FabSwingers.com forum: Gay bars

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For years I’ve teased my wife about wanting her to fuck other guys as I watch.....she plays it off as role play but I’d love to see it. And Id love to see it with a hung bi guy/couple so I can watch and join in.

I thought it would be a women’s fantasy- “husband want me to fuck others”.....But not proving so!!

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like gay bars they're fun but they do make you realise how creepy and gropey men are

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't think gay bars are places for women to pick up men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think gay bars are places for women to pick up men. "

They are however an excelent place for men to pick up women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you want to use your missus so you can play with a cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For years I’ve teased my wife about wanting her to fuck other guys as I watch.....she plays it off as role play but I’d love to see it. And Id love to see it with a hung bi guy/couple so I can watch and join in.

I thought it would be a women’s fantasy- “husband want me to fuck others”.....But not proving so!!

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?"

So basically your wife has made it clear she isn’t interested yet you’re not going to drop it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you want to use your missus so you can play with a cock?"

I don’t need my missus for that...... I’d love to see her with other guys......and in a dream scenario I can play too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you want to use your missus so you can play with a cock?

I don’t need my missus for that...... I’d love to see her with other guys......and in a dream scenario I can play too "

But if she’s made it clear she isn’t interested, why are you continuing?

Have you actually outright asked her?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I thought it would be a women’s fantasy- “husband want me to fuck others”.....But not proving so!!

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

So basically your wife has made it clear she isn’t interested yet you’re not going to drop it? "

It’s not clear she is not interested but I’d like to actually add the potential excitement/scene to a night out and see if she gets hot with it. If it’s a no I would 100% drop it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it would be a women’s fantasy- “husband want me to fuck others”.....But not proving so!!

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

So basically your wife has made it clear she isn’t interested yet you’re not going to drop it?

It’s not clear she is not interested but I’d like to actually add the potential excitement/scene to a night out and see if she gets hot with it. If it’s a no I would 100% drop it"

So I play and my husband doesn’t. It turns him on me being with other men. He outright asked me how I’d feel. If he tried to set up a scenario without me knowing, I’d go absolutely mental. I’d be furious.

Is communication lost nowadays?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you want to use your missus so you can play with a cock?

I don’t need my missus for that...... I’d love to see her with other guys......and in a dream scenario I can play too

But if she’s made it clear she isn’t interested, why are you continuing?

Have you actually outright asked her?"

It’s not clear and she loves some of the mfm pics I send her. Guess I’m little scared/apprehensive of outright asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you want to use your missus so you can play with a cock?

I don’t need my missus for that...... I’d love to see her with other guys......and in a dream scenario I can play too

But if she’s made it clear she isn’t interested, why are you continuing?

Have you actually outright asked her?

It’s not clear and she loves some of the mfm pics I send her. Guess I’m little scared/apprehensive of outright asking "

Would you rather ask her outright and her tell you no and that be that, or you try set up a scenario that she hates? Massive invasion of trust there

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I adore gangbang scenarios. If someone tried to sneak one on me (unless I'd specifically agreed to it as a thing to do at an unknown stage in the future), particularly if I hadn't done one before, it would be awful and I would end that relationship.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?"

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I adore gangbang scenarios. If someone tried to sneak one on me (unless I'd specifically agreed to it as a thing to do at an unknown stage in the future), particularly if I hadn't done one before, it would be awful and I would end that relationship. "

But hea not trying to sneak it on her and hes not organised anything hes literally just going to a bar

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I thought it would be a women’s fantasy- “husband want me to fuck others”.....But not proving so!!

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?"

If she playing it of as role play then that seems to be how far she wishes to take it, she sees it turns you on and is pleasing you by playing along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay."

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it would be a women’s fantasy- “husband want me to fuck others”.....But not proving so!!

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

If she playing it of as role play then that seems to be how far she wishes to take it, she sees it turns you on and is pleasing you by playing along.

You think? What if she's not sure? I didn't think I would like being pissed on, but I tried it and I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy. "

And gay men are more fun for women to socialise with than straight men.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

But hea not trying to sneak it on her and hes not organised anything hes literally just going to a bar"

It sounds like a contrived setup with a goal. Maybe not as bad as showing up to several unexpected guys, but still bloody awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

And gay men are more fun for women to socialise with than straight men. "

So true. I love gay bars. Especially in London. Drinks are cheaper and so much more fun! And it never seems to kick off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have many boundaries as a couple but one rule is set in stone, we only play as a couple. If any one of us want to try a new scenario or add something to the mix, we chat about it and then if we both agree (99.9% of the time we do

) then we do it together. Works perfect

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy. "

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks. Just thought it was a better place to potentially go, and if we get chatted up, or she does then that may get the excitement levels up! Certainly not arranging or doing anything pre planned or as trap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think gay bars are places for women to pick up men. "

I was thinking this!

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Yes, I understand why a straight woman feels safe in a gay bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has your wife got an account on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that. "

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, I understand why a straight woman feels safe in a gay bar."

I love gay bars just for this! Can have fantastic laughs and have a great night with no issues at all ... perfect

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Thanks. Just thought it was a better place to potentially go, and if we get chatted up, or she does then that may get the excitement levels up! Certainly not arranging or doing anything pre planned or as trap. "

As a formerly shy, now party girl, this would have backfired on me. Trust, communication, communication, and trust. Trying to get me to agree to something in the heat of the moment leads to regret and potentially resentment.

Talk to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about taking her to a strip club? Can be very erotic for women as well as men, and if she is that way inclined ask her to leave her panties at home, the dancers will soon notice and definitely have a sneaky touch on a private dance, plus the club is full of horny men as well

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP just speak to her. It isn’t difficult at all. If she says no, oh well, at least you asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have been furious if my husband randomly took me to a strip club. Just ask your wife if she’d like to fuck other men for crying out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now tell me do ya, a do ya have any money?

I wanna spend all your money

At the gay bar, gay bar, gay bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now tell me do ya, a do ya have any money?

I wanna spend all your money

At the gay bar, gay bar, gay bar

My wee brother is autistic and when he was 2 my uncle played this song. My brother sung it for four years

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Now tell me do ya, a do ya have any money?

I wanna spend all your money

At the gay bar, gay bar, gay bar

My wee brother is autistic and when he was 2 my uncle played this song. My brother sung it for four years

Aww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups. "

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Straight guys are extremey welcome in gay bars. Gay bars are not some snowflake safe space they mainly exist cause gay people are a small % and it was way easier to find a shag if you all went to the same space.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself"

So you’re saying if you go to a gay bar you need to be prepared to be sexually assaulted?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I suspect you'll find, historically, that gay bars and other areas came about because of homophobia and violence. There may be less need for it now, but that's neither here nor there.

If straight people find the 90-99% of the world they claim as theirs inadequate, grubby, or unsafe, they should use their political capital to clean up their own mess, rather than seeking out the spaces formed to escape them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself"

Wow ... what a thing to say! Seriously? Sexually assaulted? I've been with straight friends and it's never happened!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself

So you’re saying if you go to a gay bar you need to be prepared to be sexually assaulted?"

Nah i wouldnt say its sexual assault, although im sure some would, but guys will stroke your biceps pecs as you walk around.

Sort of the gay guy equivalent of guys touching womens arse in straight clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups. "

Should I not go out with my lesbian niece and her girlfriend to lesbian parties?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself

Wow ... what a thing to say! Seriously? Sexually assaulted? I've been with straight friends and it's never happened! "

Maybe im just sexy then i get felt up every time i go and given the majority of of friends are lgbt gay bars are pretty kuch the only places i go.

It doesnt bother me but some guys freak out if another guy touches them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself

Wow ... what a thing to say! Seriously? Sexually assaulted? I've been with straight friends and it's never happened!

Maybe im just sexy then i get felt up every time i go and given the majority of of friends are lgbt gay bars are pretty kuch the only places i go.

It doesnt bother me but some guys freak out if another guy touches them"

I’d freak out too if I was sexually assaulted to be fair.

What an odd generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself

So you’re saying if you go to a gay bar you need to be prepared to be sexually assaulted?

Nah i wouldnt say its sexual assault, although im sure some would, but guys will stroke your biceps pecs as you walk around.

Sort of the gay guy equivalent of guys touching womens arse in straight clubs

I've had my boobs groped by 3 men. 2 of them were gay and one was from here during a social.

I never felt the urge to grope them back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Most retarded thing I've heard in ages.

Even after you day your straight the gay guy hitting on you will usualy still buy you the drink and be cool with it.

You will get groped, or "sexually assulted" in modern terms, as you walk around thouhh so youve gotta be pretty comfortable with yourself

Wow ... what a thing to say! Seriously? Sexually assaulted? I've been with straight friends and it's never happened!

Maybe im just sexy then i get felt up every time i go and given the majority of of friends are lgbt gay bars are pretty kuch the only places i go.

It doesnt bother me but some guys freak out if another guy touches them"

You probably give out a vibe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah i wouldnt say its sexual assault, although im sure some would, but guys will stroke your biceps pecs as you walk around.

Sort of the gay guy equivalent of guys touching womens arse in straight clubs

I've had my boobs groped by 3 men. 2 of them were gay and one was from here during a social.

I never felt the urge to grope them back."

Yeah its not the best way to make first contact with a person is it .

It is interesting to be on the other side of things though. Get to see what a night out is like for a straight women in a straight bar lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt bother me but some guys freak out if another guy touches them

You probably give out a vibe. "

The the fact im in a skin tight sometimes mesh tshirt and im on first name terms with half the bar staff probbaly doesn't help

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had heard gay bars are great relaxed places and this could be an ideal place to get my wife’s involvement and us chatted up - any recommendation?

They are. But you are barking up the wrong tree. The clue is in the title - gay.

You realise gay bars have lots of trouble with straight women.

Lots of straight women and men go to gay bars, they have good music and less violence usualy.

I realise. But why contribute to the trouble? I've been to gay bars, with groups of gay men. It's a "this is about them not me" scene, and my actions and expectations line up with that.

Its really not.

Straight women make troubble by touching gay men inappropriately , perfectly fine to hook up with the straight guys.

I think straight guys should get out of safe spaces for minority groups.

Should I not go out with my lesbian niece and her girlfriend to lesbian parties? "

I think there's a difference between "I'm going with my friends of that group, and it's about them" and what's being discussed here. As noted, I've been to (male) gay bars with groups of (male gay) friends. I don't then try to pick up, because it's a place where my sexuality is irrelevant, and it would be imposing upon their space. If I'm looking to pick up guys, I have literally everywhere else to do it.

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over a year ago

It doesnt bother me but some guys freak out if another guy touches them

I’d freak out too if I was sexually assaulted to be fair.

What an odd generalisation

So when out clubbing youve never had a straight guy touch you without asking?

Its not a generalisation its just my personal experience of litterally every gay bar or pride rally ive been too.

Again being s rainbow painted kharl drogo in a leather kilt at London pride may have given out a "come touch me" vibe though

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over a year ago

It doesnt bother me but some guys freak out if another guy touches them

I’d freak out too if I was sexually assaulted to be fair.

What an odd generalisation

So when out clubbing youve never had a straight guy touch you without asking?

Its not a generalisation its just my personal experience of litterally every gay bar or pride rally ive been too.

Again being s rainbow painted kharl drogo in a leather kilt at London pride may have given out a "come touch me" vibe though"

Yes. And I’ve always asked them why they think it’s okay to just grab me/touch me without consent. I’m not one for enjoying being randomly felt up, d*unk or not

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By *lascumMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Jesus, somebody pass the popcorn.

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

If this has been a "thing" in your relationship for years then believe me if she wanted to you would have by now.

Does she know you are bi-curious ?

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over a year ago

"If this has been a "thing" in your relationship for years then believe me if she wanted to you would have by now.

It still is...verbally and with pictures

Does she know you are bi-curious ?"

Yes

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If this has been a "thing" in your relationship for years then believe me if she wanted to you would have by now.

It still is...verbally and with pictures

Does she know you are bi-curious ?

Yes"

Talk. To. Her.

Share hot fantasies. Build up to that one if you're nervous. Anything else risks breaking trust.

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over a year ago

"If this has been a "thing" in your relationship for years then believe me if she wanted to you would have by now.

It still is...verbally and with pictures

Does she know you are bi-curious ?

Yes"

Does she know you're on here? Could she find someone she would like to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt bother me but some guys freak out if another guy touches them

I’d freak out too if I was sexually assaulted to be fair.

What an odd generalisation

So when out clubbing youve never had a straight guy touch you without asking?

Its not a generalisation its just my personal experience of litterally every gay bar or pride rally ive been too.

Again being s rainbow painted kharl drogo in a leather kilt at London pride may have given out a "come touch me" vibe though

Yes. And I’ve always asked them why they think it’s okay to just grab me/touch me without consent. I’m not one for enjoying being randomly felt up, d*unk or not

Exactly its not enjoyable. But straight men are very rarely on the other sid eof it women lile yourself are thw target most straight guys find it fun if a woman did simmilar to them.

But if you go to a gay bar gay guys will assume your gay or bi or interested and act the same way straight guys do towards women.

You have to expect that and be ready to not immediately jump to violence like a lot lf straight guys would.

As it really wont end well for them.

Hence why i said its something to keep in mind.

Usualy though its judt a bicep stroke which while weird and creepy isn't something to be ruining a night over, a polite no thanks is usualy respected if it isnt thsts ehat bouncers are for.

But the scene is also differnt try to put yourself in a male perspective and an attractive woman walks up to you in a bar and touches your arm or your bum etc. Most guys are quite happy for that to happen.

In a gay bar guys have the assumption that that's the case as well they are effectivly the attractive woman of that world.

So you have to give a little more leeway as male and female sexuality are differnt in the gay male world things are much more forward and sexualized because its two men and no woman acting as a "brake" of sorts on things

Kinda like hoe theres no straight grindr

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over a year ago

"Jesus, somebody pass the popcorn.

Do you want it salty

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Gay bars aren't typically the equivalent of a free to enter swinger's club - you'll not find sex there, as standard. Sure, you can chat and be chatted up but some have security that patrol and wouldn't take kindly to any sex on the premises. What about a bi night at a club?

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By *lascumMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Jesus, somebody pass the popcorn.

Do you want it salty

Mmm sometimes sweet is too sickly... yep make it a salty one.. this looks like carrying on for a bit

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over a year ago

"Jesus, somebody pass the popcorn.

Do you want it salty

Mmm sometimes sweet is too sickly... yep make it a salty one.. this looks like carrying on for a bit

The pumps a bit stiff you might have to give me a hand

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By *lascumMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Jesus, somebody pass the popcorn.

Do you want it salty

Mmm sometimes sweet is too sickly... yep make it a salty one.. this looks like carrying on for a bit

The pumps a bit stiff you might have to give me a hand

That or a good amount of lubrication will get it dispensing the saltiness

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