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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Stalkerish, your phone number can be linked to your facebook though.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

If you're on Facebook sharing numbers or ppl in common you're bound to come across ppl who will see you. Just the nature of social media really. I just ensure my fb is limited massively so outsiders can't see much.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's accepted nowadays that people will look you up on Facebook if they can. Due to this never use the same phone numbers, email addresses, name or photos on Facebook and fab. Instagram and WhatsApp also.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also lock your Facebook privacy levels down tight. I don't even get birthday wishes on fb as I don't allow my birth date to be shown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s out of order and very creepy....

Tell this person they have overstepped your boundaries...

Then block immediately

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

People sometimes find us on Facebook, but that's fine by us. We have such an online presence, we're easy to find, so half expect it really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive. "

put settings to friendsonly/private

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I use a different name on here and certainly don’t use the same pics on here that I would on Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's accepted nowadays that people will look you up on Facebook if they can. Due to this never use the same phone numbers, email addresses, name or photos on Facebook and fab. Instagram and WhatsApp also. "

I said this so many times now but I'm not sure if people are aware but you can change your settings on Facebook so that people can not search using your phone number.

I have changed the settings and I have never had anybody send me a friend request or mention that they found me on Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive.

put settings to friendsonly/private"

Currently doing this now.

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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

I have a few friends from here on FB as well. It is people I know well though. Also so others pop up as friends of friends. I never add them unless I know them well and I have asked them.

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By *imandher84Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I have never had nor will have fb, the site by itself is a massive invasion of your privacy which people invite into there lives,so as stalkerish as this behaviour obviously is it's very easily remedied.

If we don't take steps to protect ourselves then in my honest opinion we invite in the weirdos.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I use a different name on here and certainly don’t use the same pics on here that I would on Facebook.

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Phone number, email?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally out of order.

Even if I did discover someone from here on Facebook I would not let them know I had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this is why we use “character names” even on things like kik etc the amount of users who hide there names here but then add you to kik and use there full name as there contact name “claire smith” no wonder people get stalked

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By *addy0Man
over a year ago

carlow town

Bang out of line,what ever about finding you but making it known they found you is creepy..

With social media now it's all too common too find some1,u see peo p le sharing snapchat and insta name's publicly can be dangerous I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened a few times in the early days and it's creepy as hell... especially when they're local. I blocked and unlinked my phone number and locked everything down on privacy settings. Unsettling though..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I use the same number sadly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me."

It’s awful.

Fab life is separate, they should understand this.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Stalkerish. Sorry to hear that. Trust and discretion are THE most important aspects on here. Don't want two lives crashing together.

Can you not report them to admin too, sounds like something they should be involved in. Some people ffs!!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I have never had nor will have fb, the site by itself is a massive invasion of your privacy which people invite into there lives,so as stalkerish as this behaviour obviously is it's very easily remedied.

If we don't take steps to protect ourselves then in my honest opinion we invite in the weirdos. "

once we invite people into our lives via sharing home addresses, phone numbers, car details then if they want to find out more in detail weve already gave them a massive helping hand so as much as its not welcomed its shouldn't be suprising... iv had my fingers burnt in the past!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you put your details on Facebook there are there for all to see. How does that become stalkerish.

They may actually have done you a favour if you value your privacy.

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By *imandher84Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have never had nor will have fb, the site by itself is a massive invasion of your privacy which people invite into there lives,so as stalkerish as this behaviour obviously is it's very easily remedied.

If we don't take steps to protect ourselves then in my honest opinion we invite in the weirdos.

once we invite people into our lives via sharing home addresses, phone numbers, car details then if they want to find out more in detail weve already gave them a massive helping hand so as much as its not welcomed its shouldn't be suprising... iv had my fingers burnt in the past!! "

This is my point, we often expect people to act accordingly then give them the tools to act inappropriately if they so choose. I have heard so many arguments for having facebook and for the life of me i still can't fathom why my old school friends would want to see a picture of my lunch.. "oh yay you're 34 and can boil an egg go you" beyond me.

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

In the words of Ray Lamontagne....

'Call this a lesson learned'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me."

This has happened to me to.

Ive been on here since the site started and met literally hundreds of people and never given any of them my real name, phone number or any personal details at all. That's just the way I am.

However I have had 2 people find me on Facebook and it freaked me out. My security settings are high too.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I have never had nor will have fb, the site by itself is a massive invasion of your privacy which people invite into there lives,so as stalkerish as this behaviour obviously is it's very easily remedied.

If we don't take steps to protect ourselves then in my honest opinion we invite in the weirdos.

once we invite people into our lives via sharing home addresses, phone numbers, car details then if they want to find out more in detail weve already gave them a massive helping hand so as much as its not welcomed its shouldn't be suprising... iv had my fingers burnt in the past!!

This is my point, we often expect people to act accordingly then give them the tools to act inappropriately if they so choose. I have heard so many arguments for having facebook and for the life of me i still can't fathom why my old school friends would want to see a picture of my lunch.. "oh yay you're 34 and can boil an egg go you" beyond me. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me.

It’s awful.

Fab life is separate, they should understand this.

"

But people don't. As annoying as it is we all need to be aware that unless we lock our details down tight people can find us. I'm not blaming you for this guys poor behaviour but just as if you leave a £50 note on the floor it's likely that someone will take it, if you give out your number and use on Facebook too someone will track you down. Get a payg phone for fab

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me.

This has happened to me to.

Ive been on here since the site started and met literally hundreds of people and never given any of them my real name, phone number or any personal details at all. That's just the way I am.

However I have had 2 people find me on Facebook and it freaked me out. My security settings are high too."

i find that hard to believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking odd if you ask me, however , I have seen a lot of posts in the forum from member's that research potential meets to see if they are married etc and always quote Facebook and one I saw messaged his wife apparently to tell her what he was up to! So much for discretion assured lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In the words of Ray Lamontagne....

'Call this a lesson learned'"

Most definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you put your details on Facebook there are there for all to see. How does that become stalkerish.

They may actually have done you a favour if you value your privacy."

I don't understand why people who put things on the internet blame everyone else for invading their 'privacy'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you put your details on Facebook there are there for all to see. How does that become stalkerish.

They may actually have done you a favour if you value your privacy.

I don't understand why people who put things on the internet blame everyone else for invading their 'privacy' "

Its always someone else's fault

And a good reason for not feeding Facebook all that data so they can sell all your "private" information for huge profits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive. "
your phone will link anyone you talk to or text on it to your FB and vice versa there's ,disable it and u will be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me.

It’s awful.

Fab life is separate, they should understand this.

But people don't. As annoying as it is we all need to be aware that unless we lock our details down tight people can find us. I'm not blaming you for this guys poor behaviour but just as if you leave a £50 note on the floor it's likely that someone will take it, if you give out your number and use on Facebook too someone will track you down. Get a payg phone for fab"

That's the thing, I didn't give him my number, it's not linked to Facebook anyway, nor did I give him my surname but he obviously knows what I look like as I met him, he knows my real first name too. My Facebook is set so my profile can't be seen unless we're friends & I can't be sent friend requests either, why he sent a message 'wave'. All I can think is he wrote my first name into find a friend & recognised me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not good people search life away from fab for people.

Block him and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive. "

Its your public facebook so not really an invasion of privacy.

Given many women on here claim to and tell others here to use reverse image search and check social media of guy's it would seem to be standard practice.

If you've shared phone numbers etc its likley he "found" you by you jist popping up in suggested friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can pop up on recommended friends if you have your email or phone number on Facebook.

I messaged someone who popped up on mine, to let him know, and I don't have my number on Facebook.

I assumed it put us together through WhatsApp, but no one else has ever come up on recommended friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me."

If youve got location services enabled facebook may have suggested you to each other as you met

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

The trouble with all this interlinked social media crap is that it's very hard to break the links down after the fact.

facebook, whats app, hotmail, skype etc etc etc, they all have ways of linking your presence on one to your presence on the other.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Check your privacy settings on FB. You want to make sure randoms can't see your email and phone number. And block this guy! Totally inappropriate, but probably never meant any harm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple of friends on facebook, who I initially met through fab.

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive. "

Not me.. Not on that shite.. Never will be either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a couple of friends on facebook, who I initially met through fab."

Me too, also turns out some of my fb friends are also on here (glad they don't realise)

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive. "

Keep checking over your shoulder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it was a bit of over bearing curiosity that has crossed a bit of a line. They obviously had your number/name to be able to search you up, so they had a certain amount of trust given to them which was misused.

Although as others have said it has allowed you to realise you need to tighten up your settings so as not to happen again. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me.

If youve got location services enabled facebook may have suggested you to each other as you met"

Good point, I hadn't thought of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had someone from here 'wave' me on Facebook this morning, I'd met him at the weekend but blocked him. He didn't have my mobile number & I've got my privacy settings high on Facebook too. Blocked him on Facebook now but it freaked me out a bit that he found me.

This has happened to me to.

Ive been on here since the site started and met literally hundreds of people and never given any of them my real name, phone number or any personal details at all. That's just the way I am.

However I have had 2 people find me on Facebook and it freaked me out. My security settings are high too.

i find that hard to believe. "

I'm not sure which bit you are finding hard to believe but I can assure you it happened.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

That's creepy. Block them.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I have a couple of friends on facebook, who I initially met through fab."

I do as well. Very well trusted fab friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you put your details on Facebook there are there for all to see. How does that become stalkerish.

They may actually have done you a favour if you value your privacy.

I don't understand why people who put things on the internet blame everyone else for invading their 'privacy' "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive. "

Facebook is desperate for you to connect. As soon as you have someone's number in your address book it will suggest them and their friends as potential friends. I keep everything separate for that reason (and I don't use Facebook anyway).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s out of order but I appreciate it can be a tad unerving when people you don’t want to find you do, that’s social media for you.

It’s 2019, it’s generally the case that someone will look you up, that interviewer from a recent job application for example as well as people on here.

As others have said your phone number if linked will suggest people you may know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m feeling very well at the mo but had someone from here find me on Facebook. They pointed out they could see an album of my dogs. This really is an invasion of my privacy and my husbands gone up the wall.

Is this stalkerish or an I just being over sensitive.

Facebook is desperate for you to connect. As soon as you have someone's number in your address book it will suggest them and their friends as potential friends. I keep everything separate for that reason (and I don't use Facebook anyway). "

No I don't use Facebook!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a couple of friends on facebook, who I initially met through fab.

I do as well. Very well trusted fab friends. "

I have friends on fab who are Facebook friends but these are people I’ve met and become great friends with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s given me a huge kick up the arse. All settings changed on FB as I honestly believed no one would do this. No one can find me now via telephone number and email and I’ve reverted Back to my maiden name on there.

I’m not saying this person would use information against me BUT it only takes one person to find out where you work and send pictures of you from fab (thank god I don’t show my face)

Will go back to only meeting in clubs again now.

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