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Who do you thank, sexually?

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

We’re all familiar with how a traumatic event in our past can shape us, and how difficult that can be to work through.

However there are also people we meet that bring good things too, let’s celebrate them here.

My first girlfriend taught me that liking sex was a good thing, not something to be ashamed of. She also showed me that you could try different stuff and if it didn’t work you could both laugh about it.

A Fab friend opened my eyes to the world of clubs and sexual freedom, I can’t believe what I’ve been missing.

To the others I’ve met from here and had a stupid grin on my face for ages afterwards, you’ve taught me that happiness is a good thing and we should have more of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ruby wild made me realise how good my potential was and showed me i have the power along with a few others but she got the ball properly going and from there my powers have doubled im now a sexual jedi master

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Life is a learning curve and we never stop learning, having a open mind can lead to wonderous experiences.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve always been this good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like... four out of nine people I've slept with. All have helped me realise that I can achieve a healthy, happy sex life. One in particular helped me break through a massive mental barrier (or two) and also introduced me to the marvellous world of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mr, he knew I was damaged and has had a lot of patience opening my eyes to good sex. I didn’t know what I was missing, and was scared of so much, but he’s been tender and understanding and things have just got better x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Several people here who helped me with my insecurity and anxiety, and showed me that I was in fact desirable. Before that, one of my earlier boyfriends, who showed me that sex could be about my pleasure too.

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I’ve always been this good "

You’re currently slipping down the league table, time to send out those FAF messages to get yourself back up

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway


"I’ve always been this good

You’re currently slipping down the league table, time to send out those FAF messages to get yourself back up "

Nah. I FAF in person. Much higher success rate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll answer this when I’ve got more time to post. Bookmarked for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re all familiar with how a traumatic event in our past can shape us, and how difficult that can be to work through.

However there are also people we meet that bring good things too, let’s celebrate them here.

My first girlfriend taught me that liking sex was a good thing, not something to be ashamed of. She also showed me that you could try different stuff and if it didn’t work you could both laugh about it.

A Fab friend opened my eyes to the world of clubs and sexual freedom, I can’t believe what I’ve been missing.

To the others I’ve met from here and had a stupid grin on my face for ages afterwards, you’ve taught me that happiness is a good thing and we should have more of it "

A certain Lurker on here has helped me like myself again. Taught me how to understand myself better. She's one of the few people who knows me well enough to give me a good bollocking when I'm in the wrong. I don't always listen, but I love her all the same.

Many others have helped me slowly come to terms with my sexuality.

The first woman I met on here after my marriage ended. Taught me how to let go of my past and just enjoy lust and passion for what it is. Also pointed out how shallow I've been at points.

I've a lot to be thankful for.

Thankyou Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re all familiar with how a traumatic event in our past can shape us, and how difficult that can be to work through.

However there are also people we meet that bring good things too, let’s celebrate them here.

My first girlfriend taught me that liking sex was a good thing, not something to be ashamed of. She also showed me that you could try different stuff and if it didn’t work you could both laugh about it.

A Fab friend opened my eyes to the world of clubs and sexual freedom, I can’t believe what I’ve been missing.

To the others I’ve met from here and had a stupid grin on my face for ages afterwards, you’ve taught me that happiness is a good thing and we should have more of it "

Great post OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An older man who took the shy inexperienced girl I was and showed me what it meant to embrace my sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first regular partner after I left my husband opened my eyes to how sex between two people should be.

He was only 23 when we started having sex, and I was 43, but he was mature and gave me my first orgasm through oral.

I went from strength to strength after him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy who let me practise on him so I could perfect my art. After over a decade of being celibate, i wasn't confident in my sexual prowess and he was happy to be my guinea pig so I could 'catch up'

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Crazy sexy single. Gave me the chance to enter the swinging world and we got up to some crazy shit.

It’s was fun while it lasted.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I feel a bit like a broken record but this thread is lovely, Op.

My first partner taught me a lot - she encouraged and helped me find my love of kink. And strap ons. And threesomes and moresomes. She's bloody awesome and one of my best friends, even though she lives a few thousand miles away now.

My first male partner taught me how much I do love cock and pegging and being fucked - ta for that J. Without you my quim would be a lot less satisfied and empty and I wouldn't have truly relished this peculiar site.

And people who I've fucked since being on here have all taught me something in one way or another - my sexuality and confidence with it is ever evolving and growing and that's in no short part thanks to the wonderful fucks I've had.

I hope there are more to thank in the years to come (this year. Definitely this year).

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Nice thread OP

Some of the people I'd like to thank are no longer on here...

My very first swing meet who became my partner for a time and started this crazy journey of exploration with me. We popped each other's swinging cherries and had some very fun years

My first (and, to date, only) lady, who laughed and flirted her way into my bed and will always have a special place in my heart. Miss you like crazy, Crazy girl xx.

My gorgeous partner in crime who introduced me to a world of erotic sensuality, while also making me laugh until I can't breathe, and set the bar so goddam high that I'm rarely inclined to meet anyone else anymore. You're not just my cup of tea... You're my whole pic-a-nic Booboo xx.

There are also a few who were just passing through who are pretty memorable and as they're still active on the site, I won't single them out in case I embarrass them, but should they read this, they'll know who they are.... Sausage Party... Strawberry Gin... the udder ladies... and Fun Laoghaire...

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

It’s got me thinking this one... I’ve never really had bad sex but my sexual horizons have definitely been broadened over the last few years... there was one person that taught me it was okay to embrace my needs, step out of my comfort zone and push my boundaries. So him I thank him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever commissioned the red triangle films on channel 4 back in the 80s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s got me thinking this one... I’ve never really had bad sex but my sexual horizons have definitely been broadened over the last few years... there was one person that taught me it was okay to embrace my needs, step out of my comfort zone and push my boundaries. So him I thank him x "
i thank him too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also thank the master system game Olympic gold the 100 meters was especially helpfull

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Everyone I have ever met sexually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum. "

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

The 40 odd year old woman I used to go round to see when I was 18. Eye opening for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Older woman that i had a 12 month relationship with when i was 20. She taught me to slow it down and enjoy every moment...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage* "

Linda stuck her finger your ass?..........."LINDA!!"....come here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage*

Linda stuck her finger your ass?..........."LINDA!!"....come here"

Don’t make a Hue and Cry about it.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I'll thank the guy I met on here many years ago who took my innocence away and really showed me what my body was capable of, and that cumming without hardly any physical contact is very possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage*

Linda stuck her finger your ass?..........."LINDA!!"....come here

Don’t make a Hue and Cry about it. "

Naaaa sounds like a labour of love

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage* "

You should probably create some more of your fascinating threads that offer an insight into human sexuality. Or just stare at some tits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage*

You should probably create some more of your fascinating threads that offer an insight into human sexuality. Or just stare at some tits. "

I sense a passive aggressive subtext, that hides a deeper meaning.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"

You should probably create some more of your fascinating threads that offer an insight into human sexuality. Or just stare at some tits.

I sense a passive aggressive subtext, that hides a deeper meaning. "

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

After 11 years of a sexless/boring marriage I’m yet to thank anyone......

I’ve not had my needs met properly in a long time.....

That’s why I’m here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting question, I think overall the biggest impact sexually comes from my longstanding friend (non fabs ) in my compartmentalised world who taught me that’s it’s not wrong to like sex and opened my eyes to possibilities that tbh I didn’t know even existed.

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By *ellbound_GhoulwarpWoman
over a year ago

Fifth Circle of Hell

1 or two at the most to thank. Known one for over 10 years now, have to thank him for giving me the confidence, to stop thinking I am not good enough for a gorgeous man like him and lots of other stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage* "

It's a nicer thread than some of the crap on here

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

This is from someone that prefers to remain anonymous:

I was a virgin with vaginismus when I came here looking for soft play, I'm thankful for the guy who I lost my virginity to, even though we're not in touch now. He started a new and very exciting chapter in my life. I'm thankful for the social organisers for helping me get over the threshold and begin to enjoy being in crowds, and to the guy who met me beforehand and looked after me. I'm also thankful to him for helping me get into the club scene, something I've paid on to others. And I'm thankful to everyone I've been fortunate to meet on here, you've all added to my wonderful journey and helped me learn a lot more about myself. I'm a different person to what I was 3 1/2 years ago. Fab has changed my life and made me feel normal-ish! "

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage* "

No, no it’s not. But thanks for your contribution

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By *exyredheadtattooCouple
over a year ago

Beaumont

The man who I gave my virginity too both vaginally and anally taught me men actually can be gentle when needed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage*

No, no it’s not. But thanks for your contribution "

You’re very welcome,

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Is this like an Oscars acceptance speech for fucking ?

Yeah, I’d like to thank Shirley for showing me the ropes and Jane for letting me tea bag her, oh and not forgetting Linda who was the first person to stick her finger in my ass. Then there’s Valerie who did me with a strap on,...........*music fades in, dragged off stage* "

Lmao!! You always add a touch of humour

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Lots of people I have met over the years have contributed something.

In a Fab context it's probably not the person who introduced me to Fab and clubs and all of this but that introduction led me to some lovely men who have become my friends, even if we no longer or rarely have sex.

His introduction also led to meeting a woman who introduced me to a man who made NSA truly work for me. He was generous and thoughtful and I miss our regular visits to clubs since he met his partner. I'm glad he remains a friend.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

My first sexual partner taught me a lot about to please a woman, i really fell for despite the fact that she was married. We still had some fantastic times.

A woman I met through a different site, she helped me come to terms with being Rachel. There wasn't any sex involved but, it helped me understand it was ok to dress and have sex with men & women.

The first TV I met, she helped me take the plunge into having fun with other Tv's.

I have to thank a really nice man I met from another site, I got to know him over a period of time. When we met it felt natural, he even made me cum from riding him. He was the only person I never felt dirty after having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is from someone that prefers to remain anonymous:

I was a virgin with vaginismus when I came here looking for soft play, I'm thankful for the guy who I lost my virginity to, even though we're not in touch now. He started a new and very exciting chapter in my life. I'm thankful for the social organisers for helping me get over the threshold and begin to enjoy being in crowds, and to the guy who met me beforehand and looked after me. I'm also thankful to him for helping me get into the club scene, something I've paid on to others. And I'm thankful to everyone I've been fortunate to meet on here, you've all added to my wonderful journey and helped me learn a lot more about myself. I'm a different person to what I was 3 1/2 years ago. Fab has changed my life and made me feel normal-ish! ""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband was my first.. my last... but luckily there have been a *cough few in between.

My husband and I have always been open and honest about what we want and don't want and experiment often. Swinging started a whole new chapter of shared experiences and we still learn things about each other even after 24 years. I count my lucky stars every day that I found him as young as I did. He's still the best sex I've ever had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ex-girlfriend’s mum who, while I was a student, counselled me to help me overcome my Catholic guilt about extra-marital sex. This enabled me to enjoy it without guilt and feeling dirty. And to like myself.

All the people along the way that shaped my sexuality.

The woman that turned my sexual world upside down and without realising it, really helped me to have the courage to be the whole of who I am sexually.

My wife, who accepted my sexuality and sexual kinks and decided to explore her own too, having spent our married life not knowing I was bisexual and much kinkier than the man she married so many years ago.

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