FabSwingers.com forum: Getting old

By *tella Heels OP TV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I am really finding it difficult to realise I’m getting old, I don’t get it.. it’s seems like only a couple of yrs ago I spent all day in bed drinking champagne on my 25 th..

Age doesn’t creep up on you, it’s a weird thing all of a sudden you go from being fit n healthy to being blooming old, I have two grown up daughters, been married 29 years 2nd wife..

How?

Life’s far too bloody short

Then cancer last year has really knocked me back

Got a comment this morning saying (referring to me) have to explain to you old ones !!

I still thought of me as young, well in my mind I still am

Lol

Anyone else have opinions on this

Btw

58 this year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look fantastic OP, I wouldnt have guessed your age.

It's a cliche but you're as old as you feel. Get out and spend more time with people who make you feel youthful, take up some new interests & make me friends - there's plenty of life in you yet.

Have fun x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

63 this year.

It does creep up on you. One minute you're on the merry go round of work, children, paying the mortgage etc etc and the next you stand still and it's all behind you. I think when you're younger there's so much going on, so much to think about, plan, make provision for that you have no time to "stop and stare" and once your children have left home, the money worries abate and life gets a little less hectic you have time to consider and contemplate.

I don't like the phrase "age is just a number" it isn't.

If you want to feel young go on a Warners holiday. Average age 75

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age shod mot run by years bit in how you feel. What you do, how you live.. Believe me, i know youngsters who are way too old in outlook... I m 54 and still running mountains, climbing trees and playing on aerial silks... OP, you aint old, you re living

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

46 soon but I think I’m aging ok(ish)

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By *ophisticatsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Embrace it! Age wonderfully, don’t give up... Ruth xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I don't feel old...it's like swimming...all you gotta do is concentrate on staying on the surface..it doesn't matter if there is four feet or four hundred feet of water beneath you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been through so much OP, not surprising you are questioning the age thing.

After news about my own health I am wondering about the future, I'm 44 yet feel 104.

Need to make an appointment with my own Dr I think and talk through my results.

I have atrial fibrillation, and echocardiogram has highlighted mitral regurgitation caused by cardio myopathy

The Dr didn't explain things very well, said it wasn't a serious thing, and I'm not particularly worried, it's the tiredness I'm finding debilitating at the moment, working 50 hours a week isn't helping. Just worried about the future.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think tai chi helps me to feel grounded..and is a good body awareness workout

. without stress..no gym equipment required and not very demanding timewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t feel old most of the time, the days I’m ill do affect me. But for 53 I think I’m doing ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does creep up on you but what can you do? It's better than the alternative!

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I think you’re right and for some people age does just descend like a huge crashing wave when an illness overtakes them. Mentally we all live in a much slower gear. But and admittedly it is difficult, the gear is to think about the things that we are capable of doing rather those things that we’re no longer able to do. If there’s something you have a burning desire to do then it’s looking at the ways around it, the adjustments for you. Not how it works for anyone else, but for you, because after all you are the most important person, there isn’t anything wrong in a little self love at these times.

These are the things that help us to continue living a fulfilling and rewarding life even through the hard times.

50 for me this year, I look at other people and think, “man she’s a woman” I still feel like a kid!

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

theres no stopping getting old ..theres two options ..1....deal with it..or........

2...die young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think tai chi helps me to feel grounded..and is a good body awareness workout

. without stress..no gym equipment required and not very demanding timewise"

Yogas mine... Love it

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By *tella Heels OP TV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"theres no stopping getting old ..theres two options ..1....deal with it..or........

2...die young"

Tried the dying young option

Not a good thing to try x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try walking football for the elderly... works for Huddersfield fc

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm 45 and my spine is being crushed in 2 places, i don't really feelold until i move.

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By *tella Heels OP TV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"I'm 45 and my spine is being crushed in 2 places, i don't really feelold until i move.

Know how you feel I was diagnosed with spinal stenosis 2 weeks before I got diagnosed with cancer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turned 40 last year and have been thinking about every single thing in my life ever since. From watching all those fresh faced celebrities you've watched your whole life grow old or pass away to making involuntary noises when you get off a chair, there are countless things that constantly eat away at us.

As long as you keep yourself busy and ensure that you always have something to look forward to is the mindset I've embraced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember wooden radiograms.. lovely deep warm sound , far better sound than modern plastic throway rubbish ..

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

"I'm 45 and my spine is being crushed in 2 places, i don't really feel old until i move.

Know how you feel I was diagnosed with spinal stenosis 2 weeks before I got diagnosed with cancer"

yeah exact same thing i have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

60 next month and I must admit it does feel strange. Having said that now I have retired I have joined various interest groups, met lots of lovely people and thoroughly enjoying life. Long may it continue

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