FabSwingers.com forum: Seeking adornment

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all do, dont we?.

I certainly like to feel "relevant" i guess is the right word.

Hmmm interesting

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What do you mean by adornment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I was thinking that. I'm going to Google

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can only hear the stone roses right now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

Do your mean adored or are you talking about jewellery?

As both words kinda make sense in context but radically differnt thought processes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I was thinking that. I'm going to Google "

Google says what I thought it meant.

I think you mean adore OP.

Adoration.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

Did she mean ' adored', coz I get that

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By *oresexMan
over a year ago

South West coast

No use for the tree decorations till December, adorn her with those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can only hear the stone roses right now.. "

I wanna, I wanna be adorned. Nah, doesn’t scan.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I questioned that, I appreciate some of you only see a certain side of me and may have got that impression. I don't think that's what she meant though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I was thinking that. I'm going to Google

Google says what I thought it meant.

I think you mean adore OP.

Adoration."
i assume thats the case and in that case yes it is 100% normal.

Humans are social creatures being respected and liked amongst the community is healthy and beneficial for all.

You will therefore typically have a drive and a dopamine reward for it.

Im sure the next 10 posters will say soemthing along the lines of "not me i domt care what others think" in which case its either denial or they have some form of ASPD which is pretty unlikley as they probbaly arent scum bags

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you mean by adornment?"

I had to Google it, so I'm not qualified enough to tell you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can only hear the stone roses right now.. "

Way over my head.. sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can only hear the stone roses right now.. "

Haha i was looking for the u tube link !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adorned is decorating a room with soft furnishings, you meant adored. We know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I questioned that, I appreciate some of you only see a certain side of me and may have got that impression. I don't think that's what she meant though."

So you think she meant you like to be decorated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can only hear the stone roses right now..

Way over my head.. sorry

What?!?!? Google it immediately! One of the best tunes ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I questioned that, I appreciate some of you only see a certain side of me and may have got that impression. I don't think that's what she meant though."

Does she want you to decorate her with semen, or jewellery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was single I loved it being on here, I mean I am no oil painting but all the attention I got for being a single female was lovely but at the same time I was also acutely aware that one of the only reasons these men ‘liked’ me was because I was willing to ‘put out’ and if we were in a normal setting they probably wouldn’t look twice at me (given the fact I was going out loads at the time and not one single man took notice of me, even the d*unk ones at the end of the night).

Right now I am quite happy that the only person that ‘adores me’ is Ads, of course I would be lying if I said it wouldn’t be nice if some men found me attractive because it does make you feel good but I’m quite happy with Ads being the only man that adores me, he is all that matters.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I questioned that, I appreciate some of you only see a certain side of me and may have got that impression. I don't think that's what she meant though.

Does she want you to decorate her with semen, or jewellery?"

Oh she wants to give you a medal?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I questioned that, I appreciate some of you only see a certain side of me and may have got that impression. I don't think that's what she meant though."

Could you ask her what she meant?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

Do your mean adored or are you talking about jewellery?

As both words kinda make sense in context but radically differnt thought processes"

She's very clever, also likes to make me use my own brain, so I can't say for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

Do your mean adored or are you talking about jewellery?

As both words kinda make sense in context but radically differnt thought processes

She's very clever, also likes to make me use my own brain, so I can't say for sure."

Well, adorned means to decorate or drape over so what could she possibly mean by that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Adorned is decorating a room with soft furnishings, you meant adored. We know. "

She was specific about it not being the same thing though. I'll hold my hands up and say yes, I like that feeling too. Who doesn't. I read "decorating" too when i googled it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

Do your mean adored or are you talking about jewellery?

As both words kinda make sense in context but radically differnt thought processes

She's very clever, also likes to make me use my own brain, so I can't say for sure."

I think she meant adored mate. Adorned doesn't really sense in this context. Unlike adored which pairs with being liked.

Its not a common word to describe a human unless your talking about a model and jewlery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used as a verb it's to make more beautiful or attractive.. to embellish.. sounds more likely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend put this to me today, I suppose by even posting it, I'm proving her point. If I'm honest, I think only half-understand it, so I'd like to share it.

"You enjoy being needed and adorned".

I've read up a bit and I reckon she's probably spot on.

I don't think it's a bad trait to have, provided I'm genuine with it and you add "Enjoys adorning others".

I'd be interested to know how others interpret that. See if I can listen and be quiet for once, whilst the grown ups talk. Unless you ask me a direct question. Might learn a thing or two.

You sure she didn't mean adored?

I questioned that, I appreciate some of you only see a certain side of me and may have got that impression. I don't think that's what she meant though.

Does she want you to decorate her with semen, or jewellery?"

Neither, I hope. Otherwise I'm clearly over thinking again

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Did she mean that you like people to like you, to need your advice and conpany to agree with your opinions? Does adorned refer to a love of jewellery, tatoos, fashionable or expensive clothes and accessories?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well either way i knew what you was on about!

But like many, i got the stone roses in my head now and " i dont need to sell my soul "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?"

I like being adored by men I'm seeing. I liked it when my long term partner said, out of the blue , that he adores me. That meant a lot to me, coming from him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Carter89 says it's normal. That makes me feel better.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?"

Surely that would mean you adored yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?"

I knew what you were on about, see above lol.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its normal. We are pack "animals" and seek reassurance, comfort approval etc from those around us. Its human nature.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?"

Nothing wrong with being adored

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

I knew what you were on about, see above lol.

Geeky x"

You did, now we've committed to "Adored"

I got a wave of nice feeling from Fab that I hadn't expected and I tried to explain it to her. That I didn't know why it was happening. She put that back to me.

Sorry, I missed your post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?"

Nope normal we all get a little warm glow when people like us.

And most of us are happier when we have somone to feel the same way about.

Like your kids for example im sure you adore them and that feeling brings you happiness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Surely that would mean you adored yourself."

Yes.. but I don't, I've only just started liking myself again. I dont think I'd be worried about it if I were one, would I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Surely that would mean you adored yourself.

Yes.. but I don't, I've only just started liking myself again. I dont think I'd be worried about it if I were one, would I?"

Maybe that's the point she was making.. by starting to like yourself you're realising you're likeable to others...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Nope normal we all get a little warm glow when people like us.

And most of us are happier when we have somone to feel the same way about.

Like your kids for example im sure you adore them and that feeling brings you happiness.

That's a nice way of looking at it

See, this is an example of me over thinking stuff. I'm sorry if it spills into the forums sometimes. Looking for a negative where there isn't one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Surely that would mean you adored yourself.

Yes.. but I don't, I've only just started liking myself again. I dont think I'd be worried about it if I were one, would I?

Maybe that's the point she was making.. by starting to like yourself you're realising you're likeable to others... "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou for commenting. Even you Lame Impala

*Ghengis Cunt waffles off to bed*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That was a joke! No disrespect.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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Yup, we all want to be needed and adored, very normal human desire.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

There are quite a few people in the world I adore.

I'm often taken aback and humbled when someone says they really like me. I don't see myself as adorable at all.

*not fishing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are quite a few people in the world I adore.

I'm often taken aback and humbled when someone says they really like me. I don't see myself as adorable at all.

*not fishing.

I didn't either, but I'm growing on me. I'm sure there are a few people who find you adorable. You seem pretty switched on to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a lot of curious friends op

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over a year ago

"There are quite a few people in the world I adore.

I'm often taken aback and humbled when someone says they really like me. I don't see myself as adorable at all.

*not fishing.

I didn't either, but I'm growing on me. I'm sure there are a few people who find you adorable. You seem pretty switched on to me."

Just to point out being adorable is very differnt to being adored in modern usage.

Interestingly all my far eastern friends think adorable means "cute but ugly" like a pug

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

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"There are quite a few people in the world I adore.

I'm often taken aback and humbled when someone says they really like me. I don't see myself as adorable at all.

*not fishing.

I didn't either, but I'm growing on me. I'm sure there are a few people who find you adorable. You seem pretty switched on to me.

Just to point out being adorable is very differnt to being adored in modern usage.

Interestingly all my far eastern friends think adorable means "cute but ugly" like a pug "

I find it very interesting how words carry subtlety of intent and meaning to different people in different contexts. It's also the basis of half of the disagreements on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Nope normal we all get a little warm glow when people like us.

And most of us are happier when we have somone to feel the same way about.

Like your kids for example im sure you adore them and that feeling brings you happiness.

Ego boosts are good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to be needed , I have to make sure everyone in my immediate world is ok before I start my day and if something is a little off it bothers me I hate any kind of unsettled feeling and have to put it right, sadly this means taking too much on myself but I guess we can’t change who we are! GK from what I have seen of you on here you should be adored !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Adorned is decorating a room with soft furnishings, you meant adored. We know.

She was specific about it not being the same thing though. I'll hold my hands up and say yes, I like that feeling too. Who doesn't. I read "decorating" too when i googled it. "

Like Cixi? That's what I thought when I read it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Perhaps they wanted an add on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Adorned is decorating a room with soft furnishings, you meant adored. We know.

She was specific about it not being the same thing though. I'll hold my hands up and say yes, I like that feeling too. Who doesn't. I read "decorating" too when i googled it.

Like Cixi? That's what I thought when I read it. "

Possibly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are quite a few people in the world I adore.

I'm often taken aback and humbled when someone says they really like me. I don't see myself as adorable at all.

*not fishing.

I didn't either, but I'm growing on me. I'm sure there are a few people who find you adorable. You seem pretty switched on to me.

Just to point out being adorable is very differnt to being adored in modern usage.

Interestingly all my far eastern friends think adorable means "cute but ugly" like a pug

I find it very interesting how words carry subtlety of intent and meaning to different people in different contexts. It's also the basis of half of the disagreements on the forums. "

You're spot on, it's why I asked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are quite a few people in the world I adore.

I'm often taken aback and humbled when someone says they really like me. I don't see myself as adorable at all.

*not fishing.

I didn't either, but I'm growing on me. I'm sure there are a few people who find you adorable. You seem pretty switched on to me.

Just to point out being adorable is very differnt to being adored in modern usage.

Interestingly all my far eastern friends think adorable means "cute but ugly" like a pug "

I may fit the latter

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over a year ago

"I need to be needed , I have to make sure everyone in my immediate world is ok before I start my day and if something is a little off it bothers me I hate any kind of unsettled feeling and have to put it right, sadly this means taking too much on myself but I guess we can’t change who we are! GK from what I have seen of you on here you should be adored ! "
ooh I've just handed out my weakness on a platter haven't I? Flattery will get you everywhere

Right back at you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have a lot of curious friends op "

I think I do. Not sure about lots, but the ones I have are pretty special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She may mean you like being distinguished.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she mean it in a positive or negative way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did she mean it in a positive or negative way?"

Knowing her, she didn't mean it in a negative way. Maybe a helpful one. Like I said, she likes to make me think, so I can't say for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She may mean you like being distinguished....."

Would you mind elaborating on that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You enjoy being needed and adorned"

Adornment of a person is talked about a lot in religion regarding material adornment (eg wearing jewellery, fancy clothes, etc - basically blinged up) versus spiritual adornment (eg a noble spirit).

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Surely that would mean you adored yourself.

Yes.. but I don't, I've only just started liking myself again. I dont think I'd be worried about it if I were one, would I?"

I think you think too much about what other people say about you and worry that their comments have a negative connotation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You enjoy being needed and adorned

Adornment of a person is talked about a lot in religion regarding material adornment (eg wearing jewellery, fancy clothes, etc - basically blinged up) versus spiritual adornment (eg a noble spirit).

hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Surely that would mean you adored yourself.

Yes.. but I don't, I've only just started liking myself again. I dont think I'd be worried about it if I were one, would I?

I think you think too much about what other people say about you and worry that their comments have a negative connotation."

Youre right. I'm working on it, but it's the way I've always been, so it's hard to snap out of.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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"OK. So let's change it to "Adored".

Is that bad? If I'm genuine with it? And like "Adoring" Others?

I was worried it sounded a bit narcissistic?

Surely that would mean you adored yourself.

Yes.. but I don't, I've only just started liking myself again. I dont think I'd be worried about it if I were one, would I?

I think you think too much about what other people say about you and worry that their comments have a negative connotation.

Youre right. I'm working on it, but it's the way I've always been, so it's hard to snap out of."

Yeah, I have friends who are similar. Mostly people don't say things to make you think, they're just throw away comments based on fleeting observations. People often say I'm funny not sometimes in the humorous sense and sometimes in the odd sense. They only mean that's their current assessment of me, twenty minutes later they might describe me as annoying or kind or sensible. We're all complex beings with many character traits both positive and negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Adorned is decorating a room with soft furnishings, you meant adored. We know.

She was specific about it not being the same thing though. I'll hold my hands up and say yes, I like that feeling too. Who doesn't. I read "decorating" too when i googled it. "

Does she mean adorned with praise? For example, the other thing was being needed to if someone needs you and you lehp them and they thank you for it. Would that be a form of adornment? I can't think of any other way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it's only fair to mention I had a follow up comment which helped explain things better, only I've only just got it. Largely thanks to listening to all of you.

I won't quote her, but I believe she means..

I like to adorn myself with like-minded people. Creating an evironment where my ego can be gently stroked and I can stroke away till my hearts content.

I think she's right, but it's not something I was aware of, until she pointed it out. I may be clever and quick witted in some ways. I can be very slow on the uptake in others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

It’s a nice metaphor clothing yourself in people who help you to feel good about yourself.

When our self-esteem has taken a bit of a battering through some personal life crisis or from a prolonged period of feeling unloved and lacking in self-worth, being esteemed by others is important. It helps to rebuild our self-esteem. We need to feel nurtured.

That’s why so many therapeutic approaches advocate being involved in a supportive community - AA, GA etc.

Certainly as I worked through the period of most significant personal change in my life, the community of inquiry I was part of had a massive role to play in providing love and challenge as I worked stuff through.

I still seek out people who can support and challenge me through life’s journey- it’s a healthy thing to do. We are all interdependent and social beings. Love and belonging are foundational needs for us.

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over a year ago

"It’s a nice metaphor clothing yourself in people who help you to feel good about yourself.

That’s why so many therapeutic approaches advocate being involved in a supportive community - AA, GA etc.

Love this.

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over a year ago

"It’s a nice metaphor clothing yourself in people who help you to feel good about yourself.

That’s why so many therapeutic approaches advocate being involved in a supportive community - AA, GA etc.

Love this."

As do i

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over a year ago

"It’s a nice metaphor clothing yourself in people who help you to feel good about yourself.

That’s why so many therapeutic approaches advocate being involved in a supportive community - AA, GA etc.

Love this.

As do i"

I’ll go back to posting bollocks again now

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over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I know you posted this and it's been loved already but fuck it. This is fantastic - I was going to add my part but you've already done it so beautifully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you posted this and it's been loved already but fuck it. This is fantastic - I was going to add my part but you've already done it so beautifully."

As was I going to add my two penn'orth to this and the context of the word adornment but its already been achieved.

(Whilst scrolling through I was like no, people, she means adorned not adored!! )

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know you posted this and it's been loved already but fuck it. This is fantastic - I was going to add my part but you've already done it so beautifully.

As was I going to add my two penn'orth to this and the context of the word adornment but its already been achieved.

(Whilst scrolling through I was like no, people, she means adorned not adored!! )"

I did say, she made a clear distinction between the two didn't I? Very wise person, too wise for me sometimes, which is why I needed your help last night. Otherwise my mind would have melted in overdrive.

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