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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can anyone explain what the spark is that someone is expecting after spending a few weeks getting turned on by messages and pics?

I met someone after chatting and the other person decided not to take it further as there was no spark?

Is it a female thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's that feeling of wanting to feel their naked body against mine.

If I don't get that feeling I'm not meeting them.

Men might call it something different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry. "

And nope, not a female thing. It’s a universal thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry.

And nope, not a female thing. It’s a universal thing. "

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's the chemistry you feel when you meet in person. When you look at them and are imagining undressing them and kissing them all over, to start with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it’s like an excited feeling, like when you first meet them you want to jump on their lap like a cat and just paw at them and rub yourself all over them and want to be stroked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's that feeling of wanting to feel their naked body against mine.

If I don't get that feeling I'm not meeting them.

Men might call it something different.

"

This.

For me, it’s the feeling that the person I’ve been chatting to is the same person I’m meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's when you kiss them and all you can think about is their kisses carrying on down your body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the same, can chat/message and get quite excited at the prospect of meeting.

Then on the day, nothing! No spark, chemistry, call it what you will, but when it’s not there sex is just perfunctory. No spark - No play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s knowing by looking into each other’s eyes that they either want you to rip their clothes off or be slow and sensual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a lot of things that you can't experience when you are only speaking to someone online. It's to do with the body language, tone of voice, mannerisms, how they behave, how they smell etc. You can get on great with somebody online, with their online personality, but once you meet them, you can tell you are not attracted to their real-life personality. Ergo- there is no 'spark' in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s what get the fire going. Without fire, no heat and cold meat (or is that meet)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll know it when you experience it. If you aren't sure if you have, then you haven't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s knowing by looking into each other’s eyes that they either want you to rip their clothes off or be slow and sensual "

Oooh, another great way of putting it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The spark is the grrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A spark shows some kind of electricity between people, chemistry and such. it’s there even when you try to deny it, and it’s not there sometimes when they wished it was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The spark is the grrrrrrrrrrr"

Unleash the inner beast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a physical reaction to someone's presence. Totally subconscious so impossible to articulate or force.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

It's not something I can explain how or why.

It just happens.

Can chat to some people really hit it off in messages but meet & feel nothing, walk away.

Others, it's just an overwhelming urge, it can take one look, a smile & ping!

It's rare, but when it happens it's amazing

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife

A kiss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to fancy them first ... then it’s in the kiss and conversation

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife


"I have to fancy them first ... then it’s in the kiss and conversation "

Not always true to how things work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to fancy them first ... then it’s in the kiss and conversation

Not always true to how things work out "

If I didn’t fancy them , I wouldn’t kiss them

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

The spark is when you decided beforehand it was going to be not yet, you get there and your whole body is screaming fuck yes now!!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Many years ago I chatted to a lovely chap, we had great chats on line and his persona was great but when I met him for a coffee I didn’t feel any urge to snog him or fancy him in any way, it was such a shame but that grrrrrrrr feeling just didn’t happen for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good feeling from both sides will become obvious, any doubts then go with your gut feeling

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Can anyone explain what the spark is that someone is expecting after spending a few weeks getting turned on by messages and pics?

I met someone after chatting and the other person decided not to take it further as there was no spark?

Is it a female thing?"

Ohhh I forgot to say no it’s not s female thing, on another site I was pursued by a much younger man, after quite a few months I agreed to meet him, we got 10 yards down the road and he asked me to stop the car because he just couldn’t do it, to be honest I was sooooo relieved

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

There's a certain feeling I get. .hard to explain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The spark is when you decided beforehand it was going to be not yet, you get there and your whole body is screaming fuck yes now!!"

But they are screaming "fuck... no way!!"

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By *e_jpMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Chemistry.

And nope, not a female thing. It’s a universal thing. "

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife


"I have to fancy them first ... then it’s in the kiss and conversation

Not always true to how things work out

If I didn’t fancy them , I wouldn’t kiss them "

Fancy?? There’s all different reasons for fancy or not I dunno compicated word !!! Find someone really attractive but don’t fancy them ?

Fancy = crush I dunno ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry.

And nope, not a female thing. It’s a universal thing.

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Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry.

And nope, not a female thing. It’s a universal thing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just think of someone you maybe had a social with and it went no further because you didn't want it too

Put the boot on the other foot kinda thing

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I would call it sexual chemistry.

The problem is that messages on here can be composed at leisure, think of the witty comment, the sexual messages that can turn the other on. When confronted with real life it is not always as easy.

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Spark is a euphemism for making her wet and tingly between her legs.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Can anyone explain what the spark is that someone is expecting after spending a few weeks getting turned on by messages and pics?

I met someone after chatting and the other person decided not to take it further as there was no spark?

Is it a female thing?"

Sex with a spark is like fireworks and popping candy.

Sex with no spark is like a bowl of cold white rice.

That's the difference.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

it means you fancy each other.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Is it only for the young though? Bit of eye contact then the hormones take over.

Lots of us oldies on the dating sites say ‘looking for the spark ‘ - perhaps it doesn’t exist?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it only for the young though? Bit of eye contact then the hormones take over.

Lots of us oldies on the dating sites say ‘looking for the spark ‘ - perhaps it doesn’t exist?"

it does, it just takes a little longer to ignite and is maybe more subtle and erotic

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

It’s the natural connection

Without it there isn’t any point.

Mrs M

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