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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because it gets so sensitive your body involuntary holds you back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t cum through oral and I don’t cum if someone else is tugging so I’d say it’s not you

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By *eldomVanillaMan
over a year ago

London

Never had that problem myself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

My FB is great at it. She always makes me cum. For me it needs to be wet with lots of attention to the head not the shaft.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

I cum very intensely through oral, especially if there other stimulation happening at the same time

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'm the opposite and can easily cum from a good blow job

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

I don’t usually have any issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to find it hard still do i think its in the head personally like performance anxiety need to relax and not forse it just enjoy

Altho some guys will use it to make girls competitive so they wanna be the special one

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By *he witch returnsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

Never had the problem when giving oral.

No complaints.

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By *hrekfionaCouple
over a year ago

Leven

I have this talk with my other half all the time, I could be down sucking him off for aaaagggeeessss and nothing, I find it frustrating and like I'm doing something wrong, he assures me I'm not though! Yet I've been with other guys as soon as it's in my mouth they are blowing everywhere

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"I have this talk with my other half all the time, I could be down sucking him off for aaaagggeeessss and nothing, I find it frustrating and like I'm doing something wrong, he assures me I'm not though! Yet I've been with other guys as soon as it's in my mouth they are blowing everywhere

Then there is nothing wrong with your techniques Fiona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had the problem when giving oral.

No complaints.

I’ve never met a man who couldn’t. But there are women who say they can’t too. Everyone’s different I guess.

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By *heekysmile42Man
over a year ago

Bridgend

It takes me ages but the orgasm at the end is so worth it and also....... extremely loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can cum from oral, but not with anyone. Had a few women unable to do it, had some that eventually got there and a few when I just could do nothing but cum.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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Only ever happened once before.

Don’t even get near, otherwise.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I prefer to come through wanking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

My FB is great at it. She always makes me cum. For me it needs to be wet with lots of attention to the head not the shaft. "

I'm hard now

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

I (dude) can Pretty much cum on demand! I cum during oral if that’s all I’m getting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It takes me ages but the orgasm at the end is so worth it and also....... extremely loud

You’re not farting at the same time are you

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Too much teeth usually kills it for me

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

Giving oral is an art form and like all art what's good is subjective. Some men enjoy more vigorous Bj's and get off from them while others prefer a more sensual approach. Some just climax as soon as your mouth wraps around them while some take longer or can't. If the man just can't through oral but can through intercourse I think it's a mental factor inhibiting him.

I can always clinax through oral and it feels amazing. Luckily I can restrain myself to last longer or just let go to be faster. Depends on the setting and frame of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only been able to do it if the woman can go quite deep. Just sucking on the head doesn’t work

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had an ex who can’t stand oral either!

Someone years ago bit his cock by accident while doing the deed and put him off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cum during oral, takes longer but well worth it

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I had an ex who can’t stand oral either!

Someone years ago bit his cock by accident while doing the deed and put him off

That would certainly be traumatic

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Of all the meets we’ve had in the eight years or so swinging we’ve only come across one guy who couldn’t cum from a bj from my wife ( using her hands too sometimes ) , and he admitted afterwards that he was a habitual wanker and had been for over 15 years . Up to eight times a day !

So that would be well in excess of a thousand guys that CAN cum from a bj . The ones that say they can’t will find it’s either from too much self stimulation , too many mind games going on , or too much trying to hold back so they can fuck .

Proof of this is that I’ve had so much sex over the years , you name it , I’ve done it , and most things a few times just to be sure . And I cum from a bj every time , no problem because I don’t worry about anything and appreciate that men and women who go to the trouble to suck my dick deserve a happy ending .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of those things, just like women don't always cum through "classic" intercourse. Sometimes the stimulation isn't there or we're just too stressed or tired. Speaking personally, it helps if my balls are being fondled or you're teasing my perineum. That adds to the feeling!

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

All depends on who s doing it and the situation and my mood mind set I guess

Not ashamed to admit in some cases I've blown in mins others I've held back and enjoyed for ages like all sex I guess some people are beter at some things and sometimes we get carried away other times were more controlled

The variation makes it interesting lol

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I usually can't. There's only been one woman who could make me cum that way, and even with her it took a long time - first I had to get used to the idea that she loved it and wasn't just doing it because she thought all men like it.

Also, not all women do it well. For me the sensitive is the head, and particularly the bit just underneath it. If you ignore those bits I'm not going to feel much.

I also have a problem with not being able to just lie there and take it. My hands want to get busy too. If I can hear and feel her getting turned on, that turns me on too. It does often lead to her getting too distracted to continue working on me, but that's not a problem

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Very rarely from a one off or first couple of times with someone. With a bit of communication and some preferred technique then I can.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

I suspect a lot of the 'I can't/I've never cum through oral' posts may be a sly ploy to get volunteers to test the theory.

Call me a cynic, but.......

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

I suspect a lot of the 'I can't/I've never cum through oral' posts may be a sly ploy to get volunteers to test the theory.

Call me a cynic, but.......

A"
dam I never thought of that I take back what I said earlier I never cum with oral yet lol x

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

No problem normally

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Different strokes for different folks

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again, some women from here have made me come from a blow job.

Some have made me so sensitive I just wanna curl up like a little boy and hug myself.

Some just didn’t make me come

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By *heekysmile42Man
over a year ago

Bridgend

"You’re not farting at the same time are you

it’s all orgasm, honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like a mouthful of jizz, so as long as we both still enjoy it, all good

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I used to be very sensitive and cum easily and quite quickly.. it takes a bit longer now and I like a more vigorous approach... it's a two way street...if the woman likes sucking cock she can have a longer more enjoyable experience..but if she wants to suck me to competition just up the tempo and play a bit rougher

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it mind over matter with the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'The ones that say they can’t will find it’s either from too much self stimulation , too many mind games going on , or too much trying to hold back so they can fuck .'

I think you summed it up there. Internet porn especially is a part of so many men's lives now that the mouth, or even the vagina, doesn't feel anywhere near as intense as the firm grip many guys use. A bad habit formed in the teenage years when we were trying to knock one off as quickly as possible as not to get caught

Limiting self stimulation to a couple of times a week and taking a gently-does-it approach (with lube preferably) will help the sensitivity. Either that or carry on and last a lot longer during intercourse, but with a fraction of the pleasure.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

"I find it mind over matter with the guy. "

Is that you don't mind and he don't matter or it doesn't matter to him that you mind?

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

I always cum through oral too.

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

This is something Mr GR and I were talking about a few nights ago.

He doesn't recall the last time he actually came from purely oral action.

Hes got one clear memory of it almost twenty years ago and that's it since then.

Ms GR

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By *aureanShadowMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

Very rare that I come through oral.. maybe 5 times in my whole life max, I do enjoy it... lots! Just doesn’t seem to get me over the finish line.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"'The ones that say they can’t will find it’s either from too much self stimulation , too many mind games going on , or too much trying to hold back so they can fuck .'

Not so. I abstain from pleasuring myself, the mind is completey clear too. My issue is, after several minutes I get overly sensitive... this then alternates to becoming desensitised.

I can’t win!

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"'The ones that say they can’t will find it’s either from too much self stimulation , too many mind games going on , or too much trying to hold back so they can fuck .'

Not so. I abstain from pleasuring myself, the mind is completely clear too. My issue is, after several minutes I get overly sensitive... this then alternates to becoming desensitised. Therefore it’s purely physical.

I can’t win!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Never had the problem when giving oral.

No complaints.

I’ve never met a man who couldn’t. But there are women who say they can’t too. Everyone’s different I guess. "

I’m ashamed to say I’m a little selfish!

I’m happy to finish a guy off in my mouth when we’ve fucked for ages - but at the beginning - during foreplay - though I most definitely want that cock in my mouth for a while - I don’t want him to cum because I want to be fucked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

Hard to say. Give it a whirl and I'll tell you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, you've exposed my limited knowledge of the problem here. Certainly some form of erectile dysfunction here but not one I've come across googling before. If it's not through self pleasure, it maybe the mind playing tricks or some underlying health issue. I would look into it more if I were you.

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

it does happen at times even in full intercourse.....aint had no complaints lol

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I like oral, but I rarely cum through it.

It doesn't bother me, there are plenty of other ways to cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to find it hard still do i think its in the head personally like performance anxiety need to relax and not forse it just enjoy

Altho some guys will use it to make girls competitive so they wanna be the special one"

Fell for this a couple of times

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

the force is strong .......lol no cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U dont need to cum to enjoy yourself tho anyway

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Never cum through giving a woman oral, got the odd erection that is close to exploding.

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Technique is a huge part. Just sucking and looking like you would rather be catching a no 52 bus just doesn’t cut it!

Using your hands, playing with the shaft, balls and ass cheeks whilst looking up and making enjoyable noises certainly does it for me!

I am sure a lot of the ladies that say they have never come through Oral is down to poor technique also. I love receiving and giving oral, continuing to improve my technique at all times.

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

I’ve never known a man not cum from a blow job. So due to the fact that I’m not arrogant enough to think I’m Ms Queen BJ, I tend to assume the stories of not achieving it are complete codswollop and it’s just something guys say to boost a gal’s confidence.

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

"I’ve never known a man not cum from a blow job. So due to the fact that I’m not arrogant enough to think I’m Ms Queen BJ, I tend to assume the stories of not achieving it are complete codswollop and it’s just something guys say to boost a gal’s confidence. "

I agree, well said.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's only happened twice for me, but there was nothing wrong with anybody else's technique - I've enjoyed every one of them.

I just don't come.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Or maybe we're all different.

I'm not that keen on blowjobs, and I've definitely met women who think that theirs will somehow change my mind. I'm not sure why we can't all treat each other like adults and find things we enjoy together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I don’t want him to cum. I want to stimulate. Be intimate with him.

He is good at knowing why I’ve got his cock in my mouth.

I always know when he is close. “Who you must be so clever”. Not really he has a certain twitch

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

wigan

You also have loads that advertise that they can’t at the off chance that someone might offer to try..... yep, exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

Hard to say. Give it a whirl and I'll tell you..

Let’s do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m finding this more and more and especially reading some recent threads that men don’t cum through oral.

Is it because it’s been done wrong or what??

I don’t cum very often through oral. Mainly because I want to save it so I can continue the fun. But sometimes it isn’t being done in such a way that will make me cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst on medication a while ago could only cum through oral, could bang away for hours with out getting anywhere until it went in mouth then within a few minutes would blow

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I love getting sucked. But I've only cum 3 times ever from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can but have trained myself not to. When im horny my first load is pretty voluminous, and I've only ever been with one woman that got real pleasure from swallowing it. I feel guilty if they they try and do it just to make me happy, when I can see and hear how much they are struggling and gagging.... That ruins the pleasure for me.... so I hold back and let them enjoy the sucking then pull out and either move on with foreplay, or cum where they want me to... for the subsequent loads it's easier for them to spit or swallow so I'll let myself cum within an appropriate timeframe..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently I have never cum from anyone give me a blowjob and it's not because they're not doing it right all that I'm not enjoying I've been very close but nothing more than that, it's just I don't have that extra little bit to push me over the edge st the right time that's all

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