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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I have grey hair. Not all over, 3 very distinct white streaks at the front of my dark hair as well sporadic ones in the rest. I've had no choice but to stop using any dye because of allergies and that is that. As much as I tell myself I rock it (some days I do), there are times when I feel self-conscious. I've not arranged any meets as yet, partly as I'm unsure of how my hair will be received.

I don't know any other women my age who have grey hair, but plenty of men. Is this so unusual that I need to stipulate it on my profile? Or am I totally overthinking this and do I need to chill out?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Show it in a face picture. I get why you're self conscious, but people will take you or leave you.

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By *icked_tongueMan
over a year ago

Bolton

You have absolutely nothing to worry about... I started going grey at the temples when I was 21: unfortunately I can't pm you but I definitely like trimmed lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Show it in a face picture. I get why you're self conscious, but people will take you or leave you. "

I have but I'm not sure it's very clear. I'll do a pic now so you can see......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of mine is 30 ... she’s got grey streaks

No one cares ... you’re still you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You have absolutely nothing to worry about... I started going grey at the temples when I was 21: unfortunately I can't pm you but I definitely like trimmed lol xx"

I think commentary on her profile is inappropriate here, and commenting on her pubic hair when she's asking about her head is creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have absolutely nothing to worry about... I started going grey at the temples when I was 21: unfortunately I can't pm you but I definitely like trimmed lol xx

I think commentary on her profile is inappropriate here, and commenting on her pubic hair when she's asking about her head is creepy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to see more girls with the confidence to let it show.

The problem seems to be that once you start colouring it’s a big step not to.

You girls don’t like that “showing your roots” look.

My mum found my first grey hair when I was 16.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I’d love to see more girls with the confidence to let it show.

The problem seems to be that once you start colouring it’s a big step not to.

You girls don’t like that “showing your roots” look.

My mum found my first grey hair when I was 16."

There's a lot of pressure put on us to look 21 until we're 55+.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I don’t think you need to mention it at all. Presumably you will swap a photo with someone you are planning to meet so they will see it then. I love grey hair on men and women. It isn’t necessarily aging either. I’m sure you will look wonderful OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have absolutely nothing to worry about... I started going grey at the temples when I was 21: unfortunately I can't pm you but I definitely like trimmed lol xx

I think commentary on her profile is inappropriate here, and commenting on her pubic hair when she's asking about her head is creepy. "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think you rock it and it's really striking in a good way

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Mention it if you get chatting with someone on here if you want, but I reckon you’re worrying over nothing.

Believe it or not, we’ve all got bits of us that we don’t like but most people we meet either don’t notice, accept it or don’t care

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t think you need to mention it at all. Presumably you will swap a photo with someone you are planning to meet so they will see it then. I love grey hair on men and women. It isn’t necessarily aging either. I’m sure you will look wonderful OP "

Thank you, that's very kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it,but I'm grey myself

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Mention it if you get chatting with someone on here if you want, but I reckon you’re worrying over nothing.

Believe it or not, we’ve all got bits of us that we don’t like but most people we meet either don’t notice, accept it or don’t care "

Oh for sure. I'm horribly insecure about my body.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I don’t think you need to mention it at all. Presumably you will swap a photo with someone you are planning to meet so they will see it then. I love grey hair on men and women. It isn’t necessarily aging either. I’m sure you will look wonderful OP

Thank you, that's very kind. "

Having looked at your profile pics and being a man I can guarantee you that men you might meet won't give a flying fuck about the grey.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

We’ve a friend who’s about Mrs’ age whose been rocking a full head of grey hair for some time now. She looks stunning! Just do whatever makes you happy, not anyone else

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

My ex had grey hair in early thirties. Like yourself she was allergic to most hair colouring.

She went to an expert where they patch tested the hell out of her before finding a couple of colours she could use. Last time I saw her it was purple and blonde.

Failing that you could always shave it off and rock that look

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I've clicked on your profile and seen your recent photos - I think the grey hair is beautiful (not in a patronising way). It's not something I think you need to disclaimer on your profile - I don't say that if we have shower sex my hair will get curly and turn in to a full on 'fro.

You're beautiful as is OP. Well your figure is hot as fuck.

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By *VxrMan
over a year ago

Newton le Willows


"Personally, I think you rock it and it's really striking in a good way "

This

I don't think you've got anything to worry about going off your pics OP. If someone is that fussed about a couple of grey streaks in your hair are they worth your time & effort?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've clicked on your profile and seen your recent photos - I think the grey hair is beautiful (not in a patronising way). It's not something I think you need to disclaimer on your profile - I don't say that if we have shower sex my hair will get curly and turn in to a full on 'fro.

You're beautiful as is OP. Well your figure is hot as fuck. "

Haha thanks. I'll stop stressing about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started getting grey hairs at 20... And to be honest I like women with pearl white hair x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show it in a face picture. I get why you're self conscious, but people will take you or leave you.

I have but I'm not sure it's very clear. I'll do a pic now so you can see...... "

You have pics on your profile and they're clear enough to me. People can choose, same as they do about everyone.

Personally, I'm more interested in personality and looks as a whole rather than one particular element of a person's appearance.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I wouldn't worry about, its just hair colour at the end of the day. I'm sure you carry it off well in any case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's ace.

Mine is awful but given the chance I'd choose yours, where it looks neat and though you've chosen it that way, than doing what I did and started dying. Mine needs dying every 3 weeks to keep on top of it and it's a bloody mission.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Your curls are awesome and the white/grey streaks actually look really deliberate! Rock it and own it. Anyone who doesn't want you because of it, it's their loss. If they're dicks about it, block them. You've got an amazing figure and I'm sure lots to offer other than just the physical/aesthetic so fake it til you make it with the confidence

V x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I've clicked on your profile and seen your recent photos - I think the grey hair is beautiful (not in a patronising way). It's not something I think you need to disclaimer on your profile - I don't say that if we have shower sex my hair will get curly and turn in to a full on 'fro.

You're beautiful as is OP. Well your figure is hot as fuck. "

You can pull off the Afro look with that floor length, white mink coat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're beautiful as is OP. Well your figure is hot as fuck. "

Agreed, you look fantastic

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It looks deliberate tbh. A style statement. Rock on.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"You can pull off the Afro look with that floor length, white mink coat "
I need to hire you as my stylist - my lack of aforementioned coat is where I've been going wrong.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So, I have grey hair. Not all over, 3 very distinct white streaks at the front of my dark hair as well sporadic ones in the rest. I've had no choice but to stop using any dye because of allergies and that is that. As much as I tell myself I rock it (some days I do), there are times when I feel self-conscious. I've not arranged any meets as yet, partly as I'm unsure of how my hair will be received.

I don't know any other women my age who have grey hair, but plenty of men. Is this so unusual that I need to stipulate it on my profile? Or am I totally overthinking this and do I need to chill out?

"

I can say with 100% conviction - no man will look at your hair and say - nope, my dick isn't going in there!!!

Don't overthink it - insecurities shared can be off putting/lead to people taking advantage of you etc.

Relax and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So, I have grey hair. Not all over, 3 very distinct white streaks at the front of my dark hair as well sporadic ones in the rest. I've had no choice but to stop using any dye because of allergies and that is that. As much as I tell myself I rock it (some days I do), there are times when I feel self-conscious. I've not arranged any meets as yet, partly as I'm unsure of how my hair will be received.

I don't know any other women my age who have grey hair, but plenty of men. Is this so unusual that I need to stipulate it on my profile? Or am I totally overthinking this and do I need to chill out?

I can say with 100% conviction - no man will look at your hair and say - nope, my dick isn't going in there!!!

Don't overthink it - insecurities shared can be off putting/lead to people taking advantage of you etc.

Relax and enjoy."

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"You can pull off the Afro look with that floor length, white mink coat I need to hire you as my stylist - my lack of aforementioned coat is where I've been going wrong."

You’ve got the diamond topped cane which is a good start, it’s also useful if the shower sex needs a little life knocking into it

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Just pretend you're rogue from the X-men

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By *alldarksurreyMan
over a year ago

surrey

Op you need to chill tfo, 99.9% of men won't turn you down simply from a few gray hairs here and there,they probably wouldn't even notice because they will be too busy checking out your smoking hot body anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was about 12 when I noticed grey hairs,I had jet black hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your hair looks fantastic. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just pretend you're rogue from the X-men"

Yes! Or Cruella DeVille

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your hair looks cool as fuck. I don’t think you should have to give it a special mention on your profile, because surely we’d all be putting things on our own which we are conscious about. Should that be positive or negative! X

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

It looks distinctive and beautiful xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers dudes. I'm going to delete the pics now as you've all reassured me I won't cause anyone to run away screaming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops. Don’t know how I did that. I was saying it looks great. I’m the guy half here and it looks awesome. Don’t dye it!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I was about 12 when I noticed grey hairs,I had jet black hair"

Naw!!! that was probably the chalk dust where the teacher had lobbed the blackboard rubber at you to get you to pay attention!!!!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I think its a lovely contrast with your natural colour and today lots of young girls are putting in grey streaks, so you're a natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oops. Don’t know how I did that. I was saying it looks great. I’m the guy half here and it looks awesome. Don’t dye it!"

Correct,it looks superb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chill me dear. I find it really cute as a matter of fact if thats the right term, id say your over thinking a littel to much.

Theres nowt rong with a sexy streak

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

I'm the same. I have to colour the area around my temples.

However my hairdresser is the same and she has an awesome bob which is natural coloured.

Im just plucking up the courage to go that short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was about 12 when I noticed grey hairs,I had jet black hair

Naw!!! that was probably the chalk dust where the teacher had lobbed the blackboard rubber at you to get you to pay attention!!!! "
ahhhhh blackboards,back int day...........

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I’m amazed no one has mentioned all the ladies of your age and younger to get their hair coloured to be grey..

to be naturally on trend must be fantastic and cost effective!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I was about 12 when I noticed grey hairs,I had jet black hair

Naw!!! that was probably the chalk dust where the teacher had lobbed the blackboard rubber at you to get you to pay attention!!!! ahhhhh blackboards,back int day..........."

Oppppppssssss showing me age here aint I lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my siblings and a cousin had grey hair in their teens. It’s never really bothered them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was about 12 when I noticed grey hairs,I had jet black hair

Naw!!! that was probably the chalk dust where the teacher had lobbed the blackboard rubber at you to get you to pay attention!!!! ahhhhh blackboards,back int day...........

Oppppppssssss showing me age here aint I lol "
well I got called old in a thread today,so I must be old

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"So, I have grey hair. Not all over, 3 very distinct white streaks at the front of my dark hair as well sporadic ones in the rest. I've had no choice but to stop using any dye because of allergies and that is that. As much as I tell myself I rock it (some days I do), there are times when I feel self-conscious. I've not arranged any meets as yet, partly as I'm unsure of how my hair will be received.

I don't know any other women my age who have grey hair, but plenty of men. Is this so unusual that I need to stipulate it on my profile ? Or am I totally overthinking this and do I need to chill out?

"

It’s inevitable that the sycophantic comments will flow when a woman asks a question like this , and that is always a great ego boost .

But the reality remains , and if you still feel self conscious , that will be reflected in the way you come across to people when you meet them .

Personally we much prefer people who are confident in who and what they are . So insecurity , whether it be in size or grey hair , isn’t a good trait . If you do still feel self conscious , and can’t embrace it , have you tried tints of nature or herbatint hair dye ? Both are suitable for those who have allergies and can’t use traditional hair dyes .

If you can embrace your look then don’t fret over it as it will draw attention to your insecurities .

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I’m amazed no one has mentioned all the ladies of your age and younger to get their hair coloured to be grey..

to be naturally on trend must be fantastic and cost effective! "

Yeah thats right I have my grey put in coz I'm trendy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really liked your grey streaks Op, I like unique and quirky women. You still look young and beautiful, so it’s all good.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I haven't seen your pics OP, so can hopefully answer in a way that won't be suggested is sycophantic or a means to an end....

....honest answer is you're probably over thinking it - the majority of us are our own worst critics when it comes to how we look or act, we see things that others don't and worry about them more than we probably need to as a result.

If you're self-conscious of it, that's only natural, and there's not a great deal you can do to counter that, other than meeting people and with time you'll realise that they don't comment on it, or even notice it to the point that you just come to accept it as being part of who you are, and the way you look.

To use an analogy, it's a little like when you decorate a room - there's *always* one bit that doesn't quite go right, or that irritates you - no-one else notices it, unless you draw attention to it, and even then they say it doesn't matter or isn't noticeable, but you know it's there, and every time you step into that room for a while after you first finished decorating, you notice it and it bugs you - then over time you notice it less and less until finally you can't even remember what it was let alone leg it bug you.

By all means mention it to people as something you are self-conscious about, if through chatting you feel comfortable to do so and the right moment arises, but I would be very surprised if anyone was the slightest bit phased by it, and I certainly wouldn't think it was necessary to tell people about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start worrying when all your pubes start going grey

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Honestly don’t think it will matter you seem nice you look nice on your pic a bit of grey hair doesn’t change how people will perceive you well it wouldn’t me anyway

Just relax and enjoy yourself and good luck finding what you want xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start worrying when all your pubes start going grey"

Why what happens next, your knob falls off ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Start worrying when all your pubes start going grey

Why what happens next, your knob falls off ?"

I take it you're on your brake at work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m amazed no one has mentioned all the ladies of your age and younger to get their hair coloured to be grey..

to be naturally on trend must be fantastic and cost effective! "

I hadn't thought of that!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I was about 12 when I noticed grey hairs,I had jet black hair

Naw!!! that was probably the chalk dust where the teacher had lobbed the blackboard rubber at you to get you to pay attention!!!! ahhhhh blackboards,back int day...........

Oppppppssssss showing me age here aint I lol well I got called old in a thread today,so I must be old"

not as old as me though lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Oh damn, I missed the pic!

The truth is some people can carry off grey much better than others. Men more so than women in my opinion.

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

Grey hairs feel like such an important thing personally but most people see a complete package an only see things as issues when we point them out ourselves.

If someones a div an points it out as an issue , give them a cheeky wink an say sorry i have just left a bukkake an some had bad aim you look great xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So, I have grey hair. Not all over, 3 very distinct white streaks at the front of my dark hair as well sporadic ones in the rest. I've had no choice but to stop using any dye because of allergies and that is that. As much as I tell myself I rock it (some days I do), there are times when I feel self-conscious. I've not arranged any meets as yet, partly as I'm unsure of how my hair will be received.

I don't know any other women my age who have grey hair, but plenty of men. Is this so unusual that I need to stipulate it on my profile ? Or am I totally overthinking this and do I need to chill out?

It’s inevitable that the sycophantic comments will flow when a woman asks a question like this , and that is always a great ego boost .

But the reality remains , and if you still feel self conscious , that will be reflected in the way you come across to people when you meet them .

Personally we much prefer people who are confident in who and what they are . So insecurity , whether it be in size or grey hair , isn’t a good trait . If you do still feel self conscious , and can’t embrace it , have you tried tints of nature or herbatint hair dye ? Both are suitable for those who have allergies and can’t use traditional hair dyes .

If you can embrace your look then don’t fret over it as it will draw attention to your insecurities .

"

You're completely right. When I initially read your reply I bristled and felt annoyed, but you're right. I like my grey so I shouldn't bloody care what anyone else thinks. Thanks for giving my head a wobble

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Grey hairs feel like such an important thing personally but most people see a complete package an only see things as issues when we point them out ourselves.

If someones a div an points it out as an issue , give them a cheeky wink an say sorry i have just left a bukkake an some had bad aim you look great xx"

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