FabSwingers.com forum: Compliments

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you handle them?

I mean genuine meaningful compliments not the "you are gorgeous" when they have not even seen you.

Do you accept them gracefully?

Do you accept them and act quite arrogant?

Do you accept them with a thanks, but don't really agree?

Do you just react as if they are completely mad to even think such a nice thing about you?

I generally fall in to the "thanks, but struggle to see how they came to that conclusion" catagory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I usually get flustered and change the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who from and how genuine i think they are

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I smile and say thank you. I can't be doing with self deprecationin tjat situation, if someone genuinely compliments me I feel its quite rude to tell them their opinion is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life quickly change the subject. On here though ive had a few messages from women where we dont meet each others interests or very long distance who have jist said they wanted to compliment my pictures.

I find it a bit awkward, not because of them theyre lovely, but because i dont really know what to say.

Udualy go with thank you compliment and fab a few of thier pics and wish them the best.

But im not sure if that comes across as rude or if im meant to try and spark up a proer convo rtc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had one. I’ll let you know when I get my first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say “thank you” and inwardly smile

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

I think i am Amizing so it's graet to here when someone agree ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had one. I’ll let you know when I get my first

Your lovely

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I never believe them, you only get compliments from people who want something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you handle them?

I mean genuine meaningful compliments not the "you are gorgeous" when they have not even seen you.

Do you accept them gracefully?

Do you accept them and act quite arrogant?

Do you accept them with a thanks, but don't really agree?

Do you just react as if they are completely mad to even think such a nice thing about you?

I generally fall in to the "thanks, but struggle to see how they came to that conclusion" catagory.

I encourage them and bathe in the flattery

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I smile and say thank you. I can't be doing with self deprecationin tjat situation, if someone genuinely compliments me I feel its quite rude to tell them their opinion is wrong."

Oh yes of course. Internally I'd be struggling to see how they think that. But if be greatful for the compliment.

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

I also say thank you and smile, it’s nice to be complimented x

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just thank them and usually throw a compliment back. Something like 'thank you and you have a nice arse'.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Never had one. I’ll let you know when I get my first

You're open and honest on your profile.

They go you've had one now what are you going to do..

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Ha ha I thought it said gratefully not gracefully...

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I just smile and say thank you if they seem genuine.

Or kick them in the nuts if not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ha ha I thought it said gratefully not gracefully...

Both is fine haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In real life quickly change the subject. On here though ive had a few messages from women where we dont meet each others interests or very long distance who have jist said they wanted to compliment my pictures.

I find it a bit awkward, not because of them theyre lovely, but because i dont really know what to say.

Udualy go with thank you compliment and fab a few of thier pics and wish them the best.

But im not sure if that comes across as rude or if im meant to try and spark up a proer convo rtc"

We quite often get messages from USA or the very far north of England or Scotland complimenting our pbotos. We thank them, return the compliment if we feel genuinely able to and leave it there. Sometimes they will respond just saying "my pleasure" and sometimes they start with the sex chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had one. I’ll let you know when I get my first

You're open and honest on your profile.

They go you've had one now what are you going to do.."

Punching the air in delight and jumping around my living room.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or go all self deprecating so they keep giving me more

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It depends. I quite like them and try and say thank you. Sometimes I don't quite see it but it's really nice someone else has and gone so far as to compliment me on it so I do appreciate them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or go all self deprecating so they keep giving me more

Guilty! Generally I'll compliment others while being self deprecating.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I never believe them, you only get compliments from people who want something."

You don't, well I don't. A woman stopped me in the street to tell me I looked lovely recently. She didn't want anything. If I do something for someone and they tell me I'm kind, I've already done the thing

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In person I always get a little awkward and never quite know what to say other than a blushed thank you.

On here, I usually say thanks and may make a comment along the lines of "should have gone to Specsavers" depending on my mood at the time

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm generally very bad at taking compliments, I don't know how to react. I want to respond with one in turn but then that feels disingenuous as I'm only doing it because they did.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Depends on the context.

Generally I wouldn't believe them and think they're just saying what they think I want to hear to get a hole

V x

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I just accept them with the good grace in which they are given ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends. I quite like them and try and say thank you. Sometimes I don't quite see it but it's really nice someone else has and gone so far as to compliment me on it so I do appreciate them."

I don’t see it either. Just say thanks.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Depends who they're off. Ones in a first message I tend not to believe. If it's off someone I know I get awkward and don't know how to take them, usually with a thankyou or a sarky comment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I somwtimes smile inwardly but wonder if they are real at the same time. Most of the time I turn them into something of a joke at my own expense because...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends who from and how genuine i think they are"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually reply with "I know

" aha! Sarcasm usually avoids the situations.

Although my dad used to say to me "you need to learn to love yourself before loving anyone else"

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I'm generally very bad at taking compliments, I don't know how to react. I want to respond with one in turn but then that feels disingenuous as I'm only doing it because they did. "

My turn to agree with your post

That's exactly how I feel

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't think I've given it much thought until now.

My mum told me to just say thank you and that's what I told my kids.

If you compliment someone what do you expect ?

To be honest can't be doing with self deprecation following a compliment.

It makes me not want to compliment people.

So can everyone just take my mum's advice and just say "thank you" it's easy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

General consensus seems to be the same across the board.

Most people like to get them but feel uncomfortable about getting them.

I'm always polite in getting them but do feel like I'm not worthy of them at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you handle them?

I mean genuine meaningful compliments not the "you are gorgeous" when they have not even seen you.

Do you accept them gracefully?

Do you accept them and act quite arrogant?

Do you accept them with a thanks, but don't really agree?

Do you just react as if they are completely mad to even think such a nice thing about you?

I generally fall in to the "thanks, but struggle to see how they came to that conclusion" catagory.

Horrendously, I ignore complementary messages. I can't deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love receiving compliments and love giving them too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!! "

I have noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like compliments, but only really from people I’ve gotten to know to a degree.

A compliment from a friend is met with a big grin and “n’awww thanks”, whereas a compliment from someone I don’t really know (yet or otherwise) is met with a smile and “thank you”, and I’ll fairly quickly change the subject!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

I have noticed

So stoppppppppppp ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you handle them?

I mean genuine meaningful compliments not the "you are gorgeous" when they have not even seen you.

Do you accept them gracefully?

Do you accept them and act quite arrogant?

Do you accept them with a thanks,

but don't really agree?

Do you just react as if they are completely mad to even think such a nice thing about you?

I generally fall in to the "thanks, but struggle to see how they came to that conclusion" catagory.

Never been good at taking compliment.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends what the compliment is. If it's about my appearance I just say thanks but if it's about me as a person I blush and make inappropriate jokes about how awful a person I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

I have noticed

So stoppppppppppp ha ha "

You know he definitely won’t stop now, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

I have noticed

So stoppppppppppp ha ha

You know he definitely won’t stop now, right?

Ha ha I'll just ignore him until he does!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

I have noticed

So stoppppppppppp ha ha

You know he definitely won’t stop now, right?

Ha ha I'll just ignore him until he does!! "

Don’t do that! He’ll look sad! Oh, but then he’ll need cheering up... hmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

I have noticed

So stoppppppppppp ha ha

You know he definitely won’t stop now, right?

Ha ha I'll just ignore him until he does!!

Don’t do that! He’ll look sad! Oh, but then he’ll need cheering up... hmm.

Ha ha tag team.. I'll give him a crack and you can cheer him up! Winner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you handle them?

I mean genuine meaningful compliments not the "you are gorgeous" when they have not even seen you.

Do you accept them gracefully?

Do you accept them and act quite arrogant?

Do you accept them with a thanks, but don't really agree?

Do you just react as if they are completely mad to even think such a nice thing about you?

I generally fall in to the "thanks, but struggle to see how they came to that conclusion" catagory.

I thank everyone, it’s always nice to be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

I have noticed

So stoppppppppppp ha ha

You know he definitely won’t stop now, right?

Ha ha I'll just ignore him until he does!!

Don’t do that! He’ll look sad! Oh, but then he’ll need cheering up... hmm.

Ha ha tag team.. I'll give him a crack and you can cheer him up! Winner

I was really excited when you said tag team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who the compliment is off, on here I say thank you. But I’m real life I tend to blush and change the subject quickly, not quite seeing what they see x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thank them... always gracious in my acceptance. I often reciprocate and say something complimentary back... if I genuinely think it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I dread them. Have to change the subject pronto!!

I have noticed

So stoppppppppppp ha ha

You know he definitely won’t stop now, right?

Ha ha I'll just ignore him until he does!!

Don’t do that! He’ll look sad! Oh, but then he’ll need cheering up... hmm.

Ha ha tag team.. I'll give him a crack and you can cheer him up! Winner

I was really excited when you said tag team.

Ha ha ha the poor lamb wouldn't survive..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m no good with compliments I usually think they’re taking the piss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha ha the poor lamb wouldn't survive.. "

You think? I reckon he’d surprise us.

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

Ha ha ha the poor lamb wouldn't survive..

You think? I reckon he’d surprise us.

We cant even message never mind compliment you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a bit awkward, not because of them theyre lovely, but because i dont really know what to say.

Udualy go with thank you compliment and fab a few of thier pics and wish them the best.

But im not sure if that comes across as rude or if im meant to try and spark up a proer convo rtc"

They are flirting with you!

If you find them attractive- flirt back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha ha the poor lamb wouldn't survive..

You think? I reckon he’d surprise us.

We cant even message never mind compliment you

Pretty sure you, personally can.

The ones that can’t are just gonna have to deal with the fact I don’t want compliments from them. Until I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite shy in the real world often blush with complimentary remarks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha ha the poor lamb wouldn't survive..

You think? I reckon he’d surprise us.

Well this is interesting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept them with a smile. He assumes they are being sarcastic

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