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"But if your complaint is that you are being honest by saying you are married, by definition, you are unreliable because you are lying to someone you profess to care about the most. I never understand these threads. People must compartmentalise certain aspects and can't understand there is a join. "  | |||
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"Liars always get found out in the end .....so pointless lying, "PREACH!!  | |||
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"But if your complaint is that you are being honest by saying you are married, by definition, you are unreliable because you are lying to someone you profess to care about the most. I never understand these threads. People must compartmentalise certain aspects and can't understand there is a join. " | |||
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"I struggle with the concept of married people claiming to be "honest" with total strangers whilst being dishonest to their spouse. " | |||
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"But if your complaint is that you are being honest by saying you are married, by definition, you are unreliable because you are lying to someone you profess to care about the most. I never understand these threads. People must compartmentalise certain aspects and can't understand there is a join. " My point exactly! | |||
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"Liars always get found out in the end .....so pointless lying, PREACH!! "Excuse me? | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " Somebody not getting their own way?? | |||
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"Everybody is lying about something in a profile just a little bit but we are humans so will embellish or round of facts to make our/themselves seem better prospect at the end of the day it is dating game and you only want people to see your best parts. We don't mind married people it's only the ones that are lying to their wife husband because we don't want to be responsible for hurting anybody this supposed to be a bit of fun." There's a difference in embellishing your profile by saying you're a size 14 and blonde, when you're a 16 and a bottle blonde to I'm single when there's a spouse in the background. | |||
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"Everybody is lying about something in a profile just a little bit but we are humans so will embellish or round of facts to make our/themselves seem better prospect at the end of the day it is dating game and you only want people to see your best parts. We don't mind married people it's only the ones that are lying to their wife husband because we don't want to be responsible for hurting anybody this supposed to be a bit of fun." 
Bit of a sweeping statement there as the only "lie" on our profile (and I'm sure many others) is that our names aren't really the ones you can currently see. Every other bit of information contained therein is true and we expect the people we meet to be of a similar mindset. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " You could always try being honest with your wife? | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? You could always try being honest with your wife? " | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " What is your understanding of being honest OP? | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " A married guy stands out like a sore thumb 1.cant meet at nightcwithout notice 2.wont let you ring them in the evenings 3. Always request daytime meets | |||
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"I struggle with the concept of married people claiming to be "honest" with total strangers whilst being dishonest to their spouse. " | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? A married guy stands out like a sore thumb 1.cant meet at nightcwithout notice 2.wont let you ring them in the evenings 3. Always request daytime meets " Or they work nights? | |||
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"I struggle with the concept of married people claiming to be "honest" with total strangers whilst being dishonest to their spouse. " | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " The good thing about your honesty, is that you're giving the rest of us a choice. For that, you recover the tiniest smidgen of respect back (not much - call me judgemental if you like). Of course most sensible people aren't going to want to meet you if you're cheating. There are a few women and men I have met who get off on the taboo though, they'll want to know you're cheating, so it pays in that sense. It doesn't pay to lie though. Your conscience (If you've got one) will catch up with you, if it does and you're anything like me.. it'll destroy you as well as your partner. All your confidence will evaporate, it takes years to get that back. Her's may never recover, maybe yours won't either. Coukd turn you into the shell of the 'man' you think you are today. Good luck. *Ghengis steps off his soapbox and gives you the "Cold face" before turning his back and walking away, head finally held high* | |||
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"But if your complaint is that you are being honest by saying you are married, by definition, you are unreliable because you are lying to someone you profess to care about the most. I never understand these threads. People must compartmentalise certain aspects and can't understand there is a join. " Nailed it. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? The good thing about your honesty, is that you're giving the rest of us a choice. For that, you recover the tiniest smidgen of respect back (not much - call me judgemental if you like). Of course most sensible people aren't going to want to meet you if you're cheating. There are a few women and men I have met who get off on the taboo though, they'll want to know you're cheating, so it pays in that sense. It doesn't pay to lie though. Your conscience (If you've got one) will catch up with you, if it does and you're anything like me.. it'll destroy you as well as your partner. All your confidence will evaporate, it takes years to get that back. Her's may never recover, maybe yours won't either. Coukd turn you into the shell of the 'man' you think you are today. Good luck. *Ghengis steps off his soapbox and gives you the "Cold face" before turning his back and walking away, head finally held high*" I love you!  | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? The good thing about your honesty, is that you're giving the rest of us a choice. For that, you recover the tiniest smidgen of respect back (not much - call me judgemental if you like). Of course most sensible people aren't going to want to meet you if you're cheating. There are a few women and men I have met who get off on the taboo though, they'll want to know you're cheating, so it pays in that sense. It doesn't pay to lie though. Your conscience (If you've got one) will catch up with you, if it does and you're anything like me.. it'll destroy you as well as your partner. All your confidence will evaporate, it takes years to get that back. Her's may never recover, maybe yours won't either. Coukd turn you into the shell of the 'man' you think you are today. Good luck. *Ghengis steps off his soapbox and gives you the "Cold face" before turning his back and walking away, head finally held high* I love you! "I  you too | |||
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"My advice would be tell anyone you speak to privately then you’re being honest with them and giving them the choice whether to meet you or not. As for the forums and anyone you’re not interested in I don’t see what business it is of theirs. If you want to get judged and slated post it on the forums " | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " Best being honest as inevitably people find out on here who is cheating and who isn't anyway but if you lie to them its the.....what else are they lying about? The alarm bells ring! | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. " I’m with you Babs | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. I’m with you Babs "Thank you Pink | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. " spot on! | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. " Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " Yes it does. Always be honest. No one likes being deceived. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted." That’s exactly my point. You don’t have to justify yourself on here so why post? Asking a question doesn’t make his history everyone’s business. It’s a question that’s all. I think your last bit should be directed to him because I haven’t said anything about criticism. I’m merely saying it’s nobody else’s business and it isn’t. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " Of course honesty doesn't pay on here, it's a fuck site and you're only after a bunk-up. You're not going to spend the rest of your life with someone off here, you might not even want to fuck them more than once, so give them any old flannel to achieve your goal. | |||
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"Liars always get found out in the end .....so pointless lying, "Sometimes it takes a while. And in the meantime they could be getting laid so I guess there is always a percentage that will. | |||
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"Liars always get found out in the end .....so pointless lying,
Sometimes it takes a while. And in the meantime they could be getting laid so I guess there is always a percentage that will."Its also just not true, think of all the lies youve told that have never been found out. I mean its very unlikley a married guy meeting a woman for a 1 off meet is going to be found out lying by her | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. " This. . You said it better than me | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here!" If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. | |||
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"I struggle with the concept of married people claiming to be "honest" with total strangers whilst being dishonest to their spouse. " Me too | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here! If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. " Yeah enjoy being unemployable after being reported for lying to the dvla to get a keepers details. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted. That’s exactly my point. You don’t have to justify yourself on here so why post? Asking a question doesn’t make his history everyone’s business. It’s a question that’s all. I think your last bit should be directed to him because I haven’t said anything about criticism. I’m merely saying it’s nobody else’s business and it isn’t. " So it's not his partners business? Children? Extended family and friends who may all be effected? The person who catches him out and faced with a moral dilemma? The person he may be fucking who might not know if he decides to keep it quiet? I'd say it's quite a few people's potential business. Directed at him, you and anyone else who thinks it's nobody else's business. | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here! If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. " Wow.....so much for discretion and non judgmental people, what happened to walking away if something isn’t for you and being respectful of others?? I can’t be the only one who finds this a bit creepy and frightening, naming and shaming on here is outlawed but tracking down and doing it in public is fine is it? | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted. That’s exactly my point. You don’t have to justify yourself on here so why post? Asking a question doesn’t make his history everyone’s business. It’s a question that’s all. I think your last bit should be directed to him because I haven’t said anything about criticism. I’m merely saying it’s nobody else’s business and it isn’t. So it's not his partners business? Children? Extended family and friends who may all be effected? The person who catches him out and faced with a moral dilemma? The person he may be fucking who might not know if he decides to keep it quiet? I'd say it's quite a few people's potential business. Directed at him, you and anyone else who thinks it's nobody else's business." She meant nobody’s business on here. And also pointed out that he should be honest about his situation to any potential meets. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. I’m with you Babs
Thank you Pink "It amuses me watching the hypocrisy posted on the forum every day and it isn’t by a few either. If you have a secret and want to be hypocritical on the forum, my advice would be tell no one, because in a relatively short space of time we ALL know and you look very silly 
OP, I was cheating for a few months when I first joined Fab. I was always honest about it, however I’m a woman and as I’m sure you already know it’s acceptable for women on Fab to be cheating. It’s much less acceptable for men, however folk can forget they don’t approve if they like the look of your tinky winky | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here! If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. Wow.....so much for discretion and non judgmental people, what happened to walking away if something isn’t for you and being respectful of others?? I can’t be the only one who finds this a bit creepy and frightening, naming and shaming on here is outlawed but tracking down and doing it in public is fine is it?" Bur we all know 100% the crazy "i will find your wife" lady will have "'discreet" on her profile | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " Think you may of got your answer  on fab you have to realise regardless of what everyone else is getting up to they still have higher morals than you | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted. That’s exactly my point. You don’t have to justify yourself on here so why post? Asking a question doesn’t make his history everyone’s business. It’s a question that’s all. I think your last bit should be directed to him because I haven’t said anything about criticism. I’m merely saying it’s nobody else’s business and it isn’t. So it's not his partners business? Children? Extended family and friends who may all be effected? The person who catches him out and faced with a moral dilemma? The person he may be fucking who might not know if he decides to keep it quiet? I'd say it's quite a few people's potential business. Directed at him, you and anyone else who thinks it's nobody else's business." If you’re spoiling for a disagreement you’ve picked the wrong woman. I’m not interested in getting into debates with people. Life is far too short to get caught up in others peoples issues. It’s not my business and no, I don’t think it’s yours either but I’m sure his family, friends, acquaintances, employer would be grateful for your concern. But ... quite clearly I was talking about it being nobody else’s business on here, this sex site by people you don’t know and will never meet. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. I’m with you Babs
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It amuses me watching the hypocrisy posted on the forum every day and it isn’t by a few either. If you have a secret and want to be hypocritical on the forum, my advice would be tell no one, because in a relatively short space of time we ALL know and you look very silly
OP, I was cheating for a few months when I first joined Fab. I was always honest about it, however I’m a woman and as I’m sure you already know it’s acceptable for women on Fab to be cheating. It’s much less acceptable for men, however folk can forget they don’t approve if they like the look of your tinky winky " | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here! If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. Wow.....so much for discretion and non judgmental people, what happened to walking away if something isn’t for you and being respectful of others?? I can’t be the only one who finds this a bit creepy and frightening, naming and shaming on here is outlawed but tracking down and doing it in public is fine is it? Bur we all know 100% the crazy "i will find your wife" lady will have "'discreet" on her profile "My profile name used to have discreet in it. Discreet doesn’t necessarily mean married but everyone assumed I was which i found quite funny. Maybe I am. Maybe I’m not . One things for sure nobody on here will ever know anything about my private life unless I choose to tell them. These posts amuse me though and certainly help the filtering out of the judgmental | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted. That’s exactly my point. You don’t have to justify yourself on here so why post? Asking a question doesn’t make his history everyone’s business. It’s a question that’s all. I think your last bit should be directed to him because I haven’t said anything about criticism. I’m merely saying it’s nobody else’s business and it isn’t. So it's not his partners business? Children? Extended family and friends who may all be effected? The person who catches him out and faced with a moral dilemma? The person he may be fucking who might not know if he decides to keep it quiet? I'd say it's quite a few people's potential business. Directed at him, you and anyone else who thinks it's nobody else's business. She meant nobody’s business on here. And also pointed out that he should be honest about his situation to any potential meets. " Thank you Nora. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted. That’s exactly my point. You don’t have to justify yourself on here so why post? Asking a question doesn’t make his history everyone’s business. It’s a question that’s all. I think your last bit should be directed to him because I haven’t said anything about criticism. I’m merely saying it’s nobody else’s business and it isn’t. So it's not his partners business? Children? Extended family and friends who may all be effected? The person who catches him out and faced with a moral dilemma? The person he may be fucking who might not know if he decides to keep it quiet? I'd say it's quite a few people's potential business. Directed at him, you and anyone else who thinks it's nobody else's business. If you’re spoiling for a disagreement you’ve picked the wrong woman. I’m not interested in getting into debates with people. Life is far too short to get caught up in others peoples issues. It’s not my business and no, I don’t think it’s yours either but I’m sure his family, friends, acquaintances, employer would be grateful for your concern. But ... quite clearly I was talking about it being nobody else’s business on here, this sex site by people you don’t know and will never meet. " | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. " And I’ve never understood how married people can get off on watching the person they’re supposed to love fuck someone else. Do i think it’s my business though? No. I couldn’t give a toss what they do as it doesn’t affect me. But I’ll never understand it. | |||
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"Just discussing the moral judgements made on here with my husband who is on his way out to meet friends, he pointed out that if he told them he was having an affair they would all be asking who with and wouldn’t be very judgmental but if he told them we were swingers we would suddenly be viewed as weird and become social leper’s who had obviously lost our minds, so before passing judgement remember to most we would all be judged harshly for something that’s no one else’s business that they don’t understand " | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. And I’ve never understood how married people can get off on watching the person they’re supposed to love fuck someone else. Do i think it’s my business though? No. I couldn’t give a toss what they do as it doesn’t affect me. But I’ll never understand it. " Well indeed, there's always aspects of other people's lives we find difficult to understand. My puzzlement with the "honest" cheaters on here is that they handicap themselves by claiming a moral high ground they don't actually possess. I am not making any kind of moral point. I'm intrigued by the illogucality. | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. And I’ve never understood how married people can get off on watching the person they’re supposed to love fuck someone else. Do i think it’s my business though? No. I couldn’t give a toss what they do as it doesn’t affect me. But I’ll never understand it. Well indeed, there's always aspects of other people's lives we find difficult to understand. My puzzlement with the "honest" cheaters on here is that they handicap themselves by claiming a moral high ground they don't actually possess. I am not making any kind of moral point. I'm intrigued by the illogucality. " I guess I’m just able to not just see black or white. There are so many different reasons attached people could be on here and I actually know someone with a heartbreaking story. But unfortunately most people on here just see cheating = dishonest= scum and therefore there is no reasoning with those people so it’s not even worth discussing. | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. And I’ve never understood how married people can get off on watching the person they’re supposed to love fuck someone else. Do i think it’s my business though? No. I couldn’t give a toss what they do as it doesn’t affect me. But I’ll never understand it. Well indeed, there's always aspects of other people's lives we find difficult to understand. My puzzlement with the "honest" cheaters on here is that they handicap themselves by claiming a moral high ground they don't actually possess. I am not making any kind of moral point. I'm intrigued by the illogucality. I guess I’m just able to not just see black or white. There are so many different reasons attached people could be on here and I actually know someone with a heartbreaking story. But unfortunately most people on here just see cheating = dishonest= scum and therefore there is no reasoning with those people so it’s not even worth discussing. " And I have met married men, mostly socially and in my experience the married men have been nicer, more respectful and more gentlemanly than any single men I’ve met. That’s just in my experience though obviously. | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. And I’ve never understood how married people can get off on watching the person they’re supposed to love fuck someone else. Do i think it’s my business though? No. I couldn’t give a toss what they do as it doesn’t affect me. But I’ll never understand it. Well indeed, there's always aspects of other people's lives we find difficult to understand. My puzzlement with the "honest" cheaters on here is that they handicap themselves by claiming a moral high ground they don't actually possess. I am not making any kind of moral point. I'm intrigued by the illogucality. I guess I’m just able to not just see black or white. There are so many different reasons attached people could be on here and I actually know someone with a heartbreaking story. But unfortunately most people on here just see cheating = dishonest= scum and therefore there is no reasoning with those people so it’s not even worth discussing. " But I'm not making any moral judgments about anyone. I'm making an observation that such people are shooting themselves in the foot for no reason. | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. And I’ve never understood how married people can get off on watching the person they’re supposed to love fuck someone else. Do i think it’s my business though? No. I couldn’t give a toss what they do as it doesn’t affect me. But I’ll never understand it. Well indeed, there's always aspects of other people's lives we find difficult to understand. My puzzlement with the "honest" cheaters on here is that they handicap themselves by claiming a moral high ground they don't actually possess. I am not making any kind of moral point. I'm intrigued by the illogucality. I guess I’m just able to not just see black or white. There are so many different reasons attached people could be on here and I actually know someone with a heartbreaking story. But unfortunately most people on here just see cheating = dishonest= scum and therefore there is no reasoning with those people so it’s not even worth discussing. But I'm not making any moral judgments about anyone. I'm making an observation that such people are shooting themselves in the foot for no reason. " I know and I totally get where you’re coming from I do. I just don’t necessarily think because a man is lying to his partner he can’t be honest about other things or he’s just a cheating lying bastard end of. I know it’s not the case with everyone and I just think it’s a bit uncalled for. I hate bullying of any kind though and no matter what the thread was I’d probably be sticking my unwanted oar in somewhere | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. And I’ve never understood how married people can get off on watching the person they’re supposed to love fuck someone else. Do i think it’s my business though? No. I couldn’t give a toss what they do as it doesn’t affect me. But I’ll never understand it. Well indeed, there's always aspects of other people's lives we find difficult to understand. My puzzlement with the "honest" cheaters on here is that they handicap themselves by claiming a moral high ground they don't actually possess. I am not making any kind of moral point. I'm intrigued by the illogucality. I guess I’m just able to not just see black or white. There are so many different reasons attached people could be on here and I actually know someone with a heartbreaking story. But unfortunately most people on here just see cheating = dishonest= scum and therefore there is no reasoning with those people so it’s not even worth discussing. But I'm not making any moral judgments about anyone. I'm making an observation that such people are shooting themselves in the foot for no reason. I know and I totally get where you’re coming from I do. I just don’t necessarily think because a man is lying to his partner he can’t be honest about other things or he’s just a cheating lying bastard end of. I know it’s not the case with everyone and I just think it’s a bit uncalled for. I hate bullying of any kind though and no matter what the thread was I’d probably be sticking my unwanted oar in somewhere "I agree there can be all sorts of mitigating circumstances, but at the end of the day people are lying to the most significant person in their life. It then seems to me that they should then worry little about lying to people with whom they want casual sex. It's like stealing a £1 million pounds in a bank job and then making a big deal about how you handed in the £20 note you found in the street to the police. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Except he's posted it in the Forum and made it everyone's business. If he doesn't want to justify himself, or face inevitable criticism, perhaps he shouldn't have posted. That’s exactly my point. You don’t have to justify yourself on here so why post? Asking a question doesn’t make his history everyone’s business. It’s a question that’s all. I think your last bit should be directed to him because I haven’t said anything about criticism. I’m merely saying it’s nobody else’s business and it isn’t. So it's not his partners business? Children? Extended family and friends who may all be effected? The person who catches him out and faced with a moral dilemma? The person he may be fucking who might not know if he decides to keep it quiet? I'd say it's quite a few people's potential business. Directed at him, you and anyone else who thinks it's nobody else's business." Nobody on the forums business. Also she said tell people you're talking to by pm, so they won't be catching him out and will have no moral dilemma to deal with if they know from the get go. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. " Well said | |||
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"Whatever the circumstances when married and cheating I just think its so sad. Surely being honest must be better than the pain being found out would cause. " Not all cheaters are found out before they stop cheating. | |||
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"Whatever the circumstances when married and cheating I just think its so sad. Surely being honest must be better than the pain being found out would cause. Not all cheaters are found out before they stop cheating. " I get that, I just think if people are unhappy/ dissatisfied/ whatever, surely its better to end it and try and be amicable? Life is too short. I appreciate it's not as easy as that, just my opinion | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? A married guy stands out like a sore thumb 1.cant meet at nightcwithout notice 2.wont let you ring them in the evenings 3. Always request daytime meets Or they work nights?" Or are a carer ... Or single Dad ... | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. " It seems to work for many married men and women on the forum though. | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. It seems to work for many married men and women on the forum though. " It doesn't matter much for women. Given the ratios. For men, it makes the already low odds even lower. | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. It seems to work for many married men and women on the forum though. It doesn't matter much for women. Given the ratios. For men, it makes the already low odds even lower. " I disagree. There are plenty of married men who do well on here. The only difference is they don't bang on about it in the forum. | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. It seems to work for many married men and women on the forum though. " It works successfully for both sexes who actually just get on with it and don’t start forum posts questioning the whys and wherefores. | |||
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"But if your complaint is that you are being honest by saying you are married, by definition, you are unreliable because you are lying to someone you profess to care about the most. I never understand these threads. People must compartmentalise certain aspects and can't understand there is a join. " very eloquently put | |||
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"I've never understood why married people who are on here without their partners knowledge make a big point about being honest. You're lying to your nearest and dearest, who cares if you lie to strangers on the Internet. If you're a bloke and you say you are married on here, it's my considered opinion you're a fool. You will significantly lessen your chances of getting a fuck (which is why you are here) and you will still have the guilt of being a liar. It seems to work for many married men and women on the forum though. It works successfully for both sexes who actually just get on with it and don’t start forum posts questioning the whys and wherefores." Exactly. That's what I was saying above. | |||
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"Whatever the circumstances when married and cheating I just think its so sad. Surely being honest must be better than the pain being found out would cause. Not all cheaters are found out before they stop cheating. I get that, I just think if people are unhappy/ dissatisfied/ whatever, surely its better to end it and try and be amicable? Life is too short. I appreciate it's not as easy as that, just my opinion " They might have a great marriage, but want extra sex-just like swinging couples-only the other half doesn't want to swing. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " Basically you're saying that you're cheating honestly and you think it's your right to be rewarded for that? I'm not being judgemental but it's a complete shambles of a post. | |||
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"There are lots of married people quietly going about their business with a greater or lesser amount of success based on who they interact with and how they interact. Cheats are a devisive subject as this thread has demonstrated. I have never ever seen someone applauded for declaring themselves a cheat. In my view (which others will no doubt disagree with) a statement on your profile is enough to either: a. Get people hitting the block button in disgust. b. Get people thinking "I'm not getting involved". c. Get people thinking "Ah, they suit my needs". d. Get a stiff ignoring as the person doesn't care either way. As stated further up, people can make an informed choice. Rarely you will get a message from someone who will tear you apart, or pass on their judgement. It does happen, but I've only had a few letters of condemnation. The Forums are not the place to pick up brownie points though. A lot of people express their opinion. Others peacock their fab "good swinger" credentials..." 100% agree with people peacocking their “good swinger” credentials, same people usually screaming disgust on the bareback threads in the hope of copping a shag with their safe sex under any circumstances stance who when messaging us have never heard the word condom follow the most popular consensus seems to be the way to go for fear of ending up on the receiving end of the dissaproving tutting themselves or am I just fab cynical | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. " Undoubtedly true | |||
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" The Forums are not the place to pick up brownie points though. A lot of people express their opinion. Others peacock their fab "good swinger" credentials... 100% agree with people peacocking their “good swinger” credentials, same people usually screaming disgust on the bareback threads in the hope of copping a shag with their safe sex under any circumstances stance who when messaging us have never heard the word condom follow the most popular consensus seems to be the way to go for fear of ending up on the receiving end of the dissaproving tutting themselves or am I just fab cynical "Fab cynical and 100% hit the nail on the head. :D Off the back of cheating threads in the past I have received messages from people who had joined in the condemnation (going with the general flow) asking to meet. When I pointed out the obvious irony of their actions there were a variety of excuses from - “it doesn’t count ‘cos you’re hot” & “I don’t really mean what I say in the forums”. Either way jog the fuck on, I don’t need you thank you very much | |||
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"At risk of derailing the thread a little. Seems to me many of you hold double standards in here.. A cheater can still be an honest person and free to go about their own business, judgement free? Yet when it comes to Fabstraight men, most of you turn into shit comedians and hold Moral Court to question their honesty,sanity and intelligence even though they're hurting no-one but themselves." How did you come to that conclusion?! You must be a newbie. There’s only one level of honesty that’s available in the forums, 100% honest about every single aspect of life with no deviations.. | |||
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"At risk of derailing the thread a little. Seems to me many of you hold double standards in here.. A cheater can still be an honest person and free to go about their own business, judgement free? Yet when it comes to Fabstraight men, most of you turn into shit comedians and hold Moral Court to question their honesty,sanity and intelligence even though they're hurting no-one but themselves. How did you come to that conclusion?! You must be a newbie. There’s only one level of honesty that’s available in the forums, 100% honest about every single aspect of life with no deviations.. "Doesn't take five minutes to discover the Fabstraight men are the Fab Forum bottom of the rung, butt of every joke on here. Sad really. I tend to agree with the latter part of what you said. I find I'm more likley to attract people who are right for me, if I'm honest. If I lie, I'm sending out the wrong details and getting the wrong responses. | |||
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"Well I am not really that bothered if someone is cheating but I am bothered if they lie to me about it. Lie once to me then they might lie about not having a sti or worse. Its all down to trusting people and without some trust I am not interested. " They lie to their partners, why wouldn't they lie to a stranger? | |||
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"Well I am not really that bothered if someone is cheating but I am bothered if they lie to me about it. Lie once to me then they might lie about not having a sti or worse. Its all down to trusting people and without some trust I am not interested. They lie to their partners, why wouldn't they lie to a stranger?" That argument doesn’t always equate though. I don’t have anything to lie about to the men I’ve met off here as there have been no expectations on either side apart from turning up and having some fun. I can imagine the lying might start if one half develops feelings and expects more of the other. In my experience those attached are meticulously careful when it comes to hygiene and the risk of STI’s. Not saying that’s the case for all just what I’ve encountered. | |||
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"Well I am not really that bothered if someone is cheating but I am bothered if they lie to me about it. Lie once to me then they might lie about not having a sti or worse. Its all down to trusting people and without some trust I am not interested. They lie to their partners, why wouldn't they lie to a stranger? That argument doesn’t always equate though. I don’t have anything to lie about to the men I’ve met off here as there have been no expectations on either side apart from turning up and having some fun. I can imagine the lying might start if one half develops feelings and expects more of the other. In my experience those attached are meticulously careful when it comes to hygiene and the risk of STI’s. Not saying that’s the case for all just what I’ve encountered." I appreciate and respect that cheaters have a reason for cheating and it doesn't mean to say they would lie to their meets, some do some don't. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? The good thing about your honesty, is that you're giving the rest of us a choice. For that, you recover the tiniest smidgen of respect back (not much - call me judgemental if you like). Of course most sensible people aren't going to want to meet you if you're cheating. There are a few women and men I have met who get off on the taboo though, they'll want to know you're cheating, so it pays in that sense. It doesn't pay to lie though. Your conscience (If you've got one) will catch up with you, if it does and you're anything like me.. it'll destroy you as well as your partner. All your confidence will evaporate, it takes years to get that back. Her's may never recover, maybe yours won't either. Coukd turn you into the shell of the 'man' you think you are today. Good luck. *Ghengis steps off his soapbox and gives you the "Cold face" before turning his back and walking away, head finally held high*" Would you meet a married woman? | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? The good thing about your honesty, is that you're giving the rest of us a choice. For that, you recover the tiniest smidgen of respect back (not much - call me judgemental if you like). Of course most sensible people aren't going to want to meet you if you're cheating. There are a few women and men I have met who get off on the taboo though, they'll want to know you're cheating, so it pays in that sense. It doesn't pay to lie though. Your conscience (If you've got one) will catch up with you, if it does and you're anything like me.. it'll destroy you as well as your partner. All your confidence will evaporate, it takes years to get that back. Her's may never recover, maybe yours won't either. Coukd turn you into the shell of the 'man' you think you are today. Good luck. *Ghengis steps off his soapbox and gives you the "Cold face" before turning his back and walking away, head finally held high* Would you meet a married woman?" Not if I knew her partner didn't know. Not anymore, no. | |||
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"Well I am not really that bothered if someone is cheating but I am bothered if they lie to me about it. Lie once to me then they might lie about not having a sti or worse. Its all down to trusting people and without some trust I am not interested. " But by definition they are prepared to lie about something very important to their nearest and dearest. It seems to be somewhat naive to expect them to be honest with a hook up on the Internet. The only way to deal with fabs is to assume that most people will lie to get sex with someone they fancy. | |||
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"Well I am not really that bothered if someone is cheating but I am bothered if they lie to me about it. Lie once to me then they might lie about not having a sti or worse. Its all down to trusting people and without some trust I am not interested. But by definition they are prepared to lie about something very important to their nearest and dearest. It seems to be somewhat naive to expect them to be honest with a hook up on the Internet. The only way to deal with fabs is to assume that most people will lie to get sex with someone they fancy. " *most people regardless of their marital status. | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. " Some people like to get to know the people they are going to have sex with, and it takes time and effort. I personally wouldn't be best pleased if I spent weeks getting to know someone well enough to feel confident to meet when they say "oh by the way I'm married". Be upfront so people who do have a problem with marital status can make an informed decision. | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here! If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. " Wow!!! You sound scary! | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here! If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. Wow.....so much for discretion and non judgmental people, what happened to walking away if something isn’t for you and being respectful of others?? I can’t be the only one who finds this a bit creepy and frightening, naming and shaming on here is outlawed but tracking down and doing it in public is fine is it?" No, you're not the only one! | |||
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"Whatever the circumstances when married and cheating I just think its so sad. Surely being honest must be better than the pain being found out would cause. Not all cheaters are found out before they stop cheating. I get that, I just think if people are unhappy/ dissatisfied/ whatever, surely its better to end it and try and be amicable? Life is too short. I appreciate it's not as easy as that, just my opinion They might have a great marriage, but want extra sex-just like swinging couples-only the other half doesn't want to swing." That may imply its consrnsual then, so not cheating? I think if its something that would upset your partner if they found out then its unfair. | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up "No it doesn't! I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way! | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
"How funny. Wouldn't his wife be even more suspicious of something if he smelt like her constantly. Weird. | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
"So would I! I’ve had someone ask me to not wear perfume or lipstick. Nope I’m not doing that for anyone. Accept me as I am or move on. Married or not. | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
So would I! I’ve had someone ask me to not wear perfume or lipstick. Nope I’m not doing that for anyone. Accept me as I am or move on. Married or not. "I've been asked that too: not to wear perfume as the wife was part bloodhound! Met a married man years ago, who foolishly left his phone unlocked and his wife found my number. She became suspicious as he used my shower gel and mentioned he smelt "funny". Pretended I didn't know what she was talking about and hung up. She wouldn't let it go and kept bombarding me with calls. I sent him a text saying he was to keep his wife away from me. Unfortunately for him she had his phone and replied asking for more details. I stopped answering hoping they'd leave me alone. Would she stop? Would she fuck! She left me a voice mail saying her husband claimed I'd chased him, he was just curious but didn’t do anything as he couldn't bring himself to cheat on her with a fat, black woman. Now she didn't know I was black or fat: it came from him so I called her back and went into details about his tattoo, a distinctive one on his butt cheek. I described the novelty underwear he wore, the noise he made when he was cumming and how he liked to lick my fat, black pussy! Neither of them contacted me again. Married people: who needs the drama! | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
How funny. Wouldn't his wife be even more suspicious of something if he smelt like her constantly. Weird. "Lord knows what he was thinking, just sent him packing. | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
So would I! I’ve had someone ask me to not wear perfume or lipstick. Nope I’m not doing that for anyone. Accept me as I am or move on. Married or not.
I've been asked that too: not to wear perfume as the wife was part bloodhound!
Met a married man years ago, who foolishly left his phone unlocked and his wife found my number. She became suspicious as he used my shower gel and mentioned he smelt "funny". Pretended I didn't know what she was talking about and hung up. She wouldn't let it go and kept bombarding me with calls.
I sent him a text saying he was to keep his wife away from me. Unfortunately for him she had his phone and replied asking for more details.
I stopped answering hoping they'd leave me alone. Would she stop? Would she fuck! She left me a voice mail saying her husband claimed I'd chased him, he was just curious but didn’t do anything as he couldn't bring himself to cheat on her with a fat, black woman.
Now she didn't know I was black or fat: it came from him so I called her back and went into details about his tattoo, a distinctive one on his butt cheek. I described the novelty underwear he wore, the noise he made when he was cumming and how he liked to lick my fat, black pussy!
Neither of them contacted me again.
Married people: who needs the drama! "Wow! Liked your response, that's one reason we don't get tangled up with attached people | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
So would I! I’ve had someone ask me to not wear perfume or lipstick. Nope I’m not doing that for anyone. Accept me as I am or move on. Married or not. "I always say this about all of my fab meetings regardless of marital status - meet me on my terms or we don’t meet at all. Now that can apply to a lot of things | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
So would I! I’ve had someone ask me to not wear perfume or lipstick. Nope I’m not doing that for anyone. Accept me as I am or move on. Married or not.
I've been asked that too: not to wear perfume as the wife was part bloodhound!
Met a married man years ago, who foolishly left his phone unlocked and his wife found my number. She became suspicious as he used my shower gel and mentioned he smelt "funny". Pretended I didn't know what she was talking about and hung up. She wouldn't let it go and kept bombarding me with calls.
I sent him a text saying he was to keep his wife away from me. Unfortunately for him she had his phone and replied asking for more details.
I stopped answering hoping they'd leave me alone. Would she stop? Would she fuck! She left me a voice mail saying her husband claimed I'd chased him, he was just curious but didn’t do anything as he couldn't bring himself to cheat on her with a fat, black woman.
Now she didn't know I was black or fat: it came from him so I called her back and went into details about his tattoo, a distinctive one on his butt cheek. I described the novelty underwear he wore, the noise he made when he was cumming and how he liked to lick my fat, black pussy!
Neither of them contacted me again.
Married people: who needs the drama! "I love your stories! | |||
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"I struggle with the concept of married people claiming to be "honest" with total strangers whilst being dishonest to their spouse. " Exactly this! | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Some people like to get to know the people they are going to have sex with, and it takes time and effort. I personally wouldn't be best pleased if I spent weeks getting to know someone well enough to feel confident to meet when they say "oh by the way I'm married". Be upfront so people who do have a problem with marital status can make an informed decision." That’s what I said... If you think it’s heading that way, as more than a quick exchange of messages, then tell them. Other than that nobody has to tell anyone anything personal on here. I spend a lot of time getting to know people as well but I will still only share what I’m comfortable sharing. People are interacting with strangers, not friends and I wouldn’t share personal information with anyone too readily. I feel it’s best to be cautious. | |||
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"Unless I have walked in their shoes.... Absolutely! And that, my friends, sums it up
No it doesn't!
I don't meet married men for no other reason than they can't play how I play, so they don't contact me anyway. In the past I did, what changed my mind was the married man who turned up with shampoo, perfume and shower gel and asked me to shower immediately as they were the brands his wife used and he didn't want to leave a scent trail. I sent him on his merry way!
So would I! I’ve had someone ask me to not wear perfume or lipstick. Nope I’m not doing that for anyone. Accept me as I am or move on. Married or not.
I've been asked that too: not to wear perfume as the wife was part bloodhound!
Met a married man years ago, who foolishly left his phone unlocked and his wife found my number. She became suspicious as he used my shower gel and mentioned he smelt "funny". Pretended I didn't know what she was talking about and hung up. She wouldn't let it go and kept bombarding me with calls.
I sent him a text saying he was to keep his wife away from me. Unfortunately for him she had his phone and replied asking for more details.
I stopped answering hoping they'd leave me alone. Would she stop? Would she fuck! She left me a voice mail saying her husband claimed I'd chased him, he was just curious but didn’t do anything as he couldn't bring himself to cheat on her with a fat, black woman.
Now she didn't know I was black or fat: it came from him so I called her back and went into details about his tattoo, a distinctive one on his butt cheek. I described the novelty underwear he wore, the noise he made when he was cumming and how he liked to lick my fat, black pussy!
Neither of them contacted me again.
Married people: who needs the drama!
I love your stories! "All over 10 years ago before I got savvy, but somethings stick in your mind and being verbally abused by an angry wife sticks! | |||
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"OP there are swinging couples on this site that cheat and before a couple pops up saying no they don’t, yes they absolutely do. There are people that say they won’t meet married people but do. Honesty is banded about all the time but I’ve come to the conclusion that people are only honest when it suits. I would say there is no need to justify yourself or your actions to faceless folk on an internet site. It’s nobody else’s business on here but yours. If you’re meeting someone or think it’s heading that way then I would say it’s only fair to give them the option to duck out but other than that I think people should mind their own business actually. Some people like to get to know the people they are going to have sex with, and it takes time and effort. I personally wouldn't be best pleased if I spent weeks getting to know someone well enough to feel confident to meet when they say "oh by the way I'm married". Be upfront so people who do have a problem with marital status can make an informed decision. That’s what I said... If you think it’s heading that way, as more than a quick exchange of messages, then tell them. Other than that nobody has to tell anyone anything personal on here. I spend a lot of time getting to know people as well but I will still only share what I’m comfortable sharing. People are interacting with strangers, not friends and I wouldn’t share personal information with anyone too readily. I feel it’s best to be cautious. " Ah, gotcha! | |||
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"Honesty does pay....although I always feel a hypocrite saying up honest and upfront......because if I was honest I wouldn’t be on here! If you lie to some people on here they will make you pay as they don't like to be lied to. All you need is a telephone no, a car reg or other personal information and ping the wife gets a surprise. Lying to people can have dire consequences so don't take the advice of buffoons who advocate it. Wow.....so much for discretion and non judgmental people, what happened to walking away if something isn’t for you and being respectful of others?? I can’t be the only one who finds this a bit creepy and frightening, naming and shaming on here is outlawed but tracking down and doing it in public is fine is it?" Is it? Maybe ask the people who would do it, there are more than a few on here who take things to extremes. Maybe you should read again its not what does happen to people its what can happen when someone takes exception to being deceived. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? " Yes. | |||
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"Anyone else think being honest on here, does not pay? Yes." In more ways than one! | |||
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