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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t fuck anyone who wanted to keep it a secret. M

1. They are either ashamed of fucking me.

2. They are married and don’t want to be found it.

Either of those points and it’s a no from me!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Afterwards? I'd be gutted actually, but I wouldn't tell people out of spite, who does that help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure who they would be expecting me to tell in the first place so I would think it odd. But if they didnt want to show veri's then fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a lady that met last year that I met who told me that I wasn't to verify her and not to tell anyone.

I respected her wishes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Afterwards? I'd be gutted actually, but I wouldn't tell people out of spite, who does that help? "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I broke up with a boy when I was 12 shortly after he asked me out because ‘we should keep it secret’.

He always did this with me and it’s because he thought he was popular (he wasn’t, he’s a creepy perverted idiot) and I was bullied and not very popular.

I ended up marrying his brother so it all worked out.

I’m all for discretion and I’m not exactly going to go shouting from the roof tops who I’ve fucked, but why should someone be ashamed of me? They’re either ashamed, or married. If ashamed, well you shouldn’t have fucked me in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t imagine in what context that would be used!? It’s unlikely that I would know people known to the guy I’d just fucked.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Omg no....they sound like an arse and I don't fck.......erm hold on yeh I do.....yeh but no...

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"There was a lady that met last year that I met who told me that I wasn't to verify her and not to tell anyone.

I respected her wishes..."

What a ‘gentleman’.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was outside of fab I wouldn’t be telling anyway as it’s my private business. If it was fab and they didn’t want a veri that’d be fine too. I wouldn’t disclose anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on the circumstances to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Afterwards? I'd be gutted actually, but I wouldn't tell people out of spite, who does that help? "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a lady that met last year that I met who told me that I wasn't to verify her and not to tell anyone.

I respected her wishes...

What a ‘gentleman’....."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a lady that met last year that I met who told me that I wasn't to verify her and not to tell anyone.

I respected her wishes..."

Wow. Hope you haven't met her again?

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Wouldn’t bother me...I had exactly that when I went away last year. He was a lovely guy but married...I was unlikely to see him again. I’m not going to blow up his life for a holiday romance and what we had was hot and fun. I just think of him fondly every now and again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No why would you do you publisise you sex life ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the ladies, they either are married and are scared of being found out or they was too scared to tell you they wasn't attracted and just carried on maybe to please you. So perhaps it's one of them where you won't know until you find out from them but I wouldn't take it personally unless you really know.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m not into shouting about men I’ve slept with but that would make me feel like shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd honour their wishes, and respect their privacy

My perception of it wouldn't necessarily mean they are ashamed of me, more like not wanting the world to know their business.

However my last fwb and I were the worlds worst secret, his Mum knew, and he'd messaged people using my facebook lol when his phone died.

Lots knew in the end

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I've met people and not verified them or them me.

It's not because I'm ashamed, I just don't want everyone knowing who I've met. I've never kept anyone quiet though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Omg no....they sound like an arse and I don't fck.......erm hold on yeh I do.....yeh but no... "

What does that mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a lady that met last year that I met who told me that I wasn't to verify her and not to tell anyone.

I respected her wishes...

Wow. Hope you haven't met her again?"

I haven't but we still chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tend to talk about my sex life anyway, so probably wouldn't make any difference.

Have been told no one can ever know twice before, but both time they were with someone else, so it was an understandable thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discretion is the key

Who I may fuck is not something I find comes up often in conversation though.

Unless perhaps with the other I may have met...

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I've met people and not verified them or them me.

It's not because I'm ashamed, I just don't want everyone knowing who I've met. I've never kept anyone quiet though"

I wouldn’t want to verified on my fucking. I find that a bit odd.

If I wanted you to know I’d let you fuck me.

But if we met at a social I’d verify and accept one back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this alot I don't get anyone else knowing WHO I'm fucking

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"No why would you do you publisise you sex life ?"

Agreed. Not into notches on the bedpost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy who told me he wouldn't verify me and not to verify him because it would upset one of his regulars. I sent a verification anyway that wasn't glowing and moved on. He wasn't happy I unfriended him and thought me unreasonable. The experience made me feel bad!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Question for anyone reading this.

Do you have different rules for on here than in real life? What if it was someone you know in real life who said don't tell anyone you fucked them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who the fuck tells others who they've fucked anyway? I'm not at school so who would I tell???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don't care if I'm a secret.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I met a guy who told me he wouldn't verify me and not to verify him because it would upset one of his regulars. I sent a verification anyway that wasn't glowing and moved on. He wasn't happy I unfriended him and thought me unreasonable. The experience made me feel bad!

"

That's really mean. He should have told you before the meet so you had the choice not to meet him. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who the fuck tells others who they've fucked anyway? I'm not at school so who would I tell???"

Jim from the cafe or little Nick the cashier from your Sainsburys local.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had that happen, but I have been asked not to veri the odd 'fab straight' guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for anyone reading this.

Do you have different rules for on here than in real life? What if it was someone you know in real life who said don't tell anyone you fucked them?"

Still wouldn't bother me although I might tell my daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have that conversation before sex. Doesn't sound very nice afterwards..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who said that I would never fuck again. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t happen, pointless commenting, ah crap.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Wouldn’t happen, pointless commenting, ah crap. "

Fucked yourself there, Tame!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who the fuck tells others who they've fucked anyway? I'm not at school so who would I tell???

Jim from the cafe or little Nick the cashier from your Sainsburys local. "

Ah well little Nick knows everything anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t keep it a secret,but don’t go around telling people who I have fucked anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope I would have the sense not to fuck someone with that attitude in the first place

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I like my privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tell people on here when we verify them, or display a verification from them.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I met a guy who told me he wouldn't verify me and not to verify him because it would upset one of his regulars. I sent a verification anyway that wasn't glowing and moved on. He wasn't happy I unfriended him and thought me unreasonable. The experience made me feel bad!

"

So you disrespected his decision then?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't kiss and tell anyway but if someone specifically asked me not to tell anyone, or not to display a veri or similar I'd expect at least a conversation to understand why, ideally beforehand so I could make an informed decision as to whether to go ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy, as I was leaving he asked me not to verify him, as his circle of fab friends would take a dim view of him meeting up with me (I have too many veris apparently).

The next week he had the cheek to message me to see if I wanted to meet up again. You can probably imagine the response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy, as I was leaving he asked me not to verify him, as his circle of fab friends would take a dim view of him meeting up with me (I have too many veris apparently).

The next week he had the cheek to message me to see if I wanted to meet up again. You can probably imagine the response "

That is a bit of a piss take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy, as I was leaving he asked me not to verify him, as his circle of fab friends would take a dim view of him meeting up with me (I have too many veris apparently).

The next week he had the cheek to message me to see if I wanted to meet up again. You can probably imagine the response

That is a bit of a piss take. "

I thought so, It made me feel really bad too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy who told me he wouldn't verify me and not to verify him because it would upset one of his regulars. I sent a verification anyway that wasn't glowing and moved on. He wasn't happy I unfriended him and thought me unreasonable. The experience made me feel bad!

So you disrespected his decision then? "

Would have been polite of him to have told her before he met her that he doesn't want verifications because his regular partner would be upset. Maybe explain why she would be upset too? That way she could have chosen to not meet him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t publish veris anymore because who I meet is between us. However I will always send a verification as they can be a lovely reminder of a special time together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy who told me he wouldn't verify me and not to verify him because it would upset one of his regulars. I sent a verification anyway that wasn't glowing and moved on. He wasn't happy I unfriended him and thought me unreasonable. The experience made me feel bad!

So you disrespected his decision then?

Would have been polite of him to have told her before he met her that he doesn't want verifications because his regular partner would be upset. Maybe explain why she would be upset too? That way she could have chosen to not meet him. "

Exactly, that’s what annoyed me . If the guy I mentioned had told me first thst I didn’t meet his friends criteria I’d have had a choice. I felt used because there was no way I’d have met him if I’d known.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Everyone on the forums know that we were a proper pair of sluts when we were active . And that activity lasted for almost 7 years . During this time we had no end of people asking if we minded if they’d didn’t veri us , or us them . Single women , couples and single guys . We weren’t bothered because these people had stuff like ‘ not here to shag the whole site ‘ etc.... plastered over their profile . So if we displayed a veri from them people would see us with literally hundreds of veris and think less of the people we had met .

As far as we were concerned though , we didn’t care what people thought , but we always respected people’s wishes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess you'd need to consider why you fuck a person in the first place.....

If you fuck someone for the glory and so that you can tell others then you'd be right to be pissed off. If you fuck someone for an enjoyable experience then why would anyone need to know your private business?

....having said all that, when someone asks you to keep it quiet, you know you're not their number one....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I broke up with a boy when I was 12 shortly after he asked me out because ‘we should keep it secret’.

He always did this with me and it’s because he thought he was popular (he wasn’t, he’s a creepy perverted idiot) and I was bullied and not very popular.

I ended up marrying his brother so it all worked out.

I’m all for discretion and I’m not exactly going to go shouting from the roof tops who I’ve fucked, but why should someone be ashamed of me? They’re either ashamed, or married. If ashamed, well you shouldn’t have fucked me in the first place. "

I was just browsing but I actually can't stop laughing. Glad it worked out for you haha!

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By *ames_dieselMan
over a year ago

London

I wouldn’t broadcast it anyway, but if they don’t want you to say a word, that’s up to them - respect their wishes and move on. If people ask for discretion then provide it, right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everyone on the forums know that we were a proper pair of sluts when we were active . And that activity lasted for almost 7 years . During this time we had no end of people asking if we minded if they’d didn’t veri us , or us them . Single women , couples and single guys . We weren’t bothered because these people had stuff like ‘ not here to shag the whole site ‘ etc.... plastered over their profile . So if we displayed a veri from them people would see us with literally hundreds of veris and think less of the people we had met .

As far as we were concerned though , we didn’t care what people thought , but we always respected people’s wishes ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven’t told anyone we shagged you carrot lady

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better? "

Do you usually tell everyone who you've fucked ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven’t told anyone we shagged you carrot lady "

Oh fuck it's carrot lady,,,, I thought it was orange ping pong girl, I fucked one of them, that's all you'll get from me.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better?

Do you usually tell everyone who you've fucked ?"

I just thought it was an interesting question.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better?

Do you usually tell everyone who you've fucked ?

I just thought it was an interesting question. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy who told me he wouldn't verify me and not to verify him because it would upset one of his regulars. I sent a verification anyway that wasn't glowing and moved on. He wasn't happy I unfriended him and thought me unreasonable. The experience made me feel bad!

So you disrespected his decision then? "

He didn't deserve any respect!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better? "

Do not need to put someone down move on ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only answer this in the context of Fabs.

I’ve only ever once been asked not to display a very, the reasoning was sound and I happily obliged.

However, if the reasoning wasn’t sound it would hurt my feelings. Not sure what I’d do to make myself feel better, I guess that would depend on how much I thought about him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell people not to verify me because I have a lot of socials or used to have a lot of socials and when they leave the veri stays and it looks like I’ve shagged loads of people.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only answer this in the context of Fabs.

I’ve only ever once been asked not to display a very, the reasoning was sound and I happily obliged.

However, if the reasoning wasn’t sound it would hurt my feelings. Not sure what I’d do to make myself feel better, I guess that would depend on how much I thought about him.

"

*veri not very

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash "

I need to start meeting from the forum... No one will meet anyone one they're connected to me in some way

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"There was a lady that met last year that I met who told me that I wasn't to verify her and not to tell anyone.

I respected her wishes..."

I’ve found this to be a common request in here, from women who don’t want to be pestered by blokes because they may assume she’s ‘easy’, or ‘up for it’, etc. Also, there can be a lot of jealousy from guys and messages such as “why did you meet him, and not me?” etc, etc.

I also respect people’s wishes in this regard

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash "

Geography is lush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better? "

I'd feel better by finding out exactly where i went wrong picking that person to have sex with in the first place! Learn a lesson from it so that i dont make a similair mistake again. I don't deal in secrets anymore. Tricksy things secrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this all the time. No verification please as to worried about affecting other meets is usual . Tbh I usually just block them immediately after the meet as it’s not like I will meet them again anyway . They usually blow up my hoe phone after asking why or wanting to still chat.

I am very much once meet is done with these types I forget it instantly and on with my stuff

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Veris can cause problems. We all know it. I don't think I've ever had someone specifically ask me not to write one or not to say I'd met them, but some have chosen not to display my veri. That's their business. If they think it's going to cause them hassle from someone else they've met or want to meet, they're perfectly entitled to keep it hidden. My fwb and I mutually agreed to stop verifying each other a couple of years ago because we were getting grief from others we had met, and even from people we hadn't met who felt we were seeing each other too often and not being 'proper swingers'.

Tbh if someone I met had a jealous female lurking somewhere in the background, whether it's a wife, girlfriend, another meet or even just someone they were chatting with, I'd probably be bloody grateful if they told me not to verify them... Save me from the fallout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not something that would bother me. Depending on how well I have got to know them, regardless i would always be respectful of their privacy as I hope they would be of mine.

I have had a fair few local meets with singles and the odd couple and have ended up some point seeing them around town while shopping or sat by them on the bus.

Nobody wants to be in an uncomfortable situation.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I respect people's need for privacy and confidentiality. Whatever reasons behind it is non of my business.

Many became regulars and good friends once trust is gained.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better? "

I slept with a girl with had split from her hub...we had a few booty calls.. (that she made)..then she got back with him...which was ok buy me..they had history and I was just a play thing while she worked her head out...cool..

Anyway she came upto me one night when I was out and said please don't say anything ..I was a little taken back as I wouldn't of anyway..she never had to ask...she left I got on with my nite..hr or so later .her hubs came over..asked me if I was seeing her .and did I shag her......I said I took her for a drink and she spoke about you the whole time buddy ..she just needed a ear ...and no I never slept with her.......im happy to say they still together 30 yrs later....but I stillget the llittle smile when I see her in tescos....lol.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better? "
I've had this a few times in the past. I find it very offish..and will not meet said person again.

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By *andys manMan
over a year ago

colchester

Who goes round telling people who you fucked??? Not like id put in on facebook lol

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better? "

This has happens to me in the past. Wasn't nice to be told that but I kept schtum as I believe in descretion. I just remember thinking "ouch.... Of i was that bad why did you shag me in the 1st place" and the Dunn thing was the person who told me to keep quiet posted a photo without my consent with my cock in her mouth and I had a pearced belly button at the time and friends who saw her profile knew it was me all along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my previous profile I met someone who asked me (in the pub, but was quite obviously heading in one direction at that point) not to verify them as their friends and regulars would be “surprised” by us meeting as I wasn’t his usual type and his mates in particular would take the piss for meeting a fat bird. Needless to say the atmosphere died on its arse so badly there was no fucking to not tell!

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

The only time I have had this was on my previous profile. One of the downfalls mostly meeting forumites is that there is often politics and cliques that you might know nothing about. I had a lovely meet with a lady but the pillow talk contained the (para)phrase, "can we not veri each other as you have met (x) and we dont get on. I dont want it to create havoc on the forums".

Of course I was discrete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only time I have had this was on my previous profile. One of the downfalls mostly meeting forumites is that there is often politics and cliques that you might know nothing about. I had a lovely meet with a lady but the pillow talk contained the (para)phrase, "can we not veri each other as you have met (x) and we dont get on. I dont want it to create havoc on the forums".

Of course I was discrete."

I’ve witnessed in the past many a lamppost pissing cat-fight between forum women who have met the same man / men....it can be an amusing read at times.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I’ve witnessed in the past many a lamppost pissing cat-fight between forum women who have met the same man / men....it can be an amusing read at times."

Yep. Amusing/slightly cringey.

I've had someone ask me that because they want to avoid any potential drama, which I get and I don't mind. I'm not really one for discussing my vaginal antics with all anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve witnessed in the past many a lamppost pissing cat-fight between forum women who have met the same man / men....it can be an amusing read at times.

Yep. Amusing/slightly cringey.

I've had someone ask me that because they want to avoid any potential drama, which I get and I don't mind. I'm not really one for discussing my vaginal antics with all anyway."

Vaginal Antics sounds like a good name for a feminist punk band.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash

I need to start meeting from the forum... No one will meet anyone one they're connected to me in some way "

At least you don’t get any dramarama

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash

Geography is lush "

It didn’t stop Swing and I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So he wants the meeting kept secret, whats the biggy?

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

The irony of being a dirty secret on a site which is in essence, a dirty secret

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash "

This can be an issue but I don't actually care... Although I do know several forumites who have to hide their verifications... I just don't give a damn.

I used to get meets though that said they wouldn't veri me as didn't want people to know they had met someone who gets around as much as me ... funny they never get a 2nd meet

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By *ames_dieselMan
over a year ago

London


"So he wants the meeting kept secret, whats the biggy? "

Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didnt realise you made it public gossip afterwards lol

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

People telling me what I can and can't do with my veries doesn't sit well with me.

But in the grand scheme of things I think "whatever".

It's all a bit daft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash

I need to start meeting from the forum... No one will meet anyone one they're connected to me in some way

At least you don’t get any dramarama "

Remember 2017, when I got all yazoo over a guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone said this to you would you tell people that you fucked that person, just so you're not their horrible secret anymore?

Or would you feel bad that they didn't want anyone to know, and say nothing to anyone?

How would you make yourself feel better? "

Any activity is between me and them. Why would I broadcast who I fucked?

On Fab, if someone asked me not to verify them, I'd respect their wishes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash

I need to start meeting from the forum... No one will meet anyone one they're connected to me in some way

At least you don’t get any dramarama

Remember 2017, when I got all yazoo over a guy! "

Yazoo! I use that in real life and no-one understands.

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By *obby21Man
over a year ago

Crewe

Don’t mind being someone’s secret, but only if mutually agreeable

Ultimately if you’re on this site not sure what the issue might be

If you’re playing with partners permission then crack on and enjoy

If it offends then leave then to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash

This can be an issue but I don't actually care... Although I do know several forumites who have to hide their verifications... I just don't give a damn.

I used to get meets though that said they wouldn't veri me as didn't want people to know they had met someone who gets around as much as me ... funny they never get a 2nd meet "

This is why it can be a big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didnt realise you made it public gossip afterwards lol"

All my meet details go in my local newsletter. When we fucked, how good I sucked cock, what positions we fucked in etc. Sometimes there's pics of the meet on there too, so everyone can see what we did.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I didnt realise you made it public gossip afterwards lol

All my meet details go in my local newsletter. When we fucked, how good I sucked cock, what positions we fucked in etc. Sometimes there's pics of the meet on there too, so everyone can see what we did. "

True Story.

There's a star rating too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didnt realise you made it public gossip afterwards lol

All my meet details go in my local newsletter. When we fucked, how good I sucked cock, what positions we fucked in etc. Sometimes there's pics of the meet on there too, so everyone can see what we did.

True Story.

There's a star rating too."

I've signed up to the weekly email - it's my favourite read of the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didnt realise you made it public gossip afterwards lol

All my meet details go in my local newsletter. When we fucked, how good I sucked cock, what positions we fucked in etc. Sometimes there's pics of the meet on there too, so everyone can see what we did.

True Story.

There's a star rating too.

I've signed up to the weekly email - it's my favourite read of the week "

It comes as part of your Platinum subscription

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I didnt realise you made it public gossip afterwards lol

All my meet details go in my local newsletter. When we fucked, how good I sucked cock, what positions we fucked in etc. Sometimes there's pics of the meet on there too, so everyone can see what we did.

True Story.

There's a star rating too.

I've signed up to the weekly email - it's my favourite read of the week

It comes as part of your Platinum subscription "

I noticed that too.

It's an excellent part of the bonus deal.

*highly recommended.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didnt realise you made it public gossip afterwards lol

All my meet details go in my local newsletter. When we fucked, how good I sucked cock, what positions we fucked in etc. Sometimes there's pics of the meet on there too, so everyone can see what we did.

True Story.

There's a star rating too."

No that can't be right, I don't have any stars.

Oh... right......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I wouldn't

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By *ream3.14159Man
over a year ago

Here & there

It would hurt, but wouldn't tell and wouldn't see anymore just cut them out of my life.

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By *r99mr99Man
over a year ago

Ealing

I've met and chatted to a woman who as it turns out was cheating on her partner. She asked that I didn't verify her as it was a couples profile I was chatting to her.

I didn't tell anyone. They've sorted their issues and are quite prolific swingers now.

It's not my place to tell but similarly I dont like to accommodate cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you get verified it's up to you if you want to share it or not some surely share those that make them to appear fantastic after all who would share a bad one, as to the OP's original question if I was asked not to say then that would be duely respected everyone has their own wishes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've met and chatted to a woman who as it turns out was cheating on her partner. She asked that I didn't verify her as it was a couples profile I was chatting to her.

I didn't tell anyone. They've sorted their issues and are quite prolific swingers now.

It's not my place to tell but similarly I dont like to accommodate cheating "

We met a woman who did that. She had 2 couples profiles (that we knew of!) with 2 different men.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Not something I’ve experienced but it’s a regular occurrence when folk from the forum meet. Sad state of affairs on a SWINGING site. The problem when you meet folk on the forum is the 6 degrees of separation is non existent. Keeping meets a ‘secret’ ain’t gonna happen guaranteed. If you’re going to get your knickers in a twist every time someone you’ve met meets someone else, you’ve got to ask yourself are you on the right site. Essentially that’s why the majority want to keep meets a secret, the fear of the backlash

Geography is lush

It didn’t stop Swing and I "

It didn't stop me meeting a woman in a Preston hotel today either.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well one lady didn't want to be verified by me because her friend told her we fell out and she didn't want her to find out. Then when her friend and I patched things up, she also didn't want me to verify but I knew it was because she didn't want the other to know... Little did she know

So many meets just don't want to do verifications and it doesn't bother me one bit. But to be honest, I would raise an eyebrow if I was explicitly asked not to tell ANYone, even though I'm not a gossipper, well, not with names anyway. Usually, this is covered when discussing discretion. I don't kiss and tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who the fuck tells others who they've fucked anyway? I'm not at school so who would I tell???"

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

If a guy said it to me before as he had reasons for it then ok I'd be alright about it. If it was after cause he would get embarrassed if it "got out we'd fucked" no doubt cause perish the thought he'd fucked a fat bird my reply would be "well sweetheart I wouldn't want people knowing I'd fucked you either!" A can go both Street ways!

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