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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent?

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Depends on person.

I once met someone on the same day we exchanged first message... Let's just say the experience was equally brief and not to be repeated.

Usually I would know I want to meet someone within a few days of initial message. The chemistry will be there. But life takes precedence and it may be a week or two before I was able to meet them. Think the longest I waited to meet someone was just over a year... Was worth the wait though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can take well over a year to get even close to arranging a meet. As I generally travel to England to meet people it will take months to arrange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can take well over a year to get even close to arranging a meet. As I generally travel to England to meet people it will take months to arrange.

It takes you a year to travel to a meet, where are you Uranus ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get to meet other people on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the diary and when we decide we are going to go for it.

Usually quite a while in advance with updates on is it still ok as we get closer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a meet?

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It depends on the person, on how interested I am and of course on the distance thing.

I reckon if the meet doesn’t happen within a month it probably won’t happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a meet? "

It’s where you chat to someone on here and you fancy each other, then you meet at a set location at a certain time. Hope this helps X

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If they are local as soon as we are both available, with a week or two usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the diary and when we decide we are going to go for it.

Usually quite a while in advance with updates on is it still ok as we get closer."

Oh if non-Fab life looks like it will get in the way I like to try to give as much advance warning as I can, so they can find someone else to meet instead if they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent? "

No, I like to wait to know the person. At nearly 42, I know myself well enough now to know that a spontaneous meet with a complete stranger would not be my thing at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a few days to a week rush in quickly you may regret it as some nut jobs take 48hrs plus to filter out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends on the person, on how interested I am and of course on the distance thing.

I reckon if the meet doesn’t happen within a month it probably won’t happen. "

There has to be a reason that neither party can pin the other one down for even just a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A week or two after talking a while.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Some people I’ve met days after first contact, others, I’ve taken months to meet. I’ve not noticed a particular correlation in the results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent?

No, I like to wait to know the person. At nearly 42, I know myself well enough now to know that a spontaneous meet with a complete stranger would not be my thing at all"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I leave it too long and chat for ages I tend to friendzone and then it never happens. I am a jump straight in kind of girl.

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By *cott73Man
over a year ago

brighton

"If they are local as soon as we are both available, with a week or two usually. "

And if a bit further away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a meet?

It’s where you chat to someone on here and you fancy each other, then you meet at a set location at a certain time. Hope this helps X"

Wow... What's that like?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm a planner.

I know what my childfree weekends are for the whole year ahead, so I've planned things to do with my friends.

Road trips, weekends away, clubs, parties, organised socials months in advance.

I get random days/evenings free, but usually only know the day before, sometimes even only that day.

Chatting with someone, knowing my next free date could be several weeks away, suits me as I like to get to know someone a little first.

Longest I waited to meet someone was nearhy a year, and worth the wait.

But in general, my experience most folk want instant results!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a meet?

It’s where you chat to someone on here and you fancy each other, then you meet at a set location at a certain time. Hope this helps X

Wow... What's that like?

Sorry ... are you aware of what kind of website this is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends normally a week but sometimes last minute is required

Prefer a week tho its not too long somethinv can go wrong and long enough to build antisipation

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Generally we like to meet within the week....

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Chat for a while, week/weeks then when both are sure, when free....

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It takes a very long time generally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a meet?

It’s where you chat to someone on here and you fancy each other, then you meet at a set location at a certain time. Hope this helps X

Wow... What's that like?

Sorry ... are you aware of what kind of website this is lol "

I think he was being facetious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a while!

Work and mainly family life kinda get in the way, on both sides sometimes. Always worth the wait though, the build up is good

Plus they usually live on the other side of the bloody country

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

It depends, I prefer to chat build connections and then if I’m free try and arrange something with the people I’ve chatted too. So I don’t just start chatting and try to arrange a meet as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, sometimes it can be a week, then sometimes a lot longer. All depends on real life and diaries syncing x

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Always speak for a bit first. Say a couple week's. But that coukd differ depending on how often we talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a chat?

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent? "

Planning is essential never do last minute meets, but that's just how it works best for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent? "

Weeks! I don’t do instant meets, I get to know the person properly first and it works for me. Never been stood up at all. Majority of my meets have remained very very good friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I am horny hahaha not into ping pong mail and never ending chat

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

I’ve been both ends of the spectrum, the quick ‘ah I’m free, what the hell’ to the longer wait, more well planned out meets. Both have their own appeal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet within 2 weeks of the first message. Otherwise we won't be meeting at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 6 month was the longest one so far, but it was definitely worth the wait, at least on my part

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent? "

Depends on all kinds of things, people, distance, serendipity......often months in advance, sometimes the same day!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

If they lived locally then whenever free for a coffee. If not then I probably wouldn't meet anyone again unless we were both going to the same organised party/Social. We live and we learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a meet?

It’s where you chat to someone on here and you fancy each other, then you meet at a set location at a certain time. Hope this helps X

Wow... What's that like?

Sorry ... are you aware of what kind of website this is lol

I think he was being facetious

At least one person gets me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a very spontaneous Missy. If I have the horn, then I ask who is free. I don't plan way in advance, ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it would have to be planned out, I think because there are two of us we have to be both ‘comfortable’ with the third person and working days out etc as we work every weekend, when I was single I used to be spontaneous though.

Geeky x

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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When I'm outside their house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can take well over a year to get even close to arranging a meet. As I generally travel to England to meet people it will take months to arrange.

It takes you a year to travel to a meet, where are you Uranus ? "

The question was how far in advance do you plan.

I answered it can take over a year to arrange something.

I didn't mention travel.

Did you select the Uranus reference from your "Joke a day" calendar? Can't wait for tomorrow's installment.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Fastest I have met from initial contact to meeting was a couple of months I think, although we had agreed to meet after about a month, and it was another month until we were both free at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fastest I have met from initial contact to meeting was a couple of months I think, although we had agreed to meet after about a month, and it was another month until we were both free at the same time."

Fastest I did was 40 minutes from messaging to bed

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Within at least 2 weeks or I've lost interest pretty much. If they want a pen pal they should write to Prison.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Fastest meet, got a wink and I was there about 1 hour later. Would of been quicker but i had to trim.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It really varies. I've met same day before, the longest was almost a year. I'm not really put off by waiting, people have busy lives.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

From a couple of hours to, I have one or two where conversation started about this time last year that haven't happened yet. Most in the days to weeks category.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"From a couple of hours to, I have one or two where conversation started about this time last year that haven't happened yet. Most in the days to weeks category. "
Who is talking for a year without meeting? Mind blowing! Virtual friends

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

If you have kids, and so do the other couple, and you are working around babysitters, jobs, business, holidays etc, it can take a while.

We just arranged a meet for June.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent? "

I take things as they come Rubi.. I'm highly unlikely to meet someone that day. If they're ticking all my boxes by end of the week then I MAY be up for a meet in the weekend.. if I've not got the sprogs.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"What's a chat?"

Haha. C'mon now

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"If you have kids, and so do the other couple, and you are working around babysitters, jobs, business, holidays etc, it can take a while.

We just arranged a meet for June. "

Wow. That's some planning

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

It can take well over a year to get even close to arranging a meet. As I generally travel to England to meet people it will take months to arrange.

It takes you a year to travel to a meet, where are you Uranus ?

dont be sully uranus is about 9 years away mars is about a year though

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

What a geek i am knowing that

Where do. I hand in my cool badge

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

And how the hell does he get wifi on mars when i struggle to get it in my sitting room

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Between two and five days usually, we speak in the week and meet on the Saturday night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I used to meet, some same day and others a few weeks. Many almost a year and some have waited 5 years to meet me lol

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

i have to book time off for week day time meets .so will know the day .but not who gonna meet or where going to,very random within 20 miles of brum .

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

From my experience if the meet doesn’t happen in the next week it’s probably not going to happen at all.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I've not met anyone yet but I guess it all depends on the connection you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met people within hours of messaging and never bothered again. Some I've messaged over a longer period before meeting and they've become friends

Depends on the person and what I'm wanting I guess. A quick fuck? Meet quickly and it's short and (sometimes) sweet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From a couple of hours to, I have one or two where conversation started about this time last year that haven't happened yet. Most in the days to weeks category. Who is talking for a year without meeting? Mind blowing! Virtual friends

It happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I leave it too long and chat for ages I tend to friendzone and then it never happens. I am a jump straight in kind of girl. "

Don't think I coulda said it any better. Me to a T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Varies for me. I've had meets where we only started chatting Fri. Had a social Monday and played later that week. Others where I've chatted for years first.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People have lives and shit happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In advance do you arrange your meets?

Are you a jump straight in ASAP kinda person or do you prefer to wait?

Is it person dependent?

Now you know you do meet after chatting for only a couple of hours

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