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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had."

I would talk to the partner get any misunderstandings cleared up before the mountain turns into a mole hill xx

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By *ranberriesWoman
over a year ago

London

It would bother me. I’d see it as they’re not over each other and have unfinished business.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’d probably have flagged this up before and decided it was too much like hard work.

However if I had only just noticed, I’d have to weigh up whether it was worth sharing said partner’s time with his ex. If it was that they were best friends and no longer any chance of a romantic note then I’d suck it up. I text my bestie all day long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do with my ex hubby but it’s because we remained the best of friends together and co-parent dogs and guinea pigs. Our messages are not sexual or anything like that and my hubby knows that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What if the ex is a married swinger. Your partner had 3somes with them both but only texts one of them.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

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I would not tolerate it, period.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still text with my ex about non kid related stuff. We have a history as 25 years together. But it's not sexual, or love based and I wouldn't have sex with him. Just friends

So you need to get your partner to be open and honest about his old relationship. Being up front will end the worry, and speculation for you and give you reassurance about his friendship with ex

And if he is just making you jealous, you need to have conversation about that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What if the ex is a married swinger. Your partner had 3somes with them both but only texts one of them. "

Then that isn’t on.

What does your gut say OP?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had."

It sounds to me as if you have already made your mide up about what you want to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What if the ex is a married swinger. Your partner had 3somes with them both but only texts one of them.

Then that isn’t on.

What does your gut say OP? "

What do you mean that isn't on? In what way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had.

It sounds to me as if you have already made your mide up about what you want to do?"

I need opinions from other people. I should have mentioned the 'swinger couple 3somes' info in the OP but I didn't know if that would sway opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d probably have flagged this up before and decided it was too much like hard work.

However if I had only just noticed, I’d have to weigh up whether it was worth sharing said partner’s time with his ex. If it was that they were best friends and no longer any chance of a romantic note then I’d suck it up. I text my bestie all day long. "

What about the additional swinger couple 3some info? Would that be different?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had.

It sounds to me as if you have already made your mide up about what you want to do?

I need opinions from other people. I should have mentioned the 'swinger couple 3somes' info in the OP but I didn't know if that would sway opinion. "

Ultimately, it is only your opinion that matters.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had."

Yeah it would piss me off.

Is this happening to you?

(I haven't read the thread)

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

It would depend on the nature of the texts and what kind of relationship it was.

I'm still best friends with my eldest sons dad, and a couple of other ex partners are good friends

I chat with them all very regularly.

There is nothing sexual about any of our texts.

I'd object if a new partner couldn't accept they were part of my life.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway


"I’d probably have flagged this up before and decided it was too much like hard work.

However if I had only just noticed, I’d have to weigh up whether it was worth sharing said partner’s time with his ex. If it was that they were best friends and no longer any chance of a romantic note then I’d suck it up. I text my bestie all day long.

What about the additional swinger couple 3some info? Would that be different?"

I assume if I’d been with the guy for a couple of months already then I’d probably have noticed and be okay with it. I have lots of fab friends that I message as friends. If however, I suspected they were seeing the ex secretly or if it was a known Fab drama llama I’d be out of there. I’d just question why it took months to notice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had.

Yeah it would piss me off.

Is this happening to you?

(I haven't read the thread)"

What would piss you off about it?

I also added additional info about the ex being married and a swinger.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Lump hammer and phone, problem solved

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had."

Yes, it would bother me. I can understand if there are kids involved.

Personally I would highlight my concerns, see if there's a response. If there isn't one, I'll end it.

Not interested in playing games anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lump hammer and phone, problem solved "

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had.

Yeah it would piss me off.

Is this happening to you?

(I haven't read the thread)

What would piss you off about it?

I also added additional info about the ex being married and a swinger."

I was with an ex for 18 months and she was on the phone most nights to him. I imagine his gf was just as narked as me.

The whole bit would piss me off. Swingers or not.

Is this happening to you? (I don't think you answered first time around)

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Fucking ex's

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If it was just friends stuff, then no, it wouldn’t bother me. Mind you, it wouldn’t bother me if he was shagging her as long as he was honest and up front about it. If he’s lying to you and hiding sexual messages from you, then you’d need to have a conversation about it.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'd ask why they need to text and ask what was being said.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Hell yeah it would bother me , and it would have never got to this point . The minute someone shows more interest in an ex than me they can go straight back to the ex . I’m worth far more than that , and I respect myself too much go let anyone take the piss like this .

Put a value on yourself , and stick to it .

The additional information makes the situation no different . A relationship is a two way street and if one party is bothered by the others behaviour , particularly in this instance , it’s no longer worth investing in it .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had."

If people say this they are insensitive and whether they know it or not (they know it) trying to introduce insecurity. It doesn't matter if their ex thought they were the best fuck they'd ever had, what their current partner thinks is the only opinion that matters on that score.

I'd arrange a social drink with all three if I could be bothered to invest the time and effort but more than one or two texts a week to an ex would set alarm bells ringing with me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What if the ex is a married swinger. Your partner had 3somes with them both but only texts one of them. "

Irrelevant in my opinion.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had."

Of course it would. Their focus should be on the new relationship not a old one, unless there is a viable reason to still be talking to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were in a new relationship (couple of months) and your new partner was texting one of their ex's all the time, (multiple times every day), would it bother you?

Additional info - your new partner doesn't have any kids with the ex.

Your new partner has told you all about how they had many exciting sexual exploits with the ex and that the ex said your partner was the best fuck they ever had."

Hmmm yep

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Hell yeah it would bother me , and it would have never got to this point . The minute someone shows more interest in an ex than me they can go straight back to the ex . I’m worth far more than that , and I respect myself too much go let anyone take the piss like this .

Put a value on yourself , and stick to it .

The additional information makes the situation no different . A relationship is a two way street and if one party is bothered by the others behaviour , particularly in this instance , it’s no longer worth investing in it ."

I agree with this. Even if children are involved, if they worry more about the ex's feelings than yours that's a massive red flag

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It sounds like hes playing games. Id just end it

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