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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you believe things happen for a reason?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes.

Am I right to? No

The only thing I believe in is fate and yet it's a fad. Things happen. Not necessarily for a reason or the reason you attached to it but it's nice to do so most of the time. It can be comforting.

Similar for superstitions I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I'm a bit of a sceptic though, so I'm conflicted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I do believe that the bad things that have happened to me in life have happened for a reason , usually because I'd been a twat !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel some things happen for a reason, well in my life anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you believe things happen for a reason? "

Yes but not in the same way others may attribite to this statement.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Do you believe things happen for a reason? "

Everything will have causation

That is vastly different from a pre determined contrived reason

Fete as believed by many is just made up fiction

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think it’s called cause and effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't believe anything is predetermined.

C

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I feel some things happen for a reason, well in my life anyway. "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm with Genghis and conflicted on this - it's easy to attach a reason after the event that "fits" the circumstances neatly - but there are some things that just can't be simply explained by personal choice at any given moment either.

Maybe it's a set of circumstances aligning to give an end result, that aren't necessarily pre-ordained but that wouldn't have happened without that series of events happening the way they did.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some do, some don't. Random things are often just random, the way you react shapes or determines the outcome.

The idea that good things happen to good people, and the opposite, is clearly nonsense though. And kind of offensive in a way. Why is a billionaire's child an amazing person, while a famine victim deserves their suffering?

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Don't make the mistake of thinking that reasons have to be logical -"the Universe is a strange place" to quote Carl Sagan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every action has an equal and opposite reaction"...Isacc Newton.

We have choices. Every choice we make for whatever reason generates some response from others, to that extent everything happens for a reason.

Beyond that if life is mapped out for us on some predefined path then we are little more than robots.

But maybe we fall into patterns of repeated behaviour that reflect our past experience, thereby creating an impression that there is reason behind our actions. Even if that reason is just an automatic learned response to whatever circumstances we find ourselves in.

Perhaps that learned response is why we repeat patterns, until we can break them, such as always picking the wrong relationships simply because we always do what we have always done. Yet strangely we expect the results to be different each time we repeat our actions, even though that way lies madness...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with Genghis and conflicted on this - it's easy to attach a reason after the event that "fits" the circumstances neatly - but there are some things that just can't be simply explained by personal choice at any given moment either.

Maybe it's a set of circumstances aligning to give an end result, that aren't necessarily pre-ordained but that wouldn't have happened without that series of events happening the way they did."

Someone agrees with me

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with Genghis and conflicted on this - it's easy to attach a reason after the event that "fits" the circumstances neatly - but there are some things that just can't be simply explained by personal choice at any given moment either.

Maybe it's a set of circumstances aligning to give an end result, that aren't necessarily pre-ordained but that wouldn't have happened without that series of events happening the way they did.

Someone agrees with me "

I'm with you both on this too.

P

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I like to think it does but at the same time I quite like the 'many worlds' quantum theory aspect that says that there is basically a parallel universe for every different outcome, so if stuff happens that I don't like, I can cheer myself up by thinking about me in an alternate dimension really enjoying the alternate outcome...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Life is an accident and things are random. It’s only the human ego that things happen for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, saved a dog from the rescue, now get no sleep and a garden covered in shit. It's fate as I sold my soul to the devil and my route to work passes a dogs home. If I wasn't greedy I wouldn't of passed the dogs home, wouldn't of saved the dog and would get more than 3 hours sleep a night. I would also be able to enjoy a nice lawn and not one thread bear and burnt to Fuck by 10 gallons of lurcher piss every day.

So to answer your question...No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I believe you create your own destiny the fate thing is a lazy excuse for not trying by some.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No. I've done some things that have had no further consequences in my life and others that have. I think humans ascribe meaning retrospectively and specifically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most things happen to us for a reason. They are reactions or consequences often to what we do, say or maybe think (this governs our behaviour). As a results we also draw others into our world or visa versa. Many don't like the idea as it involves responsibility and we now live in a world that tells us we're not responsible, for who we are, become or will be. The irony of that is were blaming others and they're blaming us. We are not islands as some may think.

Just my take on it and I may well be completely wrong. We may be just non entities in a cosmic chaos.

It's good to ponder though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I've done some things that have had no further consequences in my life... "

That you know off.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I believe in fate and the butterfly effect...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% YUP

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