FabSwingers.com forum: Fostering

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Odd question everyone . I just wondered if anyone out there fosters children before they get adopted and if so did the children ever get in touch later in Life.

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

My first ever 'proper' boyfriend was fostered.

He took me down to meet them and always regarded them as his parents.

Cannot remember the exact age but he was with them from say 7 to 17/18, he knew his biology parents but never had any 'respect' for them

Not sure if that answers your question...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks. I was fostered and then adopted by my parents. I'm in touch with my birth mum. My parents fostered a few children and I'm considering putting something on genes reunited to see if anyone they fostered before me remembers them.

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By *alldarksurreyMan
over a year ago

surrey

I remember my mum used to be friends with a couple who fostered many kids, the strange thing was the fact that their surname was mr and mrs foster

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

"Thanks. I was fostered and then adopted by my parents. I'm in touch with my birth mum. My parents fostered a few children and I'm considering putting something on genes reunited to see if anyone they fostered before me remembers them.

I am sure anyone who has been fostered will remember the foster parents.

Do it, you have nothing to loose and lots to gain xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure anyone who has been fostered will remember the foster parents.

Do it, you have nothing to loose and lots to gain xxxx"

I agree, do it.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

My sister’s ex partner was fostered, called his foster parents mum and dad. I remember him saying that the only thing his birth parents did for him was prevent his mum and dad adopting him. It was very sad

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

My wife and I fostered for 20 odd years.

With younger children, it's generally better (for them) they just go and forget you (though that is tough).

With older, it depends on the time and circumstances.

Sarah I consider my daughter, and her children are my grandchildren. My "real" daughter totally agrees and considers her a sister...

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm adopted, have never met my birth family, never want to.

I did Foster care, a dozen boys over 18yrs.

I started doing short term respite care, but had a couple who stayed with me for several years.

The eldest is now 30 youngest 18, all still in contact, a couple are local I see them quite regularly, others now as far as Australia, Canada & Italy but social media, Facebook Insta, Twitter chats

I get Mothers day, birthday & Christmas cards.

I feel honoured to have been a part of their lives & watch them all grow up into fine young men.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"I'm adopted, have never met my birth family, never want to.

I did Foster care, a dozen boys over 18yrs.

I started doing short term respite care, but had a couple who stayed with me for several years.

The eldest is now 30 youngest 18, all still in contact, a couple are local I see them quite regularly, others now as far as Australia, Canada & Italy but social media, Facebook Insta, Twitter chats

I get Mothers day, birthday & Christmas cards.

I feel honoured to have been a part of their lives & watch them all grow up into fine young men. "

Thats a lovely post

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Apologies if this hijacks the thread.

Has any foster parents been asked to adopt any of their children, as I recently saw a few clips on YouTube were the child gives the parents adoption papers.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Apologies if this hijacks the thread.

Has any foster parents been asked to adopt any of their children, as I recently saw a few clips on YouTube were the child gives the parents adoption papers."

There are now two "styles" of foster care. The traditional, look after a long list of kids over a number of years. Generally social services won't encourage these guys to adopt, it takes them out of the (shrinking) fostering pool!

But recent legislation and changes of policy, means there is a new style where you basically foster a child with a view to adopting them once all the court hearings are dealt with...

i.e. the child cannot be put completely on the adoption track until all the other avenues have been explored, and all the family members that pop up to offer help have been discounted...

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