FabSwingers.com forum: Mental health support thread

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ok i havent done this for a while but because of a couple of threads i decided to do one. People can chat about their mental health and hopefully get support from others. What i would like this thread to be about is mental health support. Have you used online support groups or major organizations. Helplines. If so mention them. But remember we cant put phone numbers or full web addresses so mention them and people can google. Maybe keep them and use them in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this xxx

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over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I will start with the samaritans that everyone has heard off. They are there for everyone even if you just want to cry down the phone to someone. Keep their number handy

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

The mix is a crisis messanger service. That works by text so you can go at your own pace. Its aimed at under 25s. The person will introduxe themselves then you can go at your own pace

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Moodjuice is a great web resource for a variety of MH issues.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Mind is another one we have all heard off. Go to their website and there is all kind of help and information

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

for people who dont know. I have severe bipolar type 1 rapid cycle syndrome with mixed moods

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

bipolar e community has information on medication, benefits, chatting about how you are feeling and also just general chit chat

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

anyone else want to add anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second moodjuice

its a great online service.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

There's Andy’s Man Club which had been set up so that men only can join and talk about their issues and problems. There are groups all over the place where they can actually go if they want too. All to help with the crisis of the high rate of suicide in men.

Ive only recently heard about this from posters that have been put up at my work

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I will look at moodjuice its not one im familiar with so thankyou to those who have mentioned it

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"There's Andy’s Man Club which had been set up so that men only can join and talk about their issues and problems. There are groups all over the place where they can actually go if they want too. All to help with the crisis of the high rate of suicide in men.

Ive only recently heard about this from posters that have been put up at my work "
excellent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MIND have some great leaflets on all sorts of subjects, they’re £1 each to order.

Samaritans have various ways to contact by phone, email or even in person.

Never feel alone. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't liked myself for a long, long time. I suffer with guilt on two fronts. War guilt, through not conscientiously objecting to a war I knew to be wrong, instead I took part because I didn't have the courage to speak out.

Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

your local crisis team. If you are acutely ill dont be afraid to contact them. There not there to hospitalize you but do their upmost to get you past your crisis point As ive said look up these numbers and keep them. You never know when you might need them and its much better to have numbers at hand

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Hi all hope your all well.

I personally have used IAPT in the past, they are very good at providing counselling and do have other devices if you are very close to breaking point. I have heard that there is a long waiting list unfortunately.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I haven't liked myself for a long, long time. I suffer with guilt on two fronts. War guilt, through not conscientiously objecting to a war I knew to be wrong, instead I took part because I didn't have the courage to speak out.

Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

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Thats great to here and you sound positive

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

Well done!! It is a very hard thing to do open up to someone. I can't begin to imagine what you want through in Iraq but the marriage break up I can relate to. Again well done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental health issues are a problem .. My ex wife had drink and depression for years it's difficult for the partners too .. I supported her emotionally for 18 years .. Hopefully someone on here will help others with just one act of kindness.. We still get on very well as we have two lovely children together that we are both bringing up .. 5 years on and she's doing great now. Great thread to help others x

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

OP, how's been your experience with NHS, if I may ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tescos own brand dihorreha relief tablets, fraction of the price of imodium and work just as well but not as fast. But a bit of planing and you can get get it dialled in.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"OP, how's been your experience with NHS, if I may ask?"
gosh. ive been ill since i was around 13 so 40 years. Ive seen many changes in the nhs. Ive been in the "system" for many years. I had nothing to start. I have a great support. I have a mental health nurse that cones to me once a month and the cocktail of medication im on is the best ive been on. However, it took years of being ill and in and out of psyciatric hospitals to get me to this point. So i will say my experience now is good although its taken many years to get me to where i am now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for people who dont know. I have severe bipolar type 1 rapid cycle syndrome with mixed moods"

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Emotional support animals. Did you know if you suffer a severe mental health issue you may be entitled to an emotional support animal

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"OP, how's been your experience with NHS, if I may ask?gosh. ive been ill since i was around 13 so 40 years. Ive seen many changes in the nhs. Ive been in the "system" for many years. I had nothing to start. I have a great support. I have a mental health nurse that cones to me once a month and the cocktail of medication im on is the best ive been on. However, it took years of being ill and in and out of psyciatric hospitals to get me to this point. So i will say my experience now is good although its taken many years to get me to where i am now"

I'm very sorry for your situation. Bipolar is one of the worse mental disorders and very difficult to treat, so it is important you feel supported by the System in some way. The fact that you openly face the problem is admirable. This makes you stronger. Don't give up, my dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

Thats great to here and you sound positive"

Thanks. Thankyou for posting this thread. I hope people's outpouring helps others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CRUSE have been a godsend the past month or so (since I discovered them)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad to hear things are also improving for you too x

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

worst thing thats happened to me recently is going through the menapause it has set my mental health back

But because of the support i have ive managed to stay out of hospital

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I was actually going to start a thread about mental health earlier today!

I think that it's strange how we're all so eager to discuss the contents of each others pants but not the contents of our heads! It's still a very taboo subject in general and especially in the forums where mental instability is pilloried.

I'm in recovery now from anxiety and depression, counselling has been a godsend for me.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I was actually going to start a thread about mental health earlier today!

I'm in recovery now from anxiety and depression, counselling has been a godsend for me. "
well done and long may you continue in recovery

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP what a great thread. Lots of people struggle and some do reach out through the forums at times of crisis.

Sadly I expect the thread to be removed as so many others have been previously

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Just a thought, depending on where you work some employers offer help to employees as they have a duty of care. My work place offers a 24 hour 365 day free phone help and advice and they can also arrange free counselling too. Might be something to look into for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a thought, depending on where you work some employers offer help to employees as they have a duty of care. My work place offers a 24 hour 365 day free phone help and advice and they can also arrange free counselling too. Might be something to look into for some."

thanks for your words further up

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes my employer has an Employee support scheme, I've accessed it a couple of times and have been impressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on medication for a few months and finally have stopped feeling like I’m going to cry the day away. But I know I should seek further help but I’m not any good at speaking about my feelings and what’s happened in my past. I’m doing ok at the moment, the menopause is not causing me too many problems so will continue to use my own coping techniques. X

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I’ve been on medication for a few months and finally have stopped feeling like I’m going to cry the day away. But I know I should seek further help but I’m not any good at speaking about my feelings and what’s happened in my past. I’m doing ok at the moment, the menopause is not causing me too many problems so will continue to use my own coping techniques. X "
if your way of coping works great for you carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for this thread. I'm currently debating whether or not I need to go back to my Gp. I haven't needed to take medication or have CBT for 4 years, but I'm finding myself sliding. I keep hoping it will pass, but I'm realising that as time goes on, it's a losing battle at the moment. My coping mechanisms aren't working as well as they should.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Thank you for this thread. I'm currently debating whether or not I need to go back to my Gp. I haven't needed to take medication or have CBT for 4 years, but I'm finding myself sliding. I keep hoping it will pass, but I'm realising that as time goes on, it's a losing battle at the moment. My coping mechanisms aren't working as well as they should. "
go and see your gp before it slips to far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll make an appointment next week I think.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'll make an appointment next week I think. "
dont think

Just do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently been put on meds and am waiting to speak to someone. I often feel useless and unsure why I'm here I feel like crying most days I'm constantly tired and worry about anything and everything. I know I have a loving husband and family but sometimes you can't help how you feel xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I've recently been put on meds and am waiting to speak to someone. I often feel useless and unsure why I'm here I feel like crying most days I'm constantly tired and worry about anything and everything. I know I have a loving husband and family but sometimes you can't help how you feel xx"

Big squishy {{{hugs}}}xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for this thread.

I have Aspergers, which is on the autism spectrum and before anybody starts yes I have been officially diagnose because there was a whole thread about this the other day.

Makes it very difficult for me to fit into a certain group or to understand people's intent or emotion. I often have sensory overload which manifests itself in something which resembles a tantrum and it can make people think I'm just very badly behaved all that I deliberately miss the point on the threads but actually that isn't the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big squishy {{{hugs}}}xx"

Thanks lovely xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Thank you for this thread.

I have Aspergers, which is on the autism spectrum and before anybody starts yes I have been officially diagnose because there was a whole thread about this the other day.

{{{Hugs}}} to you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

Well done lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im gettinv there im out of work much longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

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By *leyxxxMan
over a year ago

Southampton/London/Bristol

I was in denial and didnt want to admit I have depression for 5 years. What a waste of time, after few sessions and few pills I had my life back and I was happy again.

Plus antidepressants give you stamina in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

Well done lovely

Thank you lovely

. I've been putting it off for long enough and just spiralling. Time to take back control. I'm glad I came across this thread. It's been like a little kick up the arse.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

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yes. wel done xc

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

Well done lovely

Thank you lovely

. I've been putting it off for long enough and just spiralling. Time to take back control. I'm glad I came across this thread. It's been like a little kick up the arse. "

And that's why these threads are so good. People realise that they are not the only ones in the position they find themselves in. Lots of great advice on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

yes. wel done xc"

All thanks to your thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to the docs this week (yesterday in fact) and she has been amazing. Because it was kicked off by grief I though I would be unsupported, but I couldn't have been more wrong thankfully

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

yes. wel done xc

All thanks to your thread

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im so glad

makes these threads worhwhile for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said in another thread I actually went to the GP today & I'm already on anti-depressants. Feel relieved that I finally started to get something done about it rather than just living with it which most people do. Have been feeling for a while that I'm drinking too much alcohol on my days off as a form of self-medication rather than for fun.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I've been to the docs this week (yesterday in fact) and she has been amazing. Because it was kicked off by grief I though I would be unsupported, but I couldn't have been more wrong thankfully "

Glad you went too.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I'll make an appointment next week I think. dont think

Just do

I made an appointment online for Wednesday

yes. wel done xc

All thanks to your thread

im so glad

makes these threads worhwhile for me"

Well done Diamond

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I've been to the docs this week (yesterday in fact) and she has been amazing. Because it was kicked off by grief I though I would be unsupported, but I couldn't have been more wrong thankfully "
good for you hope you get the sipport you need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread, DS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad week for me this week. 3 year anniversary of dad's accident - and it's STILL on replay - constant replay, don't even get any peace at night from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

What you wrote in this thread is written beautifully.

I can relate to your time in Iraq but not personally only through seeing a childhood friend go through some dark times because of his tours.

The break up part is very familiar and I didn’t even notice how bad I got in the year before it ended until a year after when I got help. It is one of the hardest things I’ve had to do in my life but looking back it’s turned out to be one of my best and bravest decisions. Sometimes you just don’t need advice, you just need to speak out loud to someone who will listen and not judge so you can hear your own thoughts.

With this in mind I’ve always got an open ear for anyone who feels like they need to be heard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threads like this are so comforting in a way, it’s upsetting to hear of other people’s tough times and sadness but a comfort to know you’re not alone x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Without a doubt it’s the ability to talk that helps , and this is a great thread .

My best mate is a senior psychiatrist and the help he has given me when I’ve needed it has been invaluable .

After a serious heart attack just over a year ago I thought I was going to get clinically depressed again . He and my wife ( in different ways ) helped pull me through and although I still feel vulnerable , I’m ok now .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t stress how much talking helps, both Ads cousin and my best friend couldn’t find their voices and died within six months of each other, it was horrific and Ads aunt will always be broken, he couldn’t talk about it but tried several ‘ways’ beforehand and my friend just suffered in silence, no one predicted she would take her own life.

Ads and I are doing a firewalk in June for mind and a new support group that his aunt is doing, I’m really hoping we raise our group target to help others find help etc.

Someone I work with helped put my ‘worries’ into perspective, before I spoke to him I didn’t realise just how clouded I felt, I knew I was down but hadn’t realised the fog and what he said to me was like a breath of fresh air.

Geeky x

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

thankyou all for participating and keeping the thread on track

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

What you wrote in this thread is written beautifully.

I can relate to your time in Iraq but not personally only through seeing a childhood friend go through some dark times because of his tours.

With this in mind I’ve always got an open ear for anyone who feels like they need to be heard. "

That's very kind of you to say so Starlord (cool name btw). I knew something was broken in me, I just didn't know what.

Symptoms were anger, depressed, sad, ashamed, frustration, exasperation, lonely, alone, mood swings, feeling constantly hard done by, never happy. It effected my sex drive, my erections, my confidence, relationships, my self esteem. Long term.. not just a mood swing.

Some people might not know they're suffering from something, which is why I felt the urge to get all that out in this thread. It upsets me to write it, but it's also cathartic to share it and release that emotion. If it helps someone else deal with their own issues, or at least recognise they may have some. Then it's worth every salty tear.

I believe I have a mild form of PTSD, maybe through being a bit sensitive and holding myself to an impossibly high set of morals.

I've a friend who watches over me and checks up, someone who is a professional. I feel better now, than I did before it all started. So I'm just going to continue doing what I do. Talk talk talk and talk.

If some of that is reflected here in the forum, I apologise profusely.

If you're a forum friend of mine and you see me going off on one, feel free to suggest I reign it in a bit. Gemini Man has been very helpful in calming my frustration and occasional paranoia. Though he doesn't know all of this, unless he's reading it.

Showing someone a small glimpse of kindness, can make all the difference to someone's day, week, life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant thread. I have GAD and PTSD - generalised anxiety disorder. I'm back on Sertraline 150mg once a day, having been really bad over Christmas. My fwb and my (older) children have been brilliant. As have most of my mates. With two notable ecceptions, but this is a dull illness for those on the outside. I hope everyone on here gets the support they need and deserve xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been to the docs this week (yesterday in fact) and she has been amazing. Because it was kicked off by grief I though I would be unsupported, but I couldn't have been more wrong thankfully

Glad you went too.

Thanks my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Breathing space are very good

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Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

What you wrote in this thread is written beautifully.

I can relate to your time in Iraq but not personally only through seeing a childhood friend go through some dark times because of his tours.

With this in mind I’ve always got an open ear for anyone who feels like they need to be heard.

That's very kind of you to say so Starlord (cool name btw). I knew something was broken in me, I just didn't know what.

I believe I have a mild form of PTSD, maybe through being a bit sensitive and holding myself to an impossibly high set of morals.

If some of that is reflected here in the forum, I apologise profusely.

Showing someone a small glimpse of kindness, can make all the difference to someone's day, week, life.

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Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

What you wrote in this thread is written beautifully.

I can relate to your time in Iraq but not personally only through seeing a childhood friend go through some dark times because of his tours.

With this in mind I’ve always got an open ear for anyone who feels like they need to be heard.

That's very kind of you to say so Starlord (cool name btw). I knew something was broken in me, I just didn't know what.

I believe I have a mild form of PTSD, maybe through being a bit sensitive and holding myself to an impossibly high set of morals.

If some of that is reflected here in the forum, I apologise profusely.

Showing someone a small glimpse of kindness, can make all the difference to someone's day, week, life.

He's my voice of reason too

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Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

What you wrote in this thread is written beautifully.

I can relate to your time in Iraq but not personally only through seeing a childhood friend go through some dark times because of his tours.

With this in mind I’ve always got an open ear for anyone who feels like they need to be heard.

That's very kind of you to say so Starlord (cool name btw). I knew something was broken in me, I just didn't know what.

I believe I have a mild form of PTSD, maybe through being a bit sensitive and holding myself to an impossibly high set of morals.

If some of that is reflected here in the forum, I apologise profusely.

Showing someone a small glimpse of kindness, can make all the difference to someone's day, week, life.

That’s a precious thing to have in a friend who’s watching over you.

It’s a strange place I found myself in. On the outside I had most things you could ever wish for in a good close family, no health, work or money worries but inside something was turning dark. Slowly distancing myself from people and keeping emotions to myself. When I started to seek help I started writing feelings that I didn’t want to talk about down on paper. Felt silly at the time but it has turned into something useful as now I can look back and see how far I’ve come since then.

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Also the collapse of my marriage. I caused my ex and children a lot of heartache. I feel other people's pain quite strongly and I felt all of theirs as if it were my own (I'm welling up as I write).

Despite all this, I'm rather lucky in that I'm quite rational and very social, I like to talk. I seek assistance from friends who are brave enough to tell me as it is

I used to bottle the Iraq stuff up a bit.. but bottling the marriage breakdown tore me to shreds.

Unloading to a friend, who happens to be a professional in mental health. Made the Iraq stuff flush out as I spoke it out.

If you're feeling low, I can't reccomend counselling enough. Bottling things up just makes things harder in the long run.

I'm starting to like myself again.. for the first time in.. A decade.

What you wrote in this thread is written beautifully.

I can relate to your time in Iraq but not personally only through seeing a childhood friend go through some dark times because of his tours.

With this in mind I’ve always got an open ear for anyone who feels like they need to be heard.

That's very kind of you to say so Starlord (cool name btw). I knew something was broken in me, I just didn't know what.

I believe I have a mild form of PTSD, maybe through being a bit sensitive and holding myself to an impossibly high set of morals.

If some of that is reflected here in the forum, I apologise profusely.

Showing someone a small glimpse of kindness, can make all the difference to someone's day, week, life.

That’s a precious thing to have in a friend who’s watching over you.

What was eating you up? You know you don't have to say, but I'm taking a leaf out of your book and offering a friendly ear. What did you write about?

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I've been battling personal demons for many years. 6 years ago I went to the GP after my father's death and was fobbed off.

My mother passed away a few weeks ago and all the feelings I'd tried to ignore have suffered and I'm no longer able to function. To the point I couldn't cope with work when I went back.

I'm back to crying in the car and constantly feeling exhausted unworthy.

I have always been seen as very strong and do just get on with stuff. This makes it hard for me and others to accept that right now I'm very far from strong.

I visited my GP and unsurprisingly my blood pressure is once more out of control and the anxiety is creeping back in. I'm a single parent so being ill isn't an option.

He's signed me off and work, sadly they are far from supportive.

At the moment I'm trying to find ways to look after myself but even that comes with guilt.

Threads like this are wonderful because someone somewhere may be struggling silently and it may just provide some assistance or comfort.

I wish happier, settled times for you all xx

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"I've been battling personal demons for many years. 6 years ago I went to the GP after my father's death and was fobbed off.

My mother passed away a few weeks ago and all the feelings I'd tried to ignore have suffered and I'm no longer able to function. To the point I couldn't cope with work when I went back.

I'm back to crying in the car and constantly feeling exhausted unworthy.

I have always been seen as very strong and do just get on with stuff. This makes it hard for me and others to accept that right now I'm very far from strong.

I visited my GP and unsurprisingly my blood pressure is once more out of control and the anxiety is creeping back in. I'm a single parent so being ill isn't an option.

He's signed me off and work, sadly they are far from supportive.

At the moment I'm trying to find ways to look after myself but even that comes with guilt.

Threads like this are wonderful because someone somewhere may be struggling silently and it may just provide some assistance or comfort.

I wish happier, settled times for you all xx

Bless your heart, that's awful. My bereavement was a grandparent and my work have been truly wonderful, that is absolutely appalling. Sending a really big hug xx