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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So last few days I have had different groups of men send me mesages one after the other who I am not looking to meet .

it's pretty clear what I like on my profile yet every now and then loads send me a message do they have a shared page they highlight you on ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't Thursday rant day?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Isn't Thursday rant day?"

No idea I'm just curious why I suddenly get a load messages from dudes I'm not into in one go to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put in my profile , if your not interested just delete and I'll block which I already have

That's what the block button is used for !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Message removed by poster at 18/01/19 23:47:26]"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Message removed by poster at 18/01/19 23:47:26]"

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I put in my profile , if your not interested just delete and I'll block which I already have

That's what the block button is used for ! "

I try to be polite and not block people unless they are a bit rude to be honest or I can't look at the profile photos .

I am starting to block now

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"[Message removed by poster at 18/01/19 23:47:26]

This "

I’m going to stand in for my mate F&B and say

That

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Message removed by poster at 18/01/19 23:47:26]

This

I’m going to stand in for my mate F&B and say

That "

What's this I don't understand it's saying removed

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A lot of people on Fab don't read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Message removed by poster at 18/01/19 23:47:26]

This

I’m going to stand in for my mate F&B and say

That "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good comments everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot of people on Fab don't read. "

I am starting to understand this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good comments everyone "

This.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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It does happen unfortunately. I suppose they’re just taking the chance that they will appeal to you, irrespective of what your profile says.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It does happen unfortunately. I suppose they’re just taking the chance that they will appeal to you, irrespective of what your profile says. "

Thanks babs.

I shall just have to ignore them u feel rude tho then if I delete they message back I try my best not to get annoyed but some are a little relentless

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Could it not be that although these guys don't match your preferences, that there are factors that are shared amongst them - they may have similarities, their lifestyles may have or there are external events that link them, such as a poor sport or television period? We know they share habits of not reading or ignoring profile specifics but I assume there's more at play. It's a bit like power companies who see a surge on power use at the moment adverts start in popular TV shows as kettles get turned on.

I do notice some similar patterns but don't know the underlying mechanisms at work

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We get this, it seems to come in groups as you say. Our profile is pretty specific and not lengthy but sometimes it feels as if it's invisible . We tend to either reply politely or block.

Do your messages coincide with you putting a new picture on, updating your status or posting on the forum?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could it not be that although these guys don't match your preferences, that there are factors that are shared amongst them - they may have similarities, their lifestyles may have or there are external events that link them, such as a poor sport or television period? We know they share habits of not reading or ignoring profile specifics but I assume there's more at play. It's a bit like power companies who see a surge on power use at the moment adverts start in popular TV shows as kettles get turned on.

I do notice some similar patterns but don't know the underlying mechanisms at work"

Yes I think you may be correct and we'll written

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We get this, it seems to come in groups as you say. Our profile is pretty specific and not lengthy but sometimes it feels as if it's invisible . We tend to either reply politely or block.

Do your messages coincide with you putting a new picture on, updating your status or posting on the forum?"

No I just suddenly get a loads of the same sort of dudes be it via profession or race without sounding rude .

I was talking to one army guy once then had about fourty messages from army but tbh I kind of new that was like that .

I was also told about a k.I. k

page they sometimes use .

Makes me actually not want to be on f&b now which is such a shame I have had some of the best times with some decent people .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We get this, it seems to come in groups as you say. Our profile is pretty specific and not lengthy but sometimes it feels as if it's invisible . We tend to either reply politely or block.

Do your messages coincide with you putting a new picture on, updating your status or posting on the forum?"

I've only just started in the forums since this keeps happening I've grown tired of messaging the same polite reply to them and just switched of messages most nights now

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We get this, it seems to come in groups as you say. Our profile is pretty specific and not lengthy but sometimes it feels as if it's invisible . We tend to either reply politely or block.

Do your messages coincide with you putting a new picture on, updating your status or posting on the forum?

No I just suddenly get a loads of the same sort of dudes be it via profession or race without sounding rude .

I was talking to one army guy once then had about fourty messages from army but tbh I kind of new that was like that .

I was also told about a k.I. k

page they sometimes use .

Makes me actually not want to be on f&b now which is such a shame I have had some of the best times with some decent people .

"

Oh right! I understand. The army one I can understand but not the others. Very odd.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We get this, it seems to come in groups as you say. Our profile is pretty specific and not lengthy but sometimes it feels as if it's invisible . We tend to either reply politely or block.

Do your messages coincide with you putting a new picture on, updating your status or posting on the forum?

I've only just started in the forums since this keeps happening I've grown tired of messaging the same polite reply to them and just switched of messages most nights now"

I was going to suggest that. Don't be afraid to use the block button, I know some people see it as rude but sometimes you need to use it for your own sanity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We get this, it seems to come in groups as you say. Our profile is pretty specific and not lengthy but sometimes it feels as if it's invisible . We tend to either reply politely or block.

Do your messages coincide with you putting a new picture on, updating your status or posting on the forum?

I've only just started in the forums since this keeps happening I've grown tired of messaging the same polite reply to them and just switched of messages most nights now

I was going to suggest that. Don't be afraid to use the block button, I know some people see it as rude but sometimes you need to use it for your own sanity."

Thanks guys for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice sunglasses on you op

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