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Being a Loner

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By *tephTV67 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I happily class myself as the above, it’s a word that unfortunately has had the worst type of crimes attributed to it. Often when someone does a mass shooting in the US it’s reported that the Man, was a loner who spent too much time in his bedroom on the web.

For me however it’s nice to feel comfortable on my own, not having to make conversation or keep someone else happy. Going on Holiday last year on my own was so liberating and exciting, especially as I would often change plans as I felt that morning.

Does anyone else feel the same, find the word ‘Loner’ as ‘Billy no mates’ or ‘Newly liberated’

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

Darlaston

Yeah I'm a loner so leave me the fuck alone i do what I like when I like and with who the fuck I like but most of all I'm happy I'm my own world

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Yes I'm a loner I can be loaned out to anyone

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

I’m very happy with myself and my moggy

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I love my freedom and doing what i want. Don't get why there'sastigma to not being extrovert or social?

After coming from a large family, then having a wild youth, then bringing up 4 kids, alone time is great.

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I found being alone more is actually great that hardly anyone knows where I live. When I go away i head to my exs house and hide there too while he's working.

I did all the social stuff with friends and most of the time it was a massive headache.

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By *tephTV67 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Thanks for the replies, I came out of a 16 year relationship so I know how it feels to be comfortable in a relationship, but the freedom I feel now to actually feel comfortable and confident on my own is quite surprising and enjoyable. Although I do miss the cuddles and intimate chat. Role on July for my next solo journey abroad

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Yes I'm a loner I can be loaned out to anyone "

Made me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer my own company and don’t have a best friend. I chose to be like this because of my bipolar. Apart from dogs and hubby I’m happy with my life. I love weekends away alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I happily class myself as the above, it’s a word that unfortunately has had the worst type of crimes attributed to it. "

I think gang crimes tend to be a lot worse in scale and number.

It isnt "loners" abduxting entire busses of people and making them fight to the death in the Mexican desert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I describe myself is a gregarious extroverted hermit but unless you know me very well personally (and I'm not to up for that in any part of my life really) then you wouldn't know I'm incredibly quiet and love, as in prefer, doing things on my own!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I like both sides if the coin I enjoy my own company but also like to socialise. I spend lots of time with the family so me time is really important for my sanity.

I don't know if I'm really a loner tho as I've never got the chance to find out.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I used to be a loner before I met my ex.. And I'm falling back into it again. There are times when it's difficult, but thankfully those aren't as often as what I expected.

Difference between being alone and lonely.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're loners if it's possible for couples to be. We have friends but nobody would describe us a gregarious.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m a loner. I’m very unsociable.

Mostly due to shyness and not being arsed.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Loneliness has followed me my whole life, everywhere. In bars,cars,sidewalks,stores, everywhere. There's no escape. I'm gods lonely man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm not a loner. I have 8 cats, 4 donkeys, 2 alpacas and 6 Shetland ponies for company, plus an motley assortment of other waifs and strays. I'm never short of an intelligent conversation, or an audience for my appallingly bad accordion playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like both sides if the coin I enjoy my own company but also like to socialise. I spend lots of time with the family so me time is really important for my sanity.

I don't know if I'm really a loner tho as I've never got the chance to find out."

I think thats just being normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lone wolf

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Im comfortable in my own company and am a bit on the quiet side. But I wouldn't class my self as unsociable or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much same here, I’m more than comfortable on my own, had a few holidays on my own too, loved them. I have a GF now, but get plenty of time to myself still.

I Don’t have any close friends, it’s not that I can’t, I just choose not too. Friendship seems over rated in my book, certainly to that extent.

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail


"I’m a loner. I’m very unsociable.

Mostly due to shyness and not being arsed."
Ditto to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a semi loner, due to people, life, the world tiring me out.

I feel at my most comfortable when I'm in my bedroom, on my own.

As a child I spent a lot of time reading in my room, when I was at home. I did spend a lot of time out with my best friend though.

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By *tephTV67 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I'm a semi loner, due to people, life, the world tiring me out.

I feel at my most comfortable when I'm in my bedroom, on my own.

As a child I spent a lot of time reading in my room, when I was at home. I did spend a lot of time out with my best friend though."

I spent a lot of time reading as well, the song by Simon and Garfunkel I am a Rock, used to make me feel ok about being alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a semi loner, due to people, life, the world tiring me out.

I feel at my most comfortable when I'm in my bedroom, on my own.

As a child I spent a lot of time reading in my room, when I was at home. I did spend a lot of time out with my best friend though.

I spent a lot of time reading as well, the song by Simon and Garfunkel I am a Rock, used to make me feel ok about being alone "

I used to listen to a Simon and Garfunkel cassette a lot, in my room.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Nothing wrong with being on your own once and while it makes you appreciate the company or friends when you are around them.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Depends on your definition of loner I guess, I would say I'm something of a loner. Generally happiest in my own company, most people annoy me and most of the time I don't want to have company at all. However it's nice to know someone cares and to share some experiences with someone, I wouldn't want to always be alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isnt that why we're all here. Company, but at arms length. You can shut off the people at any minute and be alone, without the rudeness of having to tell guests to bugger off out your house.

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By *tephTV67 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It’s already been quoted on this thread, but in the film ‘Heat’ Robert de Niro character says ‘I’m alone,not lonely’

I think that’s apt for the majority on here that have contributed. It’s certainly how I feel currently. I suppose I hope that we all feel a certain amount of happiness in our solitude and it’s nice to know I’m not alone, in a slightly ironic way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the lonely....

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I’m a loner. I’m very unsociable.

Mostly due to shyness and not being arsed."

I know that feeling, some people just ain't worth your time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love our little bubble, we can see out but can be hard for others to enter into it & that’s the way we like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s already been quoted on this thread, but in the film ‘Heat’ Robert de Niro character says ‘I’m alone,not lonely’

I think that’s apt for the majority on here that have contributed. It’s certainly how I feel currently. I suppose I hope that we all feel a certain amount of happiness in our solitude and it’s nice to know I’m not alone, in a slightly ironic way "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely I enjoy my own company and the time flies by sometimes. Some people I know can't bear to spend one night by themselves which I couldn't imagine. It helps when you like reading, gaming and watching various things. Also important to collect your thoughts in the quieter moments and make plans.

It's a pet hate hate of mine that people who often keep to themselves are categorized as 'for the watching' and when someone who is extremeably sociable does something horrific it comes as a shock to people. I think it's that kind of ignorant thinking that leads to many of us being withdrawn in the first place.

That being said being around others who you like and feel comfortable with is probably the best feeling you can get.

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