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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or those in a solid relationship can fall in love many many times.

I can’t speak for all (esp how women would feel). But I seen many men regret a relationship ending, and often think their regret could have been avoided.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?"

They did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?

They did "

They talk too much!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?"

True I think. They also say men leave a relationship on the spur of the moment but by the time a woman leaves she has been planning to for a long time - similar thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?"

Yes I can definitely relate to this.

It certainly holds true for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Took a long time for him to realise what he lost though.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

In my experience men generally don't leave unless they're pushed, or they've found something/someone"to move on to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my ex split as I wasn't happy with the lifestyle. I needed to go travelling and be free. She was perfection and I wouldn't say otherwise. She made me happy but the life didn't. Ended it officially over 2 years ago. Stopped seeing her 6 months ago and I miss her loads! Need someone to take my mind of it...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think a lot of men know what they have but are unable/unwilling to confront any issues within a relationship until their partner is leaving them. By then the woman has faced up to the inevitable and the guy is left bewildered that she isn't willing to try again even though she's been trying for years.

I suspect some women are like this too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?"

I hadn't thought about this before, but yes it sounds correct.

Although I expect both statements can be true for both sexes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of men know what they have but are unable/unwilling to confront any issues within a relationship until their partner is leaving them. By then the woman has faced up to the inevitable and the guy is left bewildered that she isn't willing to try again even though she's been trying for years.

I suspect some women are like this too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?"

He did, just then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?

He did, just then."

I said nothing of the sort! "They" Said it, not me. I'm just asking you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?

He did, just then.

I said nothing of the sort! "They" Said it, not me. I'm just asking you "

What do you say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?

He did, just then.

I said nothing of the sort! "They" Said it, not me. I'm just asking you

What do you say"

"I know nothing" Twas true for me though, tis also true of my colleague who is going through same thing. I feel sorry for him,want to ease his pain, but unsure what to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?"

Absolutely. Mourned mine a year before it was properly over.

Its not the relationship you mourn for as such, it's the relationship you thought you were gonna have but didn't.

This makes 100% sense as I have been there.

P

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Op -by that logic, does it mean that transexuals miss what they have lost?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?

He did, just then.

I said nothing of the sort! "They" Said it, not me. I'm just asking you

What do you say

"I know nothing" Twas true for me though, tis also true of my colleague who is going through same thing. I feel sorry for him,want to ease his pain, but unsure what to say."

Don't say "I feel for you and want to ease your pain" ... he could read something into that that wasn't meant

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op -by that logic, does it mean that transexuals miss what they have lost?"

I couldn't possibly say, I can only answer for myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never heard that before. Who said it, OP?

He did, just then.

I said nothing of the sort! "They" Said it, not me. I'm just asking you

What do you say

"I know nothing" Twas true for me though, tis also true of my colleague who is going through same thing. I feel sorry for him,want to ease his pain, but unsure what to say.

Don't say "I feel for you and want to ease your pain" ... he could read something into that that wasn't meant "

I've not. Just told him "Been there, done it, it gets better, if you need somebody to talk to about it, I'm free, don't bottle it up". Up to him what he does with that offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?

Absolutely. Mourned mine a year before it was properly over.

Its not the relationship you mourn for as such, it's the relationship you thought you were gonna have but didn't.

This makes 100% sense as I have been there.

P"

Ohhh yes so much this!! The relationship was shit, it was the dreams of something better that I was sad at losing.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?

Absolutely. Mourned mine a year before it was properly over.

Its not the relationship you mourn for as such, it's the relationship you thought you were gonna have but didn't.

This makes 100% sense as I have been there.

P

Ohhh yes so much this!! The relationship was shit, it was the dreams of something better that I was sad at losing. "

Yes, even though my marriage was dead by the time we split, one day the grief just hit me and brought me to my knees - the pain of losing the dream I had stayed so long believing for.

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Who’s they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all do both my experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We all do both my experience"

I'd agree. I don't think it's a gender question at all. Even though it's worded that way. It's more about the ways we think.

I can only answer as me, it rings true. I don't think it'll happen again though. Just a life lesson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?

Absolutely. Mourned mine a year before it was properly over.

Its not the relationship you mourn for as such, it's the relationship you thought you were gonna have but didn't.

This makes 100% sense as I have been there.

P

Ohhh yes so much this!! The relationship was shit, it was the dreams of something better that I was sad at losing.

Yes, even though my marriage was dead by the time we split, one day the grief just hit me and brought me to my knees - the pain of losing the dream I had stayed so long believing for. "

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of men know what they have but are unable/unwilling to confront any issues within a relationship until their partner is leaving them. By then the woman has faced up to the inevitable and the guy is left bewildered that she isn't willing to try again even though she's been trying for years.

I suspect some women are like this too. "

Id like a facebook style 'like' for this comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bollocks, bollocks and bollocks!

I think you're all trying to generalise and pigeon hole people when often it's all dependent on the individuals concerned.

For example, I left my ex because I was suck and tired of her abuse.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

... of the acropolis where the parthanon is.....

https://youtu.be/GdvD4Fhc_K8

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?"

First time I've heard this but... I find there is a lot of truth in it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"That women mourn the Death of a Relationship whilst still in it, whilst men don't realise what they have, till they've lost it.

Agree?"

I agree to a large extent.

'They' also say that once men decide to go that they go and stay gone. Whereas women uhmmmm n ahhhhhhh.

I think it's easier for a man to coax a woman back than it is for a woman to coax a man back ...... sometimes.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve experienced it from both sides. Possibly depends more on the relationship dynamics rather than gender.

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