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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off?

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

You need to walk a mile in our moccasins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one of those. I apologise if it turns you off but it ensures (sort of) that I get the guys I want to meet messaging me.

It's really easy to press the browser back or block button and I won't be in your search again.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

They generally have their reasons, but if I see a profile full of dos and don'ts I generally walk on by.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? "

There are plenty of demanding profiles from women, couples and believe it or not men too.

It helps people be clear about what they want.

Demanding isn't a good word but the concept isn't bad

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? "

After the millioneth boring, dull, faf message, woman tend to get annoyed and this shows in thier profile. It does ware you down, repeatedly getting stupid messages from guys who havent read your profile. So rude and demanding they may be, but its understandable. If you don't like it, move on and ignore them profiles.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? "

A lot of people show ignorance with somebody else's profile. Their mindset is for themselfs not the person who's profile pictures they're looking at and what they want from this site! ....

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Everyone is entitled to use this site in the way that they want too, provided it's within the rules.

If you come across a profile that you don't like then walk on by, or block them. There really is no point disagreeing with the way they do their swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say ours was particularly demanding (you may disagree of course). We have just stated as eloquently and succinctly as possibly our likes, dislikes and desires.

If it comes across as demanding we apologise unreservedly but won't be amending it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on we you mean demanding..we have things set out on our profile to save everyone, that might want to contact us, time..What we are looking for and how we work..Otherwise we would just get lots of messages each day asking the same things.Like I'm free now, fancy a meet..and stuff like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were a man I would waltz right past those profiles, unless they had more about who they were and what they can offer.

Being a woman on here for almost 7 years I know how selfish and lack lustre men can be, regarding giving as much as they get, so I don't blame women for putting their wants on their profile.

If it was one long list of demands I would dodge though.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sometimes you get vile messages, or bad socials and meets. You begin to realise many guys see this site as "free whores" so you build a profile to put them off and add filters etc. It's self protection. The idea is to create something that interests the type of person you'd like to meet and turns off others.

The ratio is about 50-1 on here so inundated is an understatement.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Yes I walk away esp WHEN THERE'S LOTS OF CAPS being used.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I do find some (and as other have noted, couples and guys too) to be quite aggressive. It is of course possible to be clear about the kind of things that you look for in a positive and inviting way.

People have different approaches I guess, just think of it as a way of easily filtering out the people that you might not get along with in any case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a couple's profile reads like they only want an extra body part I skip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? "

Yes. Demanding profiles certainly put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones I think are a piss take are the women and couples who only meet in nice hotels (paid for by the men), want wining and dining and a little gift brought to make them feel special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? "

It can be a major turn off, at the same time they are only expressing what their preferences are which they are entitled to do. Saves a lot of wasted time.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. "

If you don't take the site or yourself too seriously you'll be ok.

Works for me x

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

For what it's worth, all the single ladies who have posted so far here don't have rude and demanding profiles. They know what they want and why in hell should they have to compromise their integrity and intimacy for some pointless fuck that they're better off not having when they can wank themselves senseless better than a shit fuck can pump and unload after a few minutes despite all the the talk and machismo of how they're the best thing ever to exist...

Oops.. Ranted a little.

Mwah

Ms GR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. "

Just in case all the aggressive, arsey women decide to message you en masse?

Wise move OP

You cant be too careful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

For what it's worth, all the single ladies who have posted so far here don't have rude and demanding profiles. They know what they want and why in hell should they have to compromise their integrity and intimacy for some pointless fuck that they're better off not having when they can wank themselves senseless better than a shit fuck can pump and unload after a few minutes despite all the the talk and machismo of how they're the best thing ever to exist...

Oops.. Ranted a little.

Mwah

Ms GR "

Blimey! Blocked!! .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. "

It's a vicious circle. Quite a few of the guys who send annoying messages are probably tired of getting no response, seeing their messages deleted unread or being turned down. In the same way that the demanding, aggressive and arsey women are tired of the annoying messages.

I think we'd all do well to realise that behind each message, profile and forum post there's a sentient human being.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Just in case all the aggressive, arsey women decide to message you en masse?

Wise move OP

You cant be too careful"

Very true.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

You should see the women behind said profiles Op -full of independent thoughts, needs, wants, expectations and standards -my god you wouldn't believe that they were sentient would ya?

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town


"

Blimey! Blocked!! . "

That's OK, you wouldn't have been able to message me anyway

Mwah

Ms GR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off?

It can be a major turn off, at the same time they are only expressing what their preferences are which they are entitled to do. Saves a lot of wasted time. "

Exactly x

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

You actually read them?.....'kin 'ell !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

It's a vicious circle. Quite a few of the guys who send annoying messages are probably tired of getting no response, seeing their messages deleted unread or being turned down. In the same way that the demanding, aggressive and arsey women are tired of the annoying messages.

I think we'd all do well to realise that behind each message, profile and forum post there's a sentient human being."

“Maturity is the ability to think, speak and act your feelings within the bounds of dignity. The measure of your maturity is how spiritual you become during the midst of your frustration.”

Samuel Allman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you’ve been on here a while your profile can grow and grow until you ‘think’ you’ve covered all bases and so only messages that suit what you’re looking for will come through. It doesn’t happen though, guys will still ignore what you write and message anyway so it’s kind of pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to walk a mile in our moccasins. "

What size are they

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You actually read them?.....'kin 'ell !"

Yes! Why wouldn’t you? Believe it or not you can tell a lot about someone from their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can empathise with them up to a point, but if there’s no humour in there, or at least something positive to say I really couldn’t be arsed with them. And if it mentions ‘Jog on if you don’t like .........!’ then I’m out of there.

There’s plenty of cool women on here who haven’t got their heads up their arses, you just have to go with the flow and hope you find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Now get on your knees and beg for attention!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can empathise with them up to a point, but if there’s no humour in there, or at least something positive to say I really couldn’t be arsed with them. And if it mentions ‘Jog on if you don’t like .........!’ then I’m out of there.

There’s plenty of cool women on here who haven’t got their heads up their arses, you just have to go with the flow and hope you find them. "

Awesome answer to my question. Thanks buddy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

It's a vicious circle. Quite a few of the guys who send annoying messages are probably tired of getting no response, seeing their messages deleted unread or being turned down. In the same way that the demanding, aggressive and arsey women are tired of the annoying messages.

I think we'd all do well to realise that behind each message, profile and forum post there's a sentient human being.

“Maturity is the ability to think, speak and act your feelings within the bounds of dignity. The measure of your maturity is how spiritual you become during the midst of your frustration.”

Samuel Allman"

A nice sentiment but I bet Samuel Ullman was never a member of a swingers group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys. "

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Now get on your knees and beg for attention! "

Just keep looking at your pics and thinking wowzas! (•)(•) honk honk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe "

Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Profile a that comes across as demanding are women who have been here long enough to know what they want and who probably have had loads of unsuitable guys messaging them and have got pissed off with it I would say.

I have often thought if changing mine for those very reasons but 1. I don't want to come across as demanding and 2. It probably wouldn't make any difference anyway!

If you don't like those profiles OP don't read them. Simples.

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Mine used to be empty and I would recieve 100s of messages a day. Now its quite lengthy. It acts as a further filter and now I get far fewer, womannnn meet fuck now... type messages.

I'm happy with it. Those who get it, tend to get me and currently it's working a treat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe

Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22 "

But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe "

You see I regard myself as a nice guy (check my verifications) but I would never send a personal message to you purely because of your profile, even though you look lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Now get on your knees and beg for attention!

Just keep looking at your pics and thinking wowzas! (•)(•) honk honk!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off? "

Yes. I think pople do it largely to put off the people they don't want contacting them. In reality all they're really doing is probably putting off those who may have been interested and possibly do fit the criteria.

You can make your profile selective without appearing rude or arrogant, if you put a little thought into it.

It's a good filter me though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe

Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22

But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day.. "

You reply to all who message you? I've been on here for 6 years and have learnt over that time, you attract many more of the great ones with honey, than you do with vinegar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe

You see I regard myself as a nice guy (check my verifications) but I would never send a personal message to you purely because of your profile, even though you look lovely.

"

And that is absolutely fine by me.

As someone above said - our profiles act as further filters to reduce received messages to a bare minimum.

There's more than enough people here who understand my humour and actually like the way I express myself. They are the ones that message me and we are most likely to click and get along!

Not everyone is for everyone

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe

You see I regard myself as a nice guy (check my verifications) but I would never send a personal message to you purely because of your profile, even though you look lovely.

"

That's the way it works if people read each others profiles. If they recognise they aren't compatible they simply don't message. There's no need to tell them publicly though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe

Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22

But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day..

You reply to all who message you? I've been on here for 6 years and have learnt over that time, you attract many more of the great ones with honey, than you do with vinegar "

God no, but how would I know who's good and who's not if all of their messages would read exactly the same?

Personally I'm happy enough with how and who I've attracted so far and been lucky enough to make fantastic friends with most people I've met.

One thing that never happened tho - bad or awkward meet so must be doing something right

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Rude surely not. They are only telling the truth and letting everyone know what they like and dislike. You must remember this is not a sex site and not all the ladies are looking for sexi time with every tom dick and Mary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting. I doubt If the thick skinned men out there that send the annoying messages will be put off with a profile with a list of demands (they probably don’t even read them). I’m taking your advice and just blocking all the women that come across aggressive and arsey!

Sorted! Thanks for your advice guys.

Many do actually read it then ignore it and just keep pushing on their own agendas.. I think that's where the shouty capitals and aggression in profiles begin to appear.

We were all friendly and innocent the day we joined fab, only there's so many "wanna fucks" one can take without cracking and turning into a demon hehe

Then they tend to attract even more of the ones who are not suitable, because the ones who have self respect and are not willing to jump through hoops for a shag, avoid those profiles lime the plague. It's a catch 22

But then again if you don't give the ones that may suit you any rope to latch on to (some may call them demands) they will just get lost in a sea of "Hi, how are you?" Messages and there's also so many times you can answer that question a day..

You reply to all who message you? I've been on here for 6 years and have learnt over that time, you attract many more of the great ones with honey, than you do with vinegar

God no, but how would I know who's good and who's not if all of their messages would read exactly the same?

Personally I'm happy enough with how and who I've attracted so far and been lucky enough to make fantastic friends with most people I've met.

One thing that never happened tho - bad or awkward meet so must be doing something right "

That's great. If it works for you, then that's what matters. It had the opposite effect for me. Mine consisted of 'how are you?' When I went ranty, back in the day . Though your's isn't ranty. It has your personality injected into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one of these profiles but I know what I do and don't like. I'm not a desperate person that will sleep with anyone with a pulse.

If someone doesn't like what they read, it's not the end of the world lol. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have one of these profiles but I know what I do and don't like. I'm not a desperate person that will sleep with anyone with a pulse.

If someone doesn't like what they read, it's not the end of the world lol. X"
it was just a ploy to get me to read profiles i knew it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello to you all. I haven’t long joined the site and love it so far. I find the banter on the forum very entertaining.

But! I seem to have come across quite a few (not all) female profiles which are very demanding, boardering on rude. Does anyone else, like me, find this a total turn off?

There are plenty of demanding profiles from women, couples and believe it or not men too.

It helps people be clear about what they want.

Demanding isn't a good word but the concept isn't bad

A"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have one of these profiles but I know what I do and don't like. I'm not a desperate person that will sleep with anyone with a pulse.

If someone doesn't like what they read, it's not the end of the world lol. X"

Yes you do dont you. Before anyone says it, yes I’ve just blocked and moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have one of these profiles but I know what I do and don't like. I'm not a desperate person that will sleep with anyone with a pulse.

If someone doesn't like what they read, it's not the end of the world lol. X

Yes you do dont you. Before anyone says it, yes I’ve just blocked and moved on. "

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

Am I in the same club as pocket rocket and shorty?

LUSH company!

Both beautiful ladies

Mwah

Ms GR

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You need to walk a mile in our moccasins. "

Yeah, it's usually "oh for the love of God, really?" after the 250th (or more, often much more) terrible message of a particular genre.

It doesn't stop them, but it makes it clear those who can both read and respect wishes.

I just want to be treated with respect and to have a reason to reply. Which isn't me being up myself... I just need something to sort through the too much mail I get (yes I know filters exist thank you).

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I can understand why some people have ranty, demanding profiles after a couple of years of receiving unpleasant and demanding messages from men and couples.

I choose not to have a profile like that because it's not an accurate reflection of me. I'm generally pretty relaxed and easy going and want people to see that. I don't make demands because I don't like it when others do it.

I use my filters to reduce the quantity of messages I receive a bit and just delete the dross. The block button comes in quite handy too .

OP if demanding and ranty isn't for you then ignore them and/or block. We all use fab in the best way that suits us and we can't be compatible with everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I in the same club as pocket rocket and shorty?

LUSH company!

Both beautiful ladies

Mwah

Ms GR "

You certainly are haha x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think sometimes there can be a tendency for those that don't meet a profile's criteria to describe it as demanding, when in fact the profile has merely expressed preferences.

Many of the posters here that describe their profiles as demanding I don't think come across that way at all, and just read them as detailing what they are looking for - in other words describing their preferences, which surely is one of the points of a profile.

That said there are profiles put there that expect all sorts of ridiculous things (insert this word here, stand on one leg and take a picture then do the same with the other leg whilst sending us confirmation of a room booking) before even considering looking at a message and those I put down to having their expectations incorrectly set, same as those that moan about lack of response to messages, and just roll my eyes and ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves. "

I think it's difficult to win here. I also get messages asking me why I "stooped to fuck X".

Because I wanted to, because I find people attractive on my terms, etc.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves.

I think it's difficult to win here. I also get messages asking me why I "stooped to fuck X".

Because I wanted to, because I find people attractive on my terms, etc. "

... And yes, I know I'm hardly all that. But we (everyone, including guys) should seek what we want, think about how our approach is working, and adjust accordingly.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves. "

Yes - and we still meet who we want!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off! "

Put all the nice guys off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The funniest profiles are the ones with huge lists of demands and the guys they seek should be nothing short of an adonis, you look at the profile owner and they ain’t no basket of fruit themselves.

Yes - and we still meet who we want! "

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

If the demanding profiles get the person what they want by attracting those that fit what they desire, why wouldn't they do it ?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Put all the nice guys off? "

Plenty of nice guys know what women deal with here and look past the demands. Or at least they do mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole profile in general gives the best overview in my opinion. Bio/interests/photos/published veris

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Put all the nice guys off? "

All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Put all the nice guys off?

Plenty of nice guys know what women deal with here and look past the demands. Or at least they do mine. "

Well said

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

My single profile was very demanding. I knew what I wanted from the site and wasn't prepared to compromise. It obviously ruffled feathers and I got shitty messages from men and women, tho they weren't what I was looking for so why they felt the need to tell me. Still up my own arse and proud

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off! "

Sorry for picking on you to highlight my earlier point - but I wouldn't say yours reads as demanding at all - it's intelligently written, clear, concise, lays out where you're coming from and provides guidance for any one reading it - that's not demanding in any way shape or form in my book.

Demanding would be a list of unrealistic expectations and hoops that have to be jumped through.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Put all the nice guys off?

All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences."

NiceGuys TM

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Sorry for picking on you to highlight my earlier point - but I wouldn't say yours reads as demanding at all - it's intelligently written, clear, concise, lays out where you're coming from and provides guidance for any one reading it - that's not demanding in any way shape or form in my book.

Demanding would be a list of unrealistic expectations and hoops that have to be jumped through."

I lay out what I'm looking for as sort of a test, in a way. Not really, but a subjective, this is how to increase the odds of getting my attention.

I'd increase the pass rate phenomenally if I asked for the subject line to be banana and for a photo of one, but I think that's absurd. (to each their own)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Put all the nice guys off? "

Not really interested unless seriously brave and very funny!

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?"

Yes, you sometimes have to read between the lines, and empathise with the frustrations!

I've actually complimented a couple of people on their very specifically angry profiles!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Put all the nice guys off?

All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences."

I think your confusing nice guys with bad guys here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Sorry for picking on you to highlight my earlier point - but I wouldn't say yours reads as demanding at all - it's intelligently written, clear, concise, lays out where you're coming from and provides guidance for any one reading it - that's not demanding in any way shape or form in my book.

Demanding would be a list of unrealistic expectations and hoops that have to be jumped through."

Omg thank you! That's how I wrote it and how I intended it to be read, luckily intelligent people read it, understand and send such lovely messages!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?"

Yeah. I get plenty of "critique" and abuse. I'm not sexy enough to have standards, particularly not one's that require brain cells

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?"

You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you categorically will not meet someone with a demanding profile OP?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?

You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person. "

Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right?

Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes?

There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine's quite demanding but I want to put people off!

Put all the nice guys off?

All the nice guys who cannot read, yes. All the nice guys who have no respect for women, yes. All the nice guys who want to think they are the only one, yes. All the "demands" are the result of experiences.

I think your confusing nice guys with bad guys here. "

YouTube or google "nice guys" - there's tonnes of them around..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?

You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person.

Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right?

Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes?

There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop. "

For anyone on here (men, women, couples, TV's etc) it's about finding a balance, about "getting" the site and how it works, whilst retaining a sense of self - I've often said before there are a lot of people (of all categories) that don't manage that and they tend to be the ones you hear moaning on the forums, or having truly demanding profiles etc etc

Those that "get it" mostly go about their Fab business without the need to trumpet it in any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I demand a recount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's fairly difficult to firmly state what you're looking for without sounding a bit ranty.. Mine probably sounds a bit harsh to some, depending on who's reading it, but it's there to highlight what I'm looking for and clearly state the things I don't want.

Those that have similar interests are unlikely to be offended by it but those who don't share the same mindset are more likely to think I'm 'ignorant' for having preferences.

The nasty messages are always from guys that have nothing in common with me and have chosen to not read or ignore my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I demand a recount"

You don't read the buggers anyway... or should I say didn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I demand a recount

You don't read the buggers anyway... or should I say didn't? "
i didnt read the thread either and shut up laughing its not funny anymore

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?

You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person.

Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right?

Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes?

There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop.

For anyone on here (men, women, couples, TV's etc) it's about finding a balance, about "getting" the site and how it works, whilst retaining a sense of self - I've often said before there are a lot of people (of all categories) that don't manage that and they tend to be the ones you hear moaning on the forums, or having truly demanding profiles etc etc

Those that "get it" mostly go about their Fab business without the need to trumpet it in any way "

For me it's challenging, I'll admit, because I am nice and used to be a doormat. I'm forever trying to find a way to be nice enough, mean/ firm enough, with a profile which is interesting, short, inoffensive, and personal.

I do OK, but there's a lot of thought and tweaking behind the scenes. I talk about it on the forum in the vain hope that more people will understand that the grass isn't always greener over here, and maybe that knowledge will help everyone have a better experience. (I'd rather bang my head here than in my inbox most of the time!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you categorically will not meet someone with a demanding profile OP? "

I just don’t like pushy, demanding people in general I’m afraid. It’s just my preference.

This was an interesting debate. Thanks for everyone’s opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined mine was so sweet and lovely . It’s gradually got worse and worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first joined mine was so sweet and lovely . It’s gradually got worse and worse "
only cos u demand all those filthy pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first joined mine was so sweet and lovely . It’s gradually got worse and worse only cos u demand all those filthy pics"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first joined mine was so sweet and lovely . It’s gradually got worse and worse only cos u demand all those filthy pics

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I don’t feel that mine is demanding at all but I get a lot of rude messages saying it is, however I get a lot of messages saying how eloquently it’s written and I come across nice. So perhaps it’s depends on the reader?

You’ve hit a perfect balance with your profile. Your stating what you are, and aren’t looking for whilst also coming across as a nice person.

Tbh, coming across as a nice person (as a woman) here can be a liability (not always). You're nice, so you're going to come 50 miles, suck me off, and get nothing in return because I neeeed it, right?

Or, you're nice, so we've agreed to do X but you won't push back about adding in Y and Z, yes?

There's a certain amount of "do not fuck with me" you need to develop.

For anyone on here (men, women, couples, TV's etc) it's about finding a balance, about "getting" the site and how it works, whilst retaining a sense of self - I've often said before there are a lot of people (of all categories) that don't manage that and they tend to be the ones you hear moaning on the forums, or having truly demanding profiles etc etc

Those that "get it" mostly go about their Fab business without the need to trumpet it in any way

For me it's challenging, I'll admit, because I am nice and used to be a doormat. I'm forever trying to find a way to be nice enough, mean/ firm enough, with a profile which is interesting, short, inoffensive, and personal.

I do OK, but there's a lot of thought and tweaking behind the scenes. I talk about it on the forum in the vain hope that more people will understand that the grass isn't always greener over here, and maybe that knowledge will help everyone have a better experience. (I'd rather bang my head here than in my inbox most of the time!) "

For what it's worth (and no this isn't false flattery to anyone that may think so - there are at least two parts of your profile where we wouldn't match so I'm saying it genuinely and honestly and with no ulterior motive whatsoever) I think you've pretty much nailed it with what you have now

Like you I'm open to discussing it on the forum, I figure the more people that "get" it the better this place will be - and even if only one person takes what's said and finds it helps them it's worth it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Thank you, I appreciate it. (and personally I take compliments as compliments then navigate anything else separately. I think cynicism can go too far here)

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I've been told parts of mine are quite ranty & negative.

I see it as an added filter.

I've listed exactly what I don't want, they may be called demanding, but it's pretty obvious who has & hasn't bothered to read it.

Which tells me everything I need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I find it a turn off. Like attracts like. Negativity attracts negativity.

There's plenty of ways to get what you want in a positive way.

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Is it demanding ? I think word choices can make a difference.

I can't help feeling that this stinks of

The "little woman" should be told what she is getting and be grateful to get it. How very dare she try and have a say in her own sex life. Give it time they'll be wanting to vote and ...

Demanding = has enough of a brain to know what she wants.

xslutx

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