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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We love a ffm meet but find it hard sometimes for single women to even reply!! Is this because your getting hammered with msgs by fakes? And time wasters?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Maybe the ones you're messaging aren't interested?

Couples aren't entitled to a reply any more than single men are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kind of messages are you sending her? Are you putting thought into it?

What goes for single men round here, works the same way for everyone else worth meeting.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Most will read a profile before deciding whether to message back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I get a message I look at the profile first and it quite often decides for me if I'm going to be attracted to them. It would take a very impressive message to sway me once that decision is made.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Whenever I get a message I look at the profile first and it quite often decides for me if I'm going to be attracted to them. It would take a very impressive message to sway me once that decision is made. "

This. I probably weigh the message itself higher than many, but I weigh the profile as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People arent all fakes and timewasters, just people that aren't suitable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same advice that applies to single guys.

You make your own luck on fab. If your messages don't work, change your message. If that doesn't change, look at your profile.

Single women are still people, not a plaything for couples or a receptacle for guys.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Same advice that applies to single guys.

You make your own luck on fab. If your messages don't work, change your message. If that doesn't change, look at your profile.

Single women are still people, not a plaything for couples or a receptacle for guys."

Goes for everyone. I've had some meet requests from single women that start out by insulting me. They don't get far

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most will read a profile before deciding whether to message back. "

Ok our profile is short! Should you give everything away before even meeting? Some women are rude and just read msg and then delete it! We’re a polite genuine couple! Do u think women even men and couples look at your verifications and that puts them off? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love a ffm meet but find it hard sometimes for single women to even reply!! Is this because your getting hammered with msgs by fakes? And time wasters? "

Yep. It's very frustrating

Plus also in some cases,If they have a fuck buddy such as I do,they/I would like to bring them for the first meet even on the social.As you know for safety in numbers. That how I find out more about the "couple" as if they are genuine they will understand.but if it's just a bloke pretending to be a couple then it's a problem.

Like I won't just land up with my FWB.plus alot also end up been just a texting session with no results. And also afew single female have had bad experiences with couples due to the fact it is very seldom actually what the female of the couple want and is only doing it to shut the husband or fella up.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Most will read a profile before deciding whether to message back.

Ok our profile is short! Should you give everything away before even meeting? Some women are rude and just read msg and then delete it! We’re a polite genuine couple! Do u think women even men and couples look at your verifications and that puts them off? x"

That's not rude. That's the way it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same advice that applies to single guys.

You make your own luck on fab. If your messages don't work, change your message. If that doesn't change, look at your profile.

Single women are still people, not a plaything for couples or a receptacle for guys."

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Most will read a profile before deciding whether to message back.

Ok our profile is short! Should you give everything away before even meeting? Some women are rude and just read msg and then delete it! We’re a polite genuine couple! Do u think women even men and couples look at your verifications and that puts them off? x"

Again, the same thing most on here would say to a single male.

Read the site faqs, not replying to messages is covered in there.

I would suggest you ask for profile advice or do a forum search for it. We are forbidden to give unsolicited advice so I can't comment further on this but as others have said most women read a profile and look at the pictures before deciding to reply.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Most will read a profile before deciding whether to message back.

Ok our profile is short! Should you give everything away before even meeting? Some women are rude and just read msg and then delete it! We’re a polite genuine couple! Do u think women even men and couples look at your verifications and that puts them off? x

Again, the same thing most on here would say to a single male.

Read the site faqs, not replying to messages is covered in there.

I would suggest you ask for profile advice or do a forum search for it. We are forbidden to give unsolicited advice so I can't comment further on this but as others have said most women read a profile and look at the pictures before deciding to reply."

This.

Generic advice below.

It's not how long/short a profile is.

It's the whole package. Profile text. Pictures (of both parties clearly showing full bodies rather than just the female or close ups). Clear explanations as to what's being looked for, preferences and boundaries. Veris too.

Women looking to meet couples will have plenty of choice so can be choosy. They'll want as much to go on as possible. If it's not clear why should they be expected to be interested rather than move on to another profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love a ffm meet but find it hard sometimes for single women to even reply!! Is this because your getting hammered with msgs by fakes? And time wasters? "

Do you properly read profiles first ... Not every single woman wants to meet couples

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Also for what it's worth, I have ups and downs on messages. Sometimes (generally not specifically) either the profile or the message will make me say no, regardless of what I do or don't have lined up. I have lines in the sand.

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