FabSwingers.com forum: Accept Rejection Gracefully!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh

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By *eeroybrownMan
over a year ago

aldershot

Maybe they're on here for the wrong reasons or under misguided preconceptions - I mean, don't all people that find swinging interesting want to shag anything that moves?!

) ?

I've not met anyone but am cool with that - if it happens, fine; if not, the forums are fun; and sometimes the cams are too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some have high expectations that their message will guarantee them sex on here, bit sad really!

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh "

At least you've actually been decent enough to reply. Most people don't even do that.

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh

At least you've actually been decent enough to reply. Most people don't even do that. "

No reply is a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is part and parcel of this place people just need to deal with it .

I hate it as it makes you feel unwanted but that’s life .

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Rejection is part and parcel of this place people just need to deal with it .

I hate it as it makes you feel unwanted but that’s life . "

Awwww like the last kitten in the petshop unwanted?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

I don't even read half the MSG's, you get the sense of them from the first couple of words so their deleted....

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh

At least you've actually been decent enough to reply. Most people don't even do that.

No reply is a reply.

T. "

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more a trying to get me to change my mind thing.

I don't get into those discussions as they might not end well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's more a trying to get me to change my mind thing.

I don't get into those discussions as they might not end well. "

Yes!!!! Totally agree with this. So very disrespectful. As if you’re not sure of yourself or choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh "

I never argue but I always reply to say thank you for answering me, however it seems that isn't always appreciated. But, I cant help it the good manners that were ingrained when I was young insist you always reply to any missive even if its to say thank you for saying no lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh

I never argue but I always reply to say thank you for answering"

Same as this. Nothing else needs to be said.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh

I never argue but I always reply to say thank you for answering

Same as this. Nothing else needs to be said. "
Another who agrees with this. We don't get annoyed, upset or angry at any form of rejection here, or mostly outside of here for that matter. People make choices for their own reasons, as do we, so we will acknowledge and respect their reasoning and have even kept a metaphorical door ajar if we have initiated contact to begin with. We saw something we liked initially and we don't suddenly unlike them because of something said at a moment in time. If they have been rude or disrespectful, then that's a different matter all together.

In non-fab life, one of us was rejected for a dream job, but still found the motivation to thank them for the interview and wish them well for the future. About 4 months later, the owner called and asked if the job applied for, would still be of interest. It was and three great years followed...

We try not to burn bridges, but sometimes we have to, particularly with some here.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Argh ...pleeease.nooo ..the ignominy ..hellp!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be honest, on the rare occasion I get a message first, it’s generally off a bloke who is offering a blow job or something similar. As this isn’t my thing, not off of a man, anyway, I often reject it as I stare it’s not for me. And it’s always a nice response back.

From my experience, if I’m nice in my response then a nice response is returned. However, I can appreciate that’s not always the case!

Equally, if I’m not for someone and they reject me, I always appreciate that and send a nice ‘thanks for letting me know, happy swinging’ response back.

I don’t get many responses and it’s happened twice recently with local women whom I’d love to have met, I wasn’t for them for one reason or another, even though we got on find and they were attracted to me. I just sent a nice message back.

In short, no point crying over spilt milk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please reject me op

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I'm used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm used to it."

Bless you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh "

I don't open a lot of my messages but when I do reply to say a no thank you, i find most are gracious in their reply. If someone were to continue to ask why, i ignore it. I've already said 'no thank you'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's more a trying to get me to change my mind thing.

I don't get into those discussions as they might not end well.

Yes!!!! Totally agree with this. So very disrespectful. As if you’re not sure of yourself or choices. "

If someone keeps asking, I just say I would never meet anyone who can't take "no" for an answer.

Most of the time they then apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's more a trying to get me to change my mind thing.

I don't get into those discussions as they might not end well.

Yes!!!! Totally agree with this. So very disrespectful. As if you’re not sure of yourself or choices.

If someone keeps asking, I just say I would never meet anyone who can't take "no" for an answer.

Most of the time they then apologise."

crazy,,everyone thinks thats a carrot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had a reply telling us our attitude stinks because we said no as he wasn’t what we were looking for. Single men ruin this site at times.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

You don’t need to give anyone a reason. That’s when the problems start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh "

Its all down to desperation frustration and an inability to understand not everyone is attracted to them I guess.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I don't see why so many people have such fragile egos. If I don't get a reply, move on. If I get a rejection I send a very polite thank you for the reply and wish them well.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh "

This is why I never used to reply. Not worth the abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why people would argue, surely it would make someone even less likely to meet.

Give your thumb a rest.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh

This is why I never used to reply. Not worth the abuse "

Then you get abused for not replying you just can't win on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't all be attracted to the same people. Fab is like a box of chocolates.. Some you like some you don't.

If I get a reply saying I'm not for them I say thank you and happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never argued with a rejection. I have, however, been blocked for thanking them for replying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh

This is why I never used to reply. Not worth the abuse

Then you get abused for not replying you just can't win on here. "

I just deleted and blocked if I wasn’t interested tbh. I did state on my profile that I do that though.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"I've never argued with a rejection. I have, however, been blocked for thanking them for replying!"

Probably because a lot of people use that as an "in". An excuse to keep the conversation going..eventually turn a no into a maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often have a bit of chat with them, unless it’s a ‘suck your cock now?’ message until they ask to meet and then I let them down gently.

I’ve only once had a negative response when I was called a timewaster after turning down a ‘blowjob now’. I pointed out that my profile warned them about me being a shit-swinging-timewasting-wankshaft and I was told to Foxtrot Oscar. I was fully expecting that response so I had the block button ready for an immediate hit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much easier to just not reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So much easier to just not reply."

I think that’s probably the best approach for women. It’s probably what I would do if I were a woman and dealing with a significant volume of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do try and send a thanks but you're not my type message. Most accept it well but then there are a few that come back with insults etc. ("you're nothing but a fat ugly cow anyway" is the usual)

I only get pissed off when they block me before I have chance to come back again with a witty answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started fab life always replying with a polite decline... Probably 30% get that now its just a delete from me these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos their idiots,,just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started fab life always replying with a polite decline... Probably 30% get that now its just a delete from me these days "

ha,,yea I used to reply,,then the abuse came so I ignore now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i want to paddy im good at it

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I take it on the chin and move on.

Isn’t that what normal humans do?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Personally I think some people just like drama.

If you have a profile stating what you're looking for and the polar opposite contacts you, why engage, then get upset when you go from hot to hot mess?

Your preferences were ignored from the off: ignore and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent 2 messages in the past that I was so sure would get me a reply, even a sorry but no. I spent ages on them and I was so proud of the good job I'd done. Didn't hear a peep back from either girl, but both viewed my profile so I knew they hadn't replied because they weren't interested. I didn't contact them again. The people that argue or become abusive etc I think do us a favour because they make themselves known and then you can block and report them

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

I’ve been turned down.

One said “not my type”. It’s hard to hear but understandable. We can’t all fancy everyone.

I’m regularly turned down for having pubic hair.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I’ve been turned down.

One said “not my type”. It’s hard to hear but understandable. We can’t all fancy everyone.

I’m regularly turned down for having pubic hair. "

I’ve turned you down for lots more reasons than that

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"I’ve been turned down.

One said “not my type”. It’s hard to hear but understandable. We can’t all fancy everyone.

I’m regularly turned down for having pubic hair.

I’ve turned you down for lots more reasons than that

You were so inflexible when I suggested fucking you with that horse-cock dildo.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I’ve been turned down.

One said “not my type”. It’s hard to hear but understandable. We can’t all fancy everyone.

I’m regularly turned down for having pubic hair.

I’ve turned you down for lots more reasons than that

You were so inflexible when I suggested fucking you with that horse-cock dildo. "

I know, I just don’t share the barbed wire kink unfortunately

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By *ttakestwo2tangoMan
over a year ago

kings lynn uk

Personally I take a rejection reply on here as a positive thing and appreciate it because someones actually taken the time out to do so.

Although you can have too much of a good thing sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rejection is part and parcel of this place people just need to deal with it .

I hate it as it makes you feel unwanted but that’s life .

Awwww like the last kitten in the petshop unwanted?

Yes exactly like that . It gets demotivating. Especially when hundreds of men on here join and think it’s a quick in and out . When your here for nearly two years and still get rejected that’s just self torture lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I nearly always reply and say they're not my type then they ask y not and what is my type lol

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By *c90Man
over a year ago

Noiseville

"I nearly always reply and say they're not my type then they ask y not and what is my type lol"

I would change myself to be your type lol

At least your polite so well done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im the type that sticks his penis into womens virginas is that good enough lol

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By *ser23Man
over a year ago

stretford

I think women get a lot more messages than men and that something some men don’t understand when your getting only a few a week then it’s easy to reply but if your getting 50+ or more must get difficult unless a message stands out. But then how do you make a message stand out? Honestly something I’d like to know as I’ve sent my share of messages and probably only had 2 replies lol maybe I’m just not anyone’s type haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly have no idea, but then again i'm used to it so it's no big deal for me.

I usually just reply "Darn, well happy fabbing" or something like that. Being a lil bitch about it aint gonna make you more attractive to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll never win on here. It would be unfair to say " thanks but no thanks" to some people, but not others I'm not interested in. I simply can't resound to everyone, even more so than others as i'm visually impaired. I state a delete is thanks, but no thanks. So called nice people srnd abuse when I don't reply

. If i replied and said " You seem nice but there's no physical attraction" or " ypur profile isn't for me" I bet I would get abuse too.

I'm put off reading mail as a result and have over 2400 unread.

Some people on here need to grow up .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think women get a lot more messages than men and that something some men don’t understand when your getting only a few a week then it’s easy to reply but if your getting 50+ or more must get difficult unless a message stands out. But then how do you make a message stand out? Honestly something I’d like to know as I’ve sent my share of messages and probably only had 2 replies lol maybe I’m just not anyone’s type haha "

alot of the women controls the never ending messages quite well for instance someone im talking to at the moment hides her profile so she can deal with new messages quite clever tbh lol

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By *ser23Man
over a year ago

stretford

"I'll never win on here. It would be unfair to say " thanks but no thanks" to some people, but not others I'm not interested in. I simply can't resound to everyone, even more so than others as i'm visually impaired. I state a delete is thanks, but no thanks. So called nice people srnd abuse when I don't reply

. If i replied and said " You seem nice but there's no physical attraction" or " ypur profile isn't for me" I bet I would get abuse too.

I'm put off reading mail as a result and have over 2400 unread.

Some people on here need to grow up .

Exactly my point I really think women get a bum deal as the amount of messages and mithering must be relentless I mean just from your profile pic I wouldn’t message you as I know I wouldn’t be your type lol

Good luck though hope you do find some fun on here, we’re not all bad! Lol

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

This doesn’t happen to me. When I give a polite ‘no thank you’ message, I usually receive a message back thanking me for replying and that’s all.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

I don't ask, so I don't get rejected

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By *atandjayCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Usually we get a polite reply but now and again the reply shows the true character of the person messaging. We are here for fun, busy lives and family commitments means meeetings are few and far between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We asked a guy why did he contact us because he doesn’t fulfil any of the criteria that we are looking for, just to be called ‘vile cunts’ back and to be told we are the problem with the site. It’s guys plaguing people who are the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame Trump

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

I gave a polite no thank you recently and the bloke was trying to argue that by replying to him my intention was to offend and humiliate him when most people don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first message showers you with compliments... I politely decline.

The second is full of abusive comments about weight, age, size..

This is why I mostly delete messages now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply to all messages in the past, always being polite. Majority of responses were rude or full of abuse which resulted in me having to report and block. Now I just delete. I'm here to enjoy and not to get annoyed by assholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is obviously never nice but accepting and respecting a person's right to decide if they respond to your advances should be paramount. Anybody who responds in a way that's aggressive or downright vile I think that that has been a lucky escape for the party on the receiving end. Far too many people take things excessively personally. I'm not everybodys cup of tea. If somebody's taken the time and effort to respond politely then I'll be damned if they should receive a torrent of abuse for that courtesy. Respect choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh "

Its not worth arguing.. i just say ohhh well their loss

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Because having been ignored by the first 237 women they sent their carefully copied and pasted 'hey sexy xx U on kik xx?' message to, any reply at all is taken as a sign of encouragement. You didn't delete and block right away, so you must be interested, right?

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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Why do ppl argue when you’re kind enough to give them a reason why you don’t want to meet??

Surely if you’ve had the decency to say why, accept it, move on theres plenty of ppl on here to talk to.

You can see why the no replies or block and delete happens. Smh "

Who knows. Lack of emotional intelligence and emotional resilience. This is not the place to be if you can’t handle rejection.

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By *atandjayCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"The first message showers you with compliments... I politely decline.

The second is full of abusive comments about weight, age, size..

This is why I mostly delete messages now. "

Madness

You are totally gorgeous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I blame Trump "

Is he on here too?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I blame Trump

Is he on here too?

Eww.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If you haven’t got a thick skin best not be on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to accept it , cos having no luck here to be honest .

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