FabSwingers.com forum: Loving your insecurities

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've found that one of the first step of self love (aside from masturbation) is to start loving your insecurities. What are the ones that you are beginning to love?

For me, I'm 23 years old and I'm going bald.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

My utter oddness. I’m odd. I’ve decided that that is a good thing. Embracing my oddity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"None

Because you are a god amongst men, PMF. True story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm forty two and tend to ignore the parts of my body I'm insecure about rather than embrace them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My teeth. When I was little they were literally smashed out of my tiny mouth. I had all adult teeth grow in when I was about three years old. Had teeth removed, but obviously there’s overcrowding.

If I had the money to fix them, I would. But I have a nice smile, so for now I’m fine

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m not as thin as I’d like to be. However I’m still an awesome bloke with a razor sharp wit, winning smile and class A personality. If it wasn’t for my tendency to lie a lot I’d be perfect

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Love this thread!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not really insecure about anything. There are things I don't care about. For instance people say things to me like "you are funny" (not funny ha ha, funny peculiar) or "it'll be ok once they get used to you" I used to feel as if I needed to be different somehow to compensate for this now I know its them not me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also have stretch marks all over my thighs which I love. I have a bit of a belly which is fun to jiggle when I'm alone. And I'm not as tall as I would want to be, and I'm ok with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My teeth. When I was little they were literally smashed out of my tiny mouth. I had all adult teeth grow in when I was about three years old. Had teeth removed, but obviously there’s overcrowding.

If I had the money to fix them, I would. But I have a nice smile, so for now I’m fine

I have a denture, one of my endless idiot thoughts is how to introduce this fact into conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also have stretch marks all over my thighs which I love. I have a bit of a belly which is fun to jiggle when I'm alone. And I'm not as tall as I would want to be, and I'm ok with that"

I have two stretch marks on my belly from the first time I was pregnant and miscarried. I hated them for ages, but they’re fine with me now

I have loads on my thighs too

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My teeth. When I was little they were literally smashed out of my tiny mouth. I had all adult teeth grow in when I was about three years old. Had teeth removed, but obviously there’s overcrowding.

If I had the money to fix them, I would. But I have a nice smile, so for now I’m fine

I have a denture, one of my endless idiot thoughts is how to introduce this fact into conversation. "

I don't think you need to.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

My legs look like I parachuted into a wood chipper.

I used to be quite self conscious of the scars and chunks missing.

Now I wear shorts for about 9 months of the year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I’m on medication that makes my skin itch, isn’t so bad during the day but I usually claw at my skin during the night. My legs are usually red raw or scabby, and I’ve scratched my chest, face, neck etc in my sleep so that can all be red raw too. Annoying in the summer, and a bit embarrassing when I have nights out and people wonder why I’m so cut up

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"My utter oddness. I’m odd. I’ve decided that that is a good thing. Embracing my oddity."

Amen sister.

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found that one of the first step of self love (aside from masturbation) is to start loving your insecurities. What are the ones that you are beginning to love?

For me, I'm 23 years old and I'm going bald. "

I'm a woman who is going bald, so I shave the rest off and embrace it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Oh and I’m on medication that makes my skin itch, isn’t so bad during the day but I usually claw at my skin during the night. My legs are usually red raw or scabby, and I’ve scratched my chest, face, neck etc in my sleep so that can all be red raw too. Annoying in the summer, and a bit embarrassing when I have nights out and people wonder why I’m so cut up "

My mum gets this has anyone ever suggested diprobase? You might have a problem getting it prescribed (they took it off the list) but my mum's gp made a special case for her. Its about £27 to buy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum gets this has anyone ever suggested diprobase? You might have a problem getting it prescribed (they took it off the list) but my mum's gp made a special case for her. Its about £27 to buy"

I have someone at work who has that and recommended it, I was told no originally but I have a new doctor now and I take the medication less frequently so when I do take it it’s even worse, so no harm in asking again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum gets this has anyone ever suggested diprobase? You might have a problem getting it prescribed (they took it off the list) but my mum's gp made a special case for her. Its about £27 to buy

Antihistamines? I use dermol cream. Also try a tube of eurax cream, cheap to buy, one application before bed will almost immediately stop itching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum gets this has anyone ever suggested diprobase? You might have a problem getting it prescribed (they took it off the list) but my mum's gp made a special case for her. Its about £27 to buy

Antihistamines? I use dermol cream. Also try a tube of eurax cream, cheap to buy, one application before bed will almost immediately stop itching."

Antihistamines never worked

I’ll have a look for eurax. Thank you for all the suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite fond of all my potential insecurities these days. I make self-deprecating jokes about them but they really don’t bother me at all.

My ear and nasal hair growth makes up for my lack of hair on top.

I’ve got more hair on my arse than my head. I did think about swapping my arse for my head but my friends told me there’s no need as I already talk enough shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am quite fond of all my potential insecurities these days. I make self-deprecating jokes about them but they really don’t bother me at all.

My ear and nasal hair growth makes up for my lack of hair on top.

I’ve got more hair on my arse than my head. I did think about swapping my arse for my head but my friends told me there’s no need as I already talk enough shit."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found that one of the first step of self love (aside from masturbation) is to start loving your insecurities. What are the ones that you are beginning to love?

For me, I'm 23 years old and I'm going bald.

I'm a woman who is going bald, so I shave the rest off and embrace it. "

Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm generally OK, certainly a lot more confident than when I was younger. As far as personality goes, I used to feel horribly shy but I don't give a crap now. I am who I am. Physically, I tend to feel self-conscious if something changes in a relatively short space of time. Until I get used to the new thing then I feel ill-at-ease. Eg, going grey and not being able to use dye anymore, or taking a medication that induces weight gain as a side-effect. Once I get used to my altered appearance I'm OK with it.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

This thread is really lovely, nice one Op.

For me it would be my mixed heritage - the not quite belonging in either culture or conforming to a particular beauty ideal. I didn't particularly like my skin tone, my odd mix of facial features and my hair. Now I'm beginning to love all of those things and recognise how much my uniqueness makes me me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm not insecure about anything. There are parts I don't like ie stress, genetics and medication meant I've lost my hair. Illness and medication has left bruise like marks on my legs and everything sags, but I'm nearly 60, still breathing and share my bed with a man who looks like Bruce Willis who adores me...in his way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm forty two and tend to ignore the parts of my body I'm insecure about rather than embrace them.

Not ignore as such, the body image in my head is different to the one I see so I tend to prefer the head me.

That said, my stretch marks also rock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have loads of imperfections, but I am pretty happy with myself as a person so they don't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My insecurities are mostly on the inside, I'm working on loving them.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I love women’s clothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I'm confident, laid back and easy going. Not so much so at the moment so need to get back to it! Starting with a bowl of Muesli!

Great thread btw OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much an insecurity but i do find it very uncomfortable when people decide the best way to start a conversation is to publically point out or inquire about my scars.

Its very much a case of "yes random stranger i really want or talk about put the darkest hours of my life with you and the rest of the office whose trying not to obviously evesdrop"

And then when i answer honestly they get all weird over it like the very obvious answer wasnt gonna be the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None

Because you are a god amongst men, PMF. True story. "

Im the loki of fab

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I began to go grey in my late teens/early 20s and have dyed my hair ever since. I decided last year that I'm going to embrace my grey and started letting the colour grow out. I had my hair bobbed before Christmas and the dye is just in the ends now. Its such a huge relief not to be constantly colouring it and touching up roots, and I actually love my white streaks amongst my dark hair now

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"Not so much an insecurity but i do find it very uncomfortable when people decide the best way to start a conversation is to publically point out or inquire about my scars.

Its very much a case of "yes random stranger i really want or talk about put the darkest hours of my life with you and the rest of the office whose trying not to obviously evesdrop"

And then when i answer honestly they get all weird over it like the very obvious answer wasnt gonna be the answer."

I often get people either surmising I self harmed or

Joking I trod on a landmine in a clumsy attempt to get me to speak of them.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

My tummy after 2 kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so much an insecurity but i do find it very uncomfortable when people decide the best way to start a conversation is to publically point out or inquire about my scars.

Its very much a case of "yes random stranger i really want or talk about put the darkest hours of my life with you and the rest of the office whose trying not to obviously evesdrop"

And then when i answer honestly they get all weird over it like the very obvious answer wasnt gonna be the answer.

I often get people either surmising I self harmed or

Joking I trod on a landmine in a clumsy attempt to get me to speak of them. "

As you have no pics i have no real ability to judge which is the joke there

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Not being taller. Even though i'd have got into some right bother if i was. I'd still like to be say two inches taller. But saying that the big man did make me so i can eat what the f@#k i want and not really gain any weight. #SilvaLining

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I have plenty, mostly about physical things and abilities, (or more to the point perceived physical things and abilities) - I mostly manage to embrace them and accept them as part of the ageing process but being an overthinker, I do have periods where they get me down and prey on my mind, to the point that I probably exacerbate the perceived problem for the worse - then something will happen to make me realise it was all self-perception and I'll snap out of it again till the next time.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"Not being taller. Even though i'd have got into some right bother if i was. I'd still like to be say two inches taller. But saying that the big man did make me so i can eat what the f@#k i want and not really gain any weight. #SilvaLining

Talller than me...

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By *ristolcouple21Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

I am really insecure about my size.. however, After years of yo-yo and fad dieting I’ve decided to embrace it and love myself for me.. get fitter for me and healthier for me.. if that all results in becoming slimmer then that’s great, but if not I’m finally ok with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am really insecure about my size.. however, After years of yo-yo and fad dieting I’ve decided to embrace it and love myself for me.. get fitter for me and healthier for me.. if that all results in becoming slimmer then that’s great, but if not I’m finally ok with that!"

The big problem many people have is looking at a "diet" as a short term thing.

Its not, if you want to lose weight and keep it off then that "diet" is just the amount you eat forever

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By *ristolcouple21Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

The big problem many people have is looking at a "diet" as a short term thing.

Its not, if you want to lose weight and keep it off then that "diet" is just the amount you eat forever"

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG you just perfectly described Mr Pervy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am quite fond of all my potential insecurities these days. I make self-deprecating jokes about them but they really don’t bother me at all.

My ear and nasal hair growth makes up for my lack of hair on top.

I’ve got more hair on my arse than my head. I did think about swapping my arse for my head but my f

riends told me there’s no need as I already talk enough shit."

OMG you just perfectly described Mr Pervy

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Lift, lists of insecurities, where to start?

Started going grey at 20

Had front teeth smashed as a child so I have a denture

Multiple surgeries left me with a saggy belly (and currently a post surgical hernia too

getting it sorted later this year so more surgery yay)

My brain is weird but I learned to love the weirdness.

I have a skin condition that means I get tummy spots which I hate.

But

I have a lovely face, allegedly gorgeous eyes and I'm smart and compassionate and for a fat woman I have pretty toned strong legs.

Meh

Some days I love myself, some not.

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