who have depression or saying how I was is how everyone is. I would say that I would have a better understanding of this than even other people who suffer with depression because of my carrear choice.

Secondly the people who I gave alluded to do not have depression, I would have know if they did.

So those of you getting your pants in s twist can calm down and take a deep breath, it's just a discussion

But it's not a discussion is it?....the moment someone gives their opinion and it differs ever so slightly from yours....you tell them what they should be thinking.

Thats not a discussion....that's starting a thread and getting arsey with others for having their own _iews on your thread subject.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Face it...

Sometimes there is NO excuse!!!

Some people just smelly sods and don't care!!

Not everyone who stinks has a problem other than not giving a toss....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Face it...

Sometimes there is NO excuse!!!

Some people just smelly sods and don't care!!

Not everyone who stinks has a problem other than not giving a toss...."
Sorry we left that Impression on you's

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Omg there is nothing worse than someone smelling of B.O or fusty or piss or A.N.Other. There are times in work where I have to hold my breathe when trying to serve customers (these are regular customers), it is a case of they cant be assed, as the whole family are the same or they have been wearing the same clothes for weeks on end. I personally want to hand them a free bar of soap and tell them to go get a bath!

As soon as they leave ive the airfreshner out and then go wash my hands.

Another smell that turns me is TCP or dettol. Its to powerful but in my experience it only seem to be the elder generation that over use this.

ok getting of soap box now

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Forgot to add, I dont mind so much if someone has just finished a hard day at work but 1st thing in the morning, buy soap!

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By *edriderCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

a few years ago we had a young guy working temp over xmas and he stank of b.o so i bought him soap,deodorant and a new tshirt and gave him them privately, i just said you smell and people are talking about you so go have a wash and change. he was obviously embarrassed but was grateful as he said he wasnt aware that he was smelly. he was never smelly again lol sometimes you have to be honest.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

So those of you getting your pants in s twist can calm down and take a deep breath, it's just a discussion

No worries

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"a few years ago we had a young guy working temp over xmas and he stank of b.o so i bought him soap,deodorant and a new tshirt and gave him them privately, i just said you smell and people are talking about you so go have a wash and change. he was obviously embarrassed but was grateful as he said he wasnt aware that he was smelly. he was never smelly again lol sometimes you have to be honest."

Some people are not aware they smell and the way you handled it was the best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With some people it is unavoidable...

Illnesses and some medications can produce bodilly odours from hell...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think working in my sector for about 10 years my sense of smells has gone. I have worked with alcoholics, drug users I must admit abcesses are the worst smell. I have worked with rough sleepers. I treat them with respect I do not turm my nose up or spray air freshener. I just get on with it.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"I think working in my sector for about 10 years my sense of smells has gone. I have worked with alcoholics, drug users I must admit abcesses are the worst smell. I have worked with rough sleepers. I treat them with respect I do not turm my nose up or spray air freshener. I just get on with it. "

Thats your job, and I can appreciate what you do, same as working in a caring home (tried it wasnt for me, dont have the stomach for it)or nursing ect. I'm a queasy person at the best of times. I'm not knocking the unfortunate as I never know whats in the future. I do not have a strong sence of smell so it does take something powerful for me to notice.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Depression

Lack of self esteem

Being allergic to soap and water...

and/or just being a fucking mink....

I've had depression and very low self esteem (very long story and all better now

) I didn't stop washing........"

Indeed ! I havent stopped washing either myself or my clothes.

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Depression

Lack of self esteem

Being allergic to soap and water...

and/or just being a fucking mink...."

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

im a cabbie and som people that get in my cab god stink to high heaven , i av to spray the car out to try get rid of the smell , fill sick som times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes if done politely it would be best to be honest (especially if its a young person who may not have been taught about personal hygiene)! I had a meet once and the guy turned up stinking, shame he was handsome and sexy other than that i told him why i didn't fancy playing with him, he didn't seem bothered at all never heard from him agian! oh well

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By *ojorisin22Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"Omg there is nothing worse than someone smelling of B.O or fusty or piss or A.N.Other. There are times in work where I have to hold my breathe when trying to serve customers (these are regular customers), it is a case of they cant be assed, as the whole family are the same or they have been wearing the same clothes for weeks on end. I personally want to hand them a free bar of soap and tell them to go get a bath!

As soon as they leave ive the airfreshner out and then go wash my hands.

Another smell that turns me is TCP or dettol. Its to powerful but in my experience it only seem to be the elder generation that over use this.

ok getting of soap box now

Lol snap! There have been times I've almost passed out from holding my breath while I work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hate it when people don't clean their teeth - nothing worse than someone who smiles with a mouthful of plaque!

Her..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes agree. why do people smell ? not wash or brush teeth yet nothing wrong with them at all just a shower of lazy fookers! I could never work in the medical profession. if i see a dirtbag i always imadgine what there bits look n smell like down below

eeeee no need. get a wash value soap is only 10p!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really hate it when people don't clean their teeth - nothing worse than someone who smiles with a mouthful of plaque!

Her.."

imadgine kissing last nights tea? yakk

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

Secondly the people who I gave alluded to do not have depression, I would have know if they did.

So those of you getting your pants in s twist can calm down and take a deep breath, it's just a discussion

Trouble is it's a really superficial discussion isn't it?

Now if you want to have a discussion about the hygiene industry and that fuckwit of a woman who wants to sell us expensive arsewipes (42 wipes for the price of 4 bogrolls) because she wants all the country to have clean bottoms (hello? like we haven't now?) then we might be having an interesting dicussion...

Fastidiousness has become an extremely profitable fad...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to feel cleanliness was largly a copied habit, i was bought up with a mother that washed daily and found myself doing the same which turned into showering daily when we got our first shower but then as our sons got older and more in control of their own hygiene regime i noticed how one was like me showering at least daily yet the other had to be told to get his butt in the shower right up to the age of 19 but when i gave up telling him (unless i noticed he was smelling then i would give in and say) he eventually started showering every other day and washing in between, the one difference between them is this son does suffer with depression, not diagnosed just as his mother i can see the signs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shower twice a day (It used ta be baths but they got tedious and ive been in one fa years

)

I have very little sense of smell so a lot of the time its simply a precautionary measure in case i stink and dont know it lol xx

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By *edhotminxWoman
over a year ago

Turn left at the Singing Ringing Tree

I remember, years ago, when a co-worker stunk of B.O and the supervisor decided to do something. The young girl was called into the office and on the desk was a can of deodorant. The supervisor pointed to it and asked 'what's that?'. Young girl replied 'I didn't steal it!'

Sometimes it's better to just get to the problem directly than try dropping hints.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even if it was pointed out, that person might shrug it off as a form of defence.. They might just be highly embarrased

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Face it...

Sometimes there is NO excuse!!!

Some people just smelly sods and don't care!!

Not everyone who stinks has a problem other than not giving a toss...."

Makes you wonder what stopped some of them caring anymore.

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By *kyblue2681Woman
over a year ago

manchester

well I've got a problem like this at work. a guy in my office always smells but its like he smells of musty dirty clothes or something. he doesn't look like he showers as when his hair is longer you can see its always greasy and he smokes so maybe its a combination of musty dirty clothes and b.o plus not showing but when im near him i have to breath through my mouth as its not as bad then. now because of the environment we work in our boss has had many private conversations with him and he does improve for a short time but then goes back to how he was. plus we've tried being subtle and bought him new clothes for bday and secret Santa under the impression he likes these types of clothes (hoodies and shirts that is) but I've never not even once seen him wear any of these clothes. its mad because he has to wear designer trainers and keeps them really clean and his car is so clean its insane but for himself its like he doesn't care. i don't understand it. i know some people have issues but when you work closely you need to be considerate of those around you all the time

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

varying degrees of depression, varying degrees of impact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And employees and managers need to be considerate on how they approach the problem too because if there is a reason, be it a medical issue or a psychological one, and it upsets the employee, then you could find yourself facing disciplinary procedures

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The question was ‘how can people get like that'… the answer often is... because people talk about them rather than to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here we had one of the waitreses at work who didnt know she smelt of BO but something had to be done as we were getting complaints.

The manager went and got her some deoderant and explained to her quietly.

It was sad as she really didnt know. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The question was ‘how can people get like that'… the answer often is... because people talk about them rather than to them."

Oh polo I do rather love you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I switched deodorant last year to one i hadn't tried before (yeah i bought it because it smelled nice and was new lol)

and it made me stink to high heaven..just didn't react well to it at all, used it for 2 weeks went to the docs because i couldn't work out why i suddenly stank and they said because my body didn't like the new deodorant. so perhaps just the wrong deodorant? switched back to my usual brands and was fine again

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