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"For me personally masks or face coverings freak me out a bit and while I wouldn't judge you for what you're into I probably wouldn't engage with you as I would assume we were incompatible. Whether you show them or not depends on what you're looking for I guess. If you'd be happy "going vanilla" then sure, give it a go but I'd suggest leaving them up if that kinda play is important to you. It's better to be up front and rule out those not into it than to get chatting and like someone only for them to back off when you mention it further down the line. " Thanks for that! See this is kinda why I have them up there. It just saves any awkwardness down the line and is a pretty good vetting system. But the kink and play isn't the be all and end all. In fact; a lot of the time I'm more than happy to go without. It's a nice bonus if play partners are into the same things, or at least interested and willing to give certain things a go. | |||
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"You already know yourself that the hood/dolly look isn't to everyone's taste - though why they'd take the time to write and tell you that, especially in abusive terms, I don't know. But if you're looking for meets with women who embrace it it'd rather defeat the object to hide behind vanilla pics in my view." Exactly! | |||
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"You already know yourself that the hood/dolly look isn't to everyone's taste - though why they'd take the time to write and tell you that, especially in abusive terms, I don't know. But if you're looking for meets with women who embrace it it'd rather defeat the object to hide behind vanilla pics in my view." Oh, I've had people (again, not on here) message me simply JUST to hurl abuse. Before I discovered I liked this side of things, I'd never use the block buttons, but alas, it's been pressed more than once! The majority or people are pretty good, but some seem to think that I'm not into the "less fetishy" kind of stuff at all, which makes it difficult when looking for some of the more simple things in life, lol! | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You." Thank you! And that is pretty much where I want to be. | |||
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Hmmmmmmm at the time of posting, I think you are right to have the pics on show cos that is what you are after in the end. Howeverrrrrrr they would make me presume and assume so much that I prob wouldn't meet for sex .....so  ping! win win for you having the pics up
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"I like this thread simply because it's actually given me something to think about and i'll be thinking my way through it even when i've posted this reply. I find it interesting cos it's VERY chicken and egg don't you think ? HYPOTHETICALS: I meet 'you'. I like you. We have sex and lots of laughs for long times. Then you introduce me to 'dolly' .......... Do I run ? Do I take part ? I think i'd take part but it would all be a HUGE laugh to me a bit of fun, something different and I probably wouldn't want to do it again .... it's done. ( at least for a long time ) Now the above supposes that you are the same person with dolly on as you are with dolly off. Hmmmmm HYPOTHETICAL: You become a totally different persona with dolly on and want to indulge in things we've not previously indulged in. Dolly is how you get your kicks and it'll always be dolly sex...... I think i'm out
Hmmmmmmm at the time of posting, I think you are right to have the pics on show cos that is what you are after in the end. Howeverrrrrrr they would make me presume and assume so much that I prob wouldn't meet for sex .....so ping! win win for you having the pics up
It makes for a more interesting place methinks. "Awesome answer!! And precisely! Dolly is just there for play, but it answers a lot or questions for people initially (I hope). I must admit, I very rarely get the "so, what are you into?" messages..haha! In fact, I had a very similar situation the other day to what you described. I met with a lovely girl, she had never seen a dolly suit like that before and because intensely curious and we played - she said pretty much the same as you. It's all just a bit of fun! (I'm nothing like dolly in real life..my boobs don't inflate hahah) And why on earth would I block you for having such an informed response! | |||
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"I like this thread simply because it's actually given me something to think about and i'll be thinking my way through it even when i've posted this reply. I find it interesting cos it's VERY chicken and egg don't you think ? HYPOTHETICALS: I meet 'you'. I like you. We have sex and lots of laughs for long times. Then you introduce me to 'dolly' .......... Do I run ? Do I take part ? I think i'd take part but it would all be a HUGE laugh to me a bit of fun, something different and I probably wouldn't want to do it again .... it's done. ( at least for a long time ) Now the above supposes that you are the same person with dolly on as you are with dolly off. Hmmmmm HYPOTHETICAL: You become a totally different persona with dolly on and want to indulge in things we've not previously indulged in. Dolly is how you get your kicks and it'll always be dolly sex...... I think i'm out
Hmmmmmmm at the time of posting, I think you are right to have the pics on show cos that is what you are after in the end. Howeverrrrrrr they would make me presume and assume so much that I prob wouldn't meet for sex .....so ping! win win for you having the pics up
It makes for a more interesting place methinks. "Which has got me thinking further. A proportion of people project a persona that isn't the real them. They hide behind a character that exists on fab. People connect with the persona that is projected and the promises that the profile portrays. Dolly, as a persona, is an alternative to you. In some sense you are being clear that Dolly is a persona and the real you is potentially unavailable. If that makes sense? Adding a further persona to mask Dolly who masks you is too many layers for some to cope with... | |||
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"You already know yourself that the hood/dolly look isn't to everyone's taste - though why they'd take the time to write and tell you that, especially in abusive terms, I don't know. But if you're looking for meets with women who embrace it it'd rather defeat the object to hide behind vanilla pics in my view. Oh, I've had people (again, not on here) message me simply JUST to hurl abuse. Before I discovered I liked this side of things, I'd never use the block buttons, but alas, it's been pressed more than once! The majority or people are pretty good, but some seem to think that I'm not into the "less fetishy" kind of stuff at all, which makes it difficult when looking for some of the more simple things in life, lol! " The block button is a very useful and positive tool on here. | |||
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"Not sure they are apt for this site More suited to a fetish site " The lines are very blurred these days. What wasn't acceptable at one time is pretty mundane now...... Thank goodness. When is a fetish a fetish ? | |||
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"I like this thread simply because it's actually given me something to think about and i'll be thinking my way through it even when i've posted this reply. I find it interesting cos it's VERY chicken and egg don't you think ? HYPOTHETICALS: I meet 'you'. I like you. We have sex and lots of laughs for long times. Then you introduce me to 'dolly' .......... Do I run ? Do I take part ? I think i'd take part but it would all be a HUGE laugh to me a bit of fun, something different and I probably wouldn't want to do it again .... it's done. ( at least for a long time ) Now the above supposes that you are the same person with dolly on as you are with dolly off. Hmmmmm HYPOTHETICAL: You become a totally different persona with dolly on and want to indulge in things we've not previously indulged in. Dolly is how you get your kicks and it'll always be dolly sex...... I think i'm out
Hmmmmmmm at the time of posting, I think you are right to have the pics on show cos that is what you are after in the end. Howeverrrrrrr they would make me presume and assume so much that I prob wouldn't meet for sex .....so ping! win win for you having the pics up
It makes for a more interesting place methinks.
Which has got me thinking further.
A proportion of people project a persona that isn't the real them. They hide behind a character that exists on fab. People connect with the persona that is projected and the promises that the profile portrays.
Dolly, as a persona, is an alternative to you. In some sense you are being clear that Dolly is a persona and the real you is potentially unavailable.
If that makes sense?
Adding a further persona to mask Dolly who masks you is too many layers for some to cope with..."I think you've nailed the fuck out of this. Bravo. | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You." You need to change your last name to Pot, and your first name to Jack. | |||
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"It all depends what you want OP. As an average man in his forties, your options are already limited. Most people on here are fairly swingo normative if you like and those kind of pics would put them off, thus lessening your chances even further. So if you want to people people for straightforward sex, the pics are a bad idea. I'd suggest having two profiles. One without the pics for normative sex. One with for the more adventurous "Or just keep the masked pictures friends only/ private. I will say, I have had people come up on who looked at me with masks on (although not sexual ones, the ones I'm thinking of, they looked like they wanted to be anonymous at a protest) and my visceral reaction was so strong that I blocked them. Maybe over the top, but I unfortunately can't entirely help feeling threatened. | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You." I've never understood this idea that you should stick out for 100% what you want, even if doing so means you ruin your chances of getting 90% of what you want. At the end of the day, the OP wants sex with women. Ideally he'd like someone into his kinks, but that's not essential. Given he's unlikely to find someone specifically into his pinks and given his pics will alienate most women, he's best dropping them. | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You. I've never understood this idea that you should stick out for 100% what you want, even if doing so means you ruin your chances of getting 90% of what you want. At the end of the day, the OP wants sex with women. Ideally he'd like someone into his kinks, but that's not essential. Given he's unlikely to find someone specifically into his pinks and given his pics will alienate most women, he's best dropping them. " It is entirely up to the OP to decide what he wishes to compromise on. I know personally I would rather wait for the right person rather than settle for someone who is close enough. I get far fewer meets as a result but when I find whoever is in the 100% category, they know I haven't compromised or settled for second best. We all have different views though and I respect your right to voice that opinion. | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You. I've never understood this idea that you should stick out for 100% what you want, even if doing so means you ruin your chances of getting 90% of what you want. At the end of the day, the OP wants sex with women. Ideally he'd like someone into his kinks, but that's not essential. Given he's unlikely to find someone specifically into his pinks and given his pics will alienate most women, he's best dropping them. It is entirely up to the OP to decide what he wishes to compromise on. I know personally I would rather wait for the right person rather than settle for someone who is close enough. I get far fewer meets as a result but when I find whoever is in the 100% category, they know I haven't compromised or settled for second best. We all have different views though and I respect your right to voice that opinion." Unless you only ever meet one person, by definition, most of the time you will settle for second best. The OP has said above he wants to meet women and his kinks are not essential. | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You. I've never understood this idea that you should stick out for 100% what you want, even if doing so means you ruin your chances of getting 90% of what you want. At the end of the day, the OP wants sex with women. Ideally he'd like someone into his kinks, but that's not essential. Given he's unlikely to find someone specifically into his pinks and given his pics will alienate most women, he's best dropping them. It is entirely up to the OP to decide what he wishes to compromise on. I know personally I would rather wait for the right person rather than settle for someone who is close enough. I get far fewer meets as a result but when I find whoever is in the 100% category, they know I haven't compromised or settled for second best. We all have different views though and I respect your right to voice that opinion. Unless you only ever meet one person, by definition, most of the time you will settle for second best. The OP has said above he wants to meet women and his kinks are not essential. " Not necessarily, as our wants can change from one day to the next, so you can meet those that meet your wants 100% right now. Maybe the OP is merely looking for someone who accepts his kinks, so no need to hide them. P | |||
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"Not sure they are apt for this site More suited to a fetish site The lines are very blurred these days. What wasn't acceptable at one time is pretty mundane now...... Thank goodness. When is a fetish a fetish ?" Well I see many things like this in the fetish scene. But I don't see it at all vanilla wise. Do you | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You. I've never understood this idea that you should stick out for 100% what you want, even if doing so means you ruin your chances of getting 90% of what you want. At the end of the day, the OP wants sex with women. Ideally he'd like someone into his kinks, but that's not essential. Given he's unlikely to find someone specifically into his pinks and given his pics will alienate most women, he's best dropping them. It is entirely up to the OP to decide what he wishes to compromise on. I know personally I would rather wait for the right person rather than settle for someone who is close enough. I get far fewer meets as a result but when I find whoever is in the 100% category, they know I haven't compromised or settled for second best. We all have different views though and I respect your right to voice that opinion. Unless you only ever meet one person, by definition, most of the time you will settle for second best. The OP has said above he wants to meet women and his kinks are not essential. Not necessarily, as our wants can change from one day to the next, so you can meet those that meet your wants 100% right now. Maybe the OP is merely looking for someone who accepts his kinks, so no need to hide them. P" Obviously, I can't speak for all men, but I think the general male attitude on here is that they want sex with women who here who they fancy. The average bloke will fancy a large proportion of the women on here and, given the ratios, will realise that if he is to any chance of having sex with any of those women, he has to avoid doing stuff that puts them off, whether it be sending cock pics or wearing scary masks. I get the impression the OP is one of those average blokes, so whilst he would love to find someone into the masks, he'll ditch them if they reduce his chances of a shag. | |||
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"I think that's actually an extremely dangerous assumption there, London! Whilst I agree that a lot of single guys are on here to get what they can, I'm not one of them. I am actually pretty picky - although I don't have "type" per se and of course, I would love some play as often as I can. Who wouldn't? But I certainly wouldn't dream of ditching photos if it increased my chances. As I said, they're a rather good vetting tool. And to be 100% in the 5+ years of being on this site, I have actually had MORE people who I chat to than I've had meets. For various reasons, I might add, but the bottom line is I'm not here JUST for pure sex (though yes, that is nice!) " Fair enough, if that's your view. Having the pics will reduce your already low chances, but if you're OK with that, crack on | |||
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"Well hellooo fellow pervs and peoples. I'll get straight to the point (no bugger has time to read long posts!) My rubber hood/dolly pics aren't THAT scary, are they? I'm asking because while many of you do love the fetishy aspect of things, I have had rather a lot of negative responses to the latex. This ranges from "Oh, god, no you're way too freaky for me" or "that's really scary" to downright abuse because of my tastes (disclaimer: it's been from other sites as well as this one) I know everyone is different, but I've been thinking, shall I just take down the rubber piccies and just go all vanilla. But then again that's not me and I guess it s out non-compatible people. I shouldn't let it bother me really I guess, and It doesn't to a point. I just figured I'd post the question for opinions! And just in case: troll types who simply want to hurl abuse, your opinions don't actually matter at all!" This site really can be quite vanilla and closed minded in it's outlook at times  | |||
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"To thine self be true. It is your thing, so do as you please. The moment you start altering YOUR profile to suit the masses, you alienate the most important person in your fab journey. You. I've never understood this idea that you should stick out for 100% what you want, even if doing so means you ruin your chances of getting 90% of what you want. At the end of the day, the OP wants sex with women. Ideally he'd like someone into his kinks, but that's not essential. Given he's unlikely to find someone specifically into his pinks and given his pics will alienate most women, he's best dropping them. It is entirely up to the OP to decide what he wishes to compromise on. I know personally I would rather wait for the right person rather than settle for someone who is close enough. I get far fewer meets as a result but when I find whoever is in the 100% category, they know I haven't compromised or settled for second best. We all have different views though and I respect your right to voice that opinion. Unless you only ever meet one person, by definition, most of the time you will settle for second best. The OP has said above he wants to meet women and his kinks are not essential. Not necessarily, as our wants can change from one day to the next, so you can meet those that meet your wants 100% right now. Maybe the OP is merely looking for someone who accepts his kinks, so no need to hide them. P Obviously, I can't speak for all men, but I think the general male attitude on here is that they want sex with women who here who they fancy. The average bloke will fancy a large proportion of the women on here and, given the ratios, will realise that if he is to any chance of having sex with any of those women, he has to avoid doing stuff that puts them off, whether it be sending cock pics or wearing scary masks. I get the impression the OP is one of those average blokes, so whilst he would love to find someone into the masks, he'll ditch them if they reduce his chances of a shag. " Huge assumption there  | |||
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"See, I love this. I do love a good discussion. Plus it's nice to see people playing nice! Exquisite hit the nail on the head a number of times. Some days I love chocolate cake, some days I want lemon. Sometimes I'd like a big old messy trifle, it depends on my mood. I will say, I'd love a few more 'nilla-ish piccies on my profile, but I need to be careful and fairly discrete. Not because I'm married or owt (I'm very single!) but I work in a pretty sensitive industry and meet a LOT of people, so I can't have anything recognizable on here. Hence the hoods..though the one part of my body I'm happy with - my bum - might need photo shoot soon hhahah! " Personally I think good on ya for the dolly thing. Yes you may lessen your chances with SOME people, but at least you know those that do want to meet are open minded and non judgemental, whether or not dolly will make an appearance or not. You can be clever with your pics without giving your identity away (unless you're tattooed from head to toe) I doff my cap to ya, I respect the "oddballs" as some would put it, those who don't try to be something they're not, those who embrace their quirks.  | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. " Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P " OMG, I would s go for a beer with you guys! And quantum physics is fun! Imagine some particles only existing if they're being observed?!?! How fucking cool is THAT? | |||
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"I think some people are afraid of things and wouldn't try stuff just in case they find they like it themselves ..... and don't wanna be "one of those weirdos" P" Lets face it, swinging is for wierdo's if it isn't your thing. | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P OMG, I would s go for a beer with you guys! And quantum physics is fun! Imagine some particles only existing if they're being observed?!?! How fucking cool is THAT? " A parti-whats-icle? | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P " Eh? He's not saying the OP shouldn't do it or looking down his nose at him,, he's making the rather obvious point that if he does it it's likely to put off many people. | |||
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"Hi OP Dare to be different! They’re not scary. Unusual yes. If they relate to who you are sexually and want to be fantastic. If there are other facets to you that you also wish to portray, portray them too. I’ll quote again on here one of my favourite quotes about us all accepting each other’s differences and enjoying when our infinite strangeness and uniqueness connects with another human being. “I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it can't be helped.” .....Fritz Perls " Awesome quote! Something that many MANY people seem to overlook..in this "scene" or in the wider world, and something that so many people in this sorry godforsaken world really should have as their philosophy. | |||
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" OMG, I would s go for a beer with you guys! And quantum physics is fun! Imagine some particles only existing if they're being observed?!?! How fucking cool is THAT? " As a side point. If that's really what quantum physics means, then I just learned something by listening. I had merely heard the term before and assumed it was something I'd have no enjoyment of as it was way too "brainboxy" for me. It probably is too brainboxy for me, yet at least now I know what it means at least. See what can happen when you listen?
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"But Captain, I have had meets, this is the thing, so that means your point is pretty moot. LOL! Yes there are "specific" sites I'm a member of them. In fact, I've found that there are way more people curious about it than not. My original point was really a bit of a light hearted wondering why some people seem to think it's appropriate to mesage simply to abuse, or even why people might think it's "scary". I think the general consensus is that there are a limited number of people here who don't like it - which is 100% fine! I mean, I don't like hitty pain, or blokes (though if you're a convincing CD/TV then hit me up hahah!) There are loads of things I don't like that others do..jebus, it'd be pretty boring otherwise, no? But you do come across (and I may be mistaken here) as someone who thinks that different tastes should be "kept to their own areas" and also a little insulting. That's not a slight, just how your post came across. " I have absolutely no problem with anything your into I don’t intend to insult you, but you asked a question on an open forum, you explicitly asked and now your feeling insulted. Yes I do find what you do strange, no I don’t think you should stop. No I don’t think you should be abused about it. An if your getting meets then that’s great, my suggestion about fettish sites was cos I thought you would have more success there. I wasn’t implying you shouldn’t be here. | |||
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" OMG, I would s go for a beer with you guys! And quantum physics is fun! Imagine some particles only existing if they're being observed?!?! How fucking cool is THAT? As a side point. If that's really what quantum physics means, then I just learned something by listening. I had merely heard the term before and assumed it was something I'd have no enjoyment of as it was way too "brainboxy" for me. It probably is too brainboxy for me, yet at least now I know what it means at least. See what can happen when you listen?
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P Eh? He's not saying the OP shouldn't do it or looking down his nose at him,, he's making the rather obvious point that if he does it it's likely to put off many people. " I'd say using the term "more than a little weird" is pretty lookie down the nosey. How many times are chaps asked "what makes you stand out from the thousands of other men on this site?" So now the advice has changed? Be the same as everyone else? I know it's not exactly that cut and dried, but I for one am giving dolly a huge high 5 if we ever cross paths and thanking him for staying true. P | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P Eh? He's not saying the OP shouldn't do it or looking down his nose at him,, he's making the rather obvious point that if he does it it's likely to put off many people. I'd say using the term "more than a little weird" is pretty lookie down the nosey. How many times are chaps asked "what makes you stand out from the thousands of other men on this site?" So now the advice has changed? Be the same as everyone else? I know it's not exactly that cut and dried, but I for one am giving dolly a huge high 5 if we ever cross paths and thanking him for staying true. P" Fair enough. He could have chosen his language better. Also fair enough standing out, but if I posted a pic of myself on the loo that would stand out. No sure it would help me get meets though | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P Eh? He's not saying the OP shouldn't do it or looking down his nose at him,, he's making the rather obvious point that if he does it it's likely to put off many people. I'd say using the term "more than a little weird" is pretty lookie down the nosey. How many times are chaps asked "what makes you stand out from the thousands of other men on this site?" So now the advice has changed? Be the same as everyone else? I know it's not exactly that cut and dried, but I for one am giving dolly a huge high 5 if we ever cross paths and thanking him for staying true. P" This is a man that dresses up as a polythene sex doll, That’s got to be classed as more than a little unusual?! | |||
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"A High 5 will be had! And Captain, just saying that your comment about it being "scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 documentary" was KINDA insulting, dude. " Mate channel 5 had a documentary about guys that dress up in latex women suits, obviously yours being pvc makes it entirely different. | |||
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"A High 5 will be had! And Captain, just saying that your comment about it being "scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 documentary" was KINDA insulting, dude. Mate channel 5 had a documentary about guys that dress up in latex women suits, obviously yours being pvc makes it entirely different. " I realise that, but it was the tone in which it was written that made it insulting, not the actual text! Plus, it is latex, so nerr...! | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P Eh? He's not saying the OP shouldn't do it or looking down his nose at him,, he's making the rather obvious point that if he does it it's likely to put off many people. I'd say using the term "more than a little weird" is pretty lookie down the nosey. How many times are chaps asked "what makes you stand out from the thousands of other men on this site?" So now the advice has changed? Be the same as everyone else? I know it's not exactly that cut and dried, but I for one am giving dolly a huge high 5 if we ever cross paths and thanking him for staying true. P Fair enough. He could have chosen his language better. Also fair enough standing out, but if I posted a pic of myself on the loo that would stand out. No sure it would help me get meets though "A pic on the loo is pretty mainstream on here unfortunately. | |||
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"Yeah they are kinda scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 late night documentary. I think a lot of people will be put off by them, are there not more suitable fetish sites that cater for that kind of thing? That being said if you don’t mind having no meets then knock yourself out. Having no meets? So you speaking on behalf of everyone? These are your views, not fact. I really thought we were getting to the stage in the world where embracing our differences and encouraging people to be who they are was something to be celebrated. Clearly not. I really do feel for those who dare to be different at times. Hurting anyone? No? Illegal? No? Go for it. No not everyone will "get it" not everyone will understand. I said in a thread yesterday, I don't understand quantum physics but I ain't gonna look down my nose or judge those that do. Fair play to them. P Eh? He's not saying the OP shouldn't do it or looking down his nose at him,, he's making the rather obvious point that if he does it it's likely to put off many people. I'd say using the term "more than a little weird" is pretty lookie down the nosey. How many times are chaps asked "what makes you stand out from the thousands of other men on this site?" So now the advice has changed? Be the same as everyone else? I know it's not exactly that cut and dried, but I for one am giving dolly a huge high 5 if we ever cross paths and thanking him for staying true. P This is a man that dresses up as a polythene sex doll, That’s got to be classed as more than a little unusual?! " Unusual yes. Different yes. Men dressing in womenswear was seen as more than a little unusual until not too long ago. P | |||
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"A High 5 will be had! And Captain, just saying that your comment about it being "scary and more than a little weird. The sort of thing you would see in a channel 5 documentary" was KINDA insulting, dude. Mate channel 5 had a documentary about guys that dress up in latex women suits, obviously yours being pvc makes it entirely different. I realise that, but it was the tone in which it was written that made it insulting, not the actual text! Plus, it is latex, so nerr...!" It’s text on a page there is no tone, your insulted because you don’t like what I typed. Which happens to be true. | |||
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"Are your pics scary? Well my opinion is they are. Sorry but that would freak me out and I don't find masks/dress up remotely sexy. Do you deserve abuse? No - if it's your kink then knock yourself out and enjoy. As for people giving you honest feedback....well that's what you have asked for. If you can't take the answer then don't ask the question. " Indeed, I don’t think anyone wishes you ill and you have as much right as anyone to be here. Anyway the thread isn’t really about my opinion, it’s about getting everyone to look at you. Mission accomplished | |||
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"Are your pics scary? Well my opinion is they are. Sorry but that would freak me out and I don't find masks/dress up remotely sexy. Do you deserve abuse? No - if it's your kink then knock yourself out and enjoy. As for people giving you honest feedback....well that's what you have asked for. If you can't take the answer then don't ask the question. " To be fair your right. OP did want honest feedback. You have to take the good with the bad. There's another post on here about being honest and while I respect anyone's honesty, being a bit more tact would have been more constructive. | |||
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"OP I think whether or not you keep the pics depends on how important the masks and doll are to you. As a fetish it's pretty niche and many won't share your kink. Having the pics on public display is bound to put lots of people off so it all comes down to how much you want to involve your play partners in your kink. For me personally it's a no. I don't find it weird or freaky because my eyes have been opened to all sorts of kinks since I joined fab but's not my cup of tea. Facial expressions matter a lot to me so I need to see the face of any play partners. Just because we are not compatible there is no excuse for anyone to be abusive. Whether on this site or others please report and block. " That's pretty much it. If the OP can only get one off on the mask/doll thing, he needs to include it. Otherwise he's shooting himself in the foot. | |||
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"I'll say this: I respect peoples opinions. Good or otherwise. But yet again it's about reading things correctly. I asked am opinion, yes, but I have never said that I couldn't take it if "i didn't like it". If you read back at what was written, all I said was that it came across in an insulting tone. I never once said I was actually insulted. And yes, Captain, you CAN have "tone " with words on a page. How do you think stories are written? From your reaction, you seem to be getting pretty irate at the whole thing. This wasn't the intention of this thread at all, but Unfortunately it does seem like it's heading in the wrong direction. Come on guys, play nice, yes?" The fact you think something is insulting implies that you are insulted, if your not then that’s great as my intention was to purely state a fact. I’m not becoming irate, in fact I’m in a fairly happy mood, the sun is shining and it’s friday afternoon. Maybe you would like to discuss what motivates you to dress as you do. Or perhaps what it is that you are looking for. | |||
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"OP I think whether or not you keep the pics depends on how important the masks and doll are to you. As a fetish it's pretty niche and many won't share your kink. Having the pics on public display is bound to put lots of people off so it all comes down to how much you want to involve your play partners in your kink. For me personally it's a no. I don't find it weird or freaky because my eyes have been opened to all sorts of kinks since I joined fab but's not my cup of tea. Facial expressions matter a lot to me so I need to see the face of any play partners. Just because we are not compatible there is no excuse for anyone to be abusive. Whether on this site or others please report and block. That's pretty much it. If the OP can only get one off on the mask/doll thing, he needs to include it. Otherwise he's shooting himself in the foot. " But I never said that, nor was it ever implied on any of the posts??? Why put words into my mouth? | |||
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"1st impression Seems a bit Texas chainsaw massacrey to me op tbh But everyone to there own and live and let live *disclaimer not saying your a mad chainsaw wielding mass murderer "I am, though. | |||
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"But Captain, I have had meets, this is the thing, so that means your point is pretty moot. LOL! Yes there are "specific" sites I'm a member of them. In fact, I've found that there are way more people curious about it than not. My original point was really a bit of a light hearted wondering why some people seem to think it's appropriate to mesage simply to abuse, or even why people might think it's "scary". I think the general consensus is that there are a limited number of people here who don't like it - which is 100% fine! I mean, I don't like hitty pain, or blokes (though if you're a convincing CD/TV then hit me up hahah!) There are loads of things I don't like that others do..jebus, it'd be pretty boring otherwise, no? But you do come across (and I may be mistaken here) as someone who thinks that different tastes should be "kept to their own areas" and also a little insulting. That's not a slight, just how your post came across. " | |||
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"OP I think whether or not you keep the pics depends on how important the masks and doll are to you. As a fetish it's pretty niche and many won't share your kink. Having the pics on public display is bound to put lots of people off so it all comes down to how much you want to involve your play partners in your kink. For me personally it's a no. I don't find it weird or freaky because my eyes have been opened to all sorts of kinks since I joined fab but's not my cup of tea. Facial expressions matter a lot to me so I need to see the face of any play partners. Just because we are not compatible there is no excuse for anyone to be abusive. Whether on this site or others please report and block. That's pretty much it. If the OP can only get one off on the mask/doll thing, he needs to include it. Otherwise he's shooting himself in the foot. But I never said that, nor was it ever implied on any of the posts??? Why put words into my mouth?" I'm not. I'm saying there's two possibilities. Either it's essential to your sex life, in which case include the pics. Or it's not, in which case don't, as it will hamper you getting meets. | |||
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"1st impression Seems a bit Texas chainsaw massacrey to me op tbh But everyone to there own and live and let live *disclaimer not saying your a mad chainsaw wielding mass murderer I am, though. " You sound brilliant. | |||
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"1st impression Seems a bit Texas chainsaw massacrey to me op tbh But everyone to there own and live and let live *disclaimer not saying your a mad chainsaw wielding mass murderer I am, though.
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