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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

I'm not always against it ... People can do what they like with their relationships, but I prefer a bit of honesty so that I can make my own decision based upon truth and not lies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to make my own mind up too.

I guess that when they’ve been upfront about it in the past, they’ve been judged from the get go, so find it easier to lie/not mention it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t understand why people can’t be honest, yeah I understand that guys who are cheating are likely to want to keep it quiet but after reading women’s profiles I just don’t understand why they aren’t open and honest

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Have to agree... there are sites for people who are specifically looking for affairs ...

At least people on there know the score

Playing without knowledge is not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to make my own mind up too.

I guess that when they’ve been upfront about it in the past, they’ve been judged from the get go, so find it easier to lie/not mention it "

Will be different for each individual but a lot of it will come down to this. As you say being judged will be a huge factor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer to make my own mind up too.

I guess that when they’ve been upfront about it in the past, they’ve been judged from the get go, so find it easier to lie/not mention it "

But surely it would eventually come out even if I didn't ask early questions because if you reach "meet" stage it must come out then...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can’t understand why people can’t be honest, yeah I understand that guys who are cheating are likely to want to keep it quiet but after reading women’s profiles I just don’t understand why they aren’t open and honest "

People, I'm sure, cheat for their own reasons, rightly or wrongly, but when wanting to meet someone through this site, why lie about it??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to agree... there are sites for people who are specifically looking for affairs ...

At least people on there know the score

Playing without knowledge is not swinging"

Indeed you are right.

I can kinda understand the behaviour on a dating site, but not here.

Maybe my thinking isn't totally correct, but it's definitely my perception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to make my own mind up too.

I guess that when they’ve been upfront about it in the past, they’ve been judged from the get go, so find it easier to lie/not mention it

But surely it would eventually come out even if I didn't ask early questions because if you reach "meet" stage it must come out then...?"

You’d think, however someone I knew personally and had known for years before fab managed to sleep with me a few times before saying ‘I need to put my phone on loud, my girlfriend could go into labour at any time now’

what girlfriend?! And because he deleted fab quickly but we spoke on Facebook, I looked at his page often and did checks and stuff and nope, he managed to hide it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should add that I'm not in favour of it. Just that I do understand why people are dishonest about coming forward about it, it hurts their chances and others make them feel bad for it. So they try to avoid that.

Also I expect admitting it also makes it real for them, if they don't admit it, in their eyes they are doing nothing wrong.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

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"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

Theres still plenty of other single men that are unattached.

Its slightly unfair to paint many with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer to make my own mind up too.

I guess that when they’ve been upfront about it in the past, they’ve been judged from the get go, so find it easier to lie/not mention it

But surely it would eventually come out even if I didn't ask early questions because if you reach "meet" stage it must come out then...?

what girlfriend?! And because he deleted fab quickly but we spoke on Facebook, I looked at his page often and did checks and stuff and nope, he managed to hide it"

You probably don't delve as deep as I do

Even in the days before the internet I used to find them out quite quickly.

I think I have an inbuilt "bullshitometer" where the lying attacheds are concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People, I'm sure, cheat for their own reasons, rightly or wrongly, but when wanting to meet someone through this site, why lie about it?? "

Precisely, I’m not going to judge anyone for cheating it’s their life and I have no right to enforce my view on them but if they lie about it I’m going to lose any trust in them and I’d have doubts about everything they’d told me then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

Theres still plenty of other single men that are unattached.

Its slightly unfair to paint many with the same brush."

So which of the "single" men who are married/attached should I not paint with the same brush?

I'm not knocking the ones who are honest about it, it's their life/relationship, but it's the ones who blatanty lie that get to me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

I'm not always against it ... People can do what they like with their relationships, but I prefer a bit of honesty so that I can make my own decision based upon truth and not lies...

Don't think it is just men the lie. I think it takes far too much energy to start lying, having to lead two lives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

I'm not always against it ... People can do what they like with their relationships, but I prefer a bit of honesty so that I can make my own decision based upon truth and not lies...

Don't think it is just men the lie. I think it takes far too much energy to start lying, having to lead two lives. "

You're most probably right there, but I don't meet women so can't comment on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty if said singles can’t be honest with their own partners it may be a tad naive to expect them to be honest with complete strangers. How could you believe a word they say anyway given there already lying to thier supposed loved ones?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

I'm not always against it ... People can do what they like with their relationships, but I prefer a bit of honesty so that I can make my own decision based upon truth and not lies...

Don't think it is just men the lie. I think it takes far too much energy to start lying, having to lead two lives. "

The women don't need to lie, plenty of men will meet them attached or not. This isn't the case the other way round, hence why a lot of men do lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledgeMen being honest with everyone gets man judged as a single as separated or married, men are on to swing though life without drama or without the need for asking questions, surely women and men have their own shoes to live in and being over 21 we have that choice,

Theres still plenty of other single men that are unattached.

Its slightly unfair to paint many with the same brush. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because so many people won't meet cheaters. They're already at a disadvantage by being a single guy on the site.

If they can be dishonest to their partner then lying to an internet stranger to get what they want is an easy next step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

I'm not always against it ... People can do what they like with their relationships, but I prefer a bit of honesty so that I can make my own decision based upon truth and not lies...

Don't think it is just men the lie. I think it takes far too much energy to start lying, having to lead two lives.

You're most probably right there, but I don't meet women so can't comment on them

I don't meet women either, not for want of trying though.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because so many people won't meet cheaters. They're already at a disadvantage by being a single guy on the site.

If they can be dishonest to their partner then lying to an internet stranger to get what they want is an easy next step. "

Doesn't work with me ... My carefully crafted questions get it out of them usually quite quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males ."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

I'm not always against it ... People can do what they like with their relationships, but I prefer a bit of honesty so that I can make my own decision based upon truth and not lies...

Don't think it is just men the lie. I think it takes far too much energy to start lying, having to lead two lives.

You're most probably right there, but I don't meet women so can't comment on them

I don't meet women either, not for want of trying though.

Awwww, keep going, never give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males ."

I never bulk delete or block them, like I said, I just like to know the truth of who I'm dealing with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to agree... there are sites for people who are specifically looking for affairs ...

At least people on there know the score

Playing without knowledge is not swinging"
swinging back and fourth and from side to side while supporting yourself on a axis lol another type of swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure it it is true but people say if you will not accommodate, woman will take this as a sign of marriage. I don't accommodate and the reason is I'm a single parent, simple as. If somebody wants to assume anything of that, fare yee well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to agree... there are sites for people who are specifically looking for affairs ...

At least people on there know the score

Playing without knowledge is not swingingswinging back and fourth and from side to side while supporting yourself on a axis lol another type of swing

Boom boom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why aren't the "Fab Singles" honest about it...?

I've had half a dozen men contact me this year from their single man profile, and after asking a few carefully practiced questions, discovered they are attached and playing without knowledge.

I'm not always against it ... People can do what they like with their relationships, but I prefer a bit of honesty so that I can make my own decision based upon truth and not lies...

Don't think it is just men the lie. I think it takes far too much energy to start lying, having to lead two lives.

You're most probably right there, but I don't meet women so can't comment on them

I don't meet women either, not for want of trying though.

Awwww, keep going, never give up

Never do, always one foot forward (stepping over my testicles)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not sure it it is true but people say if you will not accommodate, woman will take this as a sign of marriage. I don't accommodate and the reason is I'm a single parent, simple as. If somebody wants to assume anything of that, fare yee well."

I'm over 50, so not gullible enough to be that narrow minded.

I simply ask questions (as I said before) and 99% of time the liars trip themselves up and I have the answer, having done courses in the past on questioning methods helps I believe

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing ."

You can tell you are single, you're not practiced in the art of ultra lying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing ."

Or not as black and white. I'm not overly keen on having people I only know from the internet know my address.

There are plenty of valid reasons for single men and women to not want to accommodate, or unable to do so.

It may be an indication but it is most definitely not fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wonder how a person can consider themselves to be genuine, nice, respectful or decent in life when they clearly lie about anything?

I'm not interested in anyone that I can't trust or respect in any part of my life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing .

Or not as black and white. I'm not overly keen on having people I only know from the internet know my address.

There are plenty of valid reasons for single men and women to not want to accommodate, or unable to do so.

It may be an indication but it is most definitely not fact. "

Yup! Spot on!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males ."

They give the rest of us a bad reputation is an easy cop out and complete crock of shit.

If you're not successful it's on you! no one else! why do you think those cheating married men apparently giving you a bad name are still getting laid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing .

Or not as black and white. I'm not overly keen on having people I only know from the internet know my address.

There are plenty of valid reasons for single men and women to not want to accommodate, or unable to do so.

It may be an indication but it is most definitely not fact. "

I was gonna say the same, I wouldn’t like anyone to come to my home too if I’ve only spoken to them a few times,

I think help to avoid it speak to the person more and eventually he would probably give up if he was hiding something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males .

They give the rest of us a bad reputation is an easy cop out and complete crock of shit.

If you're not successful it's on you! no one else! why do you think those cheating married men apparently giving you a bad name are still getting laid? "

I agree with you but also I kind of see his point, though it may not be what he was getting at.

The dishonesty of attached men passing off as single then causes even more distrust and suspicion on guys who are actually single.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing .

Or not as black and white. I'm not overly keen on having people I only know from the internet know my address.

There are plenty of valid reasons for single men and women to not want to accommodate, or unable to do so.

It may be an indication but it is most definitely not fact.

I was gonna say the same, I wouldn’t like anyone to come to my home too if I’ve only spoken to them a few times,

I think help to avoid it speak to the person more and eventually he would probably give up if he was hiding something "
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So would you go to their home then?

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

"do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males .

They give the rest of us a bad reputation is an easy cop out and complete crock of shit. do you not think they are getting laid under false pretenses ?

If you're not successful it's on you! no one else! why do you think those cheating married men apparently giving you a bad name are still getting laid? "
do you not think they are getting laid under false pretenses ?

the question was aimed at honesty

I really do think you would lay brad Pitt wether he was single or not .

it's the dishonesty that gives single males a bad name .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing .

Or not as black and white. I'm not overly keen on having people I only know from the internet know my address.

There are plenty of valid reasons for single men and women to not want to accommodate, or unable to do so.

It may be an indication but it is most definitely not fact.

I was gonna say the same, I wouldn’t like anyone to come to my home too if I’ve only spoken to them a few times,

I think help to avoid it speak to the person more and eventually he would probably give up if he was hiding something .

So would you go to their home then? "

I would probably suggest a hotel and I would pay for it

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males .

They give the rest of us a bad reputation is an easy cop out and complete crock of shit.

If you're not successful it's on you! no one else! why do you think those cheating married men apparently giving you a bad name are still getting laid?

I agree with you but also I kind of see his point, though it may not be what he was getting at.

The dishonesty of attached men passing off as single then causes even more distrust and suspicion on guys who are actually single. "

Only to the type of complete moron that doesn't take each person on their own individual merit

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"do you ever wonder why there is 5 men to every woman on this site ?

it's because 3 out of them 5 men are in a relationship and are just cheats .

usually in a sexless marriage using this site for a cheap thrill

giving the genuine singl ones a bad reputation and the cause of alot of females to bulk delete or block single males .

They give the rest of us a bad reputation is an easy cop out and complete crock of shit. do you not think they are getting laid under false pretenses ?

If you're not successful it's on you! no one else! why do you think those cheating married men apparently giving you a bad name are still getting laid? do you not think they are getting laid under false pretenses ?

the question was aimed at honesty

I really do think you would lay brad Pitt wether he was single or not .

it's the dishonesty that gives single males a bad name ."

Really more of a Jonny Depp kinda girl

Maybe that's you're real issue you assume we're all looking for brad Pitt so too busy getting in your own way

They way playing info the stereotype of single guy seems to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not always black and white though. You can be married but not together. Some may say technically you’re separated but if the question is are you married then in its most simplest form the answer would be yes.

And let’s not kid ourselves that this is just men, there are plenty of women who are married and looking for nsa on here.

My personal opinion is male or female whatever is going on in your private life stays there, you’ve made the choice to be on here and it’s not for me to judge.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing .

Or not as black and white. I'm not overly keen on having people I only know from the internet know my address.

There are plenty of valid reasons for single men and women to not want to accommodate, or unable to do so.

It may be an indication but it is most definitely not fact.

I was gonna say the same, I wouldn’t like anyone to come to my home too if I’ve only spoken to them a few times,

I think help to avoid it speak to the person more and eventually he would probably give up if he was hiding something .

So would you go to their home then?

I would probably suggest a hotel and I would pay for it"

Smart

Lets face it if they are pyscho. Meeting them in their known surroundings where they would have A clear advantage over you isn't the best move either

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"easy way to find out if a guy is single

can you accomadate for a coffee ?

yeah sure - single

errrr my cats not well

the builders are here

my lodger is shy

I'm decorating

delete and move on unless that's your thing .

Or not as black and white. I'm not overly keen on having people I only know from the internet know my address.

There are plenty of valid reasons for single men and women to not want to accommodate, or unable to do so.

It may be an indication but it is most definitely not fact.

I was gonna say the same, I wouldn’t like anyone to come to my home too if I’ve only spoken to them a few times,

I think help to avoid it speak to the person more and eventually he would probably give up if he was hiding something .

So would you go to their home then?

I would probably suggest a hotel and I would pay for it

Smart

Lets face it if they are pyscho. Meeting them in their known surroundings where they would have A clear advantage over you isn't the best move either

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I meant