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Etiquette on friend requests

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some people make it clear they don’t want a request before a conversation, is this common practice if not explicitly requested?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Accept if you like them... reject if you don't

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I would say wait until you have at least spoken to them ,otherwise comes across as just wanting to see private pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a but perplexed by 'friending'on here to be honest. I get it if you've been chatting and have friend only pictures to share etc but random friend invites are odd.

I get loads yet I have no friend only pics and I don't chat with people outside of the forums as I don't meet.

I guess some use it so you show up In their updates but you can just as easily hotlist someone for that.

I wouldn't friend request a random person on any other social media platform so apply the same rules here too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can't see how you go wrong with "don't do it unless asked".

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I think the Etiquette is dont send friend requests random people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone sends a friend request, without even speaking, i see them as a pic collector. I dont mind getting them off someone I am speaking to or friendly with. Other than that, i ignore their request.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We don't accept a friend's request unless we've spoke via message with them a few times beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you want someone as a friend if you have never talked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accepted one once. A random one I mean. He never looked at my profile in the whole day we were friends (unless he had gone stealth since sending it) but did look and messaged asking why when I unfriended. People are weird.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Maybe someone who sends random friend requests without messaging can suggest why they think it’s a good idea.

Personally I’m a miserable arse and just don’t do friends at all, I’m not really sure what the point is

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people send them so you can see *their* friends pics then decide if you want to meet them.

Some people think the site works the same as Facebook and you need to be 'friends' before you can chat to each other.

It's not always sinister reasons.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Maybe someone who sends random friend requests without messaging can suggest why they think it’s a good idea.

Personally I’m a miserable arse and just don’t do friends at all, I’m not really sure what the point is

Lex"

Of friends in general or friends here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people make it clear they don’t want a request before a conversation, is this common practice if not explicitly requested? "

Not necessarily. If people wrote everything they do or don't want on their profiles, they'd be a million miles long.

I think it's best to ask if you can send one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not until we've chatted for a while, if the conversation goes well i always ask if i can send one.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I don’t tend to look at friend invites unless I’m chatting with someone and we’ve talked about sending a request

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I don’t tend to look at friend invites unless I’m chatting with someone and we’ve talked about sending a request"

Same for me

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Maybe someone who sends random friend requests without messaging can suggest why they think it’s a good idea.

Personally I’m a miserable arse and just don’t do friends at all, I’m not really sure what the point is

Lex

Of friends in general or friends here? "

Yeah in general, I’ve got nae mates

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x


"Some people make it clear they don’t want a request before a conversation, is this common practice if not explicitly requested? "

Send me a random friend request without messaging me first.. BLOCK!! Simple!! I think it’s rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t make friends with people I’ve never spoken too,...that’s weird.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

We say it explicitly on or profile and yet we still get random requests

Picture collectors don't read profiles ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only accept if we've had a meaningful conversation, or if you're really hot

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

i only accept friend requests from people I've met and want as a friend. narks me off how many send them and don't ask or chat or look at my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to admit to doing this once or twice and this is our reason,

Definitely 100% NOT pic collectors lol we did it purely to see if there was a face pic in the private album before messaging to see if there was an attraction before a message was sent as we still just dread having to say there’s no attraction after chatting.

It obviously doesn’t seem to go down well lol but that could be why some people do it as that’s why we have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initial stages of chatting

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