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Marriage get out ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not happy ?

Do something about it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not always that simple

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Wasn't... did ... well .. we both did respectively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not happy ?

Do something about it then

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Any advice as to what?

Your not a trained councillor are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not happy ?

Do something about it then

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Nah, just bang around behind their back... what could go wrong?

C

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not happy ?

Do something about it then

Any advice as to what?

Your not a trained councillor are you?

FAB councillor "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice OP, really full of depth and thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooooh goodie we’ve not had one of these threads for a couple of days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not happy ?

Do something about it then

"

I used to have really strong views on this. As I've grown, while morally I think it's black and white.

Allowing space for people to be human, I've began to understand the complexities that can be involved in a marriage going wrong and the implications of leaving negatively for children or each individually.

Life can be difficult man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life sadly isn't that straight forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zzzzz zzzzz zzzzz why should they maybe theres other reasons than just sex ones

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

This is never binary -emotions never are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great advice OP, really full of depth and thought"

Rock on Tommy

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Because it really is that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because it really is that simple"

If only it was. Life's never black and white and every marriage is unique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only it had been that simple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When every effort has been made and failed to communicate effectively, resolve issues and see if there's still love and the basis for a healthy marriage...then yes, it's time to get out. Unfortunately kids, finances and shared assets often prevent those that should separate doing so.

Once got a very good piece of advise when I was married and unhappy. It was :-

' If you want to be one of those people who's comfort zone is being miserable and constantly complaining about your spouse, then keep going. If not then do something about it.'

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By *coxy69Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Not happy ?

Do something about it then

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If my marriage is made up of 10 elements and only 1 is really pissing me off should I get out??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did. It took a lot of years and for someone to die before I could get out.

It's not as simple as just leaving for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is never binary -emotions never are"

It's not always about emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did. It took a lot of years and for someone to die before I could get out.

It's not as simple as just leaving for some.

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Was the someone that died your spouse ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking from the outside it seems easy black and white decisions. Looking from the inside it rarely is that simple. Male

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" If you want to be one of those people who's comfort zone is being miserable and constantly complaining about your spouse, then keep going. If not then do something about it.'"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not happy ?

Do something about it then

If my marriage is made up of 10 elements and only 1 is really pissing me off should I get out??

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And the element is, let me guess, sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some folk are just selfish and narcissistic and cheat because they can and have no feelings of guilt but not everything is black and white, health issues is a big one for folk to stay in a relationship, children and financial implications are another. It can be hard to walk away from someone you love and adore but don’t give back what you give and those feelings of rejection you get elsewhere, someone has loved you and given you children but physically are no longer the person they were you still love them and want to be there to support them but it’s become a friendship, some folk put on the pretence till the kids move out on the hope they won’t affect the mental well-being of the kids and again some are just arseholes but who are any of us to judge if we’ve not experienced it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did. It took a lot of years and for someone to die before I could get out.

It's not as simple as just leaving for some.

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I totally get this my friends had a disabled son and they stayed together to make his life easier lots of couples break up through similar but they chose to stay together to co-parent and when their son passed away they broke up, on the outside no one knew as far as family were concerned they slept separately so they could take turns being the Carer during

The night etc they had problems before their son came along and he brought them together but only as parents loving their boy they still get together Christmas and birthdays and go visit his grave

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"Not happy ?

Do something about it then

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What like clap your hands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did. It took a lot of years and for someone to die before I could get out.

It's not as simple as just leaving for some.

Was the someone that died your spouse ??

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No, my twin sister who had cerebral palsy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Murder is frowned upon sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Murder is frowned upon sadly. "

Murder, murder, murder......it was just another accident. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purposely get caught cheating lmao

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

You could always become Mormon and keep the old ones in reserve

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