FabSwingers.com forum: Slow pace of chat

By *layful Harlequin OP Man
over a year ago

iver heath

Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

....Erm ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who I’m talking too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It depends on who you’re chatting too. If the person or couple has a busy inbox, then you might be one of a few conversations going on at one time.

Also couples often want to confer between themselves before replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what theyre doing.

If youre into each other exchange numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It depends on who you’re chatting too. If the person or couple has a busy inbox, then you might be one of a few conversations going on at one time.

Also couples often want to confer between themselves before replying. "

That surprises me a little bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It depends on who you’re chatting too. If the person or couple has a busy inbox, then you might be one of a few conversations going on at one time.

Also couples often want to confer between themselves before replying.

That surprises me a little bit "

Which bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Yeah, totally! There's a few fabbers I messaged back in 2015 that still haven't messaged me back yet!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Depends on a lot of things. Just because I'm logged on doesn't mean I'm replying to messages the whole time.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It depends on who you’re chatting too. If the person or couple has a busy inbox, then you might be one of a few conversations going on at one time.

Also couples often want to confer between themselves before replying.

That surprises me a little bit "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It depends on who you’re chatting too. If the person or couple has a busy inbox, then you might be one of a few conversations going on at one time.

Also couples often want to confer between themselves before replying.

That surprises me a little bit

Which bit?"

Sorry, the last sentence. I guess if one of you doesn't like the messenger then you discuss that and don't reply...?

I don't know how fab couples work although I know now that lots have single profiles too which made me pose my question.

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By *layful Harlequin OP Man
over a year ago

iver heath

Just me then !!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It depends on who you’re chatting too. If the person or couple has a busy inbox, then you might be one of a few conversations going on at one time.

Also couples often want to confer between themselves before replying.

That surprises me a little bit

Which bit?

Sorry, the last sentence. I guess if one of you doesn't like the messenger then you discuss that and don't reply...?

I don't know how fab couples work although I know now that lots have single profiles too which made me pose my question."

I can’t answer the single profiles as this is the only profile we have.

However, we often confer. We’re not ones for reams of messages. So within three or four messages we're looking to arrange a social if we are both happy. As that’s hard facts, like where, when and how we need to check in with each other. On the occasions we have engaged in chit chat, then messages are usually just answered by one if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It depends on who you’re chatting too. If the person or couple has a busy inbox, then you might be one of a few conversations going on at one time.

Also couples often want to confer between themselves before replying.

That surprises me a little bit

Which bit?

Sorry, the last sentence. I guess if one of you doesn't like the messenger then you discuss that and don't reply...?

I don't know how fab couples work although I know now that lots have single profiles too which made me pose my question.

I can’t answer the single profiles as this is the only profile we have.

Absolutely yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just me then !!! Lol "

You're maybe messaging the wrong people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, I'm absolutely shite at remembering to reply to messages on here, whether I want to talk to someone or not. I tend to take it to kik pretty fast for that reason.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

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Try get on to Kik asap.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap."

Or not

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

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Too advanced for you oldies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Im sure you could still be ignored on kik. Its not magic answering

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Im sure you could still be ignored on kik. Its not magic answering "
Yeah obviously you could but you have cut through the avalanche of messages on here. To be fair though slow response = lack of interest.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Not too advanced no. I’ve just got more common sense than to leap into chatting elsewhere. Probably because I dont make decisions with my vagina

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Not too advanced no. I’ve just got more common sense than to leap into chatting elsewhere. Probably because I dont make decisions with my vagina

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Kik is anonymous, no number required. It's more personal.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Not too advanced no. I’ve just got more common sense than to leap into chatting elsewhere. Probably because I dont make decisions with my vagina

Kik is anonymous, no number required. It's more personal. "

I do know what Kik is and I think it has its place but I still wouldn’t jump straight over to there without getting to know someone here first.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Not too advanced no. I’ve just got more common sense than to leap into chatting elsewhere. Probably because I dont make decisions with my vagina

Kik is anonymous, no number required. It's more personal.

I do know what Kik is and I think it has its place but I still wouldn’t jump straight over to there without getting to know someone here first. "
Why I said asap. If they're not comfortable doing so you're out of luck but if you don't ask you don't get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Im sure you could still be ignored on kik. Its not magic answering Yeah obviously you could but you have cut through the avalanche of messages on here. To be fair though slow response = lack of interest."

Slow response = someone with a life outside of Fab.

Many of us don’t centre our life around sex.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think it varies from person to person to be honest OP - some people I chat to on here, we'll exchange several short messages back and forth in a short period of time, so like chatting - others it may be more spread out but will generally be longer messages.

There's no hard and fast rule, or timescale to respond, it just is what it is

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Not too advanced no. I’ve just got more common sense than to leap into chatting elsewhere. Probably because I dont make decisions with my vagina

Kik is anonymous, no number required. It's more personal.

I do know what Kik is and I think it has its place but I still wouldn’t jump straight over to there without getting to know someone here first. Why I said asap. If they're not comfortable doing so you're out of luck but if you don't ask you don't get."

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm playing games on forums so might not see messages for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Your message will be easy enough to find if they want to answer it believe me.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Slow response = someone with a life outside of Fab.

Many of us don’t centre our life around sex. "
I think the OP was probably referring to single women. With couples it is understandable. I prefer if they both message together anyway. It's normally just the man.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

Try get on to Kik asap.

Or not

Too advanced for you oldies?

Your message will be easy enough to find if they want to answer it believe me. "
Yeah, definitely. These women on here with abundant mindsets due to the ratios.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm dreadful - my inbox overwhelms me and I run away to the forums

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

" I'm dreadful - my inbox overwhelms me and I run away to the forums

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You can't shit a shitter

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By *hezGeekCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't know how fab couples work although I know now that lots have single profiles too which made me pose my question."

Not sure how other couples operate but certainly in the early days of the conversation we always confer before replying. We’re here together, after all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only type slowly....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's not just you op but a reflection of many things. Mailbox load is one aspect and also that many aren't looking for fast meets but want to take their time. It's no strings sex and swinging, where people here other relationships and priorities, including families and careers. Some will resist pressure to act, as if there's a sale on, that's time limited.

Manage your expectations and spread your net, so there's less dependence on each contact

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It's all social media, the only difference is you are mostly chatting to people you will unlikely not meet or have no other connection with but physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone moved into Kik then the result would be the same! Too many messages and not enough time to read them. In fact the sender would probably expect an even quicker reply!

I keep Kik for those I'm really engaging with.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Is it me or does it take absolutely ages for people you’re chatting with on here to reply.

Really struggling to get to grips with it .

Is it just the fact of site ??

It's just how the site is mate. Don't wait around for a reply unless it's sending you the address ha

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

" I'm dreadful - my inbox overwhelms me and I run away to the forums

You can't shit a shitter

Umm - could you unpack that for me lol?

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