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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

how much of a deep thinker are you? Im not usually but ive been thinking about something for two years and cant reach a decision. Its nothing bad something id like the answer too

Do you think alot

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I tend to overthink things. A lot x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably think too much, or too much about the wrong things.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Work yes life in general a little on here not a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve alwags been an over thinker. It’s a right pain sometimes. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much.. sometimes it takes a while to put my thoughts into an order I can work through.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Very deep "
do you find your answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very deep do you find your answers"

Not always no. I wish I wasn’t like it to be honest. I’m very much a “ what if” person too. I overthink too much and it’s not really a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I over think terribly. I think I've finally found a way of dealing with it though.

It's a blessing and a curse. In loads of different ways, but I wouldn't change it... I don't think, or would I? I dunno.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how much of a deep thinker are you? Im not usually but ive been thinking about something for two years and cant reach a decision. Its nothing bad something id like the answer too

Do you think alot"

Start a thread about it and we can help you reach a decition finally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I over think everything far too much all the time. And what ifs etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I over think everything far too much all the time. And what ifs etc"

Mrscxxx

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"how much of a deep thinker are you? Im not usually but ive been thinking about something for two years and cant reach a decision. Its nothing bad something id like the answer too

Do you think alot

Start a thread about it and we can help you reach a decition finally? "
omg lol i couldnt its far to complex it takes my whole life into account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how much of a deep thinker are you? Im not usually but ive been thinking about something for two years and cant reach a decision. Its nothing bad something id like the answer too

Do you think alot

Start a thread about it and we can help you reach a decition finally? "

My thoughts exactly xx

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think deeply about a lot of things, I see it as a gift not a hindrance, sometimes I work out some deep shit too lol!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think very deeply about a few important things. Mostly view could probably be accused of not thinking deeply enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. I do less of it now than I did, however every so often I need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have anxiety and depression with ptsd and can never switch off. Was telephones at 930 by my bank - investigating fraud on my account. That'll be me up most of the night wittling now. Even though I "know" it's in hand I'll still keep freaking

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

My opinion, there’s no certainty of future events, only a probability that something will occur in an expected way based on past experience or on the testimony of others. For example, the sciences, where facts change as new discoveries are made.

So I take on the view that you make the best decision at present-given all the facts you can know-on a probability, with a certain amount uncertainty built in. Otherwise you could end up taking no action and be debilated, in other words, suffer mental paralysis on a life decision-great or small.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think deeply about a lot of things, I see it as a gift not a hindrance, sometimes I work out some deep shit too lol! "

That's my way of coping with it. Finding out enough deep shit to satisfy my curious mind.

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I have anxiety and depression with ptsd and can never switch off. Was telephones at 930 by my bank - investigating fraud on my account. That'll be me up most of the night wittling now. Even though I "know" it's in hand I'll still keep freaking "

I’ve had this happen to me, and all sorts go through your mind, but honestly the banks know more about you and your spending habits to know when unusual behaviour occurs and those transactions are fraudulent.

Rest easy, despite the feeling you may have (which I did) that someone has burgled your home. The money will be back in your bank within 24 hours or so.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"how much of a deep thinker are you? Im not usually but ive been thinking about something for two years and cant reach a decision. Its nothing bad something id like the answer too

Do you think alot"

Read between the lines what ever that means ?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

42

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Not really, I’m more of an instantaneous person that has no need for deep thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not any more. I'm now incapable of deep thought.

Which is why I don't get into in depth discussions on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overthink everything, especially on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really, I’m more of an instantaneous person that has no need for deep thinking.

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Me too. I find decisions quite easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?

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By *iss Penny TrationWoman
over a year ago

NW

Yes I love a good think. Getting lost in my thoughts. Making up situations that’ll never happen. Jumping to conclusions. ‘If he says this, I’ll say that’

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've thought long and hard...one out of two's not bad

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?"
what makes you who you are in my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?what makes you who you are in my case"

You're hindsight effectively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll have to think about it.....

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?what makes you who you are in my case

You're hindsight effectively "
yes

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Yes I think alot, yes I think alot or is that to much about others before myself.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I tend to overthink things. A lot x"
Same, I overanalyze a lot of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?what makes you who you are in my case

You're hindsight effectively yes"

As a bit of psudeo science as im not qualified to interpret or understand fmri scans found the impulse to take physical action occurs before the conscious part of the brain acivates so effectivly youre conscious mind is judt a passenger controlling nothing

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By *heffmMan
over a year ago

sheffield

if you are a deep thinker you shouldn't be here !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?"

I couldn't even digest that into my brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reminisce quite often.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Sometimes too much that I carnt sleep or shut down

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?what makes you who you are in my case

You're hindsight effectively yes

As a bit of psudeo science as im not qualified to interpret or understand fmri scans found the impulse to take physical action occurs before the conscious part of the brain acivates so effectivly youre conscious mind is judt a passenger controlling nothing"
i dont understand any of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?what makes you who you are in my case

You're hindsight effectively yes

As a bit of psudeo science as im not qualified to interpret or understand fmri scans found the impulse to take physical action occurs before the conscious part of the brain acivates so effectivly youre conscious mind is judt a passenger controlling nothingi dont understand any of that"

People put in a functional MRI scanner and asked to do a physical action ie make a fist.

First show activity in the part of the brain that sends the impulse to the muscle to make a fist, then a tiny amount of time later the part of the brain thst is more related to conscious thought shows activity.

So very crudely you act before you think the thought to act.

Your thought "im going to make a fist now" actualy happens an instant after youve sent the signal to make a fist.

So from one perspective we have no free will we're actually judt a passenger within our body

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Define deep?

Pseudo philosophical bs

Actual academic philosophy

Pseudo scientific bs

Actual scientific study?what makes you who you are in my case

You're hindsight effectively yes

As a bit of psudeo science as im not qualified to interpret or understand fmri scans found the impulse to take physical action occurs before the conscious part of the brain acivates so effectivly youre conscious mind is judt a passenger controlling nothingi dont understand any of that

People put in a functional MRI scanner and asked to do a physical action ie make a fist.

First show activity in the part of the brain that sends the impulse to the muscle to make a fist, then a tiny amount of time later the part of the brain thst is more related to conscious thought shows activity.

So very crudely you act before you think the thought to act.

Your thought "im going to make a fist now" actualy happens an instant after youve sent the signal to make a fist.

So from one perspective we have no free will we're actually judt a passenger within our body"
thats really interesting

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Er... Take a guess.

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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago

nottinghamshire


"Yes I love a good think. Getting lost in my thoughts. Making up situations that’ll never happen. Jumping to conclusions. ‘If he says this, I’ll say that’ "

I get you..i do that all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how much of a deep thinker are you? Im not usually but ive been thinking about something for two years and cant reach a decision. Its nothing bad something id like the answer too

Do you think alot"

42*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reminisce quite often."

Memory lane is a good place to visit, would not want to live there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reminisce quite often.

Memory lane is a good place to visit, would not want to live there. "

Not sure what that means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now! "
yes i wasnt talking about over thinking but more deep like when your looking for the meaning of life

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now! "

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion."
exactly thats exactly what i ment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reminisce quite often.

Memory lane is a good place to visit, would not want to live there. "

It makes me sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion. exactly thats exactly what i ment"

I know what the difference is it's just mist of the replies seem to err to over thinking instead of deep thinking and that really got me confused! Lol ...

I'm a deep thinker but not an over thinker ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now! yes i wasnt talking about over thinking but more deep like when your looking for the meaning of life"

See id say thats more just shallow musing.

For it to be deep youd actually have to be conducting some detailed and ordered philosophical study.

I mesn it could take years to even define the question bwfore you looked for the answer

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion. exactly thats exactly what i ment"

Good

I'm thinking in some depth about old age. That's because my parents are very old and I can see how age has affected them and compare it to when they were younger.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now! yes i wasnt talking about over thinking but more deep like when your looking for the meaning of life

See id say thats more just shallow musing.

For it to be deep youd actually have to be conducting some detailed and ordered philosophical study.

I mesn it could take years to even define the question bwfore you looked for the answer "
oh behave this thinking is hard work enough without you making it worse

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion. exactly thats exactly what i ment

Good

I'm thinking in some depth about old age. That's because my parents are very old and I can see how age has affected them and compare it to when they were younger. "
i hate it when i have to think about that. Jay is 2 years older than my mum so things will happen around the same time but im kind of denial about the future

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion. exactly thats exactly what i ment

Good

I'm thinking in some depth about old age. That's because my parents are very old and I can see how age has affected them and compare it to when they were younger. i hate it when i have to think about that. Jay is 2 years older than my mum so things will happen around the same time but im kind of denial about the future"

I think denial is a good place to be.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"if you are a deep thinker you shouldn't be here !"

Nonsense.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion. exactly thats exactly what i ment

Good

I'm thinking in some depth about old age. That's because my parents are very old and I can see how age has affected them and compare it to when they were younger. i hate it when i have to think about that. Jay is 2 years older than my mum so things will happen around the same time but im kind of denial about the future

I think denial is a good place to be."
it is for me as it helps me live in the now and make the most of it and not worry about the future

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I thought deep thinking and over thinking were two different things ... confused now!

So did I.

I think that deep thinking is where you think about things in depth but can control when and how you do it. Over thinking is when you think about every, single, minute possibility that could occur in every aspect of life.

In my opinion."

Yup, the first is positive IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends.

I'm ruled by my hormones

I'm impulsive at times but I usually over think everything and talk myself out of a lot of things that make me miss out on life.

I don't think I'm deep.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Yes it's a mixed blessing but I would be any other way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I think a lot, and have found comfort in being able to voice out my thoughts sometimes. Relieved when I notice others think the same way. But, I’ve come to realise there are something’s I just won’t understand.

Take swinging for example, I don’t understand why I’m okay with it, I just am. I’ve tried to ask questions to myself and others and although some reasonings sound quite acceptable, all don’t fit how I feel about it.

I can go quite deep into most things that mean a lot to me, not everything needs to either, somethings I can be quite shallow about, but they’re not as important to my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought your question needed an answer longer than - Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t just tease what you thinking about for two years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not any more. I'm now incapable of deep thought.

Which is why I don't get into in depth discussions on here."

What changed?

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