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Does being asked things get on anyone else’s goat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like it can be a range of things, things that you would naturally do anyway off your own back but as soon as you’re asked multiple times it makes you not want to do them?

Like you could meet someone for a first meet and want to suck them off but if they ask you to do it before you meet it makes you not want to do it.

Or adding someone as a friend, you might naturally decide to add someone but when they ask you to do it it makes you not want to.

Or like being with someone for a while and you know they want sex does that sometimes make you not want to do it cos you know they are wanting it from you?

It’s a weird feeling anyone else get it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask for things off people. I never ask for pictures, well a couple of face pics. But not straight away. Had a face pic last night from someone I've been chatting to for months. I only asked to put a face to who I'm chatting to. Glad I asked though.

I think asking something sexual from someone you don't know is strange. I don't send friend request until I ask if I can. Treat everyone as if I was face to face. Wouldn't come up to you in the street and ask for a nudie pic! Don't need them anyway, think it's sexier when a woman is covered with something. Plus it spoils the suprise of seeing them naked for first time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, I've found you get more when you don't expect things...

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

? Confused . Com. Why the name change again by the way?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Like it can be a range of things, things that you would naturally do anyway off your own back but as soon as you’re asked multiple times it makes you not want to do them?

Like you could meet someone for a first meet and want to suck them off but if they ask you to do it before you meet it makes you not want to do it.

Or adding someone as a friend, you might naturally decide to add someone but when they ask you to do it it makes you not want to.

Or like being with someone for a while and you know they want sex does that sometimes make you not want to do it cos you know they are wanting it from you?

It’s a weird feeling anyone else get it?

"

No

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"? Confused . Com. Why the name change again by the way?"

Taking advice off my other thread. People said my previous username was stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"? Confused . Com. Why the name change again by the way?

Taking advice off my other thread. People said my previous username was stupid. "

I liked being told to look at your hooves!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Maybe not quite in regards to the things you’ve mentioned there but yes I do with some things. I get what you mean.

Fab for instance, if I was meeting and the guy suggested something that I could wear, even if I had intended to wear it, I would then want to change what I was wearing.

Maybe it’s a throwback to another time when it was polite not to ask for things but wait to be offered. Who knows?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe not quite in regards to the things you’ve mentioned there but yes I do with some things. I get what you mean.

Fab for instance, if I was meeting and the guy suggested something that I could wear, even if I had intended to wear it, I would then want to change what I was wearing.

Maybe it’s a throwback to another time when it was polite not to ask for things but wait to be offered. Who knows? "

Yeah that’s another one, being told what to wear!

Even if I’d planned on doing whatever I was being asked to do anyway it makes me not want to do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like it can be a range of things, things that you would naturally do anyway off your own back but as soon as you’re asked multiple times it makes you not want to do them?

Like you could meet someone for a first meet and want to suck them off but if they ask you to do it before you meet it makes you not want to do it.

Or adding someone as a friend, you might naturally decide to add someone but when they ask you to do it it makes you not want to.

Or like being with someone for a while and you know they want sex does that sometimes make you not want to do it cos you know they are wanting it from you?

It’s a weird feeling anyone else get it?

"

Yep. Totally get this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe not quite in regards to the things you’ve mentioned there but yes I do with some things. I get what you mean.

Fab for instance, if I was meeting and the guy suggested something that I could wear, even if I had intended to wear it, I would then want to change what I was wearing.

Maybe it’s a throwback to another time when it was polite not to ask for things but wait to be offered. Who knows?

Yeah that’s another one, being told what to wear!

Even if I’d planned on doing whatever I was being asked to do anyway it makes me not want to do it!"

And this

In fact yeah it would make me do the opposite probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe not quite in regards to the things you’ve mentioned there but yes I do with some things. I get what you mean.

Fab for instance, if I was meeting and the guy suggested something that I could wear, even if I had intended to wear it, I would then want to change what I was wearing.

Maybe it’s a throwback to another time when it was polite not to ask for things but wait to be offered. Who knows? "

Oh I get this for sure. A guy I had a social meet asked me would I wear stockings and suspenders, hadn't planned too but I definitely wasn't going to wear them than.

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire

So basically you don't like being asked to do something so your automatic response is a no! If you are in a relationship with someone of course they are going to want sex with you and if you feel like having sex with them at the same time why wouldn't you, it doesn't make sense not to especially when you both want it, seems very childish and if they felt the same as you then there would be no sex whatsoever!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically you don't like being asked to do something so your automatic response is a no! If you are in a relationship with someone of course they are going to want sex with you and if you feel like having sex with them at the same time why wouldn't you, it doesn't make sense not to especially when you both want it, seems very childish and if they felt the same as you then there would be no sex whatsoever!!"

I don’t think that’s what she’s saying to be fair.

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire


"So basically you don't like being asked to do something so your automatic response is a no! If you are in a relationship with someone of course they are going to want sex with you and if you feel like having sex with them at the same time why wouldn't you, it doesn't make sense not to especially when you both want it, seems very childish and if they felt the same as you then there would be no sex whatsoever!!

I don’t think that’s what she’s saying to be fair.

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Seems that way, when you're in a relationship for a while and because they want sex it makes you not want to give them that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically you don't like being asked to do something so your automatic response is a no! If you are in a relationship with someone of course they are going to want sex with you and if you feel like having sex with them at the same time why wouldn't you, it doesn't make sense not to especially when you both want it, seems very childish and if they felt the same as you then there would be no sex whatsoever!!

I don’t think that’s what she’s saying to be fair.

"

Indeed, it is about the assumption that you will do it/want to do it.

Can't think of specific examples but I have done it before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you there, but it depends on my mood.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically you don't like being asked to do something so your automatic response is a no! If you are in a relationship with someone of course they are going to want sex with you and if you feel like having sex with them at the same time why wouldn't you, it doesn't make sense not to especially when you both want it, seems very childish and if they felt the same as you then there would be no sex whatsoever!!"

In my last relationship I wanted sex obviously but sometimes we’d be in bed and it would be a really strange thing like I could just sense that he was wanting it, it wasn’t every time but just sometimes the fact that I knew he wanted it made me feel not pressured but it would put me off wanting it. It was rare but strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Indeed, it is about the assumption that you will do it/want to do it.

Can't think of specific examples but I have done it before. "

To add to this, her examples are related to the subject of the site. It can however be applied to many other things. I had a truly horrible boss, anything they asked (the way they asked and just assumed I would do it) made me want to refuse to do it, but if asked normally I'd have been more than willing.

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Totally get this. Actually I love giving oral. Like absolutely love sucking cock... and I might be intending on giving my husband an amazing session and if he happens to ask for it - it just makes me not want to do it...strange. Must explore my feelings a little more surrounding that... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Indeed, it is about the assumption that you will do it/want to do it.

Can't think of specific examples but I have done it before.

To add to this, her examples are related to the subject of the site. It can however be applied to many other things. I had a truly horrible boss, anything they asked (the way they asked and just assumed I would do it) made me want to refuse to do it, but if asked normally I'd have been more than willing. "

Yep. I think my reasons are stubbornness. I’m very stubborn. I had someone ask if I’d wear the dress and hold ups i had on in one of my pics when I met for a social. Which I wouldn’t have had a problem with but because he asked I went in jeans boots and baggy jumper right up to my chin.

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire


"So basically you don't like being asked to do something so your automatic response is a no! If you are in a relationship with someone of course they are going to want sex with you and if you feel like having sex with them at the same time why wouldn't you, it doesn't make sense not to especially when you both want it, seems very childish and if they felt the same as you then there would be no sex whatsoever!!

In my last relationship I wanted sex obviously but sometimes we’d be in bed and it would be a really strange thing like I could just sense that he was wanting it, it wasn’t every time but just sometimes the fact that I knew he wanted it made me feel not pressured but it would put me off wanting it. It was rare but strange. "

It is a strange one and not something I have heard of to be fair but at least it was a rarity

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