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By *iceguyteddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont get annoyed. Have a cup of tea instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it or is it just personal preference?

It's exactly the same as a straight man saying no men.

If it doesn't do it for them then why should they do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No prejudice here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont get annoyed. Have a cup of tea instead. "

Indian or China ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

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By *hrisUB3Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then? "

This People are allowed a preference. There's plenty of people ONLY looking to meet black guys, am I going to throw my teddies out of the pram over it? No

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you be more or less annoyed if they said no bald men?

Also how on earth do you "not belive" people have types that they find attractive or unattractive?

Will you fuck litteraly anyone?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Oh my goodness! People can choose who they have sex with.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

I've heard they can come across as aggressive, or "needy". But I've seen no evidence of this...

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Dont get annoyed. Have a cup of tea instead.

Indian or China ? "

Yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told by guys they don't like blondes or women with short hair. No point in spitting the dummy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s called preference

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

Personal choice is NOT prejudice, it's simply personal choice. As for hatred, well that's plain ridiculous. You're saying that if someone doesn't find someone else sexually attractive they hate them and it's all through prejudice?

Why does personal choice always become prejudice/racist/sexist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told by guys they don't like blondes or women with short hair. No point in spitting the dummy."

That’s sooo blondist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

r/niceguys :p

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicester

Oh for heavens sake

It’s 2019 - no one owes you a fuck if they aren’t attracted to you or sexually compatible

Get some balls n stop whinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like some Asian women,I don't like Asian men with no hair,just my preference,not my type

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By *udley hotwife86Couple
over a year ago

DUDLEY

It's not hate it's sexual preferance same as not liking beards, uncut cocks,wanting big cocks,big boobs, small boobs, BBW it's all about what people find sexualy attractive no hidden agenda or racist motivation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh the fine line of racism and prejudice.

There are plenty of white women, black women, Asian women who state no white men?

Do I take offense to that? No I don't because what is what their sexual attraction is towards.

I have a friend who has such a thing for women of Japanese descent that he will not sleep with or even date any other women.

They do absolutely nothing for him. Should he put aside his own likes and dislikes just to appease all these women he has no interest in based on the colour of their skin or their heritage?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am Asian, Im 32 and Iv only ever been attracted to white guys. Thats my innate preference which I am allowed to put forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am Asian, Im 32 and Iv only ever been attracted to white guys. Thats my innate preference which I am allowed to put forward. "

Racist!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I choose who I have sex with based on physical attraction (both ways, of course) and on getting to know their personality a bit.

I think you'll find the vast majority of people do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told by guys they don't like blondes or women with short hair. No point in spitting the dummy.

That’s sooo blondist "

Actually you've got a fucking point there! In a huff noo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh for heavens sake

It’s 2019 - no one owes you a fuck if they aren’t attracted to you or sexually compatible

Get some balls n stop whinging "

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned.

Personal choice is NOT prejudice, it's simply personal choice. As for hatred, well that's plain ridiculous. You're saying that if someone doesn't find someone else sexually attractive they hate them and it's all through prejudice?

Why does personal choice always become prejudice/racist/sexist? "

This!!!! Well said!!!

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

So, had a look at your profile.

You only want "sexy ppl".

What about those who are not sexy ppl?

Omg you're so something or other ist against non sexy ppl...

Sorry but it's a case of pot and kettle.

Sort yourself out before you start bitching at others.

Ms GR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

This People are allowed a preference. There's plenty of people ONLY looking to meet black guys, am I going to throw my teddies out of the pram over it? No

C"

Have you got a teddy? Or indeed a pram?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, had a look at your profile.

You only want "sexy ppl".

What about those who are not sexy ppl?

Omg you're so something or other ist against non sexy ppl...

Sorry but it's a case of pot and kettle.

Sort yourself out before you start bitching at others.

Ms GR "

0/ I'm not sexy!!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I’m really annoyed by the amount of women in their 20’s and 30’s that won’t meet me because of my age.

Ageist! Ban them as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then? "

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

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By *s.KerryTV/TS
over a year ago

Blackpool

I don't somehow think this thread is going quite the way the O.P intended. Hmmmmm think I may just have to get the kettle on and sort out some biscuits for the rest of it

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned.

Personal choice is NOT prejudice, it's simply personal choice. As for hatred, well that's plain ridiculous. You're saying that if someone doesn't find someone else sexually attractive they hate them and it's all through prejudice?

Why does personal choice always become prejudice/racist/sexist? "

I've been accused of being racist for not wanting to meet ethnic guys who don't match my preferences for distance, marital status etc. Nothing to do with colour whatsoever. I get pissed off when people play the race card because I've said no thanks. I don't really find bald, younger/older or guys with big muscles attractive either. Those preferences are the same as distance and marital status for me. Concentrate on finding people that do want to meet you rather than making ranty, racist accusations about those who don't want to meet you because of their personal preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't somehow think this thread is going quite the way the O.P intended. Hmmmmm think I may just have to get the kettle on and sort out some biscuits for the rest of it "

Or maybe it has gone his way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh pathetic! People have their own preference.

I have my own too.

And guess what...

It's called my choice

I'm sure you have your own too!

Grow up!

Let people have fun with who ever they want to.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple. "

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

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By *hrisUB3Man
over a year ago

Heathrow


"I don't somehow think this thread is going quite the way the O.P intended. Hmmmmm think I may just have to get the kettle on and sort out some biscuits for the rest of it "

Don't forget the tin hat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but every thread goes the way of the usual cranks attacking the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont get annoyed. Have a cup of tea instead.

Indian or China ? "

Tetley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities. "

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then? "

If we take you at face value, you've looked at him as an individual and made a decision on that basis. That does not make you a racist.

However, if someone dismisses the possibility of liking someone else based purely on their race... well, that's pretty much a dictionary definition of racism.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

At least you know to avoid those profiles, even block them so you don’t have to see them? That’s what I’d do anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing the card to try and get a leg over classy

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
over a year ago

Sussex


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

whoa, steady on there Teddy! - You're in danger of coming across as an entitled brat which is the most unattractive person of all.

People use this site for their own fantasy fulfilment. There are plenty of fabbers who would be happy to chat and meet you so long as you aren't carrying too much baggage.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

"

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

im getting fed up with people pulling the race card and screaming discrimination and hatred over a preference.

Am i a hater because short guys are not attractive to me or red haired people?

we like what/who we like so you need to realise that.

I have friends of different race and colour my choice as is who I find attractive and who I dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

This People are allowed a preference. There's plenty of people ONLY looking to meet black guys, am I going to throw my teddies out of the pram over it? No

C

Have you got a teddy? Or indeed a pram?"

Teddy yes, pram no but I'm sure I can borrow one

C

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By *udley hotwife86Couple
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist? "

Only you can answer that but that's the wrong way to look at it socializing with and having sex with a person is totally different. We socialize with a lot of people we'd never sleep with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist? "

Having a drink with someone and having sex with them are two very different things, I don't really think they're comparable.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'll happily go for a drink /meal/movie with someone I am not sexually attracted to.

I won't have sex with them.

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By *hrisUB3Man
over a year ago

Heathrow


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist? "

Should we be forced to socialise/have sex with people we don't like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a preference based on aesthetics or bias is not a bad thing.

How you articulate it is the issue.

If you find that there are certain demographics that you do not find attractive for whatever reason, surely it is better to be clear and state what you do or don't like?

Just don't be a dick about how you express it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

This People are allowed a preference. There's plenty of people ONLY looking to meet black guys, am I going to throw my teddies out of the pram over it? No

C

Have you got a teddy? Or indeed a pram?

Teddy yes, pram no but I'm sure I can borrow one

C"

That's fine,don't be buying one just to throw your teddy out it,that would be a waste of cash

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Only you can answer that but that's the wrong way to look at it socializing with and having sex with a person is totally different. We socialize with a lot of people we'd never sleep with "

Why question was why is it different. Why is having a blanket ban on socialising with Asians because they are Asians racist (as I think most people would agree) whilst a blanket ban on having sex with Asians because they are Asians is not racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am prejudiced against straight women coz they won’t fuck me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll happily go for a drink /meal/movie with someone I am not sexually attracted to.

I won't have sex with them. "

I won't sit and drink with a repugnant person!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist? "

Because sex is intimate and in even among swingers down to what an individual wants or likes.

The people who don't like having sex with a certain person for whatever reason, do they state anywhere that they do not like to interact or tolerate a certain skin colour or religion or whatever in any other situation?

You can't compare something as personal as sex to going to the pub. No matter how loose some men and women may be with their sexcapades.

Now, some people may actually be rasist in their preference and want zero interaction with other races. Unless they are open about it, but nobody should ever be made to feel guiltey for not wanting to sleep with anyone.

Women who like a certain height, may not want to sleep with me but will that stop them wanting to go to the pub with me for a laugh? No, plenty of other reasons for them not to want to.

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By *ertnsarahCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I'm not racist or prejudiced I'm just not usually sexually attracted to black, asian, or oriental men,it's not that I don't like them as people. There's always exceptions though. Now,if Idris came a-knocking.....

I do however, like mixed race men. Surely everyone has their preferences, I for one am not keen on muscle men, really puts me off, so does the suited & booted look but lots of ladies (& men) love it.

Anyone who's preference isn't a short, glasses wearing, short haired (mostly grey), small boobed, stumpy legged, inexperienced, saggy arsed smoker with an overweight hubby in tow then I'm afraid I'm not for you. That's ok, no offence taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So..

Is people looking for a certain age bracket, ageist?

A certain height, heightist?

It's called personal choice!!

Suck it up and move on is our advice.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

I find your type of post offensive myself. People want to be with who they like. Myself there are a few types that I don’t like and I don’t find it offensive if someone doesn’t like me. It’s what floats there boat that’s all.

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over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Only you can answer that but that's the wrong way to look at it socializing with and having sex with a person is totally different. We socialize with a lot of people we'd never sleep with

Why question was why is it different. Why is having a blanket ban on socialising with Asians because they are Asians racist (as I think most people would agree) whilst a blanket ban on having sex with Asians because they are Asians is not racist. "

Can I take your wife out for a drink please?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Should we be forced to socialise/have sex with people we don't like? "

Where did I say you should?

A lot of the confusion here is because people seem to think that saying something is racist is the same as people should be forced not to do it.

People are completely entitled to be racist in their private lives and other people are entitled to point out racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it’s not racism as such but a bad personal experience that some people can’t get over, or it’s just a personal preference ! why is acceptable them for people to say no fat skinny hairy etc it’s all preference you can’t assume that it’s racist that in itself is very cynical of you to make that assumption

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a preference based on aesthetics or bias is not a bad thing.

How you articulate it is the issue.

If you find that there are certain demographics that you do not find attractive for whatever reason, surely it is better to be clear and state what you do or don't like?

Just don't be a dick about how you express it."

Or just not say anything and take or leave what you do or don't want. Much more classy.

Every rule has exceptions anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to see the breakdown on brexit votes on such threads.

I think it would be "telling"

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

If you're not into tall, geeky, middle aged, fat men who practise polyamory..... You won't want to have sex with me.

Taking that pub analogy... I've had wonderful fab and real life chats with swingers here and at clubs. Some lead to sex, others lead no further than a drink and a laugh. I don't think anyone who declined an invitation to bed had any obligation to have sex with me.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Because sex is intimate and in even among swingers down to what an individual wants or likes.

The people who don't like having sex with a certain person for whatever reason, do they state anywhere that they do not like to interact or tolerate a certain skin colour or religion or whatever in any other situation?

You can't compare something as personal as sex to going to the pub. No matter how loose some men and women may be with their sexcapades.

Now, some people may actually be rasist in their preference and want zero interaction with other races. Unless they are open about it, but nobody should ever be made to feel guiltey for not wanting to sleep with anyone.

Women who like a certain height, may not want to sleep with me but will that stop them wanting to go to the pub with me for a laugh? No, plenty of other reasons for them not to want to.

"

My actual belief is halfway with you. I agree that in something as personal as sex people are entitled to have whatever prejudices and preferences they like.

However I think it's naive to think that some people's dislikes of certain ethnicities are not based on racist assumptions.

As someone above said, a blanket exclusion of everyone of a certain ethnicity for a negative reason is pretty much the definition of racism.

Fuck whoever you like, exclude whoever you like, have whatever preference you like, but also try to have some self awareness is all I say

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks


"r/niceguys :p"

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By *hrisUB3Man
over a year ago

Heathrow


"I'd love to see the breakdown on brexit votes on such threads.

I think it would be "telling" "

OK, I'll admit it, I voted for Brexit and I am a stupid racist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then? "

That makes two of us then!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Having a drink with someone and having sex with them are two very different things, I don't really think they're comparable. "

exactly!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to see the breakdown on brexit votes on such threads.

I think it would be "telling"

OK, I'll admit it, I voted for Brexit and I am a stupid racist! "

Better....come on get it all out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

Maybe hoods are the way forward..

Just a suggestion!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

You are correct not on in 2019 ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to see the breakdown on brexit votes on such threads.

I think it would be "telling" "

Why's that?

Because you'll have a prejudiced view about those who voted the way you didn't perhaps?

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Down with this sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to see the breakdown on brexit votes on such threads.

I think it would be "telling"

Why's that?

Because you'll have a prejudiced view about those who voted the way you didn't perhaps? "

I didn't vote at all

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Having a preference based on aesthetics or bias is not a bad thing.

How you articulate it is the issue.

If you find that there are certain demographics that you do not find attractive for whatever reason, surely it is better to be clear and state what you do or don't like?

Just don't be a dick about how you express it.

Or just not say anything and take or leave what you do or don't want. Much more classy.

Every rule has exceptions anyway.

"

I don't make exceptions to my rules.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."
. At the end of the day it’s about choices & preferences.Some time ago I messaged a lady who said she was looking for Pakistan or Indian l explained that although I am not either of those I have often been asked if I am she messaged back to say she agreed that I looked like those nationalist but she didn’t fancy me although disappointed I messaged back to say I respected her decision wished her the best of luck and moved on.As I said earlier choices & preferences

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By *ittlesub4uWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I don’t think preferences are supposed to be completely exclusive, the inflexibility of dictating who you will and won’t speak too is problematic.

If your preferences are informed by racial stereotypes rather than genuine experience I’d be inclined to agree with the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'!"

Here is a list of particular types of people I am not attracted to and/or are 'NOT MY TYPE':

Men. have male friends and will drink with men, but I am not sexually attracted to them.

CD. I admire their choices and will defend their right to live as they feel but I am not sexually attracted to them.

Lesbians. I find some sexually attractive but as I am not female I am not their type. I'm not attracted to someone who has no interest in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find people are attracted to whoever ever they like whether it be white black Asian hairy hairless tall short big or small for you to jump on here the way you have just sounds like you aren't getting any pussy so are throwing your dummy out and using your ethnicity as an excuse. And just for the the post I fancy anyone I'm attracted to male female and of any race.

(Female)

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over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Because sex is intimate and in even among swingers down to what an individual wants or likes.

The people who don't like having sex with a certain person for whatever reason, do they state anywhere that they do not like to interact or tolerate a certain skin colour or religion or whatever in any other situation?

You can't compare something as personal as sex to going to the pub. No matter how loose some men and women may be with their sexcapades.

Now, some people may actually be rasist in their preference and want zero interaction with other races. Unless they are open about it, but nobody should ever be made to feel guiltey for not wanting to sleep with anyone.

Women who like a certain height, may not want to sleep with me but will that stop them wanting to go to the pub with me for a laugh? No, plenty of other reasons for them not to want to.

My actual belief is halfway with you. I agree that in something as personal as sex people are entitled to have whatever prejudices and preferences they like.

However I think it's naive to think that some people's dislikes of certain ethnicities are not based on racist assumptions.

As someone above said, a blanket exclusion of everyone of a certain ethnicity for a negative reason is pretty much the definition of racism.

Fuck whoever you like, exclude whoever you like, have whatever preference you like, but also try to have some self awareness is all I say "

So my white (very white, dude need some sun) friend is racist because he is not sexually attracted to anyone but those of Japanese descent?

He will not sleep or date anyone who is anything but. However he travels all over the world learning of other cultures. Dude is the least racist person I know.

He also voted for brexit because he does not agree with "the EU bullshit" as he put it.

Not everyone has a sexual preference that is rooted in a deep down racist outlook.

But yes some people should have a think as to why exactly. Regardless that is their own choice to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a preference based on aesthetics or bias is not a bad thing.

How you articulate it is the issue.

If you find that there are certain demographics that you do not find attractive for whatever reason, surely it is better to be clear and state what you do or don't like?

Just don't be a dick about how you express it.

Or just not say anything and take or leave what you do or don't want. Much more classy.

Every rule has exceptions anyway.

I don't make exceptions to my rules. "

Because you are racist.

There's no stunningly beautiful Asian men out there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Because sex is intimate and in even among swingers down to what an individual wants or likes.

The people who don't like having sex with a certain person for whatever reason, do they state anywhere that they do not like to interact or tolerate a certain skin colour or religion or whatever in any other situation?

You can't compare something as personal as sex to going to the pub. No matter how loose some men and women may be with their sexcapades.

Now, some people may actually be rasist in their preference and want zero interaction with other races. Unless they are open about it, but nobody should ever be made to feel guiltey for not wanting to sleep with anyone.

Women who like a certain height, may not want to sleep with me but will that stop them wanting to go to the pub with me for a laugh? No, plenty of other reasons for them not to want to.

My actual belief is halfway with you. I agree that in something as personal as sex people are entitled to have whatever prejudices and preferences they like.

However I think it's naive to think that some people's dislikes of certain ethnicities are not based on racist assumptions.

As someone above said, a blanket exclusion of everyone of a certain ethnicity for a negative reason is pretty much the definition of racism.

Fuck whoever you like, exclude whoever you like, have whatever preference you like, but also try to have some self awareness is all I say

So my white (very white, dude need some sun) friend is racist because he is not sexually attracted to anyone but those of Japanese descent?

He will not sleep or date anyone who is anything but. However he travels all over the world learning of other cultures. Dude is the least racist person I know.

He also voted for brexit because he does not agree with "the EU bullshit" as he put it.

Not everyone has a sexual preference that is rooted in a deep down racist outlook.

But yes some people should have a think as to why exactly. Regardless that is their own choice to do so. "

His case is different. He excludes all other groups, not just one or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

I'm sure that the vast majority of folk posting here are perfectly genuine in their beliefs and preferences, and indeed people should be free to meet, or not, whomever they wish. It would however, be naive to assume that there are no closet racists, or even openly racist people on this site.

It cuts both ways though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't care what people like or don't like, just don't talk shit about my race by saying stuff like "had too many bad experiences". That's clearly a racist attack. Who you want or don't want to fuck is none of my concern. Now, is it rude to say "No Whites, No Blacks, No Asians"? I think it is extremely rude and is unnecessary. But you have to be reasonable and leave some space for people to say what they want. I think the best way is to just say what you want, for example "interested in white/black/asian men only". You can't condemn people for having preferences and choosing who they prefer to meet. It's when they are trying to convince others that you shouldn't meet a certain group that is the problem. You could argue that it's unnecessary to say anything, just don't respond to who you aren't interested in. I agree, if you're not really getting loads of unwanted messages then why say that at all. But people may be getting a large number of unwanted messages due to the area they live. I've come across some folk here who are obsessed with creating threads or making comments about the group they are either jealous of or hate. They stand out like a sore thumb. But do do those who are butt hurt because someone doesn't want to meet you. Just gotta keep it rolling and those who don't want you don't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m racist, I won’t fuck Asian men either

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By *aughty_Nat69Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

It’s a fine line, I think. I don’t get how you can write off every single person from a particular group.

For talking sake: If a women said no black men; I would find highly unlikely that there wasn’t atleast one black man, on the whole planet, that she wouldn’t find attractive. Unless there was underlying racist issues going it.

No way you could rule out an enter race of people. Regardless of their face, body, personality etc if their skins was a certain colour, then you could be attracted? No way.

Perhaps, you might not find the average person in that group attractive. But there will always be exceptions or exceptional individuals.

As I said, it’s a balancing acted. You have the right to your own sexual preference. But I think statements on people’s profile like No Asains, hints at racist undertones. This says more about them, and you (if your in said rejected group). But I can understand how one would feel hurt ready such things.

Perhaps it’s different if individuals are only looking for a certain thing (BBC only) as they are using this site to fulfill a specific fantasy. And they will meet people from all backgrounds outside the site??

Sorry, just some thoughts (not facts).

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned.

You are correct not on in 2019 .. "

How can you agree with that but it’s ok for your profile to say no fat men?

There are too many people on here who show blatant fatism , baldism and beardism for my liking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Because sex is intimate and in even among swingers down to what an individual wants or likes.

The people who don't like having sex with a certain person for whatever reason, do they state anywhere that they do not like to interact or tolerate a certain skin colour or religion or whatever in any other situation?

You can't compare something as personal as sex to going to the pub. No matter how loose some men and women may be with their sexcapades.

Now, some people may actually be rasist in their preference and want zero interaction with other races. Unless they are open about it, but nobody should ever be made to feel guiltey for not wanting to sleep with anyone.

Women who like a certain height, may not want to sleep with me but will that stop them wanting to go to the pub with me for a laugh? No, plenty of other reasons for them not to want to.

My actual belief is halfway with you. I agree that in something as personal as sex people are entitled to have whatever prejudices and preferences they like.

However I think it's naive to think that some people's dislikes of certain ethnicities are not based on racist assumptions.

As someone above said, a blanket exclusion of everyone of a certain ethnicity for a negative reason is pretty much the definition of racism.

Fuck whoever you like, exclude whoever you like, have whatever preference you like, but also try to have some self awareness is all I say

So my white (very white, dude need some sun) friend is racist because he is not sexually attracted to anyone but those of Japanese descent?

He will not sleep or date anyone who is anything but. However he travels all over the world learning of other cultures. Dude is the least racist person I know.

He also voted for brexit because he does not agree with "the EU bullshit" as he put it.

Not everyone has a sexual preference that is rooted in a deep down racist outlook.

But yes some people should have a think as to why exactly. Regardless that is their own choice to do so.

His case is different. He excludes all other groups, not just one or two. "

OK so somebody who excludes all but white people are not racist?

But somebody who is interested in all races except japanese would be racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No blacks no Irish no dogs

Wouldn’t stand a chance if you’re a black Irish wolfhound then !

As has been said so many times, it’s prefernce. Everyone has them for various reasons. It’s no different to people not meeting married folk.

We are both bi. If a guy won’t meet us for a threesome is he bi-ist...er...bisexualist...cock-in-the-bum-ist.

Missing out is what he is .....ist

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"It’s a fine line, I think. I don’t get how you can write off every single person from a particular group.

For talking sake: If a women said no black men; I would find highly unlikely that there wasn’t atleast one black man, on the whole planet, that she wouldn’t find attractive. Unless there was underlying racist issues going it.

No way you could rule out an enter race of people. Regardless of their face, body, personality etc if their skins was a certain colour, then you could be attracted? No way.

Perhaps, you might not find the average person in that group attractive. But there will always be exceptions or exceptional individuals.

As I said, it’s a balancing acted. You have the right to your own sexual preference. But I think statements on people’s profile like No Asains, hints at racist undertones. This says more about them, and you (if your in said rejected group). But I can understand how one would feel hurt ready such things.

Perhaps it’s different if individuals are only looking for a certain thing (BBC only) as they are using this site to fulfill a specific fantasy. And they will meet people from all backgrounds outside the site??

Sorry, just some thoughts (not facts).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is "Asian" actually a race one can be racist against? As far as I'm aware, Asia has peoples of many different races. As far as I'm aware, anti-European isn't considered racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then? "

No of course it doesn't if you don't find an individual attractive that's one thing, but to rule somebody out simply by their ethnic origin must be difficult for those that come from that origin to accept.

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over a year ago


"Dont get annoyed. Have a cup of tea instead.

Indian or China ?

Yorkshire"

Its the best

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over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

Because sex is intimate and in even among swingers down to what an individual wants or likes.

The people who don't like having sex with a certain person for whatever reason, do they state anywhere that they do not like to interact or tolerate a certain skin colour or religion or whatever in any other situation?

You can't compare something as personal as sex to going to the pub. No matter how loose some men and women may be with their sexcapades.

Now, some people may actually be rasist in their preference and want zero interaction with other races. Unless they are open about it, but nobody should ever be made to feel guiltey for not wanting to sleep with anyone.

Women who like a certain height, may not want to sleep with me but will that stop them wanting to go to the pub with me for a laugh? No, plenty of other reasons for them not to want to.

My actual belief is halfway with you. I agree that in something as personal as sex people are entitled to have whatever prejudices and preferences they like.

However I think it's naive to think that some people's dislikes of certain ethnicities are not based on racist assumptions.

As someone above said, a blanket exclusion of everyone of a certain ethnicity for a negative reason is pretty much the definition of racism.

Fuck whoever you like, exclude whoever you like, have whatever preference you like, but also try to have some self awareness is all I say

So my white (very white, dude need some sun) friend is racist because he is not sexually attracted to anyone but those of Japanese descent?

He will not sleep or date anyone who is anything but. However he travels all over the world learning of other cultures. Dude is the least racist person I know.

He also voted for brexit because he does not agree with "the EU bullshit" as he put it.

Not everyone has a sexual preference that is rooted in a deep down racist outlook.

But yes some people should have a think as to why exactly. Regardless that is their own choice to do so.

His case is different. He excludes all other groups, not just one or two.

OK so somebody who excludes all but white people are not racist?

But somebody who is interested in all races except japanese would be racist?

"

You have me there. Check mate.

What do you think?

I think as others have alluded, it's a fine line...but we know the racists when we see them.

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By *udley hotwife86Couple
over a year ago

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Yes some folk are racist that's in every walk of life, but sexual attraction is not racist it's just what one person finds desirable. For example I'm the male half of a bi couple (strike one) shaven head (strike two) and have pierced genitalia (strike three) for some I'm happy with who I am if others don't want any other all of that oh well. I won't go crying biggott

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd more than happily work with people of different races, even socialize with them, but when it comes to intimacy, I'm sticking to white Caucasians. If that makes me racist, so be it!

I don't have to justify my sexual preferences.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Dont get annoyed. Have a cup of tea instead.

Indian or China ? "

Asians or tea?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Ostensibly it's a preference.

I do think for some people that preference is based on prejudice be it conscious or unconscious.

Whatever, they aren't going to be the type of person I want to meet.

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By *iceguyteddy OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks I’m doing that now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ostensibly it's a preference.

I do think for some people that preference is based on prejudice be it conscious or unconscious.

Whatever, they aren't going to be the type of person I want to meet."

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist? "

It isnt about not socialising with different races.. its the fact that some people dont feel ATTRACTED to that race so puts as their personal preference for that race not to contact as would be wasting both peoples time..

Thats not to say they wouldnt socialise with that race in general..

It isnt racist its a choice of who you would or wouldnt have sex with!!!!

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over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

It isnt about not socialising with different races.. its the fact that some people dont feel ATTRACTED to that race so puts as their personal preference for that race not to contact as would be wasting both peoples time..

Thats not to say they wouldnt socialise with that race in general..

It isnt racist its a choice of who you would or wouldnt have sex with!!!!"

May I just point out Asia is a Continent, with many countries and races within it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Ostensibly it's a preference.

I do think for some people that preference is based on prejudice be it conscious or unconscious.

Whatever, they aren't going to be the type of person I want to meet."

Indeed. If someone makes explicit statements like "no Asians", they may or may not be racist, but it's obviously more likely they are than people who don't make such statements.

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By *r n Mrs NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

eccles


"I am prejudiced against straight women coz they won’t fuck me "

Hahahha this made me giggle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!" "

Yeah, it's annoying painting it black

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

It isnt about not socialising with different races.. its the fact that some people dont feel ATTRACTED to that race so puts as their personal preference for that race not to contact as would be wasting both peoples time..

Thats not to say they wouldnt socialise with that race in general..

It isnt racist its a choice of who you would or wouldnt have sex with!!!!"

No sure why you feel the need to protect Racist ..

There are clearly some Racist among us this would be a red flag in my book..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've looked at your profile. I don't find you attractive, facial attraction is a big thing for me, you're not my type. Does that make me racist then?

Nope just lacking decorum

I'm leaning towards the OP. My view is that you can have preferences without disclosing them in an offensive way.

Some of it is attraction or lack of and some of it racism pure and simple.

Indeed.

No one is suggesting anyone should have sex with anyone they don't want to, but it would rather naive to think that there isn't some racism going on with at least some people who are so vehement about their dislike of certain ethnicities.

Yes and there's plenty of coverup BS in the preference rhetoric.

If I put "no disabled" on my profile how would that go down?

A thought experiment.

If a new Asian bloke started at my work and he invited me out for a drink and I said "no, sorry, I don't socialise with Asians, it's just my preference", would I be being racist?

If so, why is refusing to engage sexually with Asians as a preference not racist?

It isnt about not socialising with different races.. its the fact that some people dont feel ATTRACTED to that race so puts as their personal preference for that race not to contact as would be wasting both peoples time..

Thats not to say they wouldnt socialise with that race in general..

It isnt racist its a choice of who you would or wouldnt have sex with!!!!

No sure why you feel the need to protect Racist ..

There are clearly some Racist among us this would be a red flag in my book.."

Do you believe the term "Asian" refers to one single race?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

I play with Asians gentlemen and ladies when in clubs or private parties, I won't play with an entitled brat though regardless of race or boys who think their gods gifts to women and I should be greatful they wanted me as they thought I was the most attractive in the club.

The people I play with are the ones that I find easy to talk too, chemistry sparks and we can have a laugh in the bedroom or the passionate forgot the rest of the world sex.

With your entitlement racist bullshit I would instantly dismiss you both here and in the club.

Btw I'm white, my bf is black. And my kids are mixed.

People have their choices when it comes to sex if all things. Get over it and perhaps review your own attitude towards the very world your trying to impress.

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By *r n Mrs NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

eccles

Wow Am I really reading this!!

Course every1 has dislikes n likes. Wtf. Doesn't mean they are racist at all!!

Every1 is different omg if we was all the same and liked the same things life would be boring.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"His case is different. He excludes all other groups, not just one or two.

OK so somebody who excludes all but white people are not racist?

But somebody who is interested in all races except japanese would be racist?

You have me there. Check mate.

What do you think?

I think as others have alluded, it's a fine line...but we know the racists when we see them. "

I agree with you there, it is a fine line and for some (whoever they are) there will be a racist reason. But not all. Sexual preference is so important that it is never as black and white (no pun intended) as racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often find these people who come loaded up with hard rules about who they will or won't do or how they go about things tend to be very weak people putting on a front.

Maybe self protection?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of ageist, heightist, genderist, cock sizest, body sizest, homophobic, distantist, accommodationist, newbiest, smokerist, analist, fistingist, watersportist, painist, pooist people on here too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does the OP (on these types of threads) Never come back and discuss....

It really is a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

Can of worms I think op

Everyone's got a type else it would be boring as f..k

Stop playing the card pal

There's women on here who I'd love to fornicate with but bbc only

So literally no cigar for me

But do you see me whinging about it

No you see me having fun

Mixing in

Getting to know you getting to know you well

Chatting on pm and kik

Not sex chat but real nice n normal chat

Sometimes we meet

Sometimes we don't

Same for the sex

Only get one life pal

Live it

Jay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does the OP (on these types of threads) Never come back and discuss....

It really is a waste of time "

Read the thread again, he has!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!"

Yeah, it's annoying painting it black"

Not so bad washing it off though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK for all those who are hell bent on thinking this is racist.

Hypothetical. The following is not true but just an example.

I socialise with all races, best friend is a black woman. Say I have sex with women of all races except black women. I have no issues at all. Looking at black women in porn does nothing for me, at all. Doesn't make me get hard.

Am I racist? Is my dick racist?

Subconsciously there may be a block, but if I am in now way aroused at all by a black woman what am I supposed to do?

Fair enough it is a bit of an extreme but point still stands. It is not always about racist hatred.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, had a look at your profile.

You only want "sexy ppl".

What about those who are not sexy ppl?

Omg you're so something or other ist against non sexy ppl...

Sorry but it's a case of pot and kettle.

Sort yourself out before you start bitching at others.

Ms GR "

Plse don't add the extra word with pot n kettle

Op's head will explode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!"

Yeah, it's annoying painting it black

Not so bad washing it off though "

*Permanent marker I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!"

Yeah, it's annoying painting it black

Not so bad washing it off though "

*Permanent marker I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!"

Yeah, it's annoying painting it black

Not so bad washing it off though "

*Permanent marker I believe

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I have on my profile "no offence but no asians" but im certainly not racist

I am just not sexually attracted to asian people..

And i have mixed race children too,and worked and socialised with ALL races and religions too.. so to say it is racist is annoying me too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!"

Yeah, it's annoying painting it black

Not so bad washing it off though

*Permanent marker I believe "

He let it dry first then applied a second coat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a preference, just like the people who say "black cock only!"

Yeah, it's annoying painting it black

Not so bad washing it off though

*Permanent marker I believe

He let it dry first then applied a second coat "

Oops sorry looks like 4 coats

Proper bbc

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile."

I was thinking the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No blacks no Irish no dogs

Wouldn’t stand a chance if you’re a black Irish wolfhound then !

As has been said so many times, it’s prefernce. Everyone has them for various reasons. It’s no different to people not meeting married folk.

We are both bi. If a guy won’t meet us for a threesome is he bi-ist...er...bisexualist...cock-in-the-bum-ist.

Missing out is what he is .....ist "

Lololololol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile."

Fair point but honestly I think it would still be called out as racist. There is no winning, its a "stir the pot" subject that for some if you You turned away from somebody of another race it would be taken as racist for some people.

I hate racism for the sake of hate, but some people really need to learn it is possible for some things to not have a racist reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry that was meant to say *turned away from somebody of another race to cough it would be taken as racist by some people*

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

I don't think it's a racist thing at all, any more than any other preferences.

S has her preferences and doesn't find Asian or Coloured gents sexually attractive, any more than she likes beards or bald gents or young guys. Myself, I think there are some incredibly beautiful and sexy coloured and asian ladies around so my preferences are different for ladies. I'm not bi and don't want contact with other men myself but that doesn't make me homophobic, any more than her preference makes her racist.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"OK for all those who are hell bent on thinking this is racist.

Hypothetical. The following is not true but just an example.

I socialise with all races, best friend is a black woman. Say I have sex with women of all races except black women. I have no issues at all. Looking at black women in porn does nothing for me, at all. Doesn't make me get hard.

Am I racist? Is my dick racist?

Subconsciously there may be a block, but if I am in now way aroused at all by a black woman what am I supposed to do?

Fair enough it is a bit of an extreme but point still stands. It is not always about racist hatred.

"

That's great and i truly believe you but it is racist (May only be passive) but it causes offence ask your non white friends how it would make them feel..

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"It’s a fine line, I think. I don’t get how you can write off every single person from a particular group.

For talking sake: If a women said no black men; I would find highly unlikely that there wasn’t atleast one black man, on the whole planet, that she wouldn’t find attractive. Unless there was underlying racist issues going it.

No way you could rule out an enter race of people. Regardless of their face, body, personality etc if their skins was a certain colour, then you could be attracted? No way.

Perhaps, you might not find the average person in that group attractive. But there will always be exceptions or exceptional individuals.

As I said, it’s a balancing acted. You have the right to your own sexual preference. But I think statements on people’s profile like No Asains, hints at racist undertones. This says more about them, and you (if your in said rejected group). But I can understand how one would feel hurt ready such things.

Perhaps it’s different if individuals are only looking for a certain thing (BBC only) as they are using this site to fulfill a specific fantasy. And they will meet people from all backgrounds outside the site??

Sorry, just some thoughts (not facts).

"

This

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

Let me guess hot white chick turned you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok op would you meet a burn victim or some9ne with no arms and legs or another disability or a 106 yr old lady

Or someone you dont fancy

Some women dont like beards or bald guys or short guys or ugly guys

We all have types preferences and folks we fancy thats life if a certain race dont float your boat so be it

But whining about it just makes you look a little desperate if im honest

I know my examples were extreme i wasnt being a cunt just giving an idea if this daft mentality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the dictionary.

prejudice: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.

discrimination: the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK for all those who are hell bent on thinking this is racist.

Hypothetical. The following is not true but just an example.

I socialise with all races, best friend is a black woman. Say I have sex with women of all races except black women. I have no issues at all. Looking at black women in porn does nothing for me, at all. Doesn't make me get hard.

Am I racist? Is my dick racist?

Subconsciously there may be a block, but if I am in now way aroused at all by a black woman what am I supposed to do?

Fair enough it is a bit of an extreme but point still stands. It is not always about racist hatred.

"

Ok but why do you go to such lengths to make the same point over and over.

As others have said, ignore who you don't fancy. Simple

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned.

im getting fed up with people pulling the race card and screaming discrimination and hatred over a preference.

Am i a hater because short guys are not attractive to me or red haired people?

we like what/who we like so you need to realise that.

I have friends of different race and colour my choice as is who I find attractive and who I dont. "

What's wrong with red heads?? Bloody hell ... that's just plain ... erm ... anti-mc1r!!

Gonna start a campaign now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile."

How would you know they were Asian just from a message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK for all those who are hell bent on thinking this is racist.

Hypothetical. The following is not true but just an example.

I socialise with all races, best friend is a black woman. Say I have sex with women of all races except black women. I have no issues at all. Looking at black women in porn does nothing for me, at all. Doesn't make me get hard.

Am I racist? Is my dick racist?

Subconsciously there may be a block, but if I am in now way aroused at all by a black woman what am I supposed to do?

Fair enough it is a bit of an extreme but point still stands. It is not always about racist hatred.

Ok but why do you go to such lengths to make the same point over and over.

As others have said, ignore who you don't fancy. Simple"

Because i seem to see this pop up month after month and because i can do im a gobshite with an opinion like the rest of us forum would be shite if nobody had opinions

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile.

How would you know they were Asian just from a message?"

The same way you look Ham.. lol

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over a year ago


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile.

How would you know they were Asian just from a message?

The same way you look Ham.. lol"

I'm Ham?

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By *heBlankPMan
over a year ago

widnes

Think you have that wrong.

I can understand it’s a little sweeping, but there are plenty of profiles from white women who state black cock only for example.

I myself don’t find Asian women, bbw, or gingers (to move away from race) that attractive in general. But there are exceptions and plenty of hot Asian women and gingers on here that I would give my right arm to meet etc.

It’s sweeping yes, it’s certainly not racist though.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile.

How would you know they were Asian just from a message?"

If you find their pictures attractive, they must not be Asian, going on the logic of this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No blacks no Irish no dogs

Wouldn’t stand a chance if you’re a black Irish wolfhound then !

As has been said so many times, it’s prefernce. Everyone has them for various reasons. It’s no different to people not meeting married folk.

We are both bi. If a guy won’t meet us for a threesome is he bi-ist...er...bisexualist...cock-in-the-bum-ist.

Missing out is what he is .....ist "

I owned one of these once

Teetotal for 16 yrs

Never felt better

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

What dissuedes me from meeting people has nothing to with their skin pigment, religion or politics.

It's how they carry themselves and respect people, their opinions and beliefs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's a racist thing at all, any more than any other preferences.

S has her preferences and doesn't find Asian or Coloured gents sexually attractive, any more than she likes beards or bald gents or young guys. Myself, I think there are some incredibly beautiful and sexy coloured and asian ladies around so my preferences are different for ladies. I'm not bi and don't want contact with other men myself but that doesn't make me homophobic, any more than her preference makes her racist."

Coloured!?! Jesus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you have that wrong.

I can understand it’s a little sweeping, but there are plenty of profiles from white women who state black cock only for example.

I myself don’t find Asian women, bbw, or gingers (to move away from race) that attractive in general. But there are exceptions and plenty of hot Asian women and gingers on here that I would give my right arm to meet etc.

It’s sweeping yes, it’s certainly not racist though. "

Your a gingericst then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile.

How would you know they were Asian just from a message?

If you find their pictures attractive, they must not be Asian, going on the logic of this thread. "

I think you may be right, but apparently I'm ham, so what would I know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's a racist thing at all, any more than any other preferences.

S has her preferences and doesn't find Asian or Coloured gents sexually attractive, any more than she likes beards or bald gents or young guys. Myself, I think there are some incredibly beautiful and sexy coloured and asian ladies around so my preferences are different for ladies. I'm not bi and don't want contact with other men myself but that doesn't make me homophobic, any more than her preference makes her racist.

Coloured!?! Jesus "

Is people of colour not the correct term in the ever changing landscape of what's ok to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm getting rather annoyed by the sheer ignorance and prejudice expressed openly by some members on this site and it's NOT acceptable. It's clear prejudice as I don't believe you find a particular type of persons unattractive or 'NOT YOUR TYPE'! This is no different to the 50/60s when hotels and public houses put up doors signs with NO BLACKS NO IRISH NO DOGS! This should not be shown on members profiles openly it's pure hatred. It should be banned."

So.are you saying that just because someone has preferences then they are racist.

We all have types and likes when we are looking for fun with people.

I would say as all your veries are from TVS then you have a type yourself.

Now we are very open and give people a chance but how people come across has a big influence on who we meet or don't meet.

But we do have a preference for BBW ladies and Mel loves a bearded tattooed bigger guy. So we tend to look at meeting people who fit this bill.

It does not make us racist because in the majority the Asian men that have messaged is here do not float Mel's boat. If one did she would consider meeting them for a social.

Secondly bleating posts in the forum about how disgusting it is that no one wants to meet me posts instantly turn us off no matter that the person is like.

Any type of ism is wrong and trying to use it as an excuse is a really low thing to do in our eyes.

We could bleat on that as bigger people we are not everyone's type. Instead we get out their make friends and have fun with those that fancy us for us.

Sometimes people need to put on their big boy or girl pants and just accept that no one on here needs to meet them or play with them.

This self entitlement attitude is the problem not that people fancy who they fancy.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Great post OP good honest conversation..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing funny about this also people of colour is very different to calling someone coloured

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great post OP good honest conversation..

"

I'm still waiting to find out what a "ham" is supposed to be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's a racist thing at all, any more than any other preferences.

S has her preferences and doesn't find Asian or Coloured gents sexually attractive, any more than she likes beards or bald gents or young guys. Myself, I think there are some incredibly beautiful and sexy coloured and asian ladies around so my preferences are different for ladies. I'm not bi and don't want contact with other men myself but that doesn't make me homophobic, any more than her preference makes her racist.

Coloured!?! Jesus

Is people of colour not the correct term in the ever changing landscape of what's ok to say? "

I hate that term coloured it boils my piss anyone who calls me kids coloured or half cast usually gets slapped..

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’ve not read through the thread but my personal opinion is I really don’t care, it doesn’t bother me nor do I think about it. However I do get fed up of messages that just say they’re a black man etc. I couldn’t careless, I don’t declare I’m white so why someone should point out their race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is nothing funny about this also people of colour is very different to calling someone coloured "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do, some don't. Same as preference about gender, age, sexual orientation, hair (or not), height, number of known sexual partners, single or couple, locality, body size and shape, black, brown or white (or any other colour) ... etc., etc. ...

Best not to get too hung up about it. There'll be those who do fancy you ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah but every thread goes the way of the usual cranks attacking the OP. "

You’re spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK for all those who are hell bent on thinking this is racist.

Hypothetical. The following is not true but just an example.

I socialise with all races, best friend is a black woman. Say I have sex with women of all races except black women. I have no issues at all. Looking at black women in porn does nothing for me, at all. Doesn't make me get hard.

Am I racist? Is my dick racist?

Subconsciously there may be a block, but if I am in now way aroused at all by a black woman what am I supposed to do?

Fair enough it is a bit of an extreme but point still stands. It is not always about racist hatred.

That's great and i truly believe you but it is racist (May only be passive) but it causes offence ask your non white friends how it would make them feel..

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Taking offence and racist are 2 different things. How is it any different to somebody saying "I don't find you attractive"?

I wouldn't find it offensive. Just like if a black woman said she is not attracted to me because I'm white, or that she just does not get wet or any sexual feelings to me but she is happy to hang around with me as friends.

A disinterest in somebody of a certain race is not racist.

A dislike for somebody solely on their race is racist.

Its a fine line but it is not racist. Just the same as straight men not being sexually attracted to gay men is not homophobic.

Inwill happily spend hours/days/weeks in the company of a gay man. I have no interest in sleeping with him.

I am however attracted to various races, it is the individual that I am attracted to.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

It's a preference most son and fantasy here is black guys. Accept it.

I don't think it's racist it depends if someone likes you or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a laughably small difference between "coloured" and "people of colour".

Don't be so het up about trivial shit.

Imo people of colour is more offensive. What's wrong with "people"?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Great post OP good honest conversation..

I'm still waiting to find out what a "ham" is supposed to be?"

LOL Google it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is nothing funny about this also people of colour is very different to calling someone coloured

Why?

"

Right Im guessing you are joking now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a laughably small difference between "coloured" and "people of colour".

Don't be so het up about trivial shit.

Imo people of colour is more offensive. What's wrong with "people"?"
let me guess youre not a person of colour

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile.

How would you know they were Asian just from a message?

If you find their pictures attractive, they must not be Asian, going on the logic of this thread.

I think you may be right, but apparently I'm ham, so what would I know? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great post OP good honest conversation..

I'm still waiting to find out what a "ham" is supposed to be?

LOL Google it.."

"Ham is pork from a leg cut that has been preserved by wet or dry curing, with or without smoking."

Are you saying I'm a pork product?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great post OP good honest conversation..

I'm still waiting to find out what a "ham" is supposed to be?

LOL Google it.."

You should practice what you preach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asia is a vast continent.

Perhaps they should be more specific.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a laughably small difference between "coloured" and "people of colour".

Don't be so het up about trivial shit.

Imo people of colour is more offensive. What's wrong with "people"? let me guess youre not a person of colour "

I'm a person of no colour?

Why is it so offensive?

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By *ndonmaleMan
over a year ago

Preston

It would be like myself turning up at a “Black mans fan club” event!!

I may be welcome to go in but I’m not likely to be there type or what they’re looking for.

Based on the majority of women/couples that I’ve seen in clubs are white and they’re seeking black guys, I’m wondering what kind of ism or ist that would make them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D has no attraction for Asian or Black guys ..her choice ..

The same has some folk like thin girls..fat girls..big tits small tits and so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great post OP good honest conversation..

I'm still waiting to find out what a "ham" is supposed to be?

LOL Google it.."

I'm guessing it's a poorly veiled insult that you are too cowardly to put into words on the forum for fear of being placed on the naughty step. Bad form old boy, bad form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's a racist thing at all, any more than any other preferences.

S has her preferences and doesn't find Asian or Coloured gents sexually attractive, any more than she likes beards or bald gents or young guys. Myself, I think there are some incredibly beautiful and sexy coloured and asian ladies around so my preferences are different for ladies. I'm not bi and don't want contact with other men myself but that doesn't make me homophobic, any more than her preference makes her racist.

Coloured!?! Jesus

Is people of colour not the correct term in the ever changing landscape of what's ok to say? "

Never use the word coloured! My god. I did in the staff room once.....if looks could kill..

One thing that no one can deny is in 2019 we do have a massive issue with Muslim/Asian ( I dunno what you wanna call it, I’m too scared to think of others and say so...)

You may turn around and say that YOU do not personally but internationally, as a whole, from what I can see, the race getting the most stick nowadays is Muslim/ Asian people. Usually men. Now I think that’s to do with how we’re delivered information, be it through papers, social media, tv, news, whatever.

Op and lots of others like him don’t really stand a chance here.

Yes, it maybe your preference but a lot of people here would rather not meet a Muslim or Asian guy. And why is that? Really....

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I won't exclude based on the colour of someone's skin. For me that's just plain daft. I'd worry about what I was missing out on. All those potentially interesting people who could of enriched my life, memories and experiences.

I take people as I find them. If I don't like them it's usually because they are eejits or I just don't find them visually attractive. Shallow harlot that I am.

There is a line from Captain Corelli's Mandolin that goes something like... 'love enters by the eyes and leaves by the eyes...'

You can swap the word love for lust, want, desire et al

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I don't think it's racist to have a preference, but why not just delete messages from Asian men if you don't want to meet them. Given that people know its such an emotive subject, I don't see why it has to be emblazoned across a profile."

I do that but if its on profile they obviously not reading in the first place.. and when do delete some still ask why and carry on messaging..if read profile it would save us both..

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