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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

A friend here, having had a social and given her telephone number for whatsapp has had increasing malevolent messages as he wont accept no for an answer.

Wondering if anyone else has had similar?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Has she blocked him?

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

I should point out it was on a "reputable" dating app. Of course fabbers are made of finer stuff and accept rejection with good grace and charm.

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

Blocked on OKC. Blocked on whatsapp but got a little scared and even deleted whatsapp. I said that was pointless as he has her phone number anyway and could easily work out where she lives

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

How could he work out where she lives?

What kind of messages was he sending? Threatening?

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

Was a little alarmed to be sent all his details should anything happen to her. Ulp. Obviously shes shaken up a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blocked on OKC. Blocked on whatsapp but got a little scared and even deleted whatsapp. I said that was pointless as he has her phone number anyway and could easily work out where she lives"

Why would a phone number indicate where someone lives?

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

Multiple whatsapp messages then getting more aggressive and threating when she didn't reply. Foolisly she gave him a lift so he knows the car.

I always say. Park some distance from the meet and walk

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

Men are hunters. If he knows the car and a rough area, he'll find the address. It's not difficult. Very unlikely he'll act upon it but no-one wants a creepy note on the windscreen

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

Foolishly she blocked before taking screenshots on whatsapp.

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

Just curious if this happens much and if it affects future behaviours and trust?

Men never feel threatened as...well it's not in our nature.

Never came across any bunny boilers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious if this happens much and if it affects future behaviours and trust?

Men never feel threatened as...well it's not in our nature.

Never came across any bunny boilers."

You describe your friend as 'foolish'

Do you know what its like to field unwanted advances from arseholes?

People who have their own agenda going on

And wont take no as an answer?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Foolishly she blocked before taking screenshots on whatsapp. "

You can still see the conversation after they're blocked.

Glad to see you've been a you'd friend abd putting her mind at rest lol

If she's really concerned she should go to the police.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Just curious if this happens much and if it affects future behaviours and trust?

Men never feel threatened as...well it's not in our nature.

Never came across any bunny boilers."

All men??

Big statement to make.... And a false one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious if this happens much and if it affects future behaviours and trust?

Men never feel threatened as...well it's not in our nature.

Never came across any bunny boilers."

There are female stalkers I’m sure, it’s not only one gender who have that trait.

I am more worried about your friend. Hope she’s ok.

And yes I’ve had a stalker type. I changed how I even do socials as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send me his number.. I'll have a word...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Send me his number.. I'll have a word... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send me his number.. I'll have a word...

"

Nothing like a little word in the ear of a coward....

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

Foolishly gave him a lift. Of course had he been a good 'un it wouldnt have been foolish at all. 20/20 hindsight.

No, I have no idea what it's like fending off arseholes with an agenda.

Men only get replies and 99% polite as they dont want any comeback.

Women rarely send unsolicited messages. Only ones I've received have turned out to be men haha. So maybe i should have said yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send me his number.. I'll have a word...

Nothing like a little word in the ear of a coward.... "

It’s only hearsay though isn’t it. You could potentially be calling someone who hasn’t actually done anything.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah...I had one that gave me screaming nightmares for a fortnight - and I don’t scare easy. Block and report and if she’s really worried, log it with the police now, rather than later. She needs to keep a record of all the messages too. (She can see those even if blocked).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send me his number.. I'll have a word...

Nothing like a little word in the ear of a coward....

It’s only hearsay though isn’t it. You could potentially be calling someone who hasn’t actually done anything. "

That is true.....

Could do with a laff tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Foolishly she blocked before taking screenshots on whatsapp. "

if you uninstall and reinstall WhatsApp, all your old messages reappear , tried and tested xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t meet him here it was on some free dating app, he friended me on Facebook which at the time thought was harmless enough but then when he got a bit too much he started messaging people on my friends list and one of them was my sons friend who was 17 at the time, making up all this bullshit about me. He would literally try and phone me all night long, this went on for a couple of days and decided the block button was my friend and never to accept friend requests from weirdos of the internet again, well kind of, I accepted my now husband from here but he wasn’t a weirdo (well he is my weirdo but that’s a different story).

Geeky x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Send me his number.. I'll have a word...

Nothing like a little word in the ear of a coward....

It’s only hearsay though isn’t it. You could potentially be calling someone who hasn’t actually done anything.

That is true.....

Could do with a laff tho "

And again....

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Send me his number.. I'll have a word... "

Thank you. It's ok. I have his details and could intervene if necessary. Could make it worse though. Best to hope he just fades away.

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Send me his number.. I'll have a word...

Nothing like a little word in the ear of a coward....

It’s only hearsay though isn’t it. You could potentially be calling someone who hasn’t actually done anything.

That is true.....

Could do with a laff tho

And again.... "

Made me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs like...

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"I didn’t meet him here it was on some free dating app, he friended me on Facebook which at the time thought was harmless enough but then when he got a bit too much he started messaging people on my friends list and one of them was my sons friend who was 17 at the time, making up all this bullshit about me. He would literally try and phone me all night long, this went on for a couple of days and decided the block button was my friend and never to accept friend requests from weirdos of the internet again, well kind of, I accepted my now husband from here but he wasn’t a weirdo (well he is my weirdo but that’s a different story).

Geeky x"

Love to hear you found your weirdo. There's one out there for everyone lol.

Before things went sour she did ask if tel. number would link her to facebook. I said yes. Set up a kik account.

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By *obsrocketMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

I only found out through work a month ago if you have a car registration number for a fee DVLA will give out the registered keepers address. However much like the electoral roll you can have details removed from the general lists. As my Employer feels some staff can be at risk they are paying to to remove some vehicle details.

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Foolishly she blocked before taking screenshots on whatsapp.

if you uninstall and reinstall WhatsApp, all your old messages reappear , tried and tested xx"

Thought so. I'll tell her. It was only a couple of days age o.

Think WA backups only available for a week though. Just enough time to get a broken phone replaced and backed up. Not if its gone to the menders though.

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"I only found out through work a month ago if you have a car registration number for a fee DVLA will give out the registered keepers address. However much like the electoral roll you can have details removed from the general lists. As my Employer feels some staff can be at risk they are paying to to remove some vehicle details."

Nooooooo that's terrible. Thought the gov't only relaxed this for private rip-off carpark wheelclampers.

I presume there's a record so when the body washes up on the beach......

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I didn’t meet him here it was on some free dating app, he friended me on Facebook which at the time thought was harmless enough but then when he got a bit too much he started messaging people on my friends list and one of them was my sons friend who was 17 at the time, making up all this bullshit about me. He would literally try and phone me all night long, this went on for a couple of days and decided the block button was my friend and never to accept friend requests from weirdos of the internet again, well kind of, I accepted my now husband from here but he wasn’t a weirdo (well he is my weirdo but that’s a different story).

Geeky x

Love to hear you found your weirdo. There's one out there for everyone lol.

Before things went sour she did ask if tel. number would link her to facebook. I said yes. Set up a kik account. "

Only if you put it on there. I'd never put my phone number on Facebook.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I only found out through work a month ago if you have a car registration number for a fee DVLA will give out the registered keepers address. However much like the electoral roll you can have details removed from the general lists. As my Employer feels some staff can be at risk they are paying to to remove some vehicle details."

I can't see how that is gdpr compliant

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Years ago when I was single i gave my number out and was pestered ,i don't give it out now.

I would block him if she can

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath

She has. Thankfully hasn't tried to email . Yes I know

Aparently what set him off is that she read the numerous Whatsapp messages but hadn't replied. If that was a fabber crime, you'd all be in trouble.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"A friend here, having had a social and given her telephone number for whatsapp has had increasing malevolent messages as he wont accept no for an answer.

Wondering if anyone else has had similar? "

Yes and it's not a joke ..

Some people just do not get nsa

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Just curious if this happens much and if it affects future behaviours and trust?

Men never feel threatened as...well it's not in our nature.

Never came across any bunny boilers.

You describe your friend as 'foolish'

Do you know what its like to field unwanted advances from arseholes?

People who have their own agenda going on

And wont take no as an answer?"

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Years ago when I was single i gave my number out and was pestered ,i don't give it out now.

I would block him if she can "

So, don't give out number. Stick within fab . use anonymous messaging for convenience like kik. Although for that very reason some kik messages can be terrible too i hear

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"A friend here, having had a social and given her telephone number for whatsapp has had increasing malevolent messages as he wont accept no for an answer.

Wondering if anyone else has had similar? "

Had this and worse, hence we never give out any personal information now.

If you want to message, use KIK.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"A friend here, having had a social and given her telephone number for whatsapp has had increasing malevolent messages as he wont accept no for an answer.

Wondering if anyone else has had similar? "

Are you asking because it’s you sending the messages?

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"A friend here, having had a social and given her telephone number for whatsapp has had increasing malevolent messages as he wont accept no for an answer.

Wondering if anyone else has had similar?

Are you asking because it’s you sending the messages?"

Haha cheeky. So you think i want to know what i can get away with?My conscience is clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How could he work out where she lives?

What kind of messages was he sending? Threatening? "

Its easy nowadays with more and more of these number search apps that tell you what town/county the numbers in ive had a couple of guys track me down through my number if your numbers linked to Facebook it'll take you to the profile and boom pretty much can find out where they are in that town

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"How could he work out where she lives?

What kind of messages was he sending? Threatening?

Its easy nowadays with more and more of these number search apps that tell you what town/county the numbers in ive had a couple of guys track me down through my number if your numbers linked to Facebook it'll take you to the profile and boom pretty much can find out where they are in that town "

I guess it should be less of a problem as few now bother with a house phone.

Best to not give our numbers out.

Stick with kik or similar. I hear there are alternatives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How could he work out where she lives?

What kind of messages was he sending? Threatening?

Its easy nowadays with more and more of these number search apps that tell you what town/county the numbers in ive had a couple of guys track me down through my number if your numbers linked to Facebook it'll take you to the profile and boom pretty much can find out where they are in that town

I guess it should be less of a problem as few now bother with a house phone.

Best to not give our numbers out.

Stick with kik or similar. I hear there are alternatives"

I always use kik until ive met the person a few times then ill give them my number its a scary world online so keeping yourself safe is key never give your address or number out until you feel absolutely comfortable with it there are some dangerous people out there and probably on here to stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Multiple whatsapp messages then getting more aggressive and threating when she didn't reply. Foolisly she gave him a lift so he knows the car.

I always say. Park some distance from the meet and walk"

Has she called the police?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the more reason for a "Fab Fone" (patent pending). People are fucking horrible sometimes

C

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"Just curious if this happens much and if it affects future behaviours and trust?

Men never feel threatened as...well it's not in our nature.

Never came across any bunny boilers.

You describe your friend as 'foolish'

Do you know what its like to field unwanted advances from arseholes?

People who have their own agenda going on

And wont take no as an answer?"

O.O now l get the picture

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Multiple whatsapp messages then getting more aggressive and threating when she didn't reply. Foolisly she gave him a lift so he knows the car.

I always say. Park some distance from the meet and walk

Has she called the police?"

Police haven't been called. It would need more. Theyre reluctant to do things at the best of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a pre social media stalker and he nearly killed my and my then boyfriend ... stalking seriously is no joke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my friends still use public phone booth to arrange their meets.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Yeah. Except i didn't give him his number.

Methim for a social as well, he seemed alright but had lied about his height and i'm not keen on meeting anyone who lies. Had to block him on here several times, he even made a fake profile so i'd chat to him. Blocked that too and stopped being so chatty and friendly to everyone in my inbox after that.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

my number*

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"All my friends still use public phone booth to arrange their meets. "

Jeez,do they have a hot tub time machine? Whats wrong with an anonymous messaging app for starters? Does anyone know of a popular alternative to kik?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All my friends still use public phone booth to arrange their meets.

Jeez,do they have a hot tub time machine? Whats wrong with an anonymous messaging app for starters? Does anyone know of a popular alternative to kik? "

I just don't give my number out anymore unless I have chatted to them for a while and there's a level of trust built up.

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By *illen5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Yeah. Except i didn't give him his number.

Methim for a social as well, he seemed alright but had lied about his height and i'm not keen on meeting anyone who lies. Had to block him on here several times, he even made a fake profile so i'd chat to him. Blocked that too and stopped being so chatty and friendly to everyone in my inbox after that."

I guess Luckily it stayed in fabland. I've heard of others making up new profiles to continue to harass after being blocked.Not sure how effective the fab police are.

Not sure why people lie about their height or even age. They will immediately be found out. I'm sure some fem profiles mention fb's to put the nutters off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op seems to be taking a really weird line on male female stereotypes here.

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

This is why I won’t give out my number

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