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The word "discreet"

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

It really grinds my gears...

We get lots of messages from guys telling us they are "discreet" as if it's a selling point. Given that it's bloody obvious none of us are going around having group sex in public, to us it means only one of two things

1. I'm a bit thick and don't really think about what I write, but I have seen lots of other people saying they are discreet, so it must be a good thing.

2. It's a euphemism for cheating and paranoid and I'll turn up for a meeting in dark glasses, hat and false beard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really grinds my gears...

We get lots of messages from guys telling us they are "discreet" as if it's a selling point. Given that it's bloody obvious none of us are going around having group sex in public, to us it means only one of two things

1. I'm a bit thick and don't really think about what I write, but I have seen lots of other people saying they are discreet, so it must be a good thing.

2. It's a euphemism for cheating and paranoid and I'll turn up for a meeting in dark glasses, hat and false beard. "
only cos there tom cruise shhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe they want to keep their fab life totally separate from real life, or perhaps they have a job they want to keep it from, or yes perhaps they are not single. Don’t see the issue with it to be honest.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I think people would be worried if they thought a guy might be indiscreet and told all and sundry about what went on between them?

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Or maybe they want to keep their fab life totally separate from real life, or perhaps they have a job they want to keep it from, or yes perhaps they are not single. Don’t see the issue with it to be honest. "

My point is that being discreet goes without saying. We're all discreet.

Hence using it as a selling point suggests stupidity or paranoia.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Or maybe they want to keep their fab life totally separate from real life, or perhaps they have a job they want to keep it from, or yes perhaps they are not single. Don’t see the issue with it to be honest.

My point is that being discreet goes without saying. We're all discreet.

Hence using it as a selling point suggests stupidity or paranoia. "

Agree it does go without saying for most of us.

Overuse of it makes me suspicious

Especially of no pics,can't accom etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It annoys me more when they spell it "discrete".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It annoys me more when they spell it "discrete". "

Yep!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It really grinds my gears...

We get lots of messages from guys telling us they are "discreet" as if it's a selling point. Given that it's bloody obvious none of us are going around having group sex in public, to us it means only one of two things

1. I'm a bit thick and don't really think about what I write, but I have seen lots of other people saying they are discreet, so it must be a good thing.

2. It's a euphemism for cheating and paranoid and I'll turn up for a meeting in dark glasses, hat and false beard. "

I agree that it should be a given and that for many it will go without saying, but then respect and being genuine also should be a given and often seem lacking. Perhaps highlighting those qualities isn't such a bad thing after all...

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"It really grinds my gears...

We get lots of messages from guys telling us they are "discreet" as if it's a selling point. Given that it's bloody obvious none of us are going around having group sex in public, to us it means only one of two things

1. I'm a bit thick and don't really think about what I write, but I have seen lots of other people saying they are discreet, so it must be a good thing.

2. It's a euphemism for cheating and paranoid and I'll turn up for a meeting in dark glasses, hat and false beard.

I agree that it should be a given and that for many it will go without saying, but then respect and being genuine also should be a given and often seem lacking. Perhaps highlighting those qualities isn't such a bad thing after all... "

It's the whole "protesting too much" thing. If you feel the need to emphasise you are genuine and discreet, people will begin to suspect you're not...

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I see a lot of posts on here I'd consider indiscreet, so it's not necessarily about the persons personal situation it could be about how they conduct themselves.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"I see a lot of posts on here I'd consider indiscreet, so it's not necessarily about the persons personal situation it could be about how they conduct themselves."

By "posts on here" I mean the whole forum not just this thread.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's a pointless word on here. It should go without saying. The same as genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would assume that everyone is discreet unless they declare they are open about their lifestyle.

Someone who is open about being a swinger is not neccesarily going to "out" everyone they have met.

In short, it means as much as the legal disclaimer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Note to self must add indiscreet and fake on my profile

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I would assume that everyone is discreet unless they declare they are open about their lifestyle.

Someone who is open about being a swinger is not neccesarily going to "out" everyone they have met.

In short, it means as much as the legal disclaimer."

Feck all then.

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By *samaleMan
over a year ago

tralee/newcastlewest


"It annoys me more when they spell it "discrete". "

Discreet means under the radar or careful, discrete means individual or detached...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take your point, and yes emphasisising it can seem a little odd; like sending a message stating you won't assault them...I naturally assumed that?

But I guess it's a harmless reassurance in my book? I once had a social with a couple in a pub where the male was openly talking graphically about sex acts and what I should do with his partner upstairs, whilst we sat in a crowded bar. That's the type of discretion I refer to and expect?

Some folk approach the whole site with a very blase, I don't care who knows attitude, whereas I'd rather keep the sexual activity to the bedroom, and outside it's about subtle titillation and good conversation to attract eachother.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"It annoys me more when they spell it "discrete".

Discreet means under the radar or careful, discrete means individual or detached... "

Indeed ... so either could be used depending on the user's context

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By *samaleMan
over a year ago

tralee/newcastlewest


"It annoys me more when they spell it "discrete".

Discreet means under the radar or careful, discrete means individual or detached...

Indeed ... so either could be used depending on the user's context "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I take your point, and yes emphasisising it can seem a little odd; like sending a message stating you won't assault them...I naturally assumed that?

But I guess it's a harmless reassurance in my book? I once had a social with a couple in a pub where the male was openly talking graphically about sex acts and what I should do with his partner upstairs, whilst we sat in a crowded bar. That's the type of discretion I refer to and expect?

Some folk approach the whole site with a very blase, I don't care who knows attitude, whereas I'd rather keep the sexual activity to the bedroom, and outside it's about subtle titillation and good conversation to attract eachother."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does discreet mean though?

Lots of people have public face pics so everyone local probably knows they are a swinger.

People have sex veris showing on their profile so we know who they fucked.. and can follow their veri trail to see who that next person fucked... like a big sex pyramid.

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