FabSwingers.com forum: Is it my fault?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it my fault that someone I chatted to for a while didn’t know that I’m married?

My profile has always said that I am.

I’m being accused of not being upfront because I didn’t say that I was in my messages. Relationship status hadn’t come up so I had not avoided the subject either.

I understand it’s a big no no for a lot of people and respect it’s not for this particular person...but I don’t think I’m to blame either haha

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

It’s clear enough on your profile you’re married

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Women expect men to read profiles but don't always read them themselves. You've been clear in your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women expect men to read profiles but don't always read them themselves. You've been clear in your profile"

Exactly this! Double standards unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not your fault. It's clear as day in your profile and was remiss of the woman not to read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't think to say I have a partner as it's in my profile. He is on here and we have a couples profile too. I must admit it is not something I put in messages and wouldn't think to either.

Lesson learnt by the other person to read a profile and not just perve pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t you discuss it with that person directly ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's clearly there. If people don't read profiles it's their fault if they don't get the information you've given.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Unusual for a woman not to read a profile before chatting. Are you sure it wasn't a guy?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s as clear as it could be. Not your fault that they didn’t read!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Maybe she just wanted an excuse not to meet, and thats an easy one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry I should have said it’s a couple before everyone assumes it’s a women and goes down the double standards line haha

I was talking to both of them

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By *onygirlieWoman
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Maybe she just wanted an excuse not to meet, and thats an easy one. "

That might be it ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don’t you discuss it with that person directly ? "

I have discussed it and that’s how I got the blame.

I ended the conversation after that as I didn’t think it was worth an argument

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

If they didn't read your profile after getting into a good conversation with you then I'm afraid it's their fault not yours, don't blame yourself for something that isn't your fault

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe she just wanted an excuse not to meet, and thats an easy one.

That might be it ...."

It was a couple sorry I didn’t specify in my original post and they had approached me to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is short so she couldn't say that she missed it, so no, I don't think you're in the wrong.

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By *nsatiable Needy BratWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Nope. Not on you. If they read your profile there's no way they could have missed it. Perhaps they either they didn't read it or they changed their mind but didn't like to say. Whatever the reason, its not down to you misleading anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual for a woman not to read a profile before chatting. Are you sure it wasn't a guy?!!"

Is it?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Maybe she just wanted an excuse not to meet, and thats an easy one.

That might be it ....

It was a couple sorry I didn’t specify in my original post and they had approached me to meet"

This could still apply to a couple. Or maybe one didn't read it until recently and vetoed you.

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By *nsatiable Needy BratWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've had this before many times on many platforms. It clearly says on my profile that I'm in an open relationship. If people don't read it before messaging me that's their fault.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Like someone else said,maybe only 1 of them read it initially then the other party said not for them.

Still you have been upfront so not your fault.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Is it my fault that someone I chatted to for a while didn’t know that I’m married?

My profile has always said that I am.

I’m being accused of not being upfront because I didn’t say that I was in my messages. Relationship status hadn’t come up so I had not avoided the subject either.

I understand it’s a big no no for a lot of people and respect it’s not for this particular person...but I don’t think I’m to blame either haha

Were you chatting to a man or a woman ?

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