FabSwingers.com forum: ‘It’s not cheating’

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had someone I know outwith fab explain how him wanting to watch me fuck myself on cam isn’t cheating on his girlfriend because ‘it’s like porn, everyone watches it’. I did say it’s different to porn...but ah well.

What ‘it’s not cheating’ excuses have you heard/been told?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eating is not cheating!!

No wait! Yes it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Eating is not cheating!!

No wait! Yes it is. "

Eatings cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of men have difficulty telling the difference between porn and reality, you see it on here all the time

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone. "

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate "

If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate

If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.

But to elaborate...

men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating

women - the fact you even think about it is cheating

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate

If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.

Yep I agree with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porn is unemotional, no human interaction going on. The second minds are melding, I'd consider it emotional cheating and not feel comfortable.

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By *ickeyblueeyes7Man
over a year ago

newport

What did Bill Clinton say when he was caught with his cock in that woman’s mouth

“I did not have any sexual relationship with this woman” so getting a bj is not cheating accordingly to him

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone. "

If it was in the chat room for example and loads of people was watching then I would agree, If it was a one on one and just for you then I would class that as a form of cheating

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By *moelmoCouple
over a year ago

berkshire

For my husband cheating would be an emotional connection with someone and sex with someone behind his back. (We only swing together)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This hasn’t gone as lighthearted as I hoped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate

If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.

100% true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet in person as a couple but my wife likes chatting to guys on line and talking dirty and more but I know about this and more than happy so don’t class that as cheating but I guess if we had never discussed it and she was havenig phone sex with guys I would feel hurt. As with all this in a relationship nothing that’s kept a secret can be productive so honest is always best policy

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

I had one. If I just touch you boobs while I wank, that's not cheating right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had one. If I just touch you boobs while I wank, that's not cheating right!

Gotta give top marks for trying lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not cheating because we were on a break!!!!

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"I had one. If I just touch you boobs while I wank, that's not cheating right!

Gotta give top marks for trying lol"

God loves a tryer

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"This hasn’t gone as lighthearted as I hoped "

Sadly cheating or not threads have a tendency to go moralistic ...

Has anyone heard the excuse "I was thinking about you at the time"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

‘She fucked me, therefore I didn’t fuck her and it’s not cheating’

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate

If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.

But to elaborate...

men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating

women - the fact you even think about it is cheating"

I’m sure his girlfriend would use his balls as earrings if she knew.

I’ve not experienced any reasoning like that, thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching porn isn’t cheating, watching someone on fab playing on cam is I don’t know, if he’s got a profile on here without my knowledge then yes I’d be upset but just watching someone playing wouldn’t necessarily be cheating. I just don’t know!

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Sexual physical contact is cheating, watching someone perform on cam is not. How would you enjoy a film? if your partner says you can't watch that because the woman or man in the movie is performing a sex act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexual physical contact is cheating, watching someone perform on cam is not. How would you enjoy a film? if your partner says you can't watch that because the woman or man in the movie is performing a sex act."

I actually knew one woman who’d turn the Channel over if sex was on incase her husband was watching!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eating is not cheating!!

No wait! Yes it is.

Eatings cheating

I'm single so none of it is cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a guy wanting to take me for a meal etc,spend a night in his hotel room (not reading!)As long as we don't kiss because he's married and that would feel like he was being unfaithful !?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman is constantly texting her ex that's ok. If a man does it he's cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you use a glory hole and don't see the person, is that cheating!

asking for a friend..

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"If a woman is constantly texting her ex that's ok. If a man does it he's cheating. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's not 100% cheating but would she approve? If you are in a relationship you should know if they would mind. If my wife was on cam performing I would fuck her hard for him to watch if I caught her. But I know if it was the other way round she would freak.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's not 100% cheating but would she approve? If you are in a relationship you should know if they would mind. If my wife was on cam performing I would fuck her hard for him to watch if I caught her. But I know if it was the other way round she would freak. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also yes I think it’s cheating - I’ve known him for years, we’ve met up, he has a girlfriend and a baby, I asked him if he’d tell her he was watching porn and he said yes. Asked if he would tell her he was watching me and he said no. Clearly a difference

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If you have to hide it from yr partner,its cheating

Doesn't have to be the actual physical act.

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By *e_jpMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Also yes I think it’s cheating - I’ve known him for years, we’ve met up, he has a girlfriend and a baby, I asked him if he’d tell her he was watching porn and he said yes. Asked if he would tell her he was watching me and he said no. Clearly a difference "

Completely agree. If you feel you can’t be honest about something, then there’s something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This hasn’t gone as lighthearted as I hoped "

When has cheating ever been a lighthearted topic on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have to hide it from yr partner,its cheating

Doesn't have to be the actual physical act."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not cheating if the lights are off.

It's not cheating if you don't enjoy it.

It's not cheating if you're being fucked while bent over a sink and watching him in the mirror behind you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually knew one woman who’d turn the Channel over if sex was on incase her husband was watching! "

Went out with a girl like that for years, she was cheating the whole time.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Still, don't see it as cheating but will create awkward situation especially when you know each other which depend on what type of bond you have a fun, liberated or conservative friendship. As long as your intentions are clear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not cheating if the lights are off.

It's not cheating if you don't enjoy it.

It's not cheating if you're being fucked while bent over a sink and watching him in the mirror behind you."

It’s only cheating if I cum

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By *arly StagesCouple
over a year ago

Penwortham

If it's something you can't tell your other half about without them being upset and/or giving consent to, then that is cheating.

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By *arly StagesCouple
over a year ago

Penwortham

Or in a more light hearted vein, it's not cheating as long you think of her on the final vinegar stroke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re here for NSA sex. It’s up to the person who wants to play with us as to what they define as cheating.

We aren’t anyone else’s moral compass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate

If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.

But to elaborate...

men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating

women - the fact you even think about it is cheating"

Hahaha!

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

"If it's something you can't tell your other half about without them being upset and/or giving consent to, then that is cheating. "

I believe your partner does not have to know everything as long as you did not cross the boundary of your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This has been a really fun thread. Glad I posted it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not cheating if you call your lover by your wife’s name

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not cheating if your eyes are closed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not cheating if I wank and cum on your glasses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s not cheating if it’s a birthday

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"It’s not cheating if it’s a birthday "

What about of it's his / her wedding anniversary?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s not cheating if it’s a birthday

What about of it's his / her wedding anniversary?"

Also not cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right? "

Good call

And we know manual handling / oral is not cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

Good call

And we know manual handling / oral is not cheating"

As long as you signed a disclaimer you're good to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone. "

I disagree. Watching porn is watching someone playing to a mass audience. One on one cam is watching someone wank for you exclusively. To me, even talking dirty to someone who is not your partner, behind your partner's back, is a form of cheating, because it is a form of deception. I wonder if the wife would think that it was fine and see it the same as porn. People should just own their behaviour and not try to excuse it. Just reminds me of a scene from Inbetweeners the movie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right? "

That really tickled me

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

That really tickled me

One of those condoms was it?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I can understand what your friend is saying.

In my opinion watching someone on camera or performing for someone on camera is a great aphrodisiac. My definition of cheating would be having sex with someone.

Does cheating have to be a physical thing? I could argue both sides of this debate

If you engage in any activity with someone else and exclude your partner and they don't know about it.

But to elaborate...

men - as long as feelings aren't involved it isn't cheating

women - the fact you even think about it is cheating"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right? "

Especially if you have a raging bucket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

That really tickled me

One of those condoms was it?

He must have been French.

Noooo, I don't mean F&B.... French tickler is where I'm going with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

That really tickled me

Takes a fuckin bow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

Especially if you have a raging bucket "

Would he need to be a raging bull?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

Especially if you have a raging bucket

Would he need to be a raging bull? "

Yes.

And the partners would be raging too. Until the situation was clearly explained to them, and they realised it wasn’t cheating

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

You can take this argument down to the nth degree, and where you end up is that even thinking about sex with someone else (likely or not) is infidelity, and yet everyone does it.

If only there was some solution to this, eh swinging website?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

Especially if you have a raging bucket

Would he need to be a raging bull?

Yes.

And the partners would be raging too. Until the situation was clearly explained to them, and they realised it wasn’t cheating"

They're mature students and it was a sex education lesson.

#notcheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he wore a condom, in theory it didn't touch so that's not cheating right?

Especially if you have a raging bucket "

I so need that to be my next profile name.

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

Well if I had a girlfriend and I found out she was watching videos of my friends wanking off I wouldn't be to impressed. Something random on porn hub, I wouldn't care less.

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