FabSwingers.com forum: Is the art of conversation dead?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...or do a lot of people think the rest of us are psychic.

I had a message (elsewhere, not on fab) that was comprised of a single word - the name of the town in which they lived - which, I already knew as this was information that they were already displaying.

Whilst not wishing to fall foul of forum rules with regard to the the discussion of messages, I am trying to be as vague as possible, whilst also trying to illustrate a point.

My point being that it seems that we, as a species, may be losing the ability to converse with one another, and at this rate, we'll be back to grunting as we did when we lived in caves.

How difficult is it for someone to string a couple of sentences together and actually get what they want to say into a single message.

Perhaps it's because some people struggle to understand how electronic messaging really works.

If you physically write a letter and post it, it may be a couple of days before it gets to it's destination, whereas if you pick up the phone, you are having a live conversation with the person at the other end.

Electronic messaging falls somewhere in between, and yet some, perhaps most people make the assumption that it is closer to the phone call than the letter.

But the truth is, that if you send a text, or a message, whilst it may arrive within seconds, you have no idea how long it is going to be until it is read - or even if it will be.

And there's no guarantee that it's got there.

So trying to use messaging in the same way you would a telephone is never going to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello OP, I thought I’d write you something, to show you I’ve read your post. I thought it was totally worthy of a reply and yes your quite right, we are not all able to read minds and we have became lazy with our communication skills.x

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Nah

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Yes it is

Next subject?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, your right...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some people are lazy and expect you to put in the effort. If you don't react in kind, they'll correct themselves or go away.

Alternatively, society has become more sophisticated. We now understand that "Manchester", in certain contexts, means "We live near each other, I'm giving you a bit of detail. Would you care to peruse my offering and see if you want to do the dirty with me?" Nuance is an advanced skill.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

I'd have just been happy to get a msg even if it only had one word in it!....Its at least something to work on!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'd have just been happy to get a msg even if it only had one word in it!....Its at least something to work on!"

It's not all it's cracked up to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...or do a lot of people think the rest of us are psychic.

Whilst not wishing to fall foul of forum rules with regard to the the discussion of messages, I am trying to be as vague as possible, whilst also trying to illustrate a point.

My point being that it seems that we, as a species, may be losing the ability to converse with one another, and at this rate, we'll be back to grunting as we did when we lived in caves.

How difficult is it for someone to string a couple of sentences together and actually get what they want to say into a single message.

Perhaps it's because some people struggle to understand how electronic messaging really works.

Electronic messaging falls somewhere in between, and yet some, perhaps most people make the assumption that it is closer to the phone call than the letter.

But the truth is, that if you send a text, or a message, whilst it may arrive within seconds, you have no idea how long it is going to be until it is read - or even if it will be.

And there's no guarantee that it's got there.

So trying to use messaging in the same way you would a telephone is never going to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the language of love and two bodies talking in bed.

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By *he SeductionistMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I’m not one for small talk however Glad to hear I always instigate conversation as it shows I’m half intelligent ????..sadly due to bulk load of short worded messages..mine never gets read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For shizzle my niz.... Sorry, wrong thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. Can't understand why people don't chat more on here. It's so important to see if the things you like are in tune with the other person

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Noooo shutting certain friends of mine or even myself up is the issue

I'm that annoying person that talks to anyone..And anywhere x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Absolutely. Can't understand why people don't chat more on here. It's so important to see if the things you like are in tune with the other person

I chat a lot on here. An awful lot.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

The problem with texting or messaging is people get distracted by what's around them instead of when being face to face focusing on the person in front and talking to them.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

"I'd have just been happy to get a msg even if it only had one word in it!....Its at least something to work on!

It's not all it's cracked up to be. "

I just received a lovely one worded msg so i know my inbox is still working!..

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I'd have just been happy to get a msg even if it only had one word in it!....Its at least something to work on!

It's not all it's cracked up to be.

I just received a lovely one worded msg so i know my inbox is still working!.."

Was it cock... or arse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its true its dead people just type to each other more these days just look at how many text messages you sent this month then check how many minutes you used

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes its true its dead people just type to each other more these days just look at how many text messages you sent this month then check how many minutes you used "

Conversation can be text based. And some of us even talk in person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have just been happy to get a msg even if it only had one word in it!....Its at least something to work on!

It's not all it's cracked up to be.

I just received a lovely one worded msg so i know my inbox is still working!..

Was it cock... or arse?

Ha ha how did you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely. Can't understand why people don't chat more on here. It's so important to see if the things you like are in tune with the other person

I chat a lot on here. An awful lot. "

I'm realising that the forum's are the best place for conversation.

More genuine people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wander in...

*Grunts....

Slips back into the man cave

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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

Don't make me spill my brew blokes don't talk

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Absolutely. Can't understand why people don't chat more on here. It's so important to see if the things you like are in tune with the other person

I chat a lot on here. An awful lot.

I'm realising that the forum's are the best place for conversation.

More genuine people on here

My inbox can be too, but unfortunately I vet ferociously. Needs must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am probably overly verbose in my conversations so I am not surprised I just get a few words back in response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely. Can't understand why people don't chat more on here. It's so important to see if the things you like are in tune with the other person

I chat a lot on here. An awful lot.

I'm realising that the forum's are the best place for conversation.

More genuine people on here

My inbox can be too, but unfortunately I vet ferociously. Needs must. "

Don't blame you at all

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Don’t appreciate ladies who talk with their mouth full.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think report building is important. However its sadly lacking.

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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

Does my head in ...

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

"...or do a lot of people think the rest of us are psychic.

Whilst not wishing to fall foul of forum rules with regard to the the discussion of messages, I am trying to be as vague as possible, whilst also trying to illustrate a point.

My point being that it seems that we, as a species, may be losing the ability to converse with one another, and at this rate, we'll be back to grunting as we did when we lived in caves.

How difficult is it for someone to string a couple of sentences together and actually get what they want to say into a single message.

Perhaps it's because some people struggle to understand how electronic messaging really works.

Electronic messaging falls somewhere in between, and yet some, perhaps most people make the assumption that it is closer to the phone call than the letter.

But the truth is, that if you send a text, or a message, whilst it may arrive within seconds, you have no idea how long it is going to be until it is read - or even if it will be.

And there's no guarantee that it's got there.

So trying to use messaging in the same way you would a telephone is never going to work.

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So very true

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm not here for endless chat, and make that quite clear.

I've got plenty of friends I can talk to;I'm on Fab for sex.

Unless I really like you,I'm not interested idle chit chat.

And that's the truth, Ruth.

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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

"I'm not here for endless chat, and make that quite clear.

I've got plenty of friends I can talk to;I'm on Fab for sex.

Unless I really like you,I'm not interested idle chit chat.

And that's the truth, Ruth."
nowt worse in clubs not chatting just hunting for the nearest woman expecting treating ladies like shit rats ..

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