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Fear To Love Again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are your thoughts on the fear to love again?

I reckon that after a string of heartbreaks, it can develop and also make the person have lack of trust in any potential partner out of fear it would happen again.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

Yep I know what you mean, it does kind of send you running for the door!

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

It happens. The closer someone gets to you, the more capability they have to hurt you. The fear is a defence mechanism, but also the thing that will cause you the most hurt through lonliness in the long term.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep I know what you mean, it does kind of send you running for the door!"

Indeed it does. Even if the person was to actually enter another relationship after a long while, the fear of it happening again could become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens. The closer someone gets to you, the more capability they have to hurt you. The fear is a defence mechanism, but also the thing that will cause you the most hurt through lonliness in the long term."

Which does sound pretty damaging for a person as in the long term, the fear could cause self-isolation, depression or worse if not dealt with in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe you are a narcissist? Discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it happens.

It's scary.

It's really fucking scary.

But.... the hurt can be temporary, whereas the love can be forever.

When you fall you fall.

You can deny the both of you the opportunity to have happiness if you run, or you can take a chance, and give yourselves a chance.

P

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

is it possible to stop yourself falling in love?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"is it possible to stop yourself falling in love?"

I would think so.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I can relate to this. My guard is constantly up and love is not a feeling i have anymore. I like alot of people but love to me means pain so i will stay clear and plod along solo forever

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"is it possible to stop yourself falling in love?

I would think so."

interesting. I don't think I could stop myself but I haven't lived your life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"is it possible to stop yourself falling in love?

I would think so.

interesting. I don't think I could stop myself but I haven't lived your life"

In relationships, I never stopped falling in love with someone but as a single man of over 2 years, it is easy to have that kind of barrier to stop myself from falling in love with someone.

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