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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you respect people or does it have to be earned?

If you think respect must be earned, how long does that take and how do they earn your respect?

If someone does not respect you on first meeting, how would you feel?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I respect people unless they give me a reason not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

Absolutely this.

Always courteous, always respectful. Unless they cross me, then it's gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

Absolutely! A few on here I’ve lost total respect for though- spoke to us as a couple, then messaged Mr privately to meet. If they can’t respect me then they certainly don’t deserve my respect, only my distaste xx

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Do you respect people or does it have to be earned?

If you think respect must be earned, how long does that take and how do they earn your respect?

If someone does not respect you on first meeting, how would you feel?

"

Always earned, a title doesn't impress me which can get me into trouble but it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to.

Absolutely! A few on here I’ve lost total respect for though- spoke to us as a couple, then messaged Mr privately to meet. If they can’t respect me then they certainly don’t deserve my respect, only my distaste xx"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, not always. I respect most people but if I met certain members of society I wouldn't.

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

Nearly word for word what I was going to write.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect is given automatically, people either keep it or lose it.

If someone disrespected me on a first meeting, the respect is gone & so am I. Though first impressions count at every stage of contact.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I offer everyone a basic level of respect. How do we operate as a society unless we do this?

The respect that goes with admiration has to be earned, and maintained. There are people I really don't like but admire and respect their knowledge or skills or commitment to something.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

To be absolutely honest , I respect everyone until they say or do something that changes my feelings towards them . So they can look , dress , present themselves in any way at all , and I will respect them . But if they are dirty , smelly , or saying something I don’t like , then the respect has gone .

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m one of those funny buggers that think most people are ok, some I dislike on sight but respect is not easily given by me, I don’t suffer fools at all and let most of them know how I feel either with words or the look on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

I'm definitely a believer in treating people with the same respect you'd like to be treated with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people yeah I respect ... Last thing I want to do is upset people ... Although previous posts have somewhat done that I blindly stepped into the darkroom barefoot not knowing where I was stepping into and its resorted to me getting help. Im now positive with most things now and I'd really like to make some friends on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be absolutely honest , I respect everyone until they say or do something that changes my feelings towards them . So they can look , dress , present themselves in any way at all , and I will respect them . But if they are dirty , smelly , or saying something I don’t like , then the respect has gone ."

What if they are homeless?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m one of those funny buggers that think most people are ok, some I dislike on sight but respect is not easily given by me, I don’t suffer fools at all and let most of them know how I feel either with words or the look on my face "

That really is the face to use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be absolutely honest , I respect everyone until they say or do something that changes my feelings towards them . So they can look , dress , present themselves in any way at all , and I will respect them . But if they are dirty , smelly , or saying something I don’t like , then the respect has gone .

What if they are homeless?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a degree of respect I show to everyone indiscriminately unless they prove themselves undeserving of it.

But there's another degree of respect I have for certain people and that is not given indiscriminately, it is earned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's a degree of respect I show to everyone indiscriminately unless they prove themselves undeserving of it.

But there's another degree of respect I have for certain people and that is not given indiscriminately, it is earned. "

Yes that makes sense to me. Lickety said similar, interesting point. Making me think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly a little of both some people i take an instant dislike to just instinct so takes a while for them to earn it but generally yes

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

This. It's how I was brought up.

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

I have a lot of respect for people but some people don't deserve it so I treat people the same as they treat me there's some strange people out there

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"To be absolutely honest , I respect everyone until they say or do something that changes my feelings towards them . So they can look , dress , present themselves in any way at all , and I will respect them . But if they are dirty , smelly , or saying something I don’t like , then the respect has gone .

What if they are homeless?"

I don’t think I would be able to respect someone who was dirty and smelly , so whether the person was homeless or not , I wouldn’t respect them . How about you ? Would you respect a dirty , smelly person ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I endeavour to respect people but sometimes fail and do disrespectful things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be absolutely honest , I respect everyone until they say or do something that changes my feelings towards them . So they can look , dress , present themselves in any way at all , and I will respect them . But if they are dirty , smelly , or saying something I don’t like , then the respect has gone .

What if they are homeless?

I don’t think I would be able to respect someone who was dirty and smelly , so whether the person was homeless or not , I wouldn’t respect them . How about you ? Would you respect a dirty , smelly person ? "

Depends on the reason. You dont know the circumstances of why they're homeless. They could be running from an abusive relationship and their life has unravelled. Treating them with contempt dehumanising them like that is out of order a bit.

I speak to them and treat them like a human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat people with respect. But it doesn't necessarily mean I respect them, that's totally different. And I can respect someone without particularly liking them. But once I decide I don't respect someone they pretty much become an irrelevance to me though I'd still likely treat them with a modicum of respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I treat people with respect. But it doesn't necessarily mean I respect them, that's totally different. And I can respect someone without particularly liking them. But once I decide I don't respect someone they pretty much become an irrelevance to me though I'd still likely treat them with a modicum of respect "

Good distinction

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"To be absolutely honest , I respect everyone until they say or do something that changes my feelings towards them . So they can look , dress , present themselves in any way at all , and I will respect them . But if they are dirty , smelly , or saying something I don’t like , then the respect has gone .

What if they are homeless?

I don’t think I would be able to respect someone who was dirty and smelly , so whether the person was homeless or not , I wouldn’t respect them . How about you ? Would you respect a dirty , smelly person ?

Depends on the reason. You dont know the circumstances of why they're homeless. They could be running from an abusive relationship and their life has unravelled. Treating them with contempt dehumanising them like that is out of order a bit.

I speak to them and treat them like a human "

I didn’t say anything about treating them with contempt or dehumanising them did I ?

I said I wouldn’t respect them , which I don’t think is out of order . I would simply choose not to engage with them .

But well done for being the better person and speaking to them . And treating them like a human

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

I respect people but find it hard to be respectful for people who expect to be respected..

Self entitlement just can not go for that..

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Always show respect from the off, "treat others how you'd want to be treated" is what we were both taught, take advantage of it and it's gone and we'll let you know that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should respect everyone we meet. Respect can then be deepened or lost depending on how people behave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one person I'd never respect is Jamie Oliver.... That twat banned turkey twizzlers.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say respect is there to be earned but that doesn’t mean be a dick until someone earns yours.

As for time taken to earn well it’s all relative I guess

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I treat people with respect. But it doesn't necessarily mean I respect them, that's totally different. And I can respect someone without particularly liking them. But once I decide I don't respect someone they pretty much become an irrelevance to me though I'd still likely treat them with a modicum of respect "

This. There is a difference between the two for me and this is exactly how I react.

Glos....yes, I absolutely would have respect for someone who is dirty and smelly, especially if they were homeless. We’re all a product of choices, both ours and others. We all make bad choices sometimes. We all need a helping hand sometimes. We all need to be treated as deserving of respect all of the time. The moment that contempt shows through? It can destroy someone. If you give people respect, they will learn to respect themselves. That’s where the journey starts to self confidence again. A homeless person neither wants nor needs your pity or your contempt. They need your compassion and to be viewed as just as deserving of respect as anyone else.

Rant over

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I treat people with respect. But it doesn't necessarily mean I respect them, that's totally different. And I can respect someone without particularly liking them. But once I decide I don't respect someone they pretty much become an irrelevance to me though I'd still likely treat them with a modicum of respect

This. There is a difference between the two for me and this is exactly how I react.

Glos....yes, I absolutely would have respect for someone who is dirty and smelly, especially if they were homeless. We’re all a product of choices, both ours and others. We all make bad choices sometimes. We all need a helping hand sometimes. We all need to be treated as deserving of respect all of the time. The moment that contempt shows through? It can destroy someone. If you give people respect, they will learn to respect themselves. That’s where the journey starts to self confidence again. A homeless person neither wants nor needs your pity or your contempt. They need your compassion and to be viewed as just as deserving of respect as anyone else.

Rant over "

As I said , I wouldn’t treat them with contempt . Nor would I offer any pity .

Just nothing , not one or the other , just nothing .

One only has to read threads on here about street beggars in town centres , the homeless asking for spare change etc..... and the consensus is that it’s not something anyone wants to see on the streets . It shouldn’t happen and it’s tragic that so many people have to resort to this unsociable practice . When I used to smoke I would more often than not share a pack with some of the homeless , and give them the odd tenner now and again . People on here said that was daft as they would just buy more drugs or booze with it , but I argue that there’s not much in this world that gives them any happiness , so if they get a bottle of booze or a fix at least for a short time they are happy .

We all wish there was some kind of a fix for their plight , but ultimately there isn’t for most of them . And even when I gave them fags and money , I didn’t respect them . Perhaps the wording isn’t right though . Because I don’t respect someone , it doesn’t mean I feel contempt for them . I just don’t respect them , and to be fair I doubt they respect themselves either .

The reason I don’t approach them any more is because after illness myself I’ve lost a lot of confidence , and I find them intimidating .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to.

This. It's how I was brought up. "

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always show respect from the off, "treat others how you'd want to be treated" is what we were both taught, take advantage of it and it's gone and we'll let you know that too."

And snap!

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve run a street kitchen for three years now, Glos. You can help. Not by trying to fix anything but by being there. Listening to them. Accepting their choices. Offering help with form-filling, advocating for them as they try to navigate the bureaucracies that they don’t understand, helping them to adjust when they move into a council flat. Hell, a haircut does wonders. Not expecting gratitude.

What really helps, though, is acknowledgement. From what you said, you used to do that and that’s great. I know you’re not a twerp! That feeling of invisibility is soul-destroying though so a smile, a nod, an answer, even in the negative, works wonders. I can understand though, why you would be wary, given your circumstances.

All in all, I’ve found them a bunch of people to greatly admire and respect, even if I disagree with their choices. They survive. Against all the odds, they survive. Bad luck, mental health issues, addictions...they survive. There’s no greater reason to respect someone in my book. A bit of dirt and smell? Wouldn’t diminish that one bit.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I’ve run a street kitchen for three years now, Glos. You can help. Not by trying to fix anything but by being there. Listening to them. Accepting their choices. Offering help with form-filling, advocating for them as they try to navigate the bureaucracies that they don’t understand, helping them to adjust when they move into a council flat. Hell, a haircut does wonders. Not expecting gratitude.

What really helps, though, is acknowledgement. From what you said, you used to do that and that’s great. I know you’re not a twerp! That feeling of invisibility is soul-destroying though so a smile, a nod, an answer, even in the negative, works wonders. I can understand though, why you would be wary, given your circumstances.

All in all, I’ve found them a bunch of people to greatly admire and respect, even if I disagree with their choices. They survive. Against all the odds, they survive. Bad luck, mental health issues, addictions...they survive. There’s no greater reason to respect someone in my book. A bit of dirt and smell? Wouldn’t diminish that one bit. "

Ah , I can see why we have different thoughts on this one now ! And fair play to you , much kudos

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I just treat people the same way they treat me.

J

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Always start off by treating all with the same respect, however people often have a habit of doing things do make it easy to lose respect for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always start off by treating all with the same respect, however people often have a habit of doing things do make it easy to lose respect for them."

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the shoes they wear!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I respect everyone I meet.

Until they give me reason to change my opinion.

Amazing how quick that can happen with some folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat people how you woukd like to be treated, but also not suffer those who don't do the same. No need to drop to thier level, just leave them to thier own sad little world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect everyone, regardless of who they are. If they do something that proves that they don't respect me then I'll treat them the same and see how they like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t automatically respect everyone, but I treat everyone with respect - until they prove they don’t deserve it.

I agree respect must be earned.

I worry that many of the younger generation dont understand respect, my adult son does, but my daughter, not at all. Yet they were brought up the same way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I treat people with respect. But it doesn't necessarily mean I respect them, that's totally different. And I can respect someone without particularly liking them. But once I decide I don't respect someone they pretty much become an irrelevance to me though I'd still likely treat them with a modicum of respect

This. There is a difference between the two for me and this is exactly how I react.

Glos....yes, I absolutely would have respect for someone who is dirty and smelly, especially if they were homeless. We’re all a product of choices, both ours and others. We all make bad choices sometimes. We all need a helping hand sometimes. We all need to be treated as deserving of respect all of the time. The moment that contempt shows through? It can destroy someone. If you give people respect, they will learn to respect themselves. That’s where the journey starts to self confidence again. A homeless person neither wants nor needs your pity or your contempt. They need your compassion and to be viewed as just as deserving of respect as anyone else.

Rant over

As I said , I wouldn’t treat them with contempt . Nor would I offer any pity .

Just nothing , not one or the other , just nothing .

One only has to read threads on here about street beggars in town centres , the homeless asking for spare change etc..... and the consensus is that it’s not something anyone wants to see on the streets . It shouldn’t happen and it’s tragic that so many people have to resort to this unsociable practice . When I used to smoke I would more often than not share a pack with some of the homeless , and give them the odd tenner now and again . People on here said that was daft as they would just buy more drugs or booze with it , but I argue that there’s not much in this world that gives them any happiness , so if they get a bottle of booze or a fix at least for a short time they are happy .

We all wish there was some kind of a fix for their plight , but ultimately there isn’t for most of them . And even when I gave them fags and money , I didn’t respect them . Perhaps the wording isn’t right though . Because I don’t respect someone , it doesn’t mean I feel contempt for them . I just don’t respect them , and to be fair I doubt they respect themselves either .

The reason I don’t approach them any more is because after illness myself I’ve lost a lot of confidence , and I find them intimidating . "

Hope you get your confidence back. X

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I treat people with respect. But it doesn't necessarily mean I respect them, that's totally different. And I can respect someone without particularly liking them. But once I decide I don't respect someone they pretty much become an irrelevance to me though I'd still likely treat them with a modicum of respect

This. There is a difference between the two for me and this is exactly how I react.

Glos....yes, I absolutely would have respect for someone who is dirty and smelly, especially if they were homeless. We’re all a product of choices, both ours and others. We all make bad choices sometimes. We all need a helping hand sometimes. We all need to be treated as deserving of respect all of the time. The moment that contempt shows through? It can destroy someone. If you give people respect, they will learn to respect themselves. That’s where the journey starts to self confidence again. A homeless person neither wants nor needs your pity or your contempt. They need your compassion and to be viewed as just as deserving of respect as anyone else.

Rant over

As I said , I wouldn’t treat them with contempt . Nor would I offer any pity .

Just nothing , not one or the other , just nothing .

One only has to read threads on here about street beggars in town centres , the homeless asking for spare change etc..... and the consensus is that it’s not something anyone wants to see on the streets . It shouldn’t happen and it’s tragic that so many people have to resort to this unsociable practice . When I used to smoke I would more often than not share a pack with some of the homeless , and give them the odd tenner now and again . People on here said that was daft as they would just buy more drugs or booze with it , but I argue that there’s not much in this world that gives them any happiness , so if they get a bottle of booze or a fix at least for a short time they are happy .

We all wish there was some kind of a fix for their plight , but ultimately there isn’t for most of them . And even when I gave them fags and money , I didn’t respect them . Perhaps the wording isn’t right though . Because I don’t respect someone , it doesn’t mean I feel contempt for them . I just don’t respect them , and to be fair I doubt they respect themselves either .

The reason I don’t approach them any more is because after illness myself I’ve lost a lot of confidence , and I find them intimidating .

Hope you get your confidence back. X"

Thank you , I’m slowly getting there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat how you want to be treated and you can't go wrong.

Be nice to who you meet on the way up as you may see them on the way down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we started working together at the end of last year, we joined a very small team and there was a guy who was a bit ‘show me respect! I am the boss!’ (He isn’t) and he was generally a cunt, because he felt threatened by us, he thought we were here to take over etc and he was a total prick for the first few weeks and we had no respect for him at all for the way we were treated (to the point we were like ‘what the fuck have we done? Moving 60 miles etc) but since we closed for Christmas and he mellowed out a bit (it also helps the actual owner decided to sit us all down and say point blank we are all the same level) and now we have respect for him because he has stopped being a total knob to us and takes on board new ideas we have, just like we do his.

I can understand why he was like it, suddenly these two people were literally moving in and we had no idea who we were etc and I’ve told him we thought he was a prick when we started and he actually said ‘I respect you for being honest!’.

Geeky x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I respect people unless they give me a reason not to. "

Simply this.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

That's a tough question lady!!

True respect is earned. Polite respect and manners afforded to a stranger or new acquaintance are simple civility, and cost nothing. This is the type of respect one should expect to give and receive when chatting to or even meeting someone for the first time. True respect though, that deep respect that comes from knowing someone and admiring their qualities and character, that's one nobody can expect or demand, that's the holy grail that can only be given once earned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When we started working together at the end of last year, we joined a very small team and there was a guy who was a bit ‘show me respect! I am the boss!’ (He isn’t) and he was generally a cunt, because he felt threatened by us, he thought we were here to take over etc and he was a total prick for the first few weeks and we had no respect for him at all for the way we were treated (to the point we were like ‘what the fuck have we done? Moving 60 miles etc) but since we closed for Christmas and he mellowed out a bit (it also helps the actual owner decided to sit us all down and say point blank we are all the same level) and now we have respect for him because he has stopped being a total knob to us and takes on board new ideas we have, just like we do his.

I can understand why he was like it, suddenly these two people were literally moving in and we had no idea who we were etc and I’ve told him we thought he was a prick when we started and he actually said ‘I respect you for being honest!’.

Geeky x"

I think it's good that you can see it from his point of view. Hope you continue to get on. Mutual respect is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be absolutely honest , I respect everyone until they say or do something that changes my feelings towards them . So they can look , dress , present themselves in any way at all , and I will respect them . But if they are dirty , smelly , or saying something I don’t like , then the respect has gone .

What if they are homeless?

I don’t think I would be able to respect someone who was dirty and smelly , so whether the person was homeless or not , I wouldn’t respect them . How about you ? Would you respect a dirty , smelly person ?

Depends on the reason. You dont know the circumstances of why they're homeless. They could be running from an abusive relationship and their life has unravelled. Treating them with contempt dehumanising them like that is out of order a bit.

I speak to them and treat them like a human

I didn’t say anything about treating them with contempt or dehumanising them did I ?

I said I wouldn’t respect them , which I don’t think is out of order . I would simply choose not to engage with them .

But well done for being the better person and speaking to them . And treating them like a human "

No you didn't, though you MAY unintentionally via body Language.. Just saying..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect everyone until they say or do something stupid,which seems to be most people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we started working together at the end of last year, we joined a very small team and there was a guy who was a bit ‘show me respect! I am the boss!’ (He isn’t) and he was generally a cunt, because he felt threatened by us, he thought we were here to take over etc and he was a total prick for the first few weeks and we had no respect for him at all for the way we were treated (to the point we were like ‘what the fuck have we done? Moving 60 miles etc) but since we closed for Christmas and he mellowed out a bit (it also helps the actual owner decided to sit us all down and say point blank we are all the same level) and now we have respect for him because he has stopped being a total knob to us and takes on board new ideas we have, just like we do his.

I can understand why he was like it, suddenly these two people were literally moving in and we had no idea who we were etc and I’ve told him we thought he was a prick when we started and he actually said ‘I respect you for being honest!’.

Geeky x

I think it's good that you can see it from his point of view. Hope you continue to get on. Mutual respect is good. "

Absolutely we can, we must have felt like a huge threat to him but I think we convinced him we are working towards the same end game, plus he knew nothing about us and over the past few weeks we’ve all bonded. I think respect is going both ways now.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suss them out first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect everyone equally from the point I first meet them, unless they've done something to directly effect me beforehand.

I operate on a scale, you're never fixed in one place, you can rise like a Phoenix from the Ashes of Fall from Grace with a thump.

I have time for everyone, very reactionary and passionate about things like this and don't seem to play by the same rules and standards that everyone else seems to hold rigidly to. Some things that upset others have zero effect on me. Some things tgat others aren't bothered by, bother me immensely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the record:

*piggyback* on occasions if I come across a post that makes sense and I agree with it I will snap it. Like I did in my previous posts for this thread. Seen as I should be adding my own contribution I am going to link respect with *time*

So here you go...

At some point you may have come across a time waster. There could be multiple reasons for that because they may be phishing for information, gossip amongst mates, thrill of the chase etc etc therefore will not actually meet you, but you could be led to believe they would have until crunch time... if someone does not value their own time they will not respect yours.

On many occasions people having good nature want to give second, third chances... but the same happens again so you may be left frustrated and the time has gone... temptation is everywhere, but how do you save your time for actual like minded people... perhaps this will help as a reminder:

You may have heard the lyrics...

"Last Christmas I gave you my heart, but the very next day you gave it away... this year to save me from tears I will give it to someone special..."

#Wham

Here is my edited version...

At the last social I gave you my time, but the very next minute you gave it away... at the next meet to save my time I will give it to someone special.

I know I know that won't be a number one hit any time soon! I didn't have much time did I...

Time is precious.

#respect

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"Do you respect people or does it have to be earned?

If you think respect must be earned, how long does that take and how do they earn your respect?

If someone does not respect you on first meeting, how would you feel?

"
Respect has to be earned and if a guy does not respect me on first meet there is no second meet

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Do you respect people or does it have to be earned?

If you think respect must be earned, how long does that take and how do they earn your respect?

If someone does not respect you on first meeting, how would you feel?

"

It takes time like most things from friendship to trusts, you can only open yourself up so much after that it's down to the other person to walk through.

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