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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My neighbour who lives about 6 doors away split up with his wife about 6 minutes ago. Before Christmas he called to ask of I needed a hand filling a skip I had ordered. As I have no one around I agreed to him helping me if he allowed me to pay him. He agreed.

When the job was done and I went to pay him he said it was okay. He would rather take me out instead or he would have dinner in mine if what's what I wanted. I told him I wasn't interested. He took the money and left.

Now here's the problem he has shown up at my house several times now looking to take me out. I have went as far as telling him that I was seeing someone but it hasn't made a difference. He showed up last night after a few drinks and bet down my door till I answered. He woke my kids and me. It then took ages to get him to go.

I am really at a loss as what to do next. Ant advice on how I should approach this guy's?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

tell him to fuck off or your calling the police

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

in fact just call the police

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Police as he will never let it go other wise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have a male friend who can hang around like your boyfriend? A softer approach. If he doesn't get the hint then get the police involved. It's affecting your kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you."

My fear is that things will get worse if I involve the police.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you.

My fear is that things will get worse if I involve the police. "

Then tell him you are going to involve the police, and see if that gives him the message?

To be honest, if he’s banging on your door d*unk now, it already sounds like it’s at the stage where it’s going to get worse.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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"My neighbour who lives about 6 doors away split up with his wife about 6 minutes ago. Before Christmas he called to ask of I needed a hand filling a skip I had ordered. As I have no one around I agreed to him helping me if he allowed me to pay him. He agreed.

I am really at a loss as what to do next. Ant advice on how I should approach this guy's?"

Stop being polite to him and tell him to fuck off.

This sounds just awful I hope you get it sorted out quickly.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Remove his Duracell batteries...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am really at a loss as what to do next. Ant advice on how I should approach this guy's?"

Get a solicitor to send him a letter ... When he's sober it might make him stop

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am really at a loss as what to do next. Ant advice on how I should approach this guy's?

Stop being polite to him and tell him to fuck off.

This sounds just awful I hope you get it sorted out quickly."

I was from with him the last time he had called before last night. I've asked my brother to come up and stay with me for a while. While he doesn't mind, he has said that I shouldn't have to do this. He will also most likely kick his ass if he calls again.

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

"Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you.

My fear is that things will get worse if I involve the police. "

Sounds like he's going to make things worse anyway. Get the Police involved now rather than later.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

I am really at a loss as what to do next. Ant advice on how I should approach this guy's?

Stop being polite to him and tell him to fuck off.

This sounds just awful I hope you get it sorted out quickly.

Unfortunately this will likely result in your brother being in trouble with the police, rather than the idiot neighbour!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I can understand you not wanting to call the police in case it makes things worse. Can you knock his door tell him in no uncertain terms to back off.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you.

My fear is that things will get worse if I involve the police. "

sorry he needs to be stopped as it dosnt give him the right

you could say to him

As you was d*unk the other night you scared me and my children.

And now I know longer want to know you for it.

Please dont come around again as I will have to call the police.

Up to you if you except the apologies or not.

But he needs to see the error of his ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you.

My fear is that things will get worse if I involve the police. "

Our fear is that things will get worse unless you call the police.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

He is persistent.

I think you need to be “assertive” with him.

Tell him in words of two syllables you are interested.

And that if he persists, you will seek a restraining order via a solicitor.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Oops, not interested

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Log it with the Police

The ladt thing you want us for your brother to get into an altercation with him as Sod's Law your brother will come out of it worse off.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"in fact just call the police"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fill your own skip next time?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you.

My fear is that things will get worse if I involve the police.

sorry he needs to be stopped as it dosnt give him the right

you could say to him

As you was d*unk the other night you scared me and my children.

And now I know longer want to know you for it.

Please dont come around again as I will have to call the police.

Up to you if you except the apologies or not.

But he needs to see the error of his ways."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I would only speak with him when he is sober, as his d*unken behaviour is inappropriate. I would keep the period of interaction short and to the point and make it explicitly clear that whilst you appreciate his past help and support, you don't want to mislead him, as you only want the friendship to be a neighbourly friendship. He will potentially be disappointed and upset but this is better than letting things continue, without a clear message. I'd also insist that he doesn't visit and wake you and your family up - by providing a clear definition of how/when you want to interact in future and that only that will be appropriate.

With some luck, he will withdraw and lick his wounds and not create much/if any further hassle. If he does, remind him what was discussed on this prior meeting, where you defined where you stand. If necessary, then I'd insist on just keeping things to a 'Hi, how's things?' type interaction, if you bump into each other in the street - but no visits permitted.

If he becomes trouble, consider whether other neighbours could be enlisted, to help support you both or request help from the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fill your own skip next time?"

I realise this is probably a jokey response but basically this is what women are up against all the time. You smile at a man and he thinks you want to fuck him. We have to be wary all the time, because of idiots like the OP's neighbour.

OP, I've had second thoughts. Find out why your neighbour's wife left him. He may be violent. I'm sure the police have a duty to tell you if he is a risk. Look up Clare's law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fill your own skip next time?

OP, I've had second thoughts. Find out why your neighbour's wife left him. He may be violent. I'm sure the police have a duty to tell you if he is a risk. Look up Clare's law. "

Ok it was a little flippant.

I have a wee doubt about the sincerity of thos post. But I take your point about the general culture

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I would discuss this with your local police as this is escalating and needs to be nipped in the bud.

Explain to them the time line of what has happened and take their advice.

Do not confront him on your own.

Speak to the police or even Women's Aid for advice.

This guy is crossing so many boundaries.

As someone else said, his ex may have left due to DV. Please protect yourself and your kids and report this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would only speak with him when he is sober, as his d*unken behaviour is inappropriate. I would keep the period of interaction short and to the point and make it explicitly clear that whilst you appreciate his past help and support, you don't want to mislead him, as you only want the friendship to be a neighbourly friendship. He will potentially be disappointed and upset but this is better than letting things continue, without a clear message. I'd also insist that he doesn't visit and wake you and your family up - by providing a clear definition of how/when you want to interact in future and that only that will be appropriate.

If he becomes trouble, consider whether other neighbours could be enlisted, to help support you both or request help from the police."

Thanks for the advice.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Some great advice, would also advise to go to the Police, also keep a diary of the harassment, film or record any interaction if you feel safe enough to do it, this can be used in evidence if it ever got to court over a he says, she says debate between solicitors.

Whatever you do stay within the law, especially if you've got someone else involved, last thing you need, him having an excuse to call the Police on you or a friend defending you.

Good luck OP XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fill your own skip next time?"

Years ago we could help our neighbours out without expecting anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the above, but maybe try a letter to him first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some great advice, would also advise to go to the Police, also keep a diary of the harassment, film or record any interaction if you feel safe enough to do it, this can be used in evidence if it ever got to court over a he says, she says debate between solicitors.

Whatever you do stay within the law, especially if you've got someone else involved, last thing you need, him having an excuse to call the Police on you or a friend defending you.

Good luck OP XX "

I've written everything down so far. I might try a letter through his door. Maybe seeing it in writing might help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fill your own skip next time?

Years ago we could help our neighbours out without expecting anything else."

Ah yes preditory behaviour by people is a recent development.....

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"All the above, but maybe try a letter to him first."

Don't because he could do you for Harassment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All the above, but maybe try a letter to him first.

Don't because he could do you for Harassment "

How would sending a letter be harassment

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Next time this bollicks appears tell him in your best voice to go take a running jump of dun laorie pier or you’ll have to deal with it yourself He’s an arsehole calling the gards won’t do a huge amount but if you have friends or your brother to kick the bejasus out of him. That usually works I know I’m not subtle but most Dubliners aren’t when it comes to shite like this. Take care and be safe

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If he repeats coming to you r home d*unk and banging the door, call 999 and tell them you are a lone woman with children and he is trying to break in.

Also tell the police. They will then have a record of it for future problems as the chances of this simply going away is very small.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time, answer the door with a bat. Ask him ; did you see the twat that’s just been banging on my door before you came? They was hammering the house down scaring myself and my kids and I’m going to smash their face through to make sure they doesn’t think they can’t think to do that is normal!

Or, tell him to stop knocking on now, it’s gone far enough or you’ll ask advice from the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he repeats coming to you r home d*unk and banging the door, call 999 and tell them you are a lone woman with children and he is trying to break in.

Also tell the police. They will then have a record of it for future problems as the chances of this simply going away is very small."

This, and ask the police for the incident number. If you have to call again, give the incident number so it all gets logged on one record. Unless this idiot has a total turnaround, which is rare, he won't stop and will likely escalate. Seen it too many times.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

The police are very good at giving a friendly word in these situations -you don't have to lay a charge -just say you are feeling a bit threatened by his behaviour being a single mum with kids kinda thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a bloody stalker to me. If hes not going to lisen to you at the door then he wouldnt if he got into your house. And being forced apon isnt nice. Next time call the police

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"If he repeats coming to you r home d*unk and banging the door, call 999 and tell them you are a lone woman with children and he is trying to break in.

Also tell the police. They will then have a record of it for future problems as the chances of this simply going away is very small.

Yep agree with this.

I wouldn't approach him face to face or by letter, as he sounds like a loon and will probably see this as encouragement.

Speak to the police, get all incidents logged and take their advice.

May also be worth checking your home security, making sure all doors and windows are secure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fill your own skip next time?

OP, I've had second thoughts. Find out why your neighbour's wife left him. He may be violent. I'm sure the police have a duty to tell you if he is a risk. Look up Clare's law. "

I saw a lady had a flat tyre on her car the outher day. I offered to fit the spare. She said no and waited for 4 hrs for the rac. I dont blame her. Its the society we live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PM me his number, I'll have a little chat with him in my roughest Scottish accent, it's worked before for a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fill your own skip next time?

OP, I've had second thoughts. Find out why your neighbour's wife left him. He may be violent. I'm sure the police have a duty to tell you if he is a risk. Look up Clare's law.

I saw a lady had a flat tyre on her car the outher day. I offered to fit the spare. She said no and waited for 4 hrs for the rac. I dont blame her. Its the society we live in. "

Yep sorry if my reply sounded arsey, it wasn't meant that way.

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By *r imp miss minxCouple
over a year ago

Colchester

Might be worth installing a camera too. Loads of different makes out there, be handy to have a recording of any possible further incidents to show the police. Just in case he denys it.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

There are also pleanty of charities and support groups who you can ask for advice, until then, don’t engage with him in any way, assume this will escalate and whatever you do, do it fast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're thinking the police will make it worse because you're afraid of what he will think of you after calling the police. You're afraid of running into him. You're afraid of upsetting him. He knows you have no man around because you accepted his offer to help you with your skip. He sees you as easily manipulated and fragile. This is exactly why he has chosen you.

The individual you are dealing with gets aroused by any kind of interaction with you, so the only way to deal with it is to make every interaction as painful as possible for him. Here are some actions you should/must take.

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

4. Have ZERO contact with this individual. Do NOT say hello to him. Do not be polite at all. Do not have a conversation with him. Do not answer any questions. The only words that should come out of your mouth are, "I'm calling the police" and "I told you to leave me the fuck alone!" and you should only raise your voice higher, don't change the words or say anything else.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're thinking the police will make it worse because you're afraid of what he will think of you after calling the police. You're afraid of running into him. You're afraid of upsetting him. He knows you have no man around because you accepted his offer to help you with your skip. He sees you as easily manipulated and fragile. This is exactly why he has chosen you.

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi". "

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely should NOT do.

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By *nderIwonder.Man
over a year ago

2nd City

Stop leading him on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely SHOULD do.

Yes, I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely should Not do.

Yes, I agree, my previous post was idiotic in the extreme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely SHOULD do.

Yes, I agree.

You know what, you're right. I now realise that I was just looking for attention and since I don't have the be balls to protect my own female relatives I just couldn't see past your suggestion even though I agreed with most of your comment. I apologise"

No worries, you are forgiven.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write him a letter saying that you consider his recent actions harassment, he caused distress to you and your children and you are telling him to stay away from you, your family and your home. Mention that the term harassment is used to cover the 'causing alarm or distress' offences under section 2 of the Protection from Harassment Act 1997, and that any further attempt at contact will result in you calling the police immediately.

Keep a copy, send it by Recorded Delivery so you have proof of posting and stick to your guns.

This worked for me btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop leading him on. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might be worth installing a camera too. Loads of different makes out there, be handy to have a recording of any possible further incidents to show the police. Just in case he denys it. "

Why should she have to pay out for cameras. This bloke should just clear off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely SHOULD do.

Yes, I agree.

No worries, you are forgiven. "

You're definitely a bit of a dick aren't you. You're right, I dont have the balls to do anything because I spent most of my life trying to get rid of them. But hey, why bother about a bit of transphobia and upsetting someone, just so long as your alpha Male side shines through and you come out on top.

And you're still wrong, only now you've shown you're a pillock too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be clear with this guy OP!

Look him straight in the eye, be assertive and say out loud “I’M NOTYOURWIFE!!”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely SHOULD do.

Yes, I agree.

You know what, you're right. I now realise that I was just looking for attention and since I don't have the balls to protect my own female relatives I just couldn't see past your suggestion even though I agreed with most of your comment. I apologise

No worries, you are forgiven.

And you're still wrong, only now you've shown you're a pillock too."

I understand why you turned to name-calling out of anger and bankruptcy, but what I don't understand is why are you are now craftily trying to redirect the conversation to talk about yourself and your personal identity struggles and self-inflicted-persecution complex as an alpha transgender at war with non-trans people. I don't give one damn about your transgenderism and I've made no comment concerning your gender. I do not subscribe to the binary masculinity paradigm of alpha vs beta. There are courageous people and there are cowards. If my masculinity can be assailed by you then I consider it fair game to suggest you grow a new pair and stop trying to make the conversion about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely SHOULD do.

Yes, I agree.

No worries, you are forgiven.

And you're still wrong, only now you've shown you're a pillock too.

Oh dear professor, I dont really give a fuck what you subscribe to, because you're nothing to me.

You describe me as a coward, but my circumstances prove otherwise, and I know that I more than overshadow gutless idiots like you. Try living a week in my shoes baby, I doubt you'd last a day.

I've finished interacting with you, so fill your boots. I'm sure you'll have more to say. Your type always do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Next time, answer the door with a bat. Ask him ; did you see the twat that’s just been banging on my door before you came? They was hammering the house down scaring myself and my kids and I’m going to smash their face through to make sure they doesn’t think they can’t think to do that is normal!

Or, tell him to stop knocking on now, it’s gone far enough or you’ll ask advice from the police.

Wish I could

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By *on Ryans ExpressMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Just tell him the truth!

Tell him he is making you feel uncomfortable and little intimidated and its best him really keeping some distance from you.

If he still persists then tell him you will be forced to call the police. He should get the message first time if not then follow through and call the police and see if they will have a word though it sounds like he hasn't broken the law yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him straight that you don’t appreciate people knocking on at daft o’clock and if he does it again your calling the police, Speak to another neighbor who your close too just in case he does it again someone you can call up for help who lives nearby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. CALL THE POLICE! You have children and their safety comes before this cunt's.

2. Get male relatives involved who can pay him a visit at night by banging on his door for a non-friendly chat.

3. Record if he comes to your door or approaches again.

5. Hire someone to beat him bloody for even saying "hi".

Points 2 & 5 are things you definitely SHOULD do.

Yes, I agree.

No worries, you are forgiven.

And you're still wrong, only now you've shown you're a pillock too.

Oh dear professor, I dont really give a fuck what you subscribe to, because you're nothing to me.

You describe me as a coward, but my circumstances prove otherwise, and I know that I more than overshadow gutless idiots like you. Try living a week in my shoes baby, I doubt you'd last a day.

I've finished interacting with you, so fill your boots. I'm sure you'll have more to say. Your type always do."

Sad attempt at entry level cheap psychology to bully me into silence. Of course I will, in all fairness, have more to say if you're also babbling and casting your clouds of fecal rain over. "Overshadow gutless idiots"? "Lasting a week in your shoes"?

Yawn! Nothing but further narcissistic reference to personal subjective affect and delusions of entitlement to legendary grandeur for surviving first world catastrophes....yet wouldn't even stick around to risk seeing my response to you. Adios Unlos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell him straight that you don’t appreciate people knocking on at daft o’clock and if he does it again your calling the police, Speak to another neighbor who your close too just in case he does it again someone you can call up for help who lives nearby "

Oh yes! Tell the other neighbours! That's actually a very good strategy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh yes! Tell the other neighbours! That's actually a very good strategy.

I might just try this

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I hope you get sorted! Some people don't take a hint. Some good advice. I like the chatting to other neighbours and keeping the police informed.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Its rather pathetic some people have advocated violence on this thread almost hypocritical looking at the green tick some people do really have an agenda on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've approached him today while he was out doing his garden and explained to him that he scared the kids the other night. I told him he scared them that bad that my brother has came to stay with us. He apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. So fingers crossed he has gotten the picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop answering the door for starters

If he bangs the door call the police surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've approached him today while he was out doing his garden and explained to him that he scared the kids the other night. I told him he scared them that bad that my brother has came to stay with us. He apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. So fingers crossed he has gotten the picture. "

If it's the picture in your avatar he'll be well chuffed.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just be aware it may not stop and you may have to involve police. Don't let your guard down. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"tell him to fuck off or your calling the police"

and try n record his actions too for evidence if you can, without him knowing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If it's the picture in your avatar he'll be well chuffed."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just be aware it may not stop and you may have to involve police. Don't let your guard down. X"

Oh I won't. I've wrote everything down so far. Trying to keep a record.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

That took some courage

I truly hope this has been sorted now for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That took some courage

I truly hope this has been sorted now for you. "

Oh here hoping. If not ill just go to the police and try sort it that way.

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over a year ago

That took some courage

I truly hope this has been sorted now for you.

Oh here hoping. If not ill just go to the police and try sort it that way. "

Good its best if you can keep the police out and it "unoffical" if you own the house as you will have to disclose this to any potential buyer otherwise.

"Btw one of the neighbours is a sex pest" is always gonna knock a few K off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That took some courage

I truly hope this has been sorted now for you.

Oh here hoping. If not ill just go to the police and try sort it that way.

Good its best if you can keep the police out and it "unoffical" if you own the house as you will have to disclose this to any potential buyer otherwise.

"Btw one of the neighbours is a sex pest" is always gonna knock a few K off"

Thanks

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By *ipmannMan
over a year ago

Cahir

I think the approach you took was the correct one. Face to face it's way better than any other method. Would always be very cautious of writing a letter of any type. The written word etc...

Well done to you to deal with it in the manner you did hopefully this will see an end to it.

If it was to happen again following on from this I would contact your local Gardai.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call the police and let them deal with it. He’s harassing you."

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the approach you took was the correct one. Face to face it's way better than any other method. Would always be very cautious of writing a letter of any type. The written word etc...

Well done to you to deal with it in the manner you did hopefully this will see an end to it.

If it was to happen again following on from this I would contact your local Gardai."

Thanks

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By *hebizCouple
over a year ago

dundalk

I'll go up and sit with your a few hours every night .??

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