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"Me and my ex are still great friends, and although I'll always love him, I'm not attracted to him anymore. We meet up every so often for dinner or just to watch films, but I know he wants something more. He's very inexperienced, practically a virgin, as we never had sex when we were together. He said he understands I don't want a relationship but he'd be happy to just have that one special time with me. I don't think I'd enjoy it in the slightest, but if it makes him happy then I'm willing to do it. Any advise? Would you give him a sympathy shag if you were me, or should I just not go there?" I would say know, because you have already stated "you know he wants more" | |||
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"How the devil do you have an ex without ever having had sex with him? And why would you consider it now, when he wasn't good enough for you before while you were still 'together' (can't even type that without laughing). You need to leave this poor sap alone and let him get on with his life without you. " erm because they didnt fuck... | |||
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"How the devil do you have an ex without ever having had sex with him? And why would you consider it now, when he wasn't good enough for you before while you were still 'together' (can't even type that without laughing). You need to leave this poor sap alone and let him get on with his life without you. " Because he wasn't ready at the time and put off by my experience! We did everything else but that just never happened. Thanks for the advice everyone. I was thinking I probably shouldn't, but wasn't sure if that was me just bein boring! | |||
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"Me and my ex are still great friends, and although I'll always love him, I'm not attracted to him anymore. We meet up every so often for dinner or just to watch films, but I know he wants something more. He's very inexperienced, practically a virgin, as we never had sex when we were together. He said he understands I don't want a relationship but he'd be happy to just have that one special time with me. I don't think I'd enjoy it in the slightest, but if it makes him happy then I'm willing to do it. Any advise? Would you give him a sympathy shag if you were me, or should I just not go there?" might be a good idea to sympathy shag me just to see how you cope with meaningless sex, its a tough job but i am willing to sacrifise myself | |||
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"Me and my ex are still great friends, and although I'll always love him, I'm not attracted to him anymore. We meet up every so often for dinner or just to watch films, but I know he wants something more. He's very inexperienced, practically a virgin, as we never had sex when we were together. He said he understands I don't want a relationship but he'd be happy to just have that one special time with me. I don't think I'd enjoy it in the slightest, but if it makes him happy then I'm willing to do it. Any advise? Would you give him a sympathy shag if you were me, or should I just not go there? might be a good idea to sympathy shag me just to see how you cope with meaningless sex, its a tough job but i am willing to sacrifise myself" | |||
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"i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too" So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging?????? | |||
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"i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging??????" lol you serious? I can be attracted to people i just dont have to be dating them. | |||
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"I'd say if you guys never managed to get round to it while you were together then thats where it should stay hun, if you do give in and 'shag' him then he will think its back on and cause you a host of new problems imho (sparks). i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging??????" ROFL! | |||
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"i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging?????? lol you serious? I can be attracted to people i just dont have to be dating them." | |||
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"i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging?????? lol you serious? I can be attracted to people i just dont have to be dating them." did you read it is 'attatched' too... cos that might explain your response | |||
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"i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging?????? lol you serious? I can be attracted to people i just dont have to be dating them. did you read it is 'attatched' too... cos that might explain your response" Think they might have...would explain reference to "your partner".... | |||
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"being close friends with ex's, especially ones that still have feelings for you, will NEVER work. when you find someone special you want to be with again they will not be as understanding as you hope with having your ex around all the time (and would possibly feel YOU still have feelings also). " sorry but totally disagree with that. in my experpience wrong on every point | |||
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"up untill a few years ago my x and i would fuck regular ,it was fine i am not atracted to her mind but she was a randy kinky sex pot ,but the more we fucked the more serous she was getting and started to encrotch on my new relationship of 8 years ,it was sat to dump her but i had too ,so nope past should stay there" is the problem here not that you were cheating on your new partner for 5 years? | |||
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"I'd say if you guys never managed to get round to it while you were together then thats where it should stay hun, if you do give in and 'shag' him then he will think its back on and cause you a host of new problems imho (sparks). i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging??????" I'm married to the only person I want to spend the rest of my life with (yeah, all together now, awwwwwwwww!!!). However, I (Martin) could never have sex with someone I wasnt attracted to, and I would hope that, ideally, this feeling was mutual where the other person is concerned. We didnt get into swinging for meaningless, emotionless sex. | |||
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"I'd say if you guys never managed to get round to it while you were together then thats where it should stay hun, if you do give in and 'shag' him then he will think its back on and cause you a host of new problems imho (sparks). i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging?????? I'm married to the only person I want to spend the rest of my life with (yeah, all together now, awwwwwwwww!!!). However, I (Martin) could never have sex with someone I wasnt attracted to, and I would hope that, ideally, this feeling was mutual where the other person is concerned. We didnt get into swinging for meaningless, emotionless sex. " i did | |||
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"Me and my ex are still great friends, and although I'll always love him, I'm not attracted to him anymore. We meet up every so often for dinner or just to watch films, but I know he wants something more. He's very inexperienced, practically a virgin, as we never had sex when we were together. He said he understands I don't want a relationship but he'd be happy to just have that one special time with me. I don't think I'd enjoy it in the slightest, but if it makes him happy then I'm willing to do it. Any advise? Would you give him a sympathy shag if you were me, or should I just not go there?" I had the same experience myself a few years ago, our friendship has grown stronger this is clear definition of the boundaries and whats on offer friendship should remain friendship it takes feelings on both sides for there to be anything else | |||
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"I'd say if you guys never managed to get round to it while you were together then thats where it should stay hun, if you do give in and 'shag' him then he will think its back on and cause you a host of new problems imho (sparks). i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging?????? I'm married to the only person I want to spend the rest of my life with (yeah, all together now, awwwwwwwww!!!). However, I (Martin) could never have sex with someone I wasnt attracted to, and I would hope that, ideally, this feeling was mutual where the other person is concerned. We didnt get into swinging for meaningless, emotionless sex. i did " So, just playing devils advocat (as its just gone xmas lol)... If you didnt like someone, you could still have sex with them? | |||
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"Wowww you have amazing boobs " And that was aimed at...? | |||
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"Wowww you have amazing boobs And that was aimed at...?" hard to say ... left, right.... can't choose so I'd aim for them both. | |||
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"If you didnt like someone, you could still have sex with them? " Not fussy | |||
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"i wouldnt sleep with anyone i wasnt attracted too So why are you on here if you couldnt sleep with some other than your partner??????? isnt that the whole idea of swinging?????? lol you serious? I can be attracted to people i just dont have to be dating them. did you read it is 'attatched' too... cos that might explain your response" yes i did sorry my bad hun thought u ment attached, must go to spec savers | |||
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