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When men take the bus to bitter town.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes this is a pop at men before you all start tugging on your testicles, fellas feel free to start one about women and your observations.

When reading the forums and also through private messaging you have guys who start off nice and decent, but when you look at their profiles you know they’re one of those guys that will never get meets. It’s only a matter of time before they pick up their pass for the bitter bus.

You can spot them with their unnecessarily nasty comments, or via pm they’re the ones who start arguments because it’s the only way they can get you to converse with them.

Why does it happen, and what can be done to help these guys get off the bitter bus?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you think they could be helped op?

Me? Some people will always be bitter, and you will find it hard changing that character as it normally associated with jealousy. I would just choose not to talk to them. Simple.

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Some people take rejection bad i guess. Id block and move on, the word soon gets around with persistant offenders lessening their chances even more.

My motto is its nice to be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi ! I am only bitter because I didn't get to spunk in your left eye socket !

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oi ! I am only bitter because I didn't get to spunk in your left eye socket ! "

You’re too sweet to ever be bitter my love and you can spunk in every one of my holes and crevices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?"

Exactly, I always try and be nice often just. Explaining they don't meet my profile then wham I am am subjected to foul mouth rant when I point out that. I was being polite I am then blocked lol I have no idea OP how we can help them it's a catch 22 situation .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was tugging on my testicles anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*insert virtue signalling comment here, in the hope of standing out like a beacon of goodness in amongst the bitter rants*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What sends them bitter is the effort they make with no reward. Continued knock backs and rejection.

To help overcome this would be to remind these people now and again that fab is not a reflection of the real world. The ratio of men to women is significantly higher.

On fab things can be shallow because you are basically judged on how you look but in the real world people don’t have such harsh preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?"

Good question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what can be done to help these guys get off the bitter bus?"

shag 'em

or, if you're not that into 'em, sit on their face while they wank themselves off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately some people are just wired that way OP.

Some people lack the ability to be nice to others.

Personally, I've always believed you should treat others as you would wish to be treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mottoes are

Do as you would be done by

And

Nice things happen to nice people.

Unfortunately, it doesn't get me very far, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Medium rare steak and BJ, then send them home

Throw in some mashies and greenies too to make sure they don't change their mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mottoes are

Do as you would be done by

And

Nice things happen to nice people.

Unfortunately, it doesn't get me very far, lol"

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think they’ve had women treat them badly in the past and any form of rejection just reminds them of that and they go off on one.

There are loads of emotionally fucked up folk on here. They’ve just put a thin layer of wallpaper over their cracks (oh er!) so they’re hard to spot at first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately emotional competence isn’t a criterion for joining this site. We can’t help them develop that on here. However each rejection creates a vicious cycle that breeds a mindset that leads to more abusive behaviour. Block and report is the only viable option.

I don’t think you can educate them on here out of it in the short term.

I’ve had similar abuse from a female profile and a couple profile as well as make ones. However I couldn’t be certain that the female or couple profiles weren’t just male either, but I think the female profile actually was a woman from her veris.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My mottoes are

Do as you would be done by

And

Nice things happen to nice people.

Unfortunately, it doesn't get me very far, lol"

You may not think it gets you very far but your soul should feel good.

I reject A LOT of men through pms and I always think highly of the men who take it with grace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What sends them bitter is the effort they make with no reward. Continued knock backs and rejection.

To help overcome this would be to remind these people now and again that fab is not a reflection of the real world. The ratio of men to women is significantly higher.

On fab things can be shallow because you are basically judged on how you look but in the real world people don’t have such harsh preferences. "

Good point op, i don't get meets or messages but this does not make me bitter or nasty to anyone in anyway as i do pretty well in the real world. It must be frustrating for guys to continually be rejected but this doesn't give anyone an excuse to be nasty, just shithouse cyber bullies.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes "

oh yes, many many of these are in here. Again like you, this is just my opinion.

But, there are lots of women that behave this way that could be attracting this type of person to the site too. Just to balance things out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya wind up merchant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like how people are saying fab isnt a reflection of the real world. If you're ugly on fab youre ugly in real life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ya wind up merchant "

Who, me? Noooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mottoes are

Do as you would be done by

And

Nice things happen to nice people.

Unfortunately, it doesn't get me very far, lol

You may not think it gets you very far but your soul should feel good.

I reject A LOT of men through pms and I always think highly of the men who take it with grace. "

I always thank them for the rejection and wish them good luck in their Fab endeavours, sometimes send a bouquet of flowers with ‘All the breast X’written on the card.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like how people are saying fab isnt a reflection of the real world. If you're ugly on fab youre ugly in real life "

Not true, I’m considered a knobhead in the real world here I’m considered, yeah you have a point.

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I don’t understand why guys get so antsy on here.

I take a dispassionate view; there’s plenty of competition on here and so if my message didn’t get a reply then I move on. It’s no big deal so why get angry about it?

I’m not attracted to every female on here and I’m certain the same applies in reverse. So if I message someone I like the look of and she doesn’t reply my ego isn’t bruised, I move on.

Testosterone and fragile Male egos really do have a lot to answer for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do it because they can, the anonymity the site gives facilitates it.

I had abuse for a recent veri I recieved, unfortunately this person had my phone number from months ago, and I told him months ago I wasn't meeting (which I wasn't) but he saw the veri, had to block him here and his number, still got silent calls from a private number and continual ringing. Just makes no sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t understand why guys get so antsy on here.

I take a dispassionate view; there’s plenty of competition on here and so if my message didn’t get a reply then I move on. It’s no big deal so why get angry about it?

I’m not attracted to every female on here and I’m certain the same applies in reverse. So if I message someone I like the look of and she doesn’t reply my ego isn’t bruised, I move on.

Testosterone and fragile Male egos really do have a lot to answer for!"

To be fair some women get angsty when you reject them, it’s not just a male thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ya wind up merchant

Who, me? Noooo "

I don't have the problem in your post as I'm bang tidy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes this is a pop at men before you all start tugging on your testicles, fellas feel free to start one about women and your observations.

When reading the forums and also through private messaging you have guys who start off nice and decent, but when you look at their profiles you know they’re one of those guys that will never get meets. It’s only a matter of time before they pick up their pass for the bitter bus.

You can spot them with their unnecessarily nasty comments, or via pm they’re the ones who start arguments because it’s the only way they can get you to converse with them.

Why does it happen, and what can be done to help these guys get off the bitter bus?"

Is it bitterness in general or is it bitterness directed at women that you talk of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many women and couples also on that bus.

#whiteknighting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some have a season pass for that bus .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x"

To be fair I don’t get abusive messages. Most of the negativity I experience from males is through the forum. It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre so the only way to get my attention is to argue with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love advice to improve my odds. My keenness comes across as desperation (I am not).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x

To be fair I don’t get abusive messages. Most of the negativity I experience from males is through the forum. It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre so the only way to get my attention is to argue with me. "

Jesus Christ!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh please, bear with me, I’m still learning the ropes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Catch the Bitter Bus, heading for Rejection. Disappointment. Back-stabbing Central and Shattered Dreams Parkway

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Meet them.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

It works both ways. Try rejecting women round here....

I've had some fun responses...

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Unfortunately some people are just wired that way OP.

Some people lack the ability to be nice to others.

Personally, I've always believed you should treat others as you would wish to be treated"
spot on fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People want to be loved, if they can't be loved,liked, if they can't be liked, included and if they're not included the best way to get attention is to be loathed.

The very nature of this site will fuel insecurities and subject men to far more experiences of rejection than they may get in vanilla life.

Conversely it allows them to react in a manner they wouldn't dare did play if their identities were known?

Solution? There isn't one it's an individual problem?

Don't hate the player, hate the game!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This thread is good for drawing out the well rounded guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They do it because they can, the anonymity the site gives facilitates it."

This is true BUT it applies to a lot more things. Most people in general are very flexible with manners and respect when it suits them on the Internet. Their actions have little to no consequence.

The thing is while it's not right for them to be abusive or act like the petty little people they are,

In the grand scheme of the internet it is made "acceptable" because a lot of other people walk the line of being fluid with what they assume respect to be on the Internet. Lots of excuses made up to make people feel better about their lack of respect on the Internet, "its not real life" is the most popular but it is still real life people with real life feelings on the other end. Not limited to just a single gender or group of people.

It is everywhere some subtle, and some blatantly obvious - fluid sense of respect for others.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"This thread is good for drawing out the well rounded guys. "

I might have put on a bit of weight lately, but I'm not yet "rounded", thankyou very much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gods gift guys that think women are a piece of meat are quiet. Obviously can’t string a sentence together without “fuck, cum, suck or meet me now”

Ladies on here have patience of saints

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

The spare bedrooms of their Mums house is a cold lonely room.

I wish we could post Memes on here sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The gods gift guys that think women are a piece of meat are quiet. Obviously can’t string a sentence together without “fuck, cum, suck or meet me now”

Ladies on here have patience of saints "

The gods gift guys that treat women like pieces of meat aren’t actually the bitter ones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men! *tuts*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Incels. "

I came here to write just that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes "

This is pretty much spot on. Not always but it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You had better not even think of rejecting me.

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Guys who do ok for themselves in the real world often struggle on here.

Not being able to get sex on a site full of "easy' women looking for sex comes as a bit of a shock to them and a big dent to the male ego.

A lot of men (even ones who are normally nice as pie) will react to that eroding of their confidence by lashing out.

The male ego is fragile. You may reject them nicely and politely but if that's the 250th rejection they have had through what they see as no fault of their own, from women who in real life they think would be into them then that's when they may snap.

Then if they hang around that can turn into a general bitterness towards anyone else on here

That's my take on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes

This is pretty much spot on. Not always but it is. "

It is rare there is ever just 2 kinds of people, far too many factors and opinions in the world to narrow it down to just 2 types of people and give it such rigid criteria to label them this and that.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?

Exactly, I always try and be nice often just. Explaining they don't meet my profile then wham I am am subjected to foul mouth rant when I point out that. I was being polite I am then blocked lol I have no idea OP how we can help them it's a catch 22 situation ."

Easy solution: if they don't meet your criteria ignore/block. Don't engage as it gives (some - quelle surprise, the ones who turn nasty) "hope".

If you want to be "nice" you'll have to accept it won't always be reciprocated. Been year nine years, don't think I've ever had a nasty message.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I think they’ve had women treat them badly in the past and any form of rejection just reminds them of that and they go off on one.

There are loads of emotionally fucked up folk on here. They’ve just put a thin layer of wallpaper over their cracks (oh er!) so they’re hard to spot at first."

This .... there was a similar discussion. The abuse I've saw women dish out is horrendous. Most think because they have the vagina they can say/do whatever. Guess on the whole society and the scene has played a part in this.

Probably after 20 rude messages men decided the bitter bus was the best option. Turn first before turned on. You'll always get the neandralithic man who believes he is superior but on the whole I believe its evolved due to as this lady said prev.. being mistreated.

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

I don’t like to get bitter it’s not going to win me any favours. But I’d imagine it’s down to constant rejection on here for those that do.

I think it comes down to attitudes of some both men and women. There is a lot of expectation on here of being here just to fuck and not actually know each other. Which might be the case for some but not most I wager.

I’ve meet one woman so far here and no spark in person so back to looking around for me. But I don’t expect to meet someone here it’s just nice if I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?

Exactly, I always try and be nice often just. Explaining they don't meet my profile then wham I am am subjected to foul mouth rant when I point out that. I was being polite I am then blocked lol I have no idea OP how we can help them it's a catch 22 situation ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s just some really unhappy people on this website. I just have a little smile to myself about it and carry on my normal day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think they’ve had women treat them badly in the past and any form of rejection just reminds them of that and they go off on one.

There are loads of emotionally fucked up folk on here. They’ve just put a thin layer of wallpaper over their cracks (oh er!) so they’re hard to spot at first.

This .... there was a similar discussion. The abuse I've saw women dish out is horrendous. Most think because they have the vagina they can say/do whatever. Guess on the whole society and the scene has played a part in this.

Probably after 20 rude messages men decided the bitter bus was the best option. Turn first before turned on. You'll always get the neandralithic man who believes he is superior but on the whole I believe its evolved due to as this lady said prev.. being mistreated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is good for drawing out the well rounded guys. "

This

Thanks OP

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This thread is good for drawing out the well rounded guys.

This

Thanks OP

Jo.Xx"

It really has, not seen one guy issue his bus pass yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is good for drawing out the well rounded guys.

This

Thanks OP

Jo.Xx"

You shouldn’t say that, now we’ll all post sanctimonious comments trying to show we are good guys and not driven by our nuts.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes

This is pretty much spot on. Not always but it is.

It is rare there is ever just 2 kinds of people, far too many factors and opinions in the world to narrow it down to just 2 types of people and give it such rigid criteria to label them this and that. "
. I wholeheartedly agree, there will be many complex individuals inbetween, and you’re right my opinion is only one of many, whilst I have stated what maybe seen as rigid criteria for the two groups of men I have chosen to pick for this particular subject, I in no way believe that all men are the same this is merely my observation of fab and clubs over the very few years i have been part of this very vast scene, I accept that my observations are very small fish in a very big pond, so to speak Mrs blue eyes

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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A lot of them will be the same in real life not just on here, They have a negative outlook about everything, I've worked with loads of them but like people have already said, The constant rejection will be the cause of their bitterness,

But that will be the same for Women and couples as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I would never tolerate rudeness, I have a certain sympathy for the involuntarily celibate. Speaking from experience it does sometimes take a superhuman effort to avoid becoming bitter

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes "

I'd say that you are very observant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thread is interesting in many respects. The world is full of cunts. Tbere is no getting round it. This bitterness or to use a popular phrase, toxicity, is present in men and women and the gender fluids of society. It seems that the fallacy of toxic masculinity is very popular. Although this is nonsense. There is no such thing. Cuntish behaviour is population wide and not just relatable to some men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes this is a pop at men before you all start tugging on your testicles, fellas feel free to start one about women and your observations.

When reading the forums and also through private messaging you have guys who start off nice and decent, but when you look at their profiles you know they’re one of those guys that will never get meets. It’s only a matter of time before they pick up their pass for the bitter bus.

You can spot them with their unnecessarily nasty comments, or via pm they’re the ones who start arguments because it’s the only way they can get you to converse with them.

Why does it happen, and what can be done to help these guys get off the bitter bus?"

They can stay on it. Not my problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m constantly on the bitter bus

It’s warm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I would never tolerate rudeness, I have a certain sympathy for the involuntarily celibate. Speaking from experience it does sometimes take a superhuman effort to avoid becoming bitter"

I agree with this, throw in also that some profiles can be confusing or contradictory.

Ask for certain preferences, guy manages to fill each an every one of them. Messages and then receives no reply (in some cases not even read). Even for fairly good looking guys it can get confusing if it's happening often enough.

The way this whole thing works along with the way society is makes this a breeding pit for rude and abusive behaviour at times. Good and bad on both sides but ultimately they both feed the other when it comes down to it. An infinite cycle of abuse and rejection.

It is not an excuse but it is most definitely a logical and understandable reasoning as to why it happens.

Though for some they are just that way by nature.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"What sends them bitter is the effort they make with no reward. Continued knock backs and rejection.

To help overcome this would be to remind these people now and again that fab is not a reflection of the real world. The ratio of men to women is significantly higher.

On fab things can be shallow because you are basically judged on how you look but in the real world people don’t have such harsh preferences. "

Being fair to Fab, it's a reflection of the online world. Pictures first, profile second, personality third.

I'd also remind people that rejection on an online site is not a rejection of you as a whole person. It's a rejection of a piece of you. It's up to you to minimise the size of that piece.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im out bitterness doesnt appeal unless f&b isnt willing to do my bum hole with sea salt behind lidl

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?

Good question. "

They don't start off nice and decent, they just put on an act in the hope of getting a shag. It's when they're rejected they show their true colours.

Any man who is genuinely nice and decent wouldn't stoop to such pathetic levels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What sends them bitter is the effort they make with no reward. Continued knock backs and rejection.

To help overcome this would be to remind these people now and again that fab is not a reflection of the real world. The ratio of men to women is significantly higher.

On fab things can be shallow because you are basically judged on how you look but in the real world people don’t have such harsh preferences.

Being fair to Fab, it's a reflection of the online world. Pictures first, profile second, personality third.

I'd also remind people that rejection on an online site is not a rejection of you as a whole person. It's a rejection of a piece of you. It's up to you to minimise the size of that piece."

Well said that man. Yep. Good points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of the hundreds of messages we’ve had from single guys there have only been a handful of bitter replies. Most guys have been courteous.

We always reply, if we can, with a ‘sorry but you’re not what we are looking for’ message. Generally guys respect that.

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By *ichmond GentMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

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By *ichmond GentMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

"If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?

Good question. "

They don't start off nice and decent, they just put on an act in the hope of getting a shag. It's when they're rejected they show their true colours.

Any man who is genuinely nice and decent wouldn't stoop to such pathetic levels.

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By *itandSteveCouple
over a year ago

Stroud


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes "

Sums it up perfectly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I would never tolerate rudeness, I have a certain sympathy for the involuntarily celibate. Speaking from experience it does sometimes take a superhuman effort to avoid becoming bitter"

I’m going to add a slight angle that I’m convinced from here and especially dating apps that it allows guys who are socially awkward ( read Aspergers or High Functioning) to interact on a more level playing field than real world.

The frustration of being a genuine nice guy getting constantly rejected or worse not being able to interpret positive signals means that it chips away at them until they’ve got a ticket on the bus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no intentions of meeting and I'm still bitter.....comme ci, comme ca

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

The fundamental truth about fabs is that there are around twenty men chasing each woman. Hence the vast majority of men are going to be disappointed and suffer continual rejection.

It's guys who don't understand that who are bitter.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I said similar to what I'm about to say earlier in the week - I think the problem comes down to understanding and perception of the site (and the whole notion of swinging/NSA meets in general) and that's from all genders.

There are *some* that just don't get it, guys that sign up thinking they have a golden pass to Shag City, these are mostly the type who think a disembodied cock pic over a toilet bowl and a FAF message is appealing, they get frustrated when they find that what they signed up for isn't gold, nor is it a pass, and the more they get rejected, the more that frustration builds and they start to lash out with moany forum posts and abusive messages.

At the same time there are women and couples who are on the receiving end of those guys frustration, and batten down the hatches even further by compiling profiles that are lists of demands, and by slating the guys in the forums etc, rather than using the site tools to minimise the amount of abuse they receive.

And so the vicious circle continues, as both look for someone or something else to blame for their perceived problems.

Meanwhile, there are those (of all genders/categories) that do "get" it, do know how to use the site for their own benefit and pleasure, who go about their Fab business quietly and without fuss, and generally have a great time - trouble is you don't tend to hear much about those guys as they don't feel the need to shout about it, and if they do post something positive, it's often drowned out by the negativity.

Not sure you can do anything about the negativity and bitterness that some have, other than where possible trying to help them understand why they might be finding the site isn't working for them, and pointing out that their enjoyment of it lies entirely within their own hands through changes they can make themselves, even if those changes don't guarantee a thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders. "

They’re still crying into their Pot Noodles.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders. "

Are you really expecting any ?

90% of them either lurk on the forums or don't use them,

I doubt many will comment on why they post/send nasty comments

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders. "

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me.

I’m sweeet...

Like a lemon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter... "

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"The gods gift guys that think women are a piece of meat are quiet. Obviously can’t string a sentence together without “fuck, cum, suck or meet me now”

Ladies on here have patience of saints

The gods gift guys that treat women like pieces of meat aren’t actually the bitter ones! "

Coming soon to an obscure cable channel near you: When White Knighting Goes Wrong

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x

To be fair I don’t get abusive messages. Most of the negativity I experience from males is through the forum. It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre so the only way to get my attention is to argue with me. "

Calibre?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders. "

It sounds like your inviting comments to me

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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" People want to be loved, if they can't be loved,liked, if they can't be liked, included and if they're not included the best way to get attention is to be loathed.

The very nature of this site will fuel insecurities and subject men to far more experiences of rejection than they may get in vanilla life.

Conversely it allows them to react in a manner they wouldn't dare did play if their identities were known?

Solution? There isn't one it's an individual problem?

Don't hate the player, hate the game!!

"

Good points.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

"

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have feelings. It's not about men, it's about how we react when our feelings are hurt. Men and women are exactly the same, we need to stop differentiating between the two. The only groups I see are arseholes and nice people, hard to know who belongs to which group until it's too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns... "

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x

To be fair I don’t get abusive messages. Most of the negativity I experience from males is through the forum. It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre so the only way to get my attention is to argue with me.

Calibre? "

And why not?

There's nothing wrong with holding yourself in high regard.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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""If they start off nice and decent then what sends them bitter?

Good question. "

They don't start off nice and decent, they just put on an act in the hope of getting a shag. It's when they're rejected they show their true colours.

Any man who is genuinely nice and decent wouldn't stoop to such pathetic levels.

"

Good point too - pressure reveals their true colours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"They do it because they can, the anonymity the site gives facilitates it.

This is true BUT it applies to a lot more things. Most people in general are very flexible with manners and respect when it suits them on the Internet. Their actions have little to no consequence.

The thing is while it's not right for them to be abusive or act like the petty little people they are,

In the grand scheme of the internet it is made "acceptable" because a lot of other people walk the line of being fluid with what they assume respect to be on the Internet. Lots of excuses made up to make people feel better about their lack of respect on the Internet, "its not real life" is the most popular but it is still real life people with real life feelings on the other end. Not limited to just a single gender or group of people.

It is everywhere some subtle, and some blatantly obvious - fluid sense of respect for others. "

Some very insightful posts here lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x

To be fair I don’t get abusive messages. Most of the negativity I experience from males is through the forum. It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre so the only way to get my attention is to argue with me. "

Haha silly fools, rejection brings on little man syndrome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere! "

Was it me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?"

Yep. I can do better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection can sour people's minds and make them bitter.

Unless you're one of those don't give a fuck people and can get a fuck anywhere, regardless of whether you think they are worthy of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?

Yep. I can do better "

Well that fucking backfired didn’t it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just look at them now and imagine their in their bedroom at their mums wanking to hardcore porn with no social interaction with women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?

Yep. I can do better

Well that fucking backfired didn’t it

"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed "

No, they're both playing chase for fun - the squirrels know the dogs won't hurt them in heaven!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?

Yep. I can do better

Well that fucking backfired didn’t it

"

Can I just clarify that never ever has this gentleman told me I wasn’t his type.

That kind of thing doesn’t happen to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?

Yep. I can do better

Well that fucking backfired didn’t it

Can I just clarify that never ever has this gentleman told me I wasn’t his type.

That kind of thing doesn’t happen to me. "

Haha nice comeback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed

No, they're both playing chase for fun - the squirrels know the dogs won't hurt them in heaven! "

All I am trying to achieve is to fuck your ass through your denim lady !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women can be just as nasty I sent a message a bit back to a lady saying hi I looked at your profile and must say you have a very nice bum X,the reply I got back was fuck off you retard and crawl back in your hole,and there have been a few similar responses to polite enquiries and compliments so it's not just men that have a bitter bus pass

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x

To be fair I don’t get abusive messages. Most of the negativity I experience from males is through the forum. It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre so the only way to get my attention is to argue with me.

Calibre?

And why not?

There's nothing wrong with holding yourself in high regard."

And many ways to express that healthily!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed

No, they're both playing chase for fun - the squirrels know the dogs won't hurt them in heaven!

All I am trying to achieve is to fuck your ass through your denim lady ! "

My ass is still out of bounds, even to your gorgeous self lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed

No, they're both playing chase for fun - the squirrels know the dogs won't hurt them in heaven!

All I am trying to achieve is to fuck your ass through your denim lady !

My ass is still out of bounds, even to your gorgeous self lol!!"

At least I try. May I fuck the front then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle

brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes "

Absolutely spot on...not enough real swingers on here sadly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?

Yep. I can do better

Well that fucking backfired didn’t it

Can I just clarify that never ever has this gentleman told me I wasn’t his type.

That kind of thing doesn’t happen to me. "

Really?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women can be just as nasty I sent a message a bit back to a lady saying hi I looked at your profile and must say you have a very nice bum X,the reply I got back was fuck off you retard and crawl back in your hole,and there have been a few similar responses to polite enquiries and compliments so it's not just men that have a bitter bus pass"

Hahaha see now that would have made me laugh!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed

No, they're both playing chase for fun - the squirrels know the dogs won't hurt them in heaven!

All I am trying to achieve is to fuck your ass through your denim lady !

My ass is still out of bounds, even to your gorgeous self lol!!

At least I try. May I fuck the front then ? "

Will you promise to wear that shirt?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed

No, they're both playing chase for fun - the squirrels know the dogs won't hurt them in heaven!

All I am trying to achieve is to fuck your ass through your denim lady !

My ass is still out of bounds, even to your gorgeous self lol!!

At least I try. May I fuck the front then ?

Will you promise to wear that shirt?! "

Someone stole it from me when I was in Tonwhouse last time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is full of Drama Queens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?

Yep. I can do better

Well that fucking backfired didn’t it

Can I just clarify that never ever has this gentleman told me I wasn’t his type.

That kind of thing doesn’t happen to me. "

He's an every hole's a goal if you have a Kinder Bueno type.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

It's the anonymity. There won't be a face pic up. They're aware of the differential in numbers.

They've tried copy and pasting the world. Being mean is more likely to elicit a response.

In a convo if they're not getting what they want the only bit of satisfaction they can have is being nasty, with no repercussions.

Block to avoid their nastiness. Name and shame in your update.

He'll wonder why a load of blokes are checking out his profile.

There is a general rule for women that no face pic no chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle

brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes

Absolutely spot on...not enough real swingers on here sadly..."

Real swingers can be very bitter when they don't get what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell have no fury like a woman scorned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinda related but i remember a woman calling me a waste of space as i said she wasn't my type bitterness everywhere!

Was it me?

Yep. I can do better

Well that fucking backfired didn’t it

Can I just clarify that never ever has this gentleman told me I wasn’t his type.

That kind of thing doesn’t happen to me.

He's an every hole's a goal if you have a Kinder Bueno type."

Can't deny that !

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Tickets please!!

Still hasn’t been any comments from bus pass holders.

No one is going to admit to being bitter...

People often say they hoped that their dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven

But what did all those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torments?

Ah, they're obviously merely spiritual squirrels created by God for the greater pleasure of dead dogs.

The real dead squirrels are in squirrel heaven with its never ending supply of acorns...

Thought you'd say that dog heaven is also squirrel hell as it is a very efficient system.

Disappointed

No, they're both playing chase for fun - the squirrels know the dogs won't hurt them in heaven!

All I am trying to achieve is to fuck your ass through your denim lady !

My ass is still out of bounds, even to your gorgeous self lol!!

At least I try. May I fuck the front then ?

Will you promise to wear that shirt?!

Someone stole it from me when I was in Tonwhouse last time "

Ooh no that's evil, I'll have to rewrite my fantasy now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is full of Drama Queens"

Here we have our first bus pass holder.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder. "
pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder. "

That's a dig isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wounded

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder. "

But why I want to know lol, he doesn't look the type!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder.

But why I want to know lol, he doesn't look the type! "

I'm a terrible rude, obnoxious individual.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I'm wounded "

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle

brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes

Absolutely spot on...not enough real swingers on here sadly..."
like to think I am

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder.

But why I want to know lol, he doesn't look the type!

I'm a terrible rude, obnoxious individual. "

You do seem to be - makes me wonder what the backstory is.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women can be just as nasty I sent a message a bit back to a lady saying hi I looked at your profile and must say you have a very nice bum X,the reply I got back was fuck off you retard and crawl back in your hole,and there have been a few similar responses to polite enquiries and compliments so it's not just men that have a bitter bus pass

Hahaha see now that would have made me laugh! "
to be fair I just replied well sorry we can't all be beautiful egotistical and rude have a nice day

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Bitter comments ususlly take the form of criticism of their face/body and whorish behaviour followed by not their type anyway. This is clearly childish as they were the ones making contact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women can be just as nasty I sent a message a bit back to a lady saying hi I looked at your profile and must say you have a very nice bum X,the reply I got back was fuck off you retard and crawl back in your hole,and there have been a few similar responses to polite enquiries and compliments so it's not just men that have a bitter bus pass

Hahaha see now that would have made me laugh!

to be fair I just replied well sorry we can't all be beautiful egotistical and rude have a nice day"

I would’ve said on the blob are you love, really make her mad!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder.

But why I want to know lol, he doesn't look the type!

I'm a terrible rude, obnoxious individual. "

But honest. People like honesty on here.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Sometimes I just chat to them, get it from their point of view and give them a bit of help. Having said that, sometimes they get upset that I reply because I don't want to accommodate them for instant sex but I'm still messaging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Someone asked me to explain what my headline meant, so I deleted their message! Made me laugh more than it should have but what better way to give an example of conserving energy!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I’m not sure how right I am, this is just observation and opinion, but I believe there are two types of guy, the ones who are here for the genuine swinging/ nsa chat and banter and hopefully more, these are happy to get to know people, chat, join in the forums, possibly visit clubs, they are happy to play the long game because generally they are enjoying what the lifestyle brings and not here for a quick bit of a legover I doubt these types of guy get many knockbacks as they will take time with their profiles and look after their persona, that of the good guy, I believe generally they are the good guy

The second type of guy is the one who heard about fab from their mates in the pub, think they are God’s gift and jump on here with a cock pic in the loo and message every random they come across, don’t take any time to be respectful or think about messages and profiles and believe that sex should be handed to them on a plate, these I would imagine are your jump in the bitter bus at the next stop types like I say just an observation, Mrs blue eyes "

A very accurate observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I don't bother getting into a tirade of words what's the point it makes you look a knob ,hell if someone can't take a compliment or your not their type why bother there's plenty who can and will be your type ,yes u may have to cast the net a bit further a field but it's always worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've never had anyone message like that, and I'm quite picky so have rejected a fair few guys. Must have good luck

F x

To be fair I don’t get abusive messages. Most of the negativity I experience from males is through the forum. It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre so the only way to get my attention is to argue with me.

Calibre? "

I was guessing at a pair of .44s..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wounded

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?"

I speak three languages, Sarcasm, Profanity & Realism.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm wounded

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?

I speak three languages, Sarcasm, Profanity & Realism. "

Does that get you meets?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"I'm wounded

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?

I speak three languages, Sarcasm, Profanity & Realism. "

You will do well on here

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Absolutely spot on...not enough real swingers on here sadly...

Real swingers can be very bitter when they don't get what they want."

Without wishing to take this off at a tangent (although it is related and does have some bearing) there's no such thing as a "real swinger", as is shown regularly on the forums, we each have our own definitions of what swinging/NSA sex means to us - none of them necessarily more right, or wrong, than the next person's.

However there are *some* who seem to think their's is the *only* definition that is right, and tend to also be the ones that look disdainfully at anyone whose definition is different, particularly single guys - which just adds to the vicious circle I suggested above.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

'Merry Christmas'


"Yes this is a pop at men before you all start tugging on your testicles, fellas feel free to start one about women and your observations.

When reading the forums and also through private messaging you have guys who start off nice and decent, but when you look at their profiles you know they’re one of those guys that will never get meets. It’s only a matter of time before they pick up their pass for the bitter bus.

You can spot them with their unnecessarily nasty comments, or via pm they’re the ones who start arguments because it’s the only way they can get you to converse with them.

Why does it happen, and what can be done to help these guys get off the bitter bus?"

I'm sure I saw this episode on True Detective!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I'm wounded

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?

I speak three languages, Sarcasm, Profanity & Realism. "

Well we've still got one to look forward to then lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder.

But why I want to know lol, he doesn't look the type!

I'm a terrible rude, obnoxious individual.

You do seem to be - makes me wonder what the backstory is..... "

Not everyone is who they seem to be eh ? Sometimes people surprise us. Sometimes they outright shock us. Sometimes they turn out to not be at all who we thought they were. And sometimes the clues were right in front of our noses the entire time. Maybe we don’t want to see them for who they are, or maybe the truth seems impossible. Maybe we just want to think the best of those we think we know.

Previously my literature ambitions had been Christmas cards.

The End

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply getting a message like ‘I’m not interested, have fun hun’ and I’ve had the most abusive messages back!

I’ve been called a fat slag, old dog, stuck up white trash ......... the list is endless and some I wouldn’t even repeat, obviously I’ve reported and blocked but they’re still on the site

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"

Hahaha see now that would have made me laugh! to be fair I just replied well sorry we can't all be beautiful egotistical and rude have a nice day"

Well you would have done if she hadn't blocked. Vitriol is followed by a block to avoid comeback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wounded

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?

I speak three languages, Sarcasm, Profanity & Realism.

Does that get you meets?"

Not all women appreciate grovelling individuals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wounded

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?

I speak three languages, Sarcasm, Profanity & Realism.

Does that get you meets?

Not all women appreciate grovelling individuals.

"

Bloody right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the murphys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant beat a good pint of Barnsley bitter lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Worst thing I had was back in 2017, season 7 of game of thrones. A guy I’d said no thank you to kept sending me messages with spoilers as the heading like the giant dies.

Had to block him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cant beat a good pint of Barnsley bitter lol"

If you do not put lol in a sentence I would think that someone else hacked your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worst thing I had was back in 2017, season 7 of game of thrones. A guy I’d said no thank you to kept sending me messages with spoilers as the heading like the giant dies.

Had to block him. "

Bwahaha that's genius

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cant beat a good pint of Barnsley bitter lol

If you do not put lol in a sentence I would think that someone else hacked your profile"

force of habit with trying to keep up with the kids ...hacked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm wounded

How come all the sarcasm, I've been meaning to ask?

I speak three languages, Sarcasm, Profanity & Realism.

Does that get you meets?

Not all women appreciate grovelling individuals.

"

Nobody appreciates nauseating grovelling, it’s the same as being unnecessarily negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some enjoy saying no, rather than politely ignore. There are also many on forums hell bent on baiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*patiently waiting to have the last word*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place is full of master baiters..

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"This place is full of master baiters.."

Lol this is true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*patiently waiting to have the last word* "

Is that my shirt. have you been in my wardrobe again?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"This is full of Drama Queens

Here we have our first bus pass holder.

But why I want to know lol, he doesn't look the type!

I'm a terrible rude, obnoxious individual.

You do seem to be - makes me wonder what the backstory is.....

Not everyone is who they seem to be eh ? "

Exactly. So why???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The end

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t take public transport so wouldn’t know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*patiently waiting to have the last word* "

I love a man with patience

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

When you get rejections and deleted messages for years, you get used to it and come to expect it. I can't be bothered sending nasty reply to girls/starting arguments. I would imagine 99% of guys are in the same boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...It’s a case of them knowing they’d never get to fuck someone of my calibre..."

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