FabSwingers.com forum: Using fab the wrong way?

By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Something we've been talking about together recently is how we are using fab and if we're viewing it the wrong way.

How we are doing things at the moment is browsing, sending a message or giving a wink and hoping to find like-minded people. Limited success so far. Yes, we've had some meets. This has been partially successful. But should we be using this site to find new friends? Or should we be using this site to keep in touch with friends we already know? The forums are a little different, this is more a meeting of minds and people that want a natter and have something to say.

You wouldn't browse for people on other social media and expect to strike up friendships. They are primarily used to keep in contact with people we already know.

How you meet people in the real world is getting out there in person and then keeping contact with them in these ways, not by primarily meeting them here for the most part.

So maybe we should really be getting out there more.....Going to clubs, socials meeting people and being in the real world, finding people we get on with then keeping in touch here?

We would love there to be more socials, clubs are great but it's generally a bigger night than just going for a drink.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use it in all those ways and also different ways. There's no 'right' way, only what's right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use it just how you like to use it, there is no right or wrong way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends on here have come through chatting in the forum and chatrooms.

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

You both have a point. Maybe we need to look at things more dynamically. Looking at the site as a tool, to adapt to our use rather than figuring out the optimal way to use it...

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"My friends on here have come through chatting in the forum and chatrooms. "

Also a very good point. Do you think there's a significant difference in outlook between people that use the forums than those that don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts?? Pass however, what a fabulous bottom you have Kirsty! Wow so smooth looking....

On a serious note, think fab should be used to do both, find new and keep in touch. Some people take this way to seriously, it’s supposed to be fun light hearted is it not? Maybe I have it wrong? Yes be great to see a profile, say hi and strike up a conversation of which could lead to a meet and who knows? but there’s so many single guys on here, that’s seldom going to occur.

Still here’s to happy fabbing guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as using fab the wrong way. The way that works for you is the right way.

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

"My friends on here have come through chatting in the forum and chatrooms.

Also a very good point. Do you think there's a significant difference in outlook between people that use the forums than those that don't? "

Yes, I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People use it in all those ways and also different ways. There's no 'right' way, only what's right for you. "

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"My friends on here have come through chatting in the forum and chatrooms.

Also a very good point. Do you think there's a significant difference in outlook between people that use the forums than those that don't?

Yes, I do "

What do you think the difference is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My friends on here have come through chatting in the forum and chatrooms.

Also a very good point. Do you think there's a significant difference in outlook between people that use the forums than those that don't? "

Certainly it is much easier to get to know people through both of those tools, than by messaging alone. Also my whole approach to messaging was reframed by being on the forum. I rarely send a first message these days. I expect little. On the whole I just enjoy myself on here and convey a bit of my personality. I think you then get drawn like magnets towards people who get each other.

As to the outlook being different I imagine there probably is a difference. Particularly about the attitude to conversation and ways to communicate. But I hesitate to draw any general conclusions from my particular and therefore limited experience.

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

"Something we've been talking about together recently is how we are using fab and if we're viewing it the wrong way.

You wouldn't browse for people on other social media and expect to strike up friendships. They are primarily used to keep in contact with people we already know.

How you meet people in the real world is getting out there in person and then keeping contact with them in these ways, not by primarily meeting them here for the most part.

So maybe we should really be getting out there more.....Going to clubs, socials meeting people and being in the real world, finding people we get on with then keeping in touch here?

We would love there to be more socials, clubs are great but it's generally a bigger night than just going for a drink.

Thoughts? "

How I use Fab varies according to my mood and my levels of resilience at the time. I have moved more toward the forums and away from profile trawling.

For me the most active sex organ is the brain and it took me a while to realise that this is where I should start my search.

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

How I use Fab varies according to my mood and my levels of resilience at the time. I have moved more toward the forums and away from profile trawling.

For me the most active sex organ is the brain and it took me a while to realise that this is where I should start my search. "

I think this is exactly where we are just now!

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only folk who use it wrong are those who dont appreciate there own power

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been pointed out to me many times that I'm not fab material and I'll not find what I'm looking for here . But surely everyone is different and once they are happy with their journey here then it is the place for you. If we all danced to the same tune life would be so boring. Theres no right way or wrong way here . Just be honest and true to yourself and above all respect everyone's feelings and opinions.

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Only folk who use it wrong are those who dont appreciate there own power"

Wow, that's deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Something we've been talking about together recently is how we are using fab and if we're viewing it the wrong way.

You wouldn't browse for people on other social media and expect to strike up friendships. They are primarily used to keep in contact with people we already know.

How you meet people in the real world is getting out there in person and then keeping contact with them in these ways, not by primarily meeting them here for the most part.

So maybe we should really be getting out there more.....Going to clubs, socials meeting people and being in the real world, finding people we get on with then keeping in touch here?

We would love there to be more socials, clubs are great but it's generally a bigger night than just going for a drink.

Thoughts?

How I use Fab varies according to my mood and my levels of resilience at the time. I have moved more toward the forums and away from profile trawling.

For me the most active sex organ is the brain and it took me a while to realise that this is where I should start my search. "

What do you mean resilience? As in like getting no replies bothers you more when you're not happy?

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

"Something we've been talking about together recently is how we are using fab and if we're viewing it the wrong way.

You wouldn't browse for people on other social media and expect to strike up friendships. They are primarily used to keep in contact with people we already know.

How you meet people in the real world is getting out there in person and then keeping contact with them in these ways, not by primarily meeting them here for the most part.

So maybe we should really be getting out there more.....Going to clubs, socials meeting people and being in the real world, finding people we get on with then keeping in touch here?

We would love there to be more socials, clubs are great but it's generally a bigger night than just going for a drink.

Thoughts?

How I use Fab varies according to my mood and my levels of resilience at the time. I have moved more toward the forums and away from profile trawling.

For me the most active sex organ is the brain and it took me a while to realise that this is where I should start my search.

What do you mean resilience? As in like getting no replies bothers you more when you're not happy?"

Oddly enough getting no replies is easier than dealing with a lot of replies here. As a bi guy I have the “fancy a fuck”, “let me fuck you now” “ accom now?” that I am sure lots do. I also get the replies using only text speak or only a single word such as fuck? or wank? After a while it wears me down, hence my comment. Just my views on the fab life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use other social media to make new friends. Facebook specific interest groups has given me real friends all over the Globe. My art on Instagram attracts new people into my life. Dating apps have given my a few new amigos. So why not Fab?

Use it how you're most comfortable, if you feel you're doing it wrong, maybe try something new to see if it works. If not, no harm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only folk who use it wrong are those who dont appreciate there own power

Wow, that's deep

A rare nugget of truth now let normal service resume

Tbag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're happy with the way things are going and you're getting what you want from this site then there's no need to change your approach.

but if you don't feel that you're getting what you want then maybe you should start messaging people, building up friendships whatever it is that you decide to do,so I guess it's what you want out of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're happy and you know it clap ya hands with the way things are going and you're getting what you want from this site then there's no need to change your approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're happy and you know it clap ya hands with the way things are going and you're getting what you want from this site then there's no need to change your approach.

Oh my goodness autocorrect completely changed that. I didn't even notice.

How funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there’s a wrong way to do it, it’s probably how I use it.

I’m just a photo whore and I like the forums. I don’t really do that sex thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're happy and you know it clap ya hands with the way things are going and you're getting what you want from this site then there's no need to change your approach.

Oh my goodness autocorrect completely changed that. I didn't even notice.

How funny. "

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"If you're happy and you know it clap ya hands with the way things are going and you're getting what you want from this site then there's no need to change your approach.

Tbag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is an interesting thread, I was thinking on the way home if FabS has a shelf life. I’ve contacted all the local people that I’d like to meet with, mostly without a reply (so not interested I assume), or a straight no thanks. (which is fine). So, not having been successful the choice is to either lower standards, which isn’t going to happen, or just visit the forums and see what is going on.

Either way I seem to have exhausted the site for its primary purpose.

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By *talian PassionMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I think you need to have patience to find something special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Something we've been talking about together recently is how we are using fab and if we're viewing it the wrong way.

You wouldn't browse for people on other social media and expect to strike up friendships. They are primarily used to keep in contact with people we already know.

How you meet people in the real world is getting out there in person and then keeping contact with them in these ways, not by primarily meeting them here for the most part.

So maybe we should really be getting out there more.....Going to clubs, socials meeting people and being in the real world, finding people we get on with then keeping in touch here?

We would love there to be more socials, clubs are great but it's generally a bigger night than just going for a drink.

Thoughts?

How I use Fab varies according to my mood and my levels of resilience at the time. I have moved more toward the forums and away from profile trawling.

For me the most active sex organ is the brain and it took me a while to realise that this is where I should start my search.

What do you mean resilience? As in like getting no replies bothers you more when you're not happy?

Ok that makes sense. I get the same, hence the shit profile to put 99% off mailing me.

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

"Something we've been talking about together recently is how we are using fab and if we're viewing it the wrong way.

You wouldn't browse for people on other social media and expect to strike up friendships. They are primarily used to keep in contact with people we already know.

How you meet people in the real world is getting out there in person and then keeping contact with them in these ways, not by primarily meeting them here for the most part.

So maybe we should really be getting out there more.....Going to clubs, socials meeting people and being in the real world, finding people we get on with then keeping in touch here?

We would love there to be more socials, clubs are great but it's generally a bigger night than just going for a drink.

Thoughts?

How I use Fab varies according to my mood and my levels of resilience at the time. I have moved more toward the forums and away from profile trawling.

For me the most active sex organ is the brain and it took me a while to realise that this is where I should start my search.

What do you mean resilience? As in like getting no replies bothers you more when you're not happy?

Ok that makes sense. I get the same, hence the shit profile to put 99% off mailing me. "

And does it work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no right or wrong way. Use it the way you want to. Maybe you are questioning yourselves based on your perception of others 'success'? There is a minority on here who try to advertise themselves in this way, no idea why.....? I think this gives a false impression to others that they themselves are doing it wrong.

Be true to yourselves and enjoy it together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're happy and you know it clap ya hands with the way things are going and you're getting what you want from this site then there's no need to change your approach.

Oh my goodness autocorrect completely changed that. I didn't even notice.

How funny.

Dick! I actually thought that was me. I even apologised for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is for you to use how you choose

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Fab is for you to use how you choose"

...but choose wisely..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is for you to use how you choose

...but choose wisely.."
choose extremely wisely....

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Fab is for you to use how you choose

...but choose wisely.. choose extremely wisely...."

Wise, you are...

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"There's no right or wrong way. Use it the way you want to. Maybe you are questioning yourselves based on your perception of others 'success'? There is a minority on here who try to advertise themselves in this way, no idea why.....? I think this gives a false impression to others that they themselves are doing it wrong.

Be true to yourselves and enjoy it together

No, it's not a comparison thing. It's more a case of not fi ding our feet quite yet. Also more the frustration of not finding our next door neighbour on here who we both really fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is for you to use how you choose

...but choose wisely.. choose extremely wisely....

Wise, you are...

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life is a learning curve all the time

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Fab is for you to use how you choose

...but choose wisely.. choose extremely wisely....

Wise, you are...

Where's the Yoda smiley?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Fab is for you to use how you choose

...but choose wisely.. choose extremely wisely....

Wise, you are...

Where's the Yoda smiley?"

I don't have one...

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Fab is for you to use how you choose

...but choose wisely.. choose extremely wisely....

Wise, you are...

Where's the Yoda smiley?

I don't have one...

Boo

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

Be true to yourselves and enjoy it together

No, it's not a comparison thing. It's more a case of not fi ding our feet quite yet. Also more the frustration of not finding our next door neighbour on here who we both really fancy

Or maybe you have

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By *innypops OP Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Or maybe you have

Pretty sure we haven't hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be true to yourselves and enjoy it together

No, it's not a comparison thing. It's more a case of not fi ding our feet quite yet. Also more the frustration of not finding our next door neighbour on here who we both really fancy

The neighbour one is easy! Chat, become friends, flirt, invite around for drink, hey presto!

Your welcome

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I use it to encourage people to delete more

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By *arly StagesCouple
over a year ago

Penwortham

Mainly we just use the forums now. We are still waiting on our first experience together in this. (Which we hope is going to be very soon, after having to cancel at the last minute recently). We have chatted to couples and got on well with them, as you may remember O.P.

but as we are still at the very start of this, we don't want to seem as though we are leading anyone on, so the chats have become more like small talk and generally fizzled out, then it becomes a bit awkward to resurrect them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not looking for friends with have them in our life already..we use fab and others sites for sex encounters and nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I was using Fab in the best way for me, like the OP I was browsing, messaging, meeting.

But since discovering clubs and more recently socials I’ve discovered that a combination approach works really well.

I’ve not found forums useful for meeting (although I met one very lovely forumite initially at a social) .

I do use Fab to find both friends and sex partners, and I’m lucky enough to have made some lasting friendships here

Fab has been good to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're happy and you know it clap ya hands with the way things are going and you're getting what you want from this site then there's no need to change your approach.

Oh my goodness autocorrect completely changed that. I didn't even notice.

How funny.

Dick! I actually thought that was me. I even apologised for it.

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