FabSwingers.com forum: TV needing advice regarding hotels

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm visiting the outskirts of London this weekend where I have a business meeting as male me and have to be male me for a good chunk of my time there, but I've decided to go out and about in TV mode as Joanne whilst I'm down there as it will be the first time I've had this opportunity, my question for advice if anyone can help is; are hotel staff at Travelodges in particular accepting of transvestites/crossdressers, and would checking in as a male but coming and going enfemme be regarded as wrong or cause me problems, any good advice would be gratefully accepted. X

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"I'm visiting the outskirts of London this weekend where I have a business meeting as male me and have to be male me for a good chunk of my time there, but I've decided to go out and about in TV mode as Joanne whilst I'm down there as it will be the first time I've had this opportunity, my question for advice if anyone can help is; are hotel staff at Travelodges in particular accepting of transvestites/crossdressers, and would checking in as a male but coming and going enfemme be regarded as wrong or cause me problems, any good advice would be gratefully accepted. X"

Personally, I can't imagine why anybody would have a problem with it.

Whenever I've stayed at a Travelodge, I've found the staff to be nothing other than friendly and accepting of all sorts.

I think you should go, let your hair down without a worry and have a wonderful time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally, I can't imagine why anybody would have a problem with it.

Whenever I've stayed at a Travelodge, I've found the staff to be nothing other than friendly and accepting of all sorts.

I think you should go, let your hair down without a worry and have a wonderful time.

Thanks its just abit daunting although I've been out and about many times, the reception desk in a hotel seems to be like a funnel effect where everything gets focused, and if your going to get challenged that's the place it'll happen, thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the receptionists are anything like me in my job they’ll be looking at holidays online or Ikea website and only really looking when someone approaches the desk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the receptionists are anything like me in my job they’ll be looking at holidays online or Ikea website and only really looking when someone approaches the desk. "

I've heard of some Travelodges having security on the reception area checking room keys, but it's reassuring what you say x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure you may get some funny looks, but I doubt they'll say anything, I'm not sure they'd be allowed to if I'm honest. You've as much right to use the place as anyone else.

If it's causing you stress, then don't bother. If the lure is too strong, then go for it. What's the worst that can happen? You make someone laugh. What's the best that can happen? Being accepted for who you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sure you may get some funny looks, but I doubt they'll say anything, I'm not sure they'd be allowed to if I'm honest. You've as much right to use the place as anyone else.

Thanks x

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

I've heard of some Travelodges having security on the reception area checking room keys, but it's reassuring what you say x"

Don't worry you have a room key

You're not doing anything wrong. I do understand how daunting it can be but don't overthink it chuck have a good time

Ensure they know by having a drink at the bar with your room key in view

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Your money is as good as anyone elses..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've heard of some Travelodges having security on the reception area checking room keys, but it's reassuring what you say x

Don't worry you have a room key

You're not doing anything wrong. I do understand how daunting it can be but don't overthink it chuck have a good time

Ensure they know by having a drink at the bar with your room key in view

Thanks, good advice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally I don't think I'd be brave enough, so I tip my hat to you in respect

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I have done similar many times at different hotels and never had a bad reaction.

Be confident, smile and be natural if they do shoot you a look...

Most people really won't care as much as much as you think they will.

If you talk to someone and they become uncomfortable just carry on, thats there problem and they will get over it.

Go out and own being yourself, you won't look back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having met both male and female at various travelodges etc for sex, its never bothered me, I think you be fine - they are only concerned if you cause problems whilst families are about -

Follow your own desires and live your life to full

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"personally I don't think I'd be brave enough, so I tip my hat to you in respect

I've been out and about in Newcastle loads of times, but always in the gay bars, the problem is alot of straight people are frequenting gay bars now and a few times I've been in them I've been made to feel a little uncomfortable, one time a group were trying to take selfies but were doing it so I would be in the picture, so I'm quite confident about being out dressed as I think I'm quite convincing but I'm not axsucker for punishment as well lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have done similar many times at different hotels and never had a bad reaction.

Be confident, smile and be natural if they do shoot you a look...

Most people really won't care as much as much as you think they will.

If you talk to someone and they become uncomfortable just carry on, thats there problem and they will get over it.

Go out and own being yourself, you won't look back x

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having met both male and female at various travelodges etc for sex, its never bothered me, I think you be fine - they are only concerned if you cause problems whilst families are about -

Follow your own desires and live your life to full

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your money is as good as anyone elses.."

Yes good point, thanks x

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

Darlaston

I stayed in a travel lodge in Luton and had to pass reception 9 times in one night as I had to let guys in the front door as the doors are locked and you need a key card to open them and nothing was said etc tho the young lad did not know where to look x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I stayed in a travel lodge in Luton and had to pass reception 9 times in one night as I had to let guys in the front door as the doors are locked and you need a key card to open them and nothing was said etc tho the young lad did not know where to look x"

Thanks, that's reassuring, although as yet I've no plans to meet anyone at the hotel I'm not averted to the idea, x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

New year's Eve I was in a Travelodge in Blackpool,in the evening I went out dressed. However when I got back around 6am my passkey didn't work. Still dressed and looking a little disheveled I had to go to the desk to let them know. The guy couldn't care less, sorted my key and off to the room I went.

So don't worry they've seen it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought that as you’ve booked the room then you’re entitled to come and go as you please, wether that’s in Male mode, Joanne mode(who looks very sexy btw), or dressed in a mankini, furry wellies and with devil horns on your head(but please don’t!).

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By *ax_uk_2009Man
over a year ago

Wilmslow

As it there have said I wouldn’t expect any problems. The only time I have had a minor challenge (the morning after) is when I have brought someone back to my room. Otherwise have fun.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

TBH -the staff in those places are usually so switched off that they probably wouldn't even notice

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Service providers have a legal duty to ensure that they're not adversely delivering service to people with protected characteristics. Their training programmes will likely have covered diversity training etc, so that they understand how they should and should not behave. Most people in a service role appreciate giving good service to others and especially when their clients appreciate it. It's great to always let individuals know when you do appreciate them.

I used to dress when I was school age, so got used to being around others, of varying levels of acceptance. For someone who is intermittently dressing, or perhaps starting out, it can be an incredibly brave move to get out into public. At hotels, where increasingly you don't need to pick-up and return keys, when entering/leaving, it could be an ideal environment to fleetingly float in, out and around, subject to how comfortable you're feeling.

Staff will generally want to support any guest to gain greater levels of comfort and pleasure from their stay, so my thoughts op are that you'll be fine. Enjoy your stay

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Do what any guest does.

Pay the bill.

Follow the rules.

Nothing in the rules about what clothes you must wear.

Other than one about decency.

You could dress in a dinosaur outfit and the hotel wouldn't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"New year's Eve I was in a Travelodge in Blackpool,in the evening I went out dressed. However when I got back around 6am my passkey didn't work. Still dressed and looking a little disheveled I had to go to the desk to let them know. The guy couldn't care less, sorted my key and off to the room I went.

So don't worry they've seen it all

You legend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure you may get some funny looks, but I doubt they'll say anything, I'm not sure they'd be allowed to if I'm honest. You've as much right to use the place as anyone else.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

So don't worry they've seen it all

You legend

Got back to my room I looked terrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go for it.

My first steps out into the world started from hotel rooms. I looked bloody awful but the receptionists were always very polite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all of the advice and supportive messages, I'm looking forward to it x

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP. As a hotel manager for over 30 years experience, with speciality expertise within Front Office operations, I can safely say that you have nothing to fear at all.

All hotels are different whether a Travel Lodge or a 5 star property. Yes, some have security, especially at the upper luxury end of the market, or following specific local Police recommendations due to perceived local crime stats. But security staff in hotels will have specified training to be discreet foremost and ensure the safety of all guests.

In my experience, the ones who draw attention to themselves, are the eejits who over indulge drink wise, or have fallen out with family, colleagues etc or other reasons.

So how you wish to go about your life is your business. Hotel reception personnel are invariably the soul of discretion.

Hotels is a big business, but in many respects, anyone who is likely to shout their mouth off, does not stay in the industry for long and won't find employment easy elsewhere.

Go and enjoy yourself.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't think people give a shit what you do..

Yes you might get a odd smirk as someone clock's you, but I'm sure you've dealt with it all before so you do what you like..

Go n enjoy yourself

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"Thanks for all of the advice and supportive messages, I'm looking forward to it x"

Go have a great time

I have been in hotels all over the country, showing my myself in male mode and female mode, swapping between as i needed. I find that female staff in particular always give me a nice smile and enjoy having a chat. Men are a little more reticent, i think sometimes they get a bit embarrassed and confused lol.

Just stay away from the kind of scumbag places that you wouldn't visit in your male mode. And maybe avoid d*unk men, the few times I've encountered twattish behaviour it was usually pissed up blokes...

Hugs and kisses, Polly xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you xx

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